S3 E6: Celebrity Politics, Family Chaos, and the Evolution of Love

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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real.

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Welcome to Jerking Around.

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Today we talk about Tesla robot Body count New term.

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I've never heard of it.

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Body count's serious Girls these days.

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You gotta keep it down.

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That's how many people you've been with.

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Crystal's body count's over 100.

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We're just really.

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I was upsetting to learn that no and make sure you go for the guy that's more into you than you are to him.

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Yeah, okay, jerking around, oh my gosh.

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The other night, um, we were at my daughter at a birthday party and tisha and her husband were over and their friends were over and he kept saying jerking off oh yeah me and my daughter are listening to your podcast, jerking off.

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We're dying laughing about that.

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Yeah, but it's jerking around, not jerking off.

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No, we tried to rebrand it didn't really bother me though when?

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well, that's telling you don't mind being called jerking off, but it's like you're 20s all over again.

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Forget the jerking.

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I feel like that's the.

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You know the kicker, the jerking um.

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Tell me about your life.

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What's going on?

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We got these new mic things.

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Tisha's really excited.

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We're dressed like twins today.

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If you're not watching.

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It's really something.

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We never dress alike and I actually sent her my outfit cause I had my gallbladder out last week so I wanted something comfortable.

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And then she's like I literally have the same outfit on.

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Yeah, I think that's pretty funny, but in our industry it's real estate.

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It's been really dark, so we're excited we're seeing the market pick up already.

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Even if you don't love the candidate, I do think business-wise it's going to be a good thing.

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I think people that's what they were saying.

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Economy-wise, it's going to be good for everybody, they were saying.

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They were.

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maybe the other side was a little tone deaf to how much people were hurting financially and I do agree with that.

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And if addressed at all in the campaign, where that's all that was addressed.

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In the other camp it was like, yeah, like the cost of everything, the cost of living, no, everyone's struggling.

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And I feel like it is tone deaf to completely not even like, like, let's have like a pop star on stage but not address the fact that, like, most people can't afford groceries well, and the pop stars were horrible.

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Like there's this whole thing going on about P Did, like I'm so into it because it's so crazy the things that have gone on that if P Diddy is doing it, all of his friends are doing it, which is all these people that we've like not look up to, but kind of a lot of people look up to.

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So in the middle of this whole thing, we're going to have Beyonce come on and JLo, and JLo, who was married to Peta.

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It was so tone deaf in that regard.

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Dated yeah, there's so many more liberals you could have had on stage.

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That would have been more beneficial.

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Yeah, but JLo I mean I'm not taking JLo advice for much.

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Well, that's why I said her picker is like, her picker is so bad, it's the worst picker ever.

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So like don't pick anything.

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Whatever she's picking, I'm picking the opposite, yes, yeah, and like marriage advice, not taking it from J-Lo Not J-Lo.

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It's like weird, is J-Lo okay, maybe?

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like skin, skin care, yeah, skin care.

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I'm listening.

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Whatever she eats, I'll eat it Like abs.

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Listening, that's really it?

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even parenting, I wouldn't really.

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Where are her kids?

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I don't know?

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Yeah, I wouldn't really take that, but that's what's funny about the celebrities talking about politics it's like no matter what side you're on, they live such a different life than us, like with health care and, and they're not worried about health care exactly their needs and what they have right on a regular basis, even groceries.

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They don't even do their own grocery shopping.

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I mean, a lot of us use Instacart now too, but it's just different.

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So when we're listening to pop stars' influence on presidency, just think it's laughable.

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Or like ones that don't have a family or kids or anything.

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I'm like it's not even relatable to, like what's going to affect, because I'm thinking of what's going to affect my kids and their kids.

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And, like you know, ongoing Celebrities' kids are in a different element.

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Half of them don't.

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Taylor Swift was like a childless cat lady.

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I'm like that's not really something.

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I'm striving to be, it's awful.

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Yeah, have you seen that thing that Taylor Swift and Jason Kelsey are fake?

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They're 100% fake.

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I've said it since the very beginning.

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And then their contract was leaked, remember, I know it's crazy, yeah, but people have just moved on from it.

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Yeah, but you really think that?

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I think it's totally fake.

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That's funny.

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Another thing, I think it's like the seventh, the book, the seven wives of Evelyn Hugo.

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Have you or the seven husbands of Evelyn Hugo?

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Have you read that book?

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No, so in.

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It's a really good book.

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It's interesting.

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She's like a celebrity in like the 40s and like it was before you could like come out.

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So she was like gay, but she couldn't be with the person she wanted to be with, so that was like her best friend.

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And then she married all these husbands for um, like the mustache, yes, and then.

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But it was like she married this one because her career was dwindling, so then they got married.

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Oh, and it talks about how, like everyone fell for it was like she married this one because her career was dwindling, so then they got married.

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And it talks about how, like everyone fell for it and like, when she needed to like work on her image, she would marry someone based on that.

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It was all about her relationships were all for image and the whole time she was like in love with her best friend and they were together in a relationship.

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Wow, I'm like that happens all the time.

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I'm just saying so who do you think?

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That's happening to that you just didn't want to talk about.

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No, I'm just saying I'm like I think JLo's done that a bunch and it didn't go well well, I think Will Smith is like gay and that his wife was just his like beard forever or I didn't read that.

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I heard that from somebody who knew his son with with P Diddy.

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It's awful the things they said went on are awful.

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All of it, Justin Bieber.

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All of it.

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Yeah it's weird, but let's talk about Kim Kardashian.

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Okay, elon Musk with Trump, has been a big thing, and his, the Kennedy what's the kid's RFK?

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Yeah, yeah.

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And the FDA sounds super interesting.

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Yeah, but they're going to make some big changes.

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But Elon is such an intriguing person to me, just in general.

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I've been on his like oh, let's say, instagram reels.

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Like him talking business, just like Trump.

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I read Trump's book years and years ago.

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Um, I actually interviewed for the Apprentice?

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yeah, like.

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I've like like Trump is a businessman for years, yeah, and his books are so good business-wise.

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But Elon's kind of the same.

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I'm just intrigued by his like mind and he was doing a bunch of talks about college and how he doesn't want his kids going to college.

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Right, and I totally kind of agree with that.

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I don't know, I don't use my degree, my husband doesn't use his degree.

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I do think there's something to the four years of like not growing up, you know, getting to Like be in a dorm with all your friends, like high school part two, without having to be an adult yet.

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Yeah, like I don't want my kids to start working at 18 and then that's their life.

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I think it's if you're going to get a scholarship or you have the money.

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It's different, I think, to go into debt for $100,000 or $50,000 more.

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Yeah, it's so bad now, like for a degree that will not get you any farther.

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It's hard to justify that.

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Then you're starting off kind of like I want my kids to own their own business.

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I'm like let's start going in that direction.

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So then by the time you're 40, you're like doing good, you know.

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Yeah, I agree.

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I do want them to have more of the entrepreneur mindset.

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It's funny because when we were growing up, doctors and lawyers were the big money makers, Go to school, get all this, yeah.

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And now it's not.

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It's like go be a plumber and have your own plumbing company and you'll be yeah.

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Yeah, I agree.

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But Kim Kardashian let's talk about that.

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It was just on the news yesterday it was a big thing that she bought a robot, a Tesla robot.

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Yeah, how do you feel about the Tesla robot?

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Well, I think it's so weird and creepy.

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And I would not want that in my house.

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I worry like could they choke you out.

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Yeah, it's like that movie with Will Smith the iRobot.

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Yeah, but it's funny, it's so weird that she it's like I was telling you, she's like it's like the gift for someone who has everything.

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Like, what do you get her?

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Now she's getting a robot.

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Like she literally has everything.

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Think the robot's like her companion.

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No, but do you think the robot has body parts like a strap?

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on.

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Yeah, I think it's just to have like I know the newest thing.

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I don't want those in your house.

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No, no, I do.

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You see what they can do yeah, do you like laundry?

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I know, do you think, well, that I wouldn't mind.

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Well, I have one of those.

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This is Ben that's so sad that's so rude cut cut it out.

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It's funny, it's fine.

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Yeah, I'm the robot at my house.

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Yeah, I had surgery last week.

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You should see my house right now nothing's getting done.

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No, kyle's trying, but my husband but it.

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no, I called him when you got home that night and I was like okay, I'll pick up the kids for school in the morning.

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He's's like, oh, no, she's fine, she's walking around.

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I'm like, oh my God, I know.

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It's so tone up.

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I know he's not the most nurturing.

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I wouldn't say nurturing is a strength of his.

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I'm not.

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It's not a strength of mine.

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Yeah, you're right, you would say the same about Ben.

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He's very nurturing.

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I would you would.

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I'd be like, oh, let's go, you know, yeah, that's kind of how it is.

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Oh, yeah, I remember when he had his vasectomy and we were going to the pumpkin patch and I had to take the kids by myself.

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It was when they were little and I was so annoyed I'm like you know, like I'm like put on your jockstrap and get the hell in the car.

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Like so annoying he Like, oh my gosh, I'm not asking you to run, I heard it's pretty painful though.

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I'm like I'm not asking you to run a marathon.

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Well, he got the one and then he got the reversal.

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Wait, let's talk about that.

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So what happened?

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I feel like people pretty much know there's no people.

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These are people that don't even know us, true, true.

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So how do they know?

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Yeah, what?

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people are you talking about?

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18 months apart?

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16 months apart, whatever?

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And then we adopted our oldest at the same time when our youngest one was one.

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Well, we started working on the adoption process when he was a couple weeks old, so it was very hectic and he's two years older than my oldest, so it was like we went from zero kids to three kids in like two years less than two years.

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So it was like a little stressful.

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So we jumped the gun, got a vasectomy and then, right away, I was like we shouldn't have got that, because I like knew Right away, like soon, really, yes, like I would say so you had it after Bear.

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Mm-hmm, how old was Bear?

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I think he was like I think we were on a break.

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Yeah, cause I don't, I would have talked you out of that.

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Yeah, so, yeah, it was during the break.

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Yeah, so he got a vasectomy.

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and then, like right away, I just had this feeling like we shouldn't have done that.

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So then, almost like soon after, like within a year, we started talking about reverse.

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We started or you did, I started planting the seed of reversing it.

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I was like, oh, I wish we had another kid, you know.

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And then, well, especially as things calm down, first he was like you're nuts, but then, as things calm down, you know, you find your groove with all the kids.

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Then he was like, oh, yeah, I could see another one.

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And then I started doing all the research and then I found this place in Tucson and it's called we've told this story all the time.

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People ask, sorry, it's called dad's again all the time people ask are it's called dads?

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again, it sounds like so weird, but so it's not, not everybody does a reversal.

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It's like very, yes, it's.

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It's like microscopic surgery, so it's like so specialized.

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So we found this, this doctor in tucson that specializes.

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People come from all over the world to see this doctor.

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Yeah, because I was back in your life when you got the reversal.

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So we talked about it for I think two years before he finally did it Like it was so slow.

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Yes, cause bear was like yeah, three by the time we started talking about it and then it took a year to get it and then a year to get pregnant.

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So, yeah, he literally was like so we called this place dads again.

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And Ben was like this seems weird.

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And it's like we had to drive.

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That sounds so weird, we had to drive to Tucson, stay in a hotel and then he had to go in the morning to this place and it was crazy.

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Who watched the kids, did I?

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I did, you did, I did, yeah, yeah for Dads.

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Again, yeah, dads, again.

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But then you get invited to this like party every year, where it's all the dads again.

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That, like if it was successful, you get to come and have this like Father's Day party and it's crazy.

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But what if it didn't work?

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You don't get to go to the party, no, yeah, no, but it's so.

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basically they explained it for anyone wondering, because I actually have had people reach out to me on Instagram about it.

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So the the the sooner that you get the surgery to the initial vasectomy, the higher chance of it being successful.

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So the longer time that you've been have the vasectomy, the less chance.

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So, like Ben, had only been a couple of years, so there was a really good chance that it was going to work.

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But they said the the high, the longest one they had done was 20 years post vasectomy.

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Who's having a kid 20 years later.

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Probably some like old guy Did he get to go to the party?

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Yes, yes, I kind of want to go to the party now.

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We never went.

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Cause you know, I'm like, I'm antisocial, I'm like that's my worst nightmare Talk to a bunch of strangers, but, um, yeah, they do.

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Like a father's day, do you bring your?

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I don't know, I don't know, but it's this.

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But if you want more information, if you want a reversal, dad's again.

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OK, so Ben got the reversal Dad's again.

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Then tell what happened.

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It took how long.

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It took about six months and I got pregnant, but then I had a miscarriage and then after that.

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Talking about that.

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That, though, this is interesting.

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Yeah, so you're unemotional, yes, um, and she doesn't get bothered by much, but that miscarriage did mess with you more than you thought.

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Yeah, I don't know if it was hormones or if it was mental harder than you because you, yes, might be the type that'd be like, yeah, move on.

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Yeah, when you went through it, you thought this was harder.

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Well, I think, when you have a miscarriage, well, I had like guilt about getting the reversal because I had this thing where, like I felt like we already had so much that I was being like selfish about wanting more To be a dad again, yes, to be a dad again and I was like is, I had like an inner battle with like yes, I never knew that.

00:14:11.880 --> 00:14:12.820
No, because I don't talk.

00:14:12.820 --> 00:14:15.158
Well, did you feel like you were playing God with tying it up and tying it?

00:14:15.178 --> 00:14:22.928
Yes, and I felt like something bad was going to happen or like we were going to have like a child with a disability Not that that's there's anything wrong with that, but that is a fear.

00:14:22.928 --> 00:14:28.708
I was like pushing the envelope.

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Like we have three healthy kids.

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Are you like wanting too much?

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And then, like someone talked to me I don't even remember who it was, maybe it was you and they were like a child is a blessing from God.

00:14:37.970 --> 00:14:42.403
Like wanting more of those is like a good thing, like I think it's society.

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Gets in your head too, that it's selfish.

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Yes, it's like the farthest thing it was, and I felt, felt selfish wanting more kids, and I think it was too, and you were like this is a blessing from God, like it's like the greatest gift you can get, like yeah, and so that changed my mind.

00:14:59.298 --> 00:15:04.270
I was like okay, because I kept like having this like weird thing, thinking something bad was gonna happen.

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And then when I miscarried, I was like that was it.

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It.

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I wasn't meant to be.

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So it was funny because we were buying our new house and we sold our five bedroom.

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We were buying a four bedroom.

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I truly like was like I'm at peace.

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You were upset though.

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Oh, I was so upset Because it took six months to get pregnant, because, a lot of people deal with that and I never had a problem getting pregnant before.

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A lot of people deal with that.

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And you never had a miscarriage before.

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No, because that's very common.

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I was younger, and then I was older and then it's just like well it's geriatric, yes, but you're so excited and then yeah, when you it's not there.

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I can't imagine people that go through like 15 of those right, it's awful, or even like three.

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Yeah, well, you're like you attach right away.

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I feel like yeah, and I think your body like goes through so much too, like you start like feeling like you're you know you you're gaining weight, or your boobs or so I don't know.

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You just have so many like um, like physical and emotional things, like it doesn't happen for the guy right away, but like right away for the girl.

00:16:01.919 --> 00:16:03.464
You feel it in your body, yeah.

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So then to like have that go away, it was just really weird.

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So yeah, I did.

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I feel like I was upset about that.

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Right, you were you were.

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You were way more upset than you thought you would get very emotional about it Really, yeah, and you're like it's the hormones, I'm like well, and it's like sad and I think at that time it took like six months.

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You were so excited it happened.

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And then, when it didn't, I think you were I felt like I just so then I let go of it and then we got pregnant.

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How well, the birds and the bees were having this talk.

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When a man loves a woman no, you, you sold your house oh yeah we moved on.

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Well, yeah, so we sold our house, we bought a four bedroom and then we, when we were building it, we found out we were pregnant.

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And then you know, but I was worried, the whole time.

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I don't remember.

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When you found building it, we found out we were pregnant and then you know, but I was worried the whole time.

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I don't remember.

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When you found out, I know we were in New York and you were partying hard.

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Yeah, I wasn't doing like hard drugs.

00:17:00.994 --> 00:17:08.009
It sounds like you were smoking crack in New York and you found out you're pregnant.

00:17:08.009 --> 00:17:08.470
I had those people.

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Yeah, I had a couple drinks.

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That was a great trip, though it was so fun.

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I know I want to go back, yeah, and I had a couple drinks, no, so we all go to dinner party and you were, though I was like we're ready for bed, and her and our other friend, jen, wanted to go to the clubs like I'm a good time.

00:17:23.144 --> 00:17:24.269
I wish I would have gone now.

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Really, yeah, we were like 40, yeah, and we were like gonna go paint the town in new york.

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You know how old were you when you had fox?

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Oh, and we were like going to go paint the town in New York.

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You know how old were you when you had Fox?

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Oh, no, we were like 37.

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Oh, because it was geriatric.

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Yeah, I had him at 38 or nine.

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Yeah, yeah Anyways.

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So how did we get?

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That was fun.

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No Wait, you want to go out right now, kind of.

00:17:50.230 --> 00:17:50.671
What's in here?

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You're pregnant, cause I kept having to pee and I was like I'm not pregnant.

00:17:54.857 --> 00:17:57.644
And then I got home and I was pregnant and you were excited.

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Yeah, yeah, I was a little freaked out.

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Yeah, I don't remember.

00:18:00.631 --> 00:18:03.983
Cause I was scared because I was like, oh, am I going to have this again?

00:18:03.983 --> 00:18:05.946
Or like, what if it's something's wrong with it?

00:18:06.126 --> 00:18:18.721
I was just like I felt a lot of guilt until he was here and everything was good, and then yeah, you said, though I think, having a kid, I had all my kids close together, so it was like a blur, Um, they just kept happening.

00:18:18.721 --> 00:18:20.506
Right, they're like 16 and 21 months.

00:18:20.506 --> 00:18:37.223
But I did see with Fox, cause he is, and it is weird that her kids names if you don't know where it does it is weird Fox and bear, but I'm so used to it.

00:18:37.223 --> 00:18:39.107
But people are probably wondering if that's real.

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Those are really her names.

00:18:40.570 --> 00:18:41.472
Yeah, and then her daughter's name is coda.

00:18:41.472 --> 00:18:41.673
No rabbit.

00:18:41.673 --> 00:18:44.980
Yeah, kennedy, I was gonna say something inappropriate and then go ahead no, no, no, um about me.

00:18:45.260 --> 00:18:54.325
No, just like an appropriate joke, but I tamed it no um, anyways, but like I do think, when you wait a while and you get older, when you first have kids, you're all worried about everything.

00:18:54.325 --> 00:18:56.029
I read that baby wise book.

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It was the worst thing, and then you were reading it, so I was reading it, but Maddie is like super type a and I always wonder if it was because I, like, had her on such a schedule and like, yeah, but I just felt like with Maddie I I read baby wise, which means you put your kids down at this time, the sleep training book, yeah, you make them go to sleep awake, you let them cry it out, you da-da-da-da-da, and Maddie's very routine, and she did sleep through the night at three months, which was great, but I didn't enjoy.

00:19:21.027 --> 00:19:28.345
Yeah, I felt like I was like such a disciplinary that I didn't enjoy like having a baby as much, yeah.

00:19:28.345 --> 00:19:32.311
And then with Hudson, she was just a real bad baby.

00:19:32.311 --> 00:19:34.923
She was so bad so she was the boss.

00:19:34.923 --> 00:19:36.872
She's still spicy, she's so spicy.

00:19:36.872 --> 00:19:38.337
She came out like that.

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My mom and I were just talking about it.

00:19:39.320 --> 00:19:42.750
She cried all the time, my mother-in-law being as loving as she has told me.

00:19:42.750 --> 00:19:48.989
Man, crystal, I've never seen a more unhappy baby and as like a new mom you feel really good about yourself.

00:19:49.048 --> 00:19:49.970
I like I'm killing it.

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And then Broxton was a surprise after that, yeah, and I feel like then I just let all the wheels go and there was no structure and I enjoyed Broxton so much, but he's still the same, like, yeah, whatever, but I never enjoyed a kid as much as Fox.

00:20:04.965 --> 00:20:06.809
It was like every.

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Even now he'll climb on my lap in the mornings and I just smell his hair.

00:20:10.502 --> 00:20:16.153
It sounds a little creeper like a little like joe biden again vibes yeah, I'm a mom again.

00:20:16.153 --> 00:20:22.009
Yeah, no, but it's like I.

00:20:22.009 --> 00:20:26.657
Just I'm so concerned every no, but like his baby smell.

00:20:26.657 --> 00:20:28.042
Like you know, he's in kindergarten.

00:20:28.042 --> 00:20:28.403
Shut the hell up.

00:20:28.403 --> 00:20:31.278
Like you're picturing this, guys, I, he's in kindergarten, shut the hell up.

00:20:32.721 --> 00:20:34.686
Like you're picturing this, guys.

00:20:34.686 --> 00:20:39.688
I do no, he's in kindergarten, no it's just like something every moment that.

00:20:39.748 --> 00:20:44.167
I've had him is such a blessing and I look at it and I'm like I can't believe it.

00:20:44.348 --> 00:20:47.229
It's so it's so funny because Ben really didn't want another one.

00:20:47.229 --> 00:20:50.509
She's telling this story about dads again like Ben was on board.

00:20:50.509 --> 00:20:51.691
It want another one.

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She's telling this story about dads again like Ben was on board.

00:20:53.672 --> 00:20:53.991
It was not.

00:20:53.991 --> 00:20:54.613
He was like a hard no.

00:20:54.613 --> 00:20:56.334
He's always a hard no A while I always get my way.

00:20:56.574 --> 00:20:59.936
Yeah, that's encouraging for those of you out there that maybe don't yeah.

00:20:59.977 --> 00:21:02.723
But no, if you're not getting your way, I feel bad for you, yeah.

00:21:02.743 --> 00:21:04.469
But you have like a good way to go about it.

00:21:04.469 --> 00:21:08.113
It's not like a fight, it's like more of a manipulation Totally.

00:21:08.113 --> 00:21:11.414
I know, yeah, like it starts off like I am kind of a master manipulator.

00:21:11.414 --> 00:21:16.538
Yeah, like you drop the hints, then you're loving, then you pray about it, then you let it think it's his idea.

00:21:16.538 --> 00:21:18.137
Yeah, like I can picture it all.

00:21:18.137 --> 00:21:19.665
A lot of incentives, you know.

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But Ben didn't really.

00:21:20.489 --> 00:21:33.944
Ben was like if we could say wound tight, yeah, for like the other kids, one and very like disciplinary and with fox.

00:21:33.964 --> 00:21:34.867
I feel like he really enjoys him too.

00:21:34.867 --> 00:21:35.509
He's whacked with fox.

00:21:35.509 --> 00:21:36.513
Yeah, he's like so whacked with him.

00:21:36.513 --> 00:21:37.557
He lets him stay up later than bear.

00:21:37.557 --> 00:21:38.961
Yeah, what happened last night?

00:21:39.001 --> 00:21:40.084
yeah, what so?

00:21:40.084 --> 00:21:40.965
Bear had to go to bed.

00:21:40.965 --> 00:21:47.231
Bears in set sixth grade, yeah, so I heard, I was on the phone with her and and I hear her talking to fox.

00:21:47.231 --> 00:21:49.480
You get to stay up later than and I'm like what's going?

00:21:49.582 --> 00:21:49.922
on over there.

00:21:49.922 --> 00:21:51.907
Yeah, because bears in Bear's in bed and Ben and him are out.

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Fox are out there watching TV.

00:21:52.990 --> 00:21:53.111
Why?

00:21:53.111 --> 00:21:54.784
Because he's obsessed with him.

00:21:54.824 --> 00:21:57.421
I don't know it's weird, but why did Bear have to go to bed?

00:21:57.441 --> 00:21:57.961
I don't know, don't you?

00:21:57.981 --> 00:21:58.863
think Bear's a little pissed.

00:21:59.323 --> 00:22:02.926
I mean I would be, Because I think Bear gets on his nerves, so he's really crazy.

00:22:02.926 --> 00:22:04.729
Bear, if you're listening, I'm sorry.

00:22:04.729 --> 00:22:19.921
Oh, I love Bear, he's the best.

00:22:19.921 --> 00:22:22.346
No, but yeah, you really enjoyed that whole pregnancy and the baby.

00:22:22.346 --> 00:22:23.186
The baby is so like.

00:22:23.186 --> 00:22:26.073
I recommend anyone, anyone who's like worried about a gap don't be worried about a gap.

00:22:26.073 --> 00:22:26.780
It's amazing.

00:22:26.780 --> 00:22:30.106
It's a six year gap and it's perfect.

00:22:30.567 --> 00:22:34.663
Yeah, I feel like it was completely different, even with us, with Fox, like Fox didn't.

00:22:34.663 --> 00:22:41.740
It's so funny because I see moms now and I want to tell them all the things that, like our moms and mother-in-laws wanted to tell us that we were so annoyed about.

00:22:41.740 --> 00:22:45.006
And I did that with him because I knew I didn't stress about anything.

00:22:45.160 --> 00:22:49.688
I didn't stress about holding him all the time or having him sleep or any of those weird things.

00:22:49.688 --> 00:22:53.174
Feeding, timing, waking him Didn't time anything, fed on demand.

00:22:53.174 --> 00:22:59.291
It was just like I did whatever and he just had to go along with the ride because we were at like older kids, games and all this stuff.

00:22:59.291 --> 00:23:02.124
He's the easiest baby he's now to this day.

00:23:02.124 --> 00:23:03.669
He's so good with the flow.

00:23:03.779 --> 00:23:05.261
I think that's kind of where we mess up.

00:23:05.422 --> 00:23:06.923
Where Bear it's like oh.

00:23:06.943 --> 00:23:07.305
I had the.

00:23:07.826 --> 00:23:14.555
Aeron 72, the sound machine, this, and it's like now everything has to be perfect for the others and like, or they're so like.

00:23:14.555 --> 00:23:19.522
Yeah, I almost think we ruin it because we make it like the kids.

00:23:19.522 --> 00:23:24.756
And I will say that about Maddie she's not very flexible, you know no, but I Thank you, she's screwed up.

00:23:24.836 --> 00:23:25.597
No, I'm just kidding.

00:23:28.025 --> 00:23:29.027
That's my like that.

00:23:29.027 --> 00:23:31.992
Yes, it's like, if things aren't that way, her feathers are ruffled.

00:23:31.992 --> 00:23:32.594
That's how Ben is.

00:23:32.594 --> 00:23:34.030
That's how my other kids are.

00:23:34.211 --> 00:23:37.307
Yeah, it's like in Fox and I think we think we're doing a good job as a parent.

00:23:37.307 --> 00:23:38.665
But I was thinking about it the other day.

00:23:38.665 --> 00:23:42.566
Oh, my sister-in-law had a baby this weekend and she doesn't really listen.

00:23:42.566 --> 00:23:53.824
But my kid, she adopted two, so it's her.

00:23:53.824 --> 00:23:56.153
She had twins, then she adopted the two and then she had another baby and then now this is her next baby.

00:23:56.153 --> 00:23:58.021
But, like, she's a great mom, really good with the newborn and everything.

00:23:58.122 --> 00:24:04.542
But when we were at the hospital, my mother-in-law woke all her kids and took them to the soccer game Whereas her mom was on her way there.

00:24:04.542 --> 00:24:06.125
So she would rather the babies just sleep.

00:24:06.125 --> 00:24:08.688
Yeah, and she was like talking to me and she was like, well, they're naps.

00:24:08.688 --> 00:24:10.490
And I was thinking, oh, I forget about all that.

00:24:10.490 --> 00:24:14.855
Yeah, but Bonnie, my mother-in-law, she's a really good mom and she never.

00:24:14.855 --> 00:24:16.981
Her kids are a part of her life.

00:24:16.981 --> 00:24:19.710
Yeah, like, and I would always get bothered when she would babysit.

00:24:19.710 --> 00:24:25.821
I'd be like the nap and the this, and she'd be like they're fine, and I would be so annoyed I'm like, no, they're not fine, they're gonna be naughty.

00:24:25.821 --> 00:24:26.604
Yeah, because they're not.

00:24:26.604 --> 00:24:28.386
And and I wish I would have listened to her.

00:24:28.446 --> 00:24:29.990
Well, you think the world's going?

00:24:30.009 --> 00:24:32.134
to end if you don't have the schedule and they will fall asleep.

00:24:32.134 --> 00:24:48.071
Yeah, they will fall asleep and they will do things, but like when we're like with me, maddie and you were like that with Ken and Bear, we would get home for the nap and we would get home for the bedtime, but it's like teaching kids that they're the center of the universe instead of teaching kids that you're a part of our life.

00:24:48.071 --> 00:24:54.627
Right, if I were to tell new moms, I would say go on vacation without your kid, like every year, even when they're little.

00:24:54.627 --> 00:24:56.701
Right, and I would say make them a part of your life.

00:24:56.701 --> 00:24:58.946
Don't rearrange your day for them.

00:24:58.946 --> 00:25:01.132
Right, cause kids are so self-centered these days.

00:25:01.132 --> 00:25:01.681
Totally.

00:25:01.701 --> 00:25:05.357
Really, and then you are struggling more when you're trying to cater.

00:25:05.377 --> 00:25:06.781
Yeah, I think that's why people get depressed.

00:25:07.082 --> 00:25:08.044
Yes, Cause you're.

00:25:08.044 --> 00:25:15.095
You're rearranging your whole life for this baby and like, if they just kind of more fit into your it's just so much easier.

00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:17.347
Yeah, and, I think, a lot of postpartum.

00:25:17.347 --> 00:25:21.183
So I was on bed rest with my two girls and with Maddie.

00:25:21.183 --> 00:25:22.429
I'm a real busy body.

00:25:22.429 --> 00:25:23.585
I like to stay real busy.

00:25:23.585 --> 00:25:24.702
I run around Even this week.

00:25:24.702 --> 00:25:25.586
I called Tisha last night.

00:25:25.586 --> 00:25:28.369
I all whacked out because I was in bed a lot yesterday because of the surgery.

00:25:28.369 --> 00:25:33.565
I was in bed a lot yesterday because of the surgery.

00:25:33.565 --> 00:25:38.682
I don't do well like laying down, but so I went from teaching and being at the school like 12, 14 hours a day and loving it to all of a sudden being in bed for three months.

00:25:38.682 --> 00:25:41.270
I couldn't even I could go to the bathroom and that was it.

00:25:41.270 --> 00:25:53.834
I couldn't really do anything and I really like it was such a gut check for me on who I am, Cause a lot of people maybe are friends with me because of my personality Like I'm fun and I plan fun things and I do these fun things.

00:25:53.834 --> 00:25:58.884
But then on bed rest it's really interesting who like shows up Right, Like I didn't see Tisha for three months.

00:25:58.924 --> 00:25:59.827
That's so rude.

00:25:59.827 --> 00:26:01.904
No, why don't you tell them who was the big helper?

00:26:01.944 --> 00:26:05.708
this weekend we joke, I must have told her that she's not a good helper.

00:26:05.708 --> 00:26:07.362
Yeah, and I feel very bad about it.

00:26:07.362 --> 00:26:08.403
And I'm such a good helper.

00:26:08.403 --> 00:26:10.488
So this weekend she went and got the Chick-fil-A for me.

00:26:10.488 --> 00:26:11.309
She helped me shop around.

00:26:11.309 --> 00:26:12.873
Maddie's birthday I got the cookies.

00:26:12.873 --> 00:26:14.060
We had a 15th birthday.

00:26:14.060 --> 00:26:15.144
It was like a party.

00:26:15.144 --> 00:26:16.146
The cops got called.

00:26:16.146 --> 00:26:18.040
It was getting weird, were you there when the cops got called.

00:26:18.060 --> 00:26:18.903
Yeah, that's when I was leaving.

00:26:18.903 --> 00:26:19.506
I was all sorry.

00:26:19.506 --> 00:26:27.125
Anyways, moving on, so I was in bed.

00:26:27.125 --> 00:26:30.750
So when I had Maddie baby blues, I actually get like a high.

00:26:30.750 --> 00:26:32.652
When I have a kid, it's like the opposite.

00:26:32.652 --> 00:26:37.825
I don't know if it's like a challenge and like it's all this love and I get like the opposite.

00:26:37.825 --> 00:26:39.048
I get like this is fun.

00:26:39.048 --> 00:26:41.096
Yeah, I love the challenge of it.

00:26:41.096 --> 00:26:43.141
And with Hudson too, I was on bedrest.

00:26:43.141 --> 00:26:47.203
So all of a sudden I get to go out to eat and I'm not staying home with it Like some people.

00:26:47.304 --> 00:26:51.205
Courtney did the home for 30ourtney Kardashian did the stay home for 30 days.

00:26:51.205 --> 00:26:52.426
I think that's so weird.

00:26:52.426 --> 00:26:55.710
The kids need to like their germs, they need to like go.

00:26:55.710 --> 00:26:58.451
So when we had kids, we finally got to get out.

00:26:58.451 --> 00:27:00.792
It was like no more bed rest, let's go.

00:27:00.792 --> 00:27:03.895
So I really think that helped me not get depressed.

00:27:03.895 --> 00:27:13.592
I find that people that get like, you know, postpartum, they're used to having their own life and then all of a sudden, it's all about this little thing and your body changes so much.

00:27:13.592 --> 00:27:18.146
Right, like your boobs are sagging, your stomach's all wrecked, and then it's about this little thing.

00:27:18.146 --> 00:27:22.068
I just think it's like so much more that change about.

00:27:22.068 --> 00:27:26.407
It's about them rather than me, but also don't rearrange your whole life for them.

00:27:26.667 --> 00:27:27.451
And you'll get depressed.

00:27:27.451 --> 00:27:29.000
No, but have the baby with you all the time.

00:27:29.000 --> 00:27:30.563
Yeah, no, but have the baby with you all the time.

00:27:30.583 --> 00:27:30.942
Yeah, just go out.

00:27:30.962 --> 00:27:32.125
Yeah, I didn't leave them Go to lunch.

00:27:32.125 --> 00:27:36.008
They cry, do things that make you feel good, but be with the baby.

00:27:36.148 --> 00:27:49.588
Yeah, we were at a cheer competition a few weeks ago or a showcase, with our team and one of the coaches there I've known her since college and she was walking around with the baby I think she just had a baby and it was like a and the baby's at the cheer competition.

00:27:49.588 --> 00:27:59.034
She has this shoulder, her whole team, the baby's on the hip, and I thought, oh my gosh, when I had a baby, maddie was one at a cheer competition, but like Kyle had to bring her, I couldn't have her.

00:27:59.034 --> 00:28:01.587
She's all fourth kid, this is no problem.

00:28:01.587 --> 00:28:10.490
Yeah, and I'm like that kid's going to be so adaptable Totally, because she's like and it was on her hip, I, I think it was sleeping, yeah, but it was like turned out, yeah, and she didn't even know.

00:28:10.490 --> 00:28:11.692
Yeah, and it's so funny.

00:28:11.692 --> 00:28:17.513
My mother-in-law used to say they'll sleep when they, if they're tired, they'll fall asleep, and I'm like, no, they need the sound machine, they need all these things.

00:28:18.017 --> 00:28:20.227
If I were to go back, and even now Fox falls asleep anywhere.

00:28:26.750 --> 00:28:27.431
He's just like so, baby.

00:28:27.431 --> 00:28:29.491
And she said it was hard to wake.

00:28:29.491 --> 00:28:40.258
I don't know why we wake them in the mall the night, because when my mother-in-law had kids, oh, I never did that, you didn't, no, they just woke up on their own oh, I had to wake all mine to feed them because their birth weight dropped so much.

00:28:40.258 --> 00:28:43.025
Oh, because we yeah we they were little or babies.

00:28:43.025 --> 00:28:49.066
I'm like why my mother-in-law was always like never wake a sleeping no god, god, oh, my gosh.

00:28:49.146 --> 00:28:50.368
I wish I would have known you were doing this.

00:28:50.368 --> 00:28:52.932
I would have been like what are?

00:28:52.953 --> 00:28:53.575
you doing?

00:28:53.575 --> 00:28:55.125
Moving on from postpartum?

00:28:55.125 --> 00:28:57.007
Yeah, let's go back to the Tesla.

00:28:57.007 --> 00:29:03.913
So there's talk that, like Kim is really into Elon because she has a Tesla truck oh, is there?

00:29:03.913 --> 00:29:05.762
No, he's married with kids.

00:29:05.762 --> 00:29:06.523
He's married.

00:29:06.644 --> 00:29:07.326
He's not married?

00:29:07.425 --> 00:29:07.987
Yes, he is.

00:29:07.987 --> 00:29:08.847
Have you seen his wife?

00:29:08.847 --> 00:29:10.550
Oh yeah, he's remarried.

00:29:10.550 --> 00:29:11.353
He had the other wife.

00:29:11.353 --> 00:29:14.627
He's had a few he has kids with like six different people.

00:29:14.839 --> 00:29:17.929
The one Grimes, or whatever that girl Is that who he's married to?

00:29:17.929 --> 00:29:18.740
I don't know, because.

00:29:18.740 --> 00:29:20.508
I heard they just bought a house.

00:29:20.508 --> 00:29:23.559
For he just bought them a house or something.

00:29:23.700 --> 00:29:25.441
Have you seen that Amazon?

00:29:25.441 --> 00:29:26.101
What's that guy's name?

00:29:26.101 --> 00:29:27.061
Bezos?

00:29:27.061 --> 00:29:31.443
He's planning the wedding right now, Like this beautiful winter wedding to a new girl.

00:29:31.443 --> 00:29:32.825
Yeah, did you hear that story?

00:29:32.825 --> 00:29:34.726
No, he was married 26 years.

00:29:34.726 --> 00:29:36.446
Did you see Hugh Jackman?

00:29:36.446 --> 00:29:38.969
I know I loved Hugh Jackman.

00:29:39.189 --> 00:29:41.349
And I loved that he was with his wife of so long.

00:29:41.349 --> 00:29:43.010
I know it's wrong, I know.

00:29:43.030 --> 00:29:52.896
And then he cheated with a co-star, I know, and he lasted so long, I know I know it made me like him so much less, I know, but if you're in that environment so long you're going to cheat, I know.

00:29:52.896 --> 00:29:56.319
But back to Benzos, bezos, bezos.

00:29:56.319 --> 00:29:58.202
Have you seen the picture?

00:29:58.202 --> 00:30:09.041
I love the picture of when he has like Amazon hanging and it's like on a cloth, so she stayed with him while he built his whole business Right and then when he's a trillionaire.

00:30:09.061 --> 00:30:10.945
So when you're famous on jerking around, are you going to ditch me?

00:30:11.226 --> 00:30:13.770
That's why we don't want to be famous and that's why we have a pod daddy.

00:30:13.770 --> 00:30:14.571
Not everyone does.

00:30:14.571 --> 00:30:15.980
Yeah, he'll keep us grounded.

00:30:15.980 --> 00:30:20.884
Yeah, exactly, but it's true, you let the fame and all that stuff like ruin you, right, and it won't happen to us.

00:30:20.884 --> 00:30:22.950
No, we're not going to let the fame get to us.

00:30:22.950 --> 00:30:25.123
No, I'm really big into visualization.

00:30:25.123 --> 00:30:27.886
I read this book it was the best book like manifesting.

00:30:27.886 --> 00:30:30.632
No, not fully manifesting, because it's with god.

00:30:30.832 --> 00:30:38.358
Yeah, like you pray like the man, but I think a lot of times people don't believe enough, right, so it's like not like manifesting.

00:30:38.358 --> 00:30:46.606
But there is something to like setting a goal and like believing it, and like when you're gonna lose weight, you always see yourself as a skinny person.

00:30:46.606 --> 00:30:53.271
Yes, that's one of my biggest struggles is I've always seen myself as um a fuller person.

00:30:53.271 --> 00:30:59.848
I'm trying to be not negative, yeah, but like I don't see myself as that anymore and you don't realize you are what you see, you are.

00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:09.688
No, it's weird because I was doing pictures for Maddie's birthday post and there's some pictures where I was like, oh wow, I was looking not, but you always acted like and thought you were.

00:31:11.720 --> 00:31:12.788
And you I see pictures of you all the time like that.

00:31:12.788 --> 00:31:15.742
Yeah, that's why I'm like you look better than you've ever looked and you're beating yourself up Really.

00:31:15.742 --> 00:31:17.847
Yeah, oh, I feel like Because you have dysmorphia.

00:31:17.847 --> 00:31:19.760
Yeah, I do, but I'm gonna work on that.

00:31:20.162 --> 00:31:27.142
But I have, like I'm trying not to care about wrinkles because I read somewhere that like it was the coolest thing.

00:31:27.142 --> 00:31:29.746
It's like about the laugh lines around your eyes, and it was like.

00:31:29.746 --> 00:31:34.752
I can't remember what it was, I gotta try and find it but it was like signs of like a happy life.

00:31:34.752 --> 00:31:36.760
Oh, that's cool, I know.

00:31:36.760 --> 00:31:39.807
And then it like changed my mind about the wrinkles.

00:31:39.807 --> 00:31:42.703
I'm glad because I worry about aging so much I do.

00:31:42.703 --> 00:31:46.840
But I was just thinking about these wrinkles right here and how I was like I got to do something about those.

00:31:46.840 --> 00:31:49.265
I never had to worry about those, for now I see them in every picture.

00:31:49.265 --> 00:31:52.630
And then I read that thing and I was like, oh my gosh, it was so like.

00:31:52.630 --> 00:31:57.846
It was like that is the sign of like a half of like a happy life well lived, or something.

00:31:57.846 --> 00:31:59.855
And it was so like it hit me.

00:31:59.855 --> 00:32:01.563
You know, when you read something it just hits you.

00:32:01.702 --> 00:32:13.792
I agree and I was very big into the natural aging he's like it's a part of like life well, when I see, this is what I understand when girls get all the Botox and the fillers like I get Botox in my forehead but I'm trying not to get it I feel like it looks good.

00:32:13.813 --> 00:32:14.433
You haven't had it for a while.

00:32:14.433 --> 00:32:15.454
I only get it every six months.

00:32:15.454 --> 00:32:17.042
Is it the Focacia or whatever?

00:32:17.042 --> 00:32:19.107
The, the Washa?

00:32:19.429 --> 00:32:20.109
The Washa.

00:32:20.109 --> 00:32:21.353
Yeah, I know.

00:32:24.263 --> 00:32:25.305
I've read mixed things on that.

00:32:25.345 --> 00:32:28.249
But yeah, oh wait, and it's just like have you tried it?

00:32:28.249 --> 00:32:31.772
Yeah, I do it every day almost, but I don't know if it's helping.

00:32:31.772 --> 00:32:33.816
But anyways, do you still do that vagina one?

00:32:34.362 --> 00:32:38.643
Yeah, the lips.

00:32:38.643 --> 00:32:46.212
Would you do it if it kept you younger and tighter down there it's tight enough, but it droops a little.

00:32:46.353 --> 00:32:47.314
No, it doesn't.

00:32:47.354 --> 00:32:48.855
Yeah, a little it's fine.

00:32:49.076 --> 00:32:50.401
No, it doesn't, you haven't even.

00:32:50.401 --> 00:32:58.377
We're going to need, like, a, like a go ahead, though.

00:32:58.377 --> 00:32:59.079
Um what?

00:32:59.099 --> 00:32:59.681
was I saying.

00:32:59.681 --> 00:33:01.692
No the washout the.

00:33:01.692 --> 00:33:02.974
Botox the wrinkle lines.

00:33:02.974 --> 00:33:03.737
You're happy.

00:33:03.737 --> 00:33:05.582
You're not going to worry about aging as much.

00:33:05.582 --> 00:33:07.195
You're going to work on your dysmorphia.

00:33:07.195 --> 00:33:07.537
Dang it.

00:33:07.537 --> 00:33:08.179
Why did you do that?

00:33:08.199 --> 00:33:08.661
It'll come back.

00:33:08.661 --> 00:33:09.390
It always does.

00:33:09.390 --> 00:33:10.912
Yeah, no, it was something about that.

00:33:10.912 --> 00:33:15.237
But yeah, no, I just think I was like, oh, I'm going to like, oh, that was what it was.

00:33:15.237 --> 00:33:15.998
The girls.

00:33:15.998 --> 00:33:18.380
They get all the botox and fillers and I get botox.

00:33:18.380 --> 00:33:22.203
I'm not judging, and I'm not judging fillers either, but I do think it's a.

00:33:22.203 --> 00:33:28.097
It's a slippery slope and most people that have it all you look older.

00:33:28.097 --> 00:33:31.503
I agree, because young people aren't full of fillers.

00:33:31.503 --> 00:33:36.431
Yeah, so you're giving away your age when your face looks like this oh, 100, I think it looks not good.

00:33:36.451 --> 00:33:38.400
Almost all always like when I think it starts like a dysmorph percent, I think it looks not good.

00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:45.461
Almost all always like when I think, it starts like a dysmorphia, like you think it's like the beginning is fine and then you go too far.

00:33:45.461 --> 00:33:48.617
My mom looks amazing and she's never done a lot of.

00:33:48.617 --> 00:33:50.481
She only started doing Botox a few years ago.

00:33:50.481 --> 00:33:51.490
She looks amazing.

00:33:51.490 --> 00:33:54.336
She's always done like the peels and the and the moisture.

00:33:54.336 --> 00:33:56.660
That's why I started doing the moisture, my mom doesn't do.

00:33:56.660 --> 00:33:59.163
She looks so young, she's 76.

00:34:05.490 --> 00:34:06.294
She looks unbelievable, unbelievable.

00:34:06.294 --> 00:34:07.839
Yeah, even Ben's mom is really so pretty and she doesn't do all that stuff.

00:34:07.839 --> 00:34:10.309
She doesn't do Botox, no, oh, she looks so young Not at all, and she has gray hair.

00:34:10.309 --> 00:34:12.432
Yeah, and I think she looks adorable.

00:34:12.652 --> 00:34:13.755
Like every time I see her.

00:34:13.775 --> 00:34:19.802
I'm like she's adorable and she's very natural and I think it's better than the frozen face.

00:34:19.802 --> 00:34:24.016
I mean, I like the frozen face too, but it's hard, like whose face?

00:34:24.016 --> 00:34:25.400
Like our Botox lady.

00:34:25.400 --> 00:34:26.702
She's fully frozen.

00:34:26.702 --> 00:34:27.692
I know you like that.

00:34:28.112 --> 00:34:29.255
I don't think she looks good.

00:34:29.456 --> 00:34:32.081
Well, she looks like she's trying to look frozen.

00:34:32.101 --> 00:34:34.173
So who with a frozen face do you look at and go?

00:34:34.173 --> 00:34:35.797
I want to look like her, JLo.

00:34:35.797 --> 00:34:38.371
I don't think she does all that, though do you she has to.

00:34:38.371 --> 00:34:38.630
She looks so.

00:34:38.630 --> 00:34:39.813
Don't think she does all that, though, Do you she has to?

00:34:39.813 --> 00:34:40.253
She looks so young.

00:34:40.253 --> 00:34:44.458
I think it's all like the moisturizing and, well, you know the other things that they do.

00:34:44.679 --> 00:34:46.601
Yeah, that are really bad, the adrenochrome.

00:34:47.202 --> 00:34:49.164
Oh God, let's move on.

00:34:49.164 --> 00:34:49.666
Beef it out.

00:34:49.666 --> 00:34:51.911
Beef it out.

00:34:51.911 --> 00:34:52.853
I saw this is a.

00:34:52.853 --> 00:35:00.711
We're all over the have an outline pod daddy, yeah we've gone away from it a little, but I did see my niece get born, born.

00:35:00.711 --> 00:35:08.034
Uh, my sister-in-law had a baby on sunday, saturday, and it was the coolest thing I've ever seen in my life.

00:35:08.034 --> 00:35:09.577
I've never I had c-section.

00:35:09.617 --> 00:35:14.193
So I only put when you're delivering you don't, because I've watched it and I've given birth.

00:35:14.193 --> 00:35:14.653
It's not the same.

00:35:14.653 --> 00:35:16.038
It was the coolest, most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

00:35:16.038 --> 00:35:16.699
Yes, were you crying?

00:35:16.699 --> 00:35:17.221
And the vagina is crazy.

00:35:17.240 --> 00:35:17.661
It's not the same.

00:35:17.661 --> 00:35:19.927
It was the coolest, most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

00:35:19.927 --> 00:35:20.849
Yes, were you crying?

00:35:20.849 --> 00:35:23.137
And the vagina is crazy, crazy.

00:35:23.197 --> 00:35:23.577
Were you crying?

00:35:23.577 --> 00:35:24.800
It's like an animal, oh yeah.

00:35:25.090 --> 00:35:29.438
When it came out, oh yeah, like bawling, bawling, and my family's not very emotional, so I was the only one crying.

00:35:29.550 --> 00:35:37.081
You were the only one crying, troy probably, yeah, um see, I'm not emotional but I cried, but I was probably emotional back then.

00:35:37.081 --> 00:35:38.141
I saw CJ.

00:35:38.141 --> 00:35:39.523
I saw CJ get born.

00:35:39.623 --> 00:35:40.706
Yeah, that's so cool too.

00:35:40.706 --> 00:35:42.115
That's her son that she adopted.

00:35:42.369 --> 00:35:46.041
But um, I've delivered vaginally, and it's not the same.

00:35:46.041 --> 00:35:52.360
And then your vaginal delivery, though, was traumatic, though, right, but when you're doing it, you're not watching it.

00:35:52.360 --> 00:35:54.277
Oh, it is watching the vagina, though.

00:35:54.277 --> 00:35:54.878
It's crazy.

00:35:59.630 --> 00:36:00.393
How it's crazy how big it is.

00:36:00.413 --> 00:36:02.440
Well, and it's like when the head's down there, the whole vagina is like protruded.

00:36:02.460 --> 00:36:03.041
It doesn't look like a vagina.

00:36:03.041 --> 00:36:04.347
No, it looked like a vagina for most of it.

00:36:04.347 --> 00:36:06.152
For me it was so but it's big.

00:36:07.153 --> 00:36:10.882
It didn't like see she had a lot of pushing, so it was like the.

00:36:10.882 --> 00:36:14.596
It was open for a long time see my sister-in-law's wasn't.

00:36:14.695 --> 00:36:17.400
It was like nothing, something and over.

00:36:17.400 --> 00:36:18.958
Yeah, it was crazy, oh yeah no.

00:36:18.958 --> 00:36:19.197
So I didn't see it get very.

00:36:19.152 --> 00:36:21.117
Hers was a traumatic birth type thing too, where it was like nothing something and over yeah, it was crazy, oh yeah, no, so I didn't see it get very.

00:36:21.117 --> 00:36:30.579
Hers was a traumatic birth type thing too, where it was stuck, so it was open, so you could see how big that I'm like that's crazy, that, oh so it was so fast.

00:36:30.599 --> 00:36:43.262
When the baby came out, oh yeah, but the head was out first and it was all like mangled and bonnie, my mother-in-law, was like I don't think this baby's okay, because the veins were all yeah and I was all oh gosh, and it's just the coolest thing ever.

00:36:43.442 --> 00:36:51.317
It's like if you, I obviously believe in god, but if you didn't believe in god and you saw that I feel like you'd believe in god, it's the most like.

00:36:51.878 --> 00:36:56.635
It's like a miracle like you can't describe it and they did this thing that we didn't do.

00:36:56.635 --> 00:36:57.378
It's so funny.

00:36:57.378 --> 00:37:07.552
We've been in medicine for years and years but like they did the delayed clamping of the umbilical cord, yeah, it was so crazy.

00:37:07.552 --> 00:37:09.438
So the umbilical cord, it's so like giving.

00:37:09.438 --> 00:37:11.230
Oh, yeah, it's so thick, like she was.

00:37:11.230 --> 00:37:19.396
Like the hospital they deliver at is very natural, yeah, so she was teaching, like us, and she was like, see how thick it is, yeah, and we waited for it to shovel down.

00:37:19.396 --> 00:37:22.038
It was so, so cool, yeah, how the body works.

00:37:22.177 --> 00:37:23.159
It was really amazing.

00:37:23.719 --> 00:37:26.061
But we're going to go into going off topic.

00:37:26.061 --> 00:37:36.976
We do kind of plan what we talk about nowadays and I, um, and I've been all over the place today because I did have surgery and I'm not going to lie, I did take something today, so it might be a little.

00:37:36.976 --> 00:37:41.494
Yeah, she was like I was all Tisha, I don't feel great, so I took a pain pill today, so it could be a little weird.

00:37:41.791 --> 00:37:42.985
She was laying down in the car on the way here.

00:37:43.045 --> 00:37:44.875
I was like so if I'm all over the place, you know.

00:37:44.875 --> 00:37:46.699
We're just, let's be honest, yeah.

00:38:03.530 --> 00:38:05.876
But anyways, we though, but we were talking about married from Tinder and they're very happy.

00:38:06.556 --> 00:38:22.175
We like to talk about dating a lot Not that we've killed it, but I do feel like we were so confused and then we figured it out and met our husband, cause I think we've killed it because I feel like we were lost and then now we did really good, like the Bible, yeah, so Like we're on the other side.

00:38:22.309 --> 00:38:23.373
So listen to my advice.

00:38:23.373 --> 00:38:25.889
Yes, yes, and we've helped our friends get to the other side.

00:38:25.889 --> 00:38:29.380
Well, even at the party we were talking to some of the high school girls, yeah, and.

00:38:40.690 --> 00:38:41.875
My daughter's birthday party this weekend likes a big party.

00:38:41.875 --> 00:38:42.778
Yeah, she's every year where she gets it from.

00:38:42.778 --> 00:38:43.561
You know, every year it's just the bash.

00:38:43.561 --> 00:38:43.963
Yes, with no alcohol.

00:38:43.963 --> 00:38:44.224
It was great.

00:38:44.244 --> 00:38:45.590
No, it was so fun anyways, there was all the high school girls.

00:38:45.590 --> 00:38:50.411
There was older girls there because she's on the cheer team, so there was like 17 year old, 16 year old.

00:38:50.411 --> 00:38:53.340
So we were talking to some of them about dating the one girl we were talking to.

00:38:53.340 --> 00:38:56.213
We were telling her her, this guy's been jerking her for years.

00:38:56.434 --> 00:38:58.777
She's the most adorable girl on the planet.

00:38:58.777 --> 00:39:03.244
Christian Obsessed with her, so cute, and they've been talking.

00:39:03.244 --> 00:39:06.023
So they dated for a year and then they've been talking.

00:39:06.023 --> 00:39:06.550
I'm still mad about it.

00:39:06.550 --> 00:39:08.657
I'm still mad about it too Talking.

00:39:08.657 --> 00:39:10.114
This is the new thing.

00:39:10.114 --> 00:39:11.498
The talking Did we talk about this?

00:39:11.518 --> 00:39:12.039
Yeah, the talking.

00:39:12.110 --> 00:39:19.751
So they say it's texting, then it's not exclusive.

00:39:19.751 --> 00:39:20.615
There's situationships that happen.

00:39:20.615 --> 00:39:21.038
Who is doing this?

00:39:21.038 --> 00:39:21.701
Well, she's in a situationship.

00:39:21.701 --> 00:39:27.407
We decided yeah, because it's more than talking, but not a relationship these are just all terms for a guy jerking you around, yeah.

00:39:27.407 --> 00:39:33.650
Jerking around yeah, these are terms for jerking you around and you're acting like it's something because you want it so bad.

00:39:33.931 --> 00:39:36.295
so how long talking do you think is appropriate?

00:39:36.295 --> 00:39:39.222
Five minutes, so stupid Like.

00:39:39.222 --> 00:39:42.516
Have some respect, you know, wait, so let's okay, so, really.

00:39:42.750 --> 00:39:51.710
So if Kennedy meets a guy yeah, two weeks, and they go from nothing to talking and it's like a decision to go to talking, yes, so you go to talking two weeks.

00:39:51.710 --> 00:39:52.992
Two weeks, do you think it's good?

00:39:52.992 --> 00:39:53.873
Yes, what about three weeks?

00:39:53.873 --> 00:39:54.793
Three weeks is fine.

00:39:54.793 --> 00:39:55.693
What's the longest?

00:39:55.693 --> 00:39:57.356
You should be talking, not longer than a month.

00:39:57.675 --> 00:40:03.201
I kind of agree If you need more than a month, like my grandparents got married in three weeks.

00:40:03.201 --> 00:40:07.083
They met and got married in three weeks and they were married till he died for 50 years.

00:40:07.083 --> 00:40:07.885
That's so cool.

00:40:07.885 --> 00:40:10.907
They were my parents got married super fast too they were 18 and 17.

00:40:10.907 --> 00:40:13.012
And I think it's unbelievable.

00:40:13.012 --> 00:40:16.079
But, and they were like in love at the end the whole time.

00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:17.784
No, like great marriage.

00:40:17.784 --> 00:40:21.032
Yeah, and I think you didn't, they didn't need all that time.

00:40:21.032 --> 00:40:22.094
I know, I think you're right.

00:40:22.295 --> 00:40:34.067
And then they made a choice to stay married when it got hard yeah, I agree, kyle and I only dated for five months and it was funny because some months for me, you told me Tisha was dating an idiot when we got engaged.

00:40:34.067 --> 00:40:36.132
So it's like a mirror into your relationship.

00:40:36.132 --> 00:40:38.838
Yeah, so she was mad at me not mad, but like you, like you're like.

00:40:38.838 --> 00:40:40.061
You're just still in the honeymoon phase.

00:40:40.202 --> 00:40:40.963
It's going to get worse.

00:40:40.963 --> 00:40:45.911
Well, because it made me self-reflect and I was like, oh Because you had been with him two years and it wasn't, and I was all.

00:40:45.931 --> 00:40:49.541
if you don't marry, me like what an idiot, you know, I know you shouldn't have to do that.

00:41:01.849 --> 00:41:02.114
And I two months.

00:41:02.114 --> 00:41:03.313
If you have to put, like a, a ultimatum.

00:41:03.313 --> 00:41:04.519
Yes, I'm not saying that it's not I, I would say probably 90, it's not.

00:41:04.519 --> 00:41:06.302
I'm sure there's some that gave the ultimatum and they're happily married friends that are still married.

00:41:06.342 --> 00:41:07.646
They gave the ultimatum and it's fine.

00:41:07.646 --> 00:41:10.092
Yes, it's great, totally no, I know.

00:41:10.092 --> 00:41:14.510
For her, though, it's funny seeing dating through like your daughter's eyes or your son's eyes.

00:41:14.510 --> 00:41:26.001
It's different, you know, and you, you get like sucked into the things too, like I got sucked in, like I, you know, I really liked the kid, you know, and I I'm so mad about it.

00:41:26.061 --> 00:41:28.273
Still, I know I'm so protective of Maddie.

00:41:28.273 --> 00:41:30.458
I think she's just the greatest thing since sliced bread.

00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:31.911
She's such a good person.

00:41:32.012 --> 00:41:33.514
Yeah, she's such a good girl.

00:41:33.514 --> 00:41:38.893
She's like she just is the total package and I am just raging about.

00:41:38.893 --> 00:41:40.916
So the talking didn't go well.

00:41:40.936 --> 00:41:41.418
It did not go well.

00:41:41.418 --> 00:41:42.300
They talked for two months.

00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:43.262
He was jerking her around.

00:41:43.262 --> 00:41:47.159
He was jerking her around and he was jerking other girls around too, yes, yes.

00:41:47.670 --> 00:41:49.596
And then in the talking, is that cheating?

00:41:49.596 --> 00:41:50.237
I don't know.

00:41:50.237 --> 00:41:51.521
Yeah, the jury's out.

00:41:51.521 --> 00:41:53.438
Kyle says it's not because you weren't official.

00:41:53.438 --> 00:41:56.795
Yeah, like I think it is, because you're in a talking.

00:41:56.795 --> 00:42:01.043
I think you should be talking to one person, but why then do you go to talking to relationship?

00:42:01.043 --> 00:42:01.784
What's the difference?

00:42:01.784 --> 00:42:04.952
Nothing, yeah, the guys just make these things up.

00:42:05.012 --> 00:42:07.480
It's made up to exactly it's made up to.

00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:09.567
Still, you know fill it out.

00:42:09.806 --> 00:42:12.097
Yeah, I agree, I think you should know sooner.

00:42:12.097 --> 00:42:16.112
But it's hard to like explain these things because you want them to learn by going through it themselves.

00:42:16.112 --> 00:42:19.260
But it took me the things that I had to go through to learn.

00:42:19.260 --> 00:42:24.452
I don't want her to go through all that Because I do think you get like relationship baggage Right when you go through.

00:42:24.452 --> 00:42:29.927
Like like Tisha and I both dated guys that were drug dealers.

00:42:29.927 --> 00:42:35.570
I was just telling the cheerleaders this I dated two drug dealers Like that's really weird, and Ben stopped selling years ago.

00:42:35.592 --> 00:42:36.132
But how many?

00:42:36.132 --> 00:42:40.376
No, not Ben, but how many people deal drugs, like that's weird.

00:42:40.536 --> 00:42:43.099
Yeah, I know Mine was like a big time dealer, yeah, yeah.

00:42:43.360 --> 00:42:46.523
It's just strange, because I didn't know there was that many drug dealers in the world Me neither.

00:42:46.784 --> 00:42:48.184
Yeah, In Peoria too.

00:42:48.425 --> 00:42:49.266
Yeah, it was like.

00:42:57.519 --> 00:43:03.757
Yeah, it's not like we church with me every Sunday and be like, yeah, yeah, I don't know who listens to this stuff.

00:43:03.757 --> 00:43:05.456
I had no idea mine was a drug dealer.

00:43:05.456 --> 00:43:05.878
We get along great.

00:43:06.170 --> 00:43:09.561
He had like a really nice car and we were like in our 20s and like a nice house.

00:43:09.561 --> 00:43:19.123
And now that I'm looking, I'm like and he didn't a drug dealer.

00:43:19.143 --> 00:43:20.485
My boyfriend had such a nice car too.

00:43:20.485 --> 00:43:21.753
Yeah, like, what an idiot.

00:43:21.753 --> 00:43:23.519
What an idiot, I know, I know.

00:43:24.050 --> 00:43:25.954
But I don't want Kennedy to date drug dealers.

00:43:26.135 --> 00:43:26.836
Like you're better than that.

00:43:26.836 --> 00:43:27.277
What would you do?

00:43:27.277 --> 00:43:28.099
Would you step in?

00:43:28.099 --> 00:43:29.063
Yes, how.

00:43:41.650 --> 00:43:47.791
You're not talk to him, you'll never drive my mother was like marry the one drug dealer, and I was like this is weird.

00:43:47.952 --> 00:43:50.974
No, she was like have a baby, yeah, she was skipping marriage.

00:43:50.974 --> 00:43:59.443
She was like come to our Christmas party, shut up, that was a dig, moving on anyways.

00:43:59.443 --> 00:44:01.990
So then we were talking about tinder and some of our friends.

00:44:01.990 --> 00:44:07.411
So we're telling my daughter now it's like my two moms we talk on speaker and we both talk to her.

00:44:07.411 --> 00:44:07.914
I know, do you?

00:44:07.934 --> 00:44:08.697
think she hates me.

00:44:08.838 --> 00:44:10.264
No, she loves you and she listens.

00:44:10.264 --> 00:44:18.597
She totally listens and I love like all my exes I'm still friends with them all the drug dealer and all I don't you know we're and that's where she gets mad at me.

00:44:18.597 --> 00:44:23.512
I'm sometimes too forgiving sometimes, but I our last podcast we talked about loving everyone.

00:44:23.512 --> 00:44:24.496
So I'm trying to love everyone.

00:44:24.496 --> 00:44:25.780
So she's really implementing that.

00:44:25.780 --> 00:44:26.791
I'm implementing that.

00:44:26.791 --> 00:44:33.514
I really liked you know his family and everything, but so now maddie has other options and we're trying to teach her.

00:44:33.514 --> 00:44:37.713
Sometimes it's better to go for a guy that's more into you than you're into him.

00:44:37.713 --> 00:44:45.657
Yes, and she's like not getting it because the one guy was like the guy and the guy and and the new guy is more the guy to me.

00:44:45.677 --> 00:44:51.155
Yes, so there's a newer guy and I'm so into the new guy, yes, and so he's into her.

00:44:51.155 --> 00:44:54.773
She's like I don't know, you know, and we're like, no, it's so much better, both of us.

00:44:54.773 --> 00:44:57.197
I feel like Kyle was more into me than I was to him.

00:44:57.197 --> 00:44:58.458
I feel like Ben was more into me.

00:44:58.458 --> 00:45:01.804
Yes, and some of our friends, the healthier relationships.

00:45:01.804 --> 00:45:03.494
Yes, like our friend Jamie and Aaron.

00:45:03.715 --> 00:45:06.610
Yes, oh, it's like he was so Our friend.

00:45:06.610 --> 00:45:07.431
The Tinder.

00:45:07.431 --> 00:45:11.773
She was dating this other guy and he was jerking her and she went crazy, she keyed his car.

00:45:11.773 --> 00:45:13.114
Wait, tell the story.

00:45:13.114 --> 00:45:16.016
Oh, she was dating this guy and he would like Our friend.

00:45:16.016 --> 00:45:22.119
Yes, they met on Tinder and then they would like hook up and he would only call her at night and it was like super unhealthy.

00:45:22.119 --> 00:45:30.724
And then something happened I think I can't remember the exact story, but she was at his house, he kicked her out so she took a rock and scratched his car.

00:45:31.985 --> 00:45:37.617
I think she wrote something, but anyways, then how do you kick someone out of your house?

00:45:37.617 --> 00:45:40.675
Too Did they do it, and then he kicked her out, I think so yes, oh, it made you feel like crap, oh, like awful.

00:45:40.989 --> 00:45:42.275
And he was like messing with her mind.

00:45:42.275 --> 00:45:50.936
Yeah and so she, yes and so she, and then, like she's not even crazy, and she did that and like, well, I guess she is crazy.

00:45:50.956 --> 00:45:51.579
She's a good time.

00:45:59.309 --> 00:45:59.652
Yeah, the new guy.

00:45:59.652 --> 00:46:00.958
And then he was so into her and I remember her calling me.

00:46:00.958 --> 00:46:07.322
I vividly remember I was at arrowhead mall and she called me and she's like, and she had been calling me telling me this guy's so annoying and he wants to go to sedona and like all this stuff.

00:46:07.322 --> 00:46:09.532
She's like god, he planned this trip to sedona.

00:46:09.532 --> 00:46:17.494
He's so boring and he was obsessed with her and she was like, oh, he's obsessed with me and like he's so dumb and like god, he's like calling me all the time.

00:46:17.494 --> 00:46:20.277
And she was still hung up on the other guy, the rock.

00:46:20.277 --> 00:46:23.099
I'll never forget I was walking to her and she called me.

00:46:23.099 --> 00:46:27.143
She's like I'm in love and this is literally probably three weeks or maybe a month.

00:46:27.143 --> 00:46:30.126
It just changed, it flipped, the flip, and I go what?

00:46:30.126 --> 00:46:34.213
And she goes I'm in love.

00:46:34.213 --> 00:46:35.536
I'm like who are you in love with?

00:46:35.536 --> 00:46:38.380
She's like the guy, the one that's been, and I go.

00:46:38.380 --> 00:46:39.262
I thought he was annoying.

00:46:39.262 --> 00:46:45.594
She's like, no, we went to Sedona and it flipped and like I remember when Kyle literally have goosebumps.

00:46:45.634 --> 00:46:48.590
They're married now, happily married two kids, and she's like it flipped.

00:46:48.590 --> 00:46:51.034
I like him so much I.

00:46:51.034 --> 00:46:59.315
She was like I mine flipped too, and he just kept loving on her and she would dick him around so bad she was like she would blow him off.

00:46:59.315 --> 00:47:00.197
She was rude to him.

00:47:00.197 --> 00:47:05.952
She's like I was mean, like she told me he's annoying, like it was crazy and he just kept loving her.

00:47:05.952 --> 00:47:07.114
Guys want to hunt.

00:47:07.496 --> 00:47:11.971
And then he got her yes, yes, and they change when you get married.

00:47:11.971 --> 00:47:31.182
I was telling maddie last night I'm like dad was no the other so nice and like so about me and when you're dating they should be overly nice, because when you get married they're not that nice no, they're not that nice and they have an opinion he's gonna be on everything now and I was like phew, I hit him with the pillow, you know.

00:47:32.164 --> 00:47:35.735
Oh, he's so rude god jerk.

00:47:35.755 --> 00:47:38.478
yeah, yeah, ben was telling on her to me in the background.

00:47:38.478 --> 00:47:40.782
I don't he tells on me.

00:47:40.902 --> 00:47:41.284
It's stupid.

00:47:41.284 --> 00:47:42.385
Well, because Ben and I are the same.

00:47:42.385 --> 00:47:45.018
Well, because we were laying in bed and he had just come home from hunting.

00:47:45.018 --> 00:47:46.021
His ranger broke down.

00:47:46.021 --> 00:47:54.538
He had to walk like six miles in the dark and you didn't feel bad for him, no, and he got home at midnight I'm Midnight.

00:47:54.538 --> 00:47:57.039
Well, I forgot to get milk because he makes our lattes in the morning.

00:47:57.039 --> 00:48:00.202
So when I woke up in the morning I remembered I forgot to get milk.

00:48:00.202 --> 00:48:03.907
And we had like take the kids and I go shoot, I forgot to get milk.

00:48:03.907 --> 00:48:07.797
I'll go run to Starbucks, or I'll go run get milk right now, or I'll go to a wall and get us coffee.

00:48:07.797 --> 00:48:11.735
And then he's like being such a jerk and he's like how could you forget?

00:48:11.735 --> 00:48:12.818
Like what are you doing?

00:48:12.818 --> 00:48:16.501
And jerk, and I was like god, you're just a jerk.

00:48:16.501 --> 00:48:23.864
And I just like took the pillow and I hit him as hard as I could in the face and then he was so mad at me all day.

00:48:24.344 --> 00:48:26.445
I can't believe he hit me with a pillow.

00:48:26.505 --> 00:48:28.047
Yeah as hard as I could too.

00:48:28.047 --> 00:48:32.130
You know, like I wound up and like like I would have, like, was he close to you?

00:48:32.130 --> 00:48:41.663
Yes, like I got out of bed and grabbed my pillow and just did as hard as I could right in the face and he was laying there and he was all like, and I was like I'm going you jerk.

00:48:41.663 --> 00:48:43.945
You know he's being so mean.

00:48:43.945 --> 00:48:46.059
I know that he was so nice when we were dating.

00:48:46.059 --> 00:48:49.452
Oh, kyle too the nicest, oh my gosh, I always am like you were so easy going.

00:48:49.472 --> 00:48:50.134
When you're dating.

00:48:50.134 --> 00:48:52.460
They're gonna be like 10 times a jerk you up.

00:48:52.460 --> 00:48:54.692
Yes, yeah, and the beginning is the best part.

00:48:54.692 --> 00:48:59.440
So if the beginning isn't good for like year at least it's gonna suck.

00:48:59.440 --> 00:49:00.483
So bad, oh, so bad.

00:49:00.483 --> 00:49:03.402
So you've got to go for the guy that's more into you than you are to him.

00:49:03.402 --> 00:49:12.041
Yes, give it a chance, because I remember I thought kyle was like, oh, and then we would go out this other night and he was with all of his friends and he was the life of the party and it flipped.

00:49:12.181 --> 00:49:13.670
Yes, and then it would flip back.

00:49:13.670 --> 00:49:16.094
What your daughter was saying is I don't think he's that fun.

00:49:16.355 --> 00:49:18.059
Yes, and I was like Ben wasn't that fun.

00:49:18.059 --> 00:49:20.324
Yeah, Kyle, doesn't seem that fun until you get to know him.

00:49:20.951 --> 00:49:39.956
We were dating and I remember it was something and I was like we were dating, we were going to go hang out and we were going to go like go to dinner or do something, and then one of my friends called I think it was you or Jen, probably, and something happened and you were sad and I was like, hey, let's go pick up a cake and go take it to my friend's house.

00:49:39.956 --> 00:49:47.864
And he was like, well, we said we were going to dinner and I was like, and I was so annoyed with him and I was like ew, and I had the ick.

00:49:47.864 --> 00:49:51.186
I was like ew, he's boring, like, and he wouldn't do this on a whim.

00:49:51.186 --> 00:49:58.798
And I was like, ugh, not fun.

00:49:58.798 --> 00:50:02.545
Like I'm the girl that's gonna change my plans and go do something fun.

00:50:02.545 --> 00:50:04.753
And I was like, and he wasn't there for my friends.

00:50:04.753 --> 00:50:07.240
I was like all mad, you know, yeah, I would be so mad.

00:50:07.240 --> 00:50:09.295
Oh, I was so mad, I had to like tell him about it.

00:50:09.335 --> 00:50:16.438
And then he was like, sorry, you know yeah, it's so funny, but you really got to find the values, the values, who they are is so much more important and how they treat you.

00:50:16.579 --> 00:50:19.103
Yeah, yeah, so go for the guy that's more into you.

00:50:19.103 --> 00:50:20.532
So I'm telling her so the flip.

00:50:20.532 --> 00:50:23.436
But then it flipped with Ben, so she's got to push through.

00:50:23.456 --> 00:50:24.418
So we'll see if this flips.

00:50:24.418 --> 00:50:28.280
We'll keep you guys posted on my freshman daughter's dating relationship.

00:50:28.280 --> 00:50:30.802
She's going to love this, but it helps.

00:50:30.802 --> 00:50:32.090
Helps somebody.

00:50:32.090 --> 00:50:33.195
Somebody might be going through it.

00:50:39.809 --> 00:50:41.257
And they more into this, or I'm well my my aunts, and then we'll be done.

00:50:41.257 --> 00:50:42.382
My aunts came in town from Rhode Island last year.

00:50:42.382 --> 00:50:42.664
What my aunts?

00:50:42.664 --> 00:50:43.186
Why are you saying aunts?

00:50:43.186 --> 00:50:43.769
Because that's what they say.

00:50:43.769 --> 00:50:54.923
Just like when you go to New Jersey and you start talking about the Italian accent and you're from here, happens my aunt, my aunt Donna and my aunt Diane aunts.

00:50:55.184 --> 00:51:09.356
Oh, anyways, they were talking about their daughter, my cousin, and she was saying, yeah, she broke up with this guy and he was so nice, but she didn't feel it and she's like, and she said I bet she's gonna look back one day and be like he was the one.

00:51:09.356 --> 00:51:14.483
And sometimes we just got to get out of our head and like, if a guy's so into you, give him a chance.

00:51:14.523 --> 00:51:19.577
There's a oh, you're so right, though, because you think people always say that, like I didn't have it, have it, I didn't feel it.

00:51:19.577 --> 00:51:30.271
I'm like I didn't feel it with Kyle for like a month, and we didn't kiss for a long time, and then, when we kissed and I like respected him, it's like the best, like, like you said, you had to change your pants.

00:51:30.731 --> 00:51:37.039
Yeah, and I did like it was the best because you like respect them and you're like feel safe with them.

00:51:37.039 --> 00:51:41.983
It's Kyle and I is like chemistry is better than anyone, but it took a minute.

00:51:42.545 --> 00:51:48.501
Yeah, and I think, like the guy, that the chemistry was so like there in the beginning it fades, and when you're married, that is gone.

00:51:48.501 --> 00:51:52.659
No and no, so that's what's keeping you there, that goes away.

00:51:52.860 --> 00:52:06.137
That's why you shouldn't have sex, though, until you're married or until you're in a really far end, because the sex like sometimes you can have good I mean I didn't do this, me neither but you can have good sex with someone and it'd be a horrible relationship, yeah, like a.

00:52:07.139 --> 00:52:13.958
I mean I didn't do it like Crystal had good sex with like 30 people and then it wasn't good no, I waited till I was married.

00:52:13.998 --> 00:52:16.751
But I've heard that people can have good sex.

00:52:16.751 --> 00:52:21.862
But that's why, like with Kyle, I wasn't doing Because I was like I don't want it to mask what our real relationship is.

00:52:21.862 --> 00:52:25.416
And once a girl has sex, they connect and then you can't think clearly anymore.

00:52:25.416 --> 00:52:27.034
So it's better to not do those things.

00:52:27.034 --> 00:52:30.416
So you can walk when you want to walk and girls care about upping their number.

00:52:30.416 --> 00:52:31.594
It's called body count.

00:52:31.594 --> 00:52:44.193
Now, yeah, kendall's told me that term this weekend.

00:52:44.193 --> 00:52:45.679
They said she has a body count and I was like what the hell is that?

00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:46.302
It's like murder count, I know.

00:52:46.302 --> 00:52:47.045
I was like did someone kill somebody?

00:52:47.045 --> 00:52:47.626
Like no, it's how many people?

00:52:47.626 --> 00:52:48.510
Oh, you don't want a high body count.

00:52:48.510 --> 00:52:48.791
Girls.

00:52:48.791 --> 00:52:50.115
Keep that thing low.

00:52:50.115 --> 00:52:54.349
Oh no, because then it'll sag well, and it's just like guys care about that.

00:52:54.490 --> 00:52:55.152
Oh, they so care.

00:52:55.152 --> 00:52:57.876
They want the one that has a zero body count, that hasn't been touched.

00:52:57.976 --> 00:52:59.197
Yeah, that's what they want.

00:52:59.217 --> 00:53:03.804
Oh, that's sad, I know, so don't do it Like the guy that I'm learning all these new terms.

00:53:03.885 --> 00:53:04.485
I can't believe it.

00:53:04.485 --> 00:53:05.306
It's just Body count.

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I know Body count Mm-hmm.

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Oh my God, Make sure he's more into you than you.