S3 E21: How to Make Your Husband Less Grouchy and Survive a Bear Attack

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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real.

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Welcome to Jerkin' Around.

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Oh boy, tisha's in a mood today, shocking.

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She gets a little feisty on the drive.

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You didn't yell at anybody today while we were driving, though I know I'm shocked.

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Yeah, you've been a little calmer with your road rage.

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Yeah, yeah, she didn't yell at anyone.

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We've had good reflection.

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On yesterday's episode Well, it'll be a week by the time this one goes out, right.

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But last, on yesterday's episode Well, it'll be a week by the time this one goes out, right.

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Well, last week's episode just aired yesterday.

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It was probably my favorite episode ever to date.

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I listened to it three times yesterday because I listened with different people in my car, but Trisha did a great job.

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She's so sweet way nicer than both of us put together.

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I know Like she's so genuinely sweet.

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I know I'm so grateful she just like came on and shared that Like the craziest thing happened, though Tisha and I went to a movie this weekend, and it's funny because it looks like we hang out a lot, but we really don't.

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Yeah, but we do like we work.

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So Tuesdays we run a lot of errands together, cause we do podcasts, and then we work together.

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So we talk on the phone a lot about work throughout the day, but, like we usually don't plan a lot of time to hang out, this weekend I feel like we hung out a lot.

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Yeah, my phone, um, and so we went to a movie on Saturday night with our husbands.

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What was it called?

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Again, the working man, the working man.

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It was um what's that guy's name?

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Jason Statham.

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I love him.

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I love him too.

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What is?

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he called the chauffeur or the driver.

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What's that?

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What's that one where he's like always the driver?

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I don't know but but remember the bee movie I haven't seen the beekeeper Kyle loves it, tisha loves it.

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Oh, the beekeeper's so good yeah.

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Kyle's like this movie's not as good as the beekeeper it wasn't, but yeah, it was really good.

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But in this one part the girl was kidnapped and she's with the drivers and she's Prayer Like it was exactly the.

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She was trafficked.

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And she's in the car with the kidnappers and they're in the front seat and she's on the ground and she starts saying she had already tried to grab the wheel.

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Yes, and she starts saying the Lord's Prayer and Crystal and.

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I look at each other and we're like and then the guy says Said, don't bring God into this.

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Like the exact thing that happened to Trisha.

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It's crazy.

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I've never even so weird, I've never even heard of that before.

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Like that's not something that happens in every movie, never in a movie, never in my life.

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God when they're like killing everyone and trafficking it was so weird.

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I was like so weird.

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Yeah, it was crazy, yeah, I know it was crazy.

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We like grabbed each other and we're like this is out of body.

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I couldn't believe it.

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That's the thing with listening to that episode, though recording it is one thing.

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Talking, I've heard this story twice from her mouth, but like listening to it, the craziest thing for me was that he saw someone behind her.

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I can't get over it.

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I know Like it's so crazy, but God's plan, I mean it just makes you think.

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Well, you know, and there was like remember that guy that like threw that girl over the mall like from the top floor of the mall.

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It was like a kid, like a four-year-old, yeah it was like a six-year-old or something.

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And then someone said, or she said, she like felt people like catch her, or something.

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I like read that.

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And then there was this other story this kid like lost in the wilderness and then a bear like came and like which anyone knows.

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Bears are like not friendly, do you?

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feel connected to bears because your son's name is bear, kind of no but I'm I actually have a really big fear of bears.

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They're why would you name bear bear then?

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you can't outrun a bear.

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It's like so scary you can't it can climb a tree like it's really scary so like you have, to act like you're bigger than it to scare it back.

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Wait, show me how you do that.

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Yeah, you have to be like.

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And like no, that's what I've, so we're going on in a lot.

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You're this big, I know the bear's never gonna believe you.

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You're not gonna scare it, so you have to be like oh, and so I like have practiced before, because I'm scared I'm going to find a bear.

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Wait, you're, yes, and we're going on an Alaskan cruise in June and I'm scared.

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You're not going to see a bear.

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Yes, and it's going to come for us and it's going to come to my kids and I'm have to go.

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No, I'm dead serious.

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I swear to god do you look at this in the mirror?

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No, but do you?

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do it in the mirror, like I can't raise my arms because I didn't shave my armpits.

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But, like you like, raise your arms, and you like, yeah, yeah you really?

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I know you and you like obsessing about this.

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I'm dead serious.

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Oh, my God, I've read all these.

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Has Ben seen you walk in pretending you're a bear?

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No, but I've asked him about it.

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I'm like so, like, is that real?

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You have to like yell and he's like, yeah, you have to scare the bear Because it won't get you if it thinks it's threatened.

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I don't think it.

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I think it's getting you, no matter what.

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Wait, I get it so like for my trip.

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I've gotten on all these like Facebook groups.

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I always do that when I'm researching something oh God, I'm dying and I read all these like reviews.

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This is so funny.

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And, like people see a lot of bears.

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And they're like coming out of hibernation, so obsessed with this.

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They're coming out of hibernation so well that this is like for the next two months.

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We're gonna hear about this all the time.

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I'm crying.

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But anyways, what were we talking about?

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Oh so, anyways, this kid.

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This kid got lost on like a camping trip and it won't.

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The kid wandered off and it was missing for three days and then they found the kid and they were, and it was missing for three days and then they found the kid and they were like movie about this?

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I don't think so.

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And they were like what?

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How?

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Environment?

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They oh shoot.

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They were like how did you survive?

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Because it was cold and the kid was like a bear, came and found me and kept me warm.

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It was like god.

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That's crazy, because like the bear was the bear, is you know?

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So the bear like kept the kid warm and like the bear was the bear, was you know?

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So the bear like kept the kid warm and like this is that was God.

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But it's just weird.

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Are you sure that's a real story?

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I swear I heard.

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We used to watch this Miracles from Heaven.

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Have you seen that movie?

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Yeah, with the little girl that fell from the tree and like what happened.

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She saw.

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She like lived in, but no inside the tree.

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Remember it was like a hollowed out tree.

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Yes, no that's not the movie I'm talking about.

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Oh, I'm talking about the one oh I didn't know that happened.

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Yeah, so this girl fell from the tree and almost died or something.

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Yeah, and like her stomach, I'm way.

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It's years ago.

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I watched it a lot when Lincoln, like all that was going on.

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No, she had like a day or until they like had to get her out.

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Really, it was like hollowed out.

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Didn't you see Jesus or something?

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Yeah, I can't remember.

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It's like a really good movie with Jennifer.

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All those movies, jennifer Garner yeah, it was really good, so good.

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Oh my gosh, but picturing you in the mirror the funniest thing happened this weekend.

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I'm gonna do it in front of the mirror because I don't know what I look like.

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Wait, you haven't been practicing in front of the mirror.

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No, Just like Just walking around the house.

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No, just like sitting there reading my research and then, ah you know, wait for real.

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I swear to God You're on the couch.

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Do the dogs like worry?

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If you're okay, probably, oh, my gosh, okay.

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So this weekend Kyle has recently gotten my husband and he's like obsessed with TikTok now, so like when he's in the bathroom I can hear it playing so loud he sends me the funniest thing it's just like he's so funny, so he like he sent me one that was like every Disney, what Every Disney princess is named after like a disease, and it was like Wait, really yeah, and it was like Cinderella had OCD, like this one had like schizophrenia.

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And it was like wait, really yeah, and it was like Cinderella had OCD, like this one had like schizophrenia, like it was just so funny, like the one he's really into TikTok so they.

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Friday night we went out with our friends, which that's a story for another time too.

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Yeah, so we went out Friday night for a girl's night.

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We went to dinner in the casino.

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So I got in big trouble but I was able to go.

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Then he took the kids to Topgolf with their friends and so I guess they made a TikTok of him somehow.

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I don't know what it was.

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Oh, they did.

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Yeah, so he saw his swing and didn't love it.

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So the next morning I got home late so I ended up.

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He was sleeping and he was real serious about his sleep.

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I told you.

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So I went and watched TV on the couch and I fell asleep on the couch.

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So I come in in the morning because we have to wake up early because Broxton has a basketball game.

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So I walk in like half asleep before I make coffee and I look when I turn the corner and he's butt naked in front of the mirror, like with his butt out, checking his swing, and I like turn and see his butt and he's just butt naked, like looking, and I'm like what are you doing?

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What is going on?

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All from seeing it.

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Yeah, he's like I saw my swing in the kids' TikTok they made and my back, my posture's bad, so I was thinking about it in the shower.

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So I got out and I wanted to check it but it was the like.

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I was crying, like laughing.

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I'm like this is married life, right?

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He's so funny.

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He's so funny.

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I feel like he would have a.

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He's all did you see?

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I'm happy he's on there looking it up.

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Yeah, he's checking everybody on TikTok and Hudson is really into TikTok.

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It's like weird.

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I don't know if it's the right parenting, but this is where we are.

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We just let Braxton get it.

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I don't think that was a smart move.

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You know, when you make a parenting decision because you're tired and like they wear you down, they ask you like the wrong moment?

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Yeah, and I'm like, yeah, I get it.

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And then later I'm like why did I agree to that?

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yeah, I do that, maybe it's more than I'm not in the mood to fight right now, and then Ben's like you, let them do this, yeah, yeah.

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I do that a lot, like I'm really picking those battles.

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They're few and far between these days.

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I don't know, I don't know.

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Sometimes I don't know, sometimes I may be a let them like, let them.

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I haven't read the book yet, but everybody's talking about the book.

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Did you see Regina posted about the book yesterday?

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Mm-mm, yeah, the Let them book.

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I am going to read it.

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Have you read it so good?

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I've heard it's so good.

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My friend Kara read it.

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She said it was good.

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Yeah, you keep telling me All the time You're like, let them.

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Yeah, Do you let Ben?

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I'm all let him.

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That's its own book.

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Yeah, that's funny.

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Let them.

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That's pretty funny.

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I'm going to write a book called Let Him, yeah, let her.

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Yeah, Like what is he going to let her do?

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Yeah, but I've been letting them maybe too much Like maybe I've gone too far.

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Oh, yeah, I'm really into like natural consequences, Like ah, they'll figure it out.

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But last night I was going to bed and I was like Broxton.

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He went to a baseball game with Kyle.

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Last night they went to the Dimebacks game and then when he got home you know when you're tired I've been laying with Kyle in bed more like you guys do so when he gets of time.

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Yeah, Kyle's home, it's fun yeah it's like I was waiting and I was really tired.

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So, um, we, kyle just goes to bed.

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He doesn't even barely tuck anyone in.

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He's probably like you and I'm like the good nighter, you know, and I like to check everything, yeah.

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And so Broxton was in the shower when I was ready to go to bed, so I just yelled like good night.

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While he's in the shower and he like really likes a back scratch and like, oh, like a whole thing, oh, yeah.

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So, um, I was going to bed and I like text him good night because I didn't care.

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And I was like, when I was down there, I went to like check on the girls and he was totally playing video games and it was like 10, 10, yeah.

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So I really should have been like get in bed, yeah.

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But I was like yeah, I guess.

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And then I went to bed and I was like I should really make sure he's off.

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But I text him get off and go to bed.

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And he said, okay, good night.

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But I'm like he probably isn't, yeah, but then I'm like he'll be tired and then he'll learn, yeah.

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But then like, is it?

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Is that just lazy parenting?

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It's, you know?

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I don't know.

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I I mean, I just feel bad.

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I was way stricter with Maddie.

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Yeah, like you wear down you do wear down.

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I posted that thing like did you see?

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It was like the last kid getting away with stuff and the first kid's like I never would have gotten away with this.

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I feel like you do wear down.

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I think you learn that like that stuff doesn't matter, like I worry, or you're just tired, yeah, you know.

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But like when you have a newborn and you're like I'm so glad there wasn't social media back then, yeah, when I had babies you did, with Fox, had social media.

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But you know, you'd ask your friends is your kid sitting up?

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And theirs was sitting up at four months and mine's eight months and isn't sitting up, and you like stress, it's weird.

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And then you're like, oh, yours is walking, mine's not walking.

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Great.

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So if I would have saw every kid walking on social media, I would have been like holding them up, let's go, yeah.

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But then you learn like eventually they're gonna walk, yeah, eventually they're gonna.

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Well, I think with the first one, like it's easier to hold off for the first, but once the first has it or the second has it, it's easy to give the third.

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Yeah, like I feel like things happen younger for the ones after yeah.

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I feel like CJ didn't get a, an iPhone until eighth grade, and so I'm like Bear got one in sixth grade yeah, you know it, and then I think Ken got one in sixth grade too.

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It's just like it changed with the first.

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I feel like you can hold out longer because it's like the first, yeah, and you haven't done it yet.

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Yeah and then the, the next one.

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It's like well, that wasn't that big of a deal, they're fine.

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So you just kind of yeah, you know, but it's not always, I don't know the best?

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I don't know yeah, bear was like can?

00:13:02.244 --> 00:13:02.865
I was like can I have TikTok?

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Everyone has TikTok.

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I'm like no, but yeah, I'm sure it'll wear me down next year, you know.

00:13:07.591 --> 00:13:08.033
Good for you.

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Yeah, I, I, um, I'm holding strong on Snapchat, but I did give in on TikTok.

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Oops, well, I think, cause Kyle's on it so much.

00:13:15.701 --> 00:13:19.346
What's happening is Kyle's sending him videos and he can't see him, so he's like.

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I was like yeah, okay, and Kyle was like now he has TikTok.

00:13:22.750 --> 00:13:24.254
I'm like you're the one sending him all the TikToks.

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I thought it was getting banned, and so they extended it again.

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Yeah, because it was supposed to be banned the other day because Hudson was so stressed.

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Yeah, I know, letting the government parent our kids.

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I know, that's what you believe in.

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I'm like, hey, can you about that?

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Does the 5 am workouts?

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She just moved into this house.

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She's an influencer on social media and I'm so obsessed with her right now and I don't know her at all.

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Yeah, and I was checking to see if she had any hate, because you know we have some.

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Yeah, because I was listening to Paige, I was listening to Giggly Squad and Paige DeSorbo was talking about how much hate she has right now.

00:14:09.769 --> 00:14:10.014
She is getting a lot.

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Yeah, um, she's like I just want one day without like a huge thing about me and I was like see, we're pages for, about people think we don't like men, but she really doesn't like men and doesn't get lit up.

00:14:13.048 --> 00:14:13.236
I know why is that?

00:14:13.236 --> 00:14:13.868
That's what's so annoying.

00:14:13.868 --> 00:14:15.946
I love men, or my husband, you know.

00:14:16.706 --> 00:14:22.900
I'm like yeah, I'm not a hoe you know today, yeah, um no, I, she was on a podcast.

00:14:22.900 --> 00:14:33.413
I told Tisha this morning, giggly I was listening, because I listen sometimes and she went to a bachelorette party this weekend and she was so proud that they didn't talk about guys all weekend and I'm like I was kind of thinking it's kind of boring.

00:14:33.434 --> 00:14:33.999
What are you talking about?

00:14:34.139 --> 00:14:35.365
Yeah, like, I like talking about guys.

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Well, especially when you're that age, getting married, you're like excited guys, like this weekend we talked about, we all went out for a girl's night and um, you know it was.

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We left the casino.

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At what?

00:14:47.001 --> 00:14:59.629
10 or 10 yeah, it wasn't late but our husbands weren't thrilled when we were on our way home, like all of them were pretty short with us, one of them said stop texting, I'm going to both, actually, and i's husbands both said stop texting, I'm going to bed.

00:14:59.629 --> 00:15:04.049
Yeah, they weren't thrilled, yeah, and then ben was had a sleepover and he was yelling about them.

00:15:04.149 --> 00:15:11.292
Oh, yeah, he was mad Cause I said Ken could have a sleepover and then he's like I don't mind if it's boys, but he doesn't like to like, tell the girls what to do.

00:15:11.419 --> 00:15:12.684
It's awkward for a guy with the girls.

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Yeah and I get that Like he's uncomfortable, so like they were wanting to go to the park at, and so he was like spiraling, yeah.

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So he was like get home, so in the car we're all getting in trouble.

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So we were talking about that.

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We're like, oh, they're all getting in trouble, but Paige, yeah, she doesn't like men and she's not getting lit up for it.

00:15:30.765 --> 00:15:32.466
So does Brooke have haters?

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Oh, no, brooke, don't do that.

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I read them and they're like Brooke, so happy for you.

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I love you so much, really.

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Well, it was weird.

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It's all just me.

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You're like the only one hater is Tisha.

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Did you hate on Brooke?

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No, but I don't love her.

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She's dumb, but I wouldn't ever like post.

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No, it's okay.

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I just think it Like why can't everyone think it?

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Everyone's thinking it.

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Just don't type it out.

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Well, what happened was down to earth.

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She had like a normal house.

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It was cute, yeah, but it was like normal.

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It was like her shower was like normal.

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It's like normal life.

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Mom of four boys, that's her thing.

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Yeah, mom of four boys.

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And this is our day at Disneyland, remember?

00:16:15.284 --> 00:16:17.285
Yeah, so every day is mom of four boys.

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Well, four, almost five now, because she's pregnant.

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What if it's a girl?

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She's not finding out.

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What is she going to say?

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Mom of four boys and one girl, you know Like.

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She's just going to.

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She'll probably just like you know she probably has.

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Like, because she's so type A, she probably has like five options already lined up.

00:16:38.626 --> 00:16:41.426
Yeah, Like mom of two B and a, c, yeah, you know.

00:16:41.426 --> 00:16:51.143
Yeah, c, g, I'm all your face, you idiot, what?

00:16:51.143 --> 00:16:51.462
Anyways?

00:16:51.462 --> 00:16:52.446
So this is the part I thought was weird.

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Well, there's a few things.

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So she's homeschooled her boys, that's like her big thing.

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But they're in Texas.

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Their house is still being done because the house was completed but now they have designers so they're adding all the design finishes, like the shiplap and the colors and the.

00:17:04.586 --> 00:17:10.635
She had them redo the laundry, the entry tile to like the checkered tile, which makes me curious.

00:17:10.635 --> 00:17:19.326
But yeah, then, um, like they're doing all the fancy stuff but they're living in it on air mattresses while because their furniture doesn't get here for a week.

00:17:19.326 --> 00:17:23.801
But sometimes I'm like you have a lot of money, like why couldn't we get the furniture there?

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Totally, you know, like we have.

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It's like a fake problem to have like content.

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No, I don't think so.

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I think she was supposed to.

00:17:31.290 --> 00:17:32.251
Okay, so this is the thing.

00:17:32.251 --> 00:17:33.532
She was supposed to be in an Airbnb.

00:17:33.532 --> 00:17:47.027
Yeah, she was supposed to be in an Airbnb, but they moved out early because they to be in the Airbnb until the furniture got there and they got sick of the Airbnb and moved into the house.

00:17:47.027 --> 00:17:49.065
Maybe that was for content, though?

00:17:49.065 --> 00:17:51.079
Yeah, Because then she's in the house like filming.

00:17:51.461 --> 00:17:55.488
Yeah, it's like a reality show, yeah, like a made-up problem, because what's her problem?

00:17:55.488 --> 00:17:57.070
Nothing, you know Really.

00:17:57.070 --> 00:17:58.693
Well, what's her other problem?

00:18:04.640 --> 00:18:05.262
gets me to like think of things.

00:18:05.262 --> 00:18:06.709
Because I buy in, sometimes I'm the idiot, sometimes that's so rude.

00:18:06.709 --> 00:18:07.412
No, I'm like, look at this day.

00:18:07.412 --> 00:18:10.084
She's like picture the tripod picture and I'm like, yeah, you're right, changes the whole vibe.

00:18:10.566 --> 00:18:13.420
Yeah, yeah, like you're picturing, I always think everybody's lying.

00:18:13.420 --> 00:18:17.691
Ben calls me like okay, detective, because I always you do think everyone's lying and they are 90.

00:18:17.751 --> 00:18:19.763
I'm not lying yeah do you think I'm lying?

00:18:19.763 --> 00:18:22.170
No, I'm not really a liar no, no.

00:18:22.230 --> 00:18:23.071
That's why I'm friends with you.

00:18:23.112 --> 00:18:26.380
I feel like Because I am not a liar, but I feel like 90% of people are lying about things.

00:18:26.380 --> 00:18:27.849
So you think they left the Airbnb to have?

00:18:27.871 --> 00:18:30.807
content Not 90%, but yeah I think, you think most people.

00:18:30.807 --> 00:18:36.928
Well, sometimes I'm a very like it has to add up, so when things don't make sense or don't add up.

00:18:36.928 --> 00:18:45.166
But you have to admit I've caught so many people lying and.

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Remember when someone was on her.

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Never mind, I can't.

00:18:52.036 --> 00:18:52.336
Okay.

00:18:52.518 --> 00:18:58.818
Yeah, oh, but I'm all that's made up Like maybe not lying, but like exaggerating.

00:18:58.818 --> 00:19:00.974
Yeah, making up things.

00:19:02.750 --> 00:19:07.856
So she's in the house and it's like every day I get to see things get done and I love seeing houses come to life.

00:19:08.250 --> 00:19:10.178
She probably moved in so they could video all that.

00:19:10.278 --> 00:19:12.420
Yeah, and it does make them look like they're roughing it, you know.

00:19:12.420 --> 00:19:14.741
Yeah, like on the air mattresses, pregnant.

00:19:14.741 --> 00:19:18.326
So now she's back into a routine because she didn't have a routine at the Airbnb.

00:19:18.326 --> 00:19:19.666
So now she has her treadmill.

00:19:19.666 --> 00:19:21.334
Because she works out every morning at 5 am.

00:19:21.334 --> 00:19:24.362
She treats being a stay-at-home mom like a business.

00:19:24.362 --> 00:19:26.112
So the treadmill came, but not the furniture.

00:19:26.112 --> 00:19:28.755
Yes, the treadmills, all her moving stuff came.

00:19:28.755 --> 00:19:32.299
But moving stuff came, but it looks like they didn't bring any furniture because they're buying all new furniture.

00:19:32.299 --> 00:19:37.226
So like their clothes are there now, like their dishes are unpacked, but the furniture isn't there.

00:19:37.226 --> 00:19:39.458
They're still on air mattresses, right.

00:19:39.458 --> 00:19:41.414
So they put together the baby crib.

00:19:41.414 --> 00:19:54.218
But you're so type A, like something doesn't add up to me because like I'm type A, like my baby room was set, yeah, like I'm weirdly type A, yeah, but I do think by the last kid, you're A fifth kid yeah, you're right, you're just like that doesn't matter, but I'm like why?

00:19:54.238 --> 00:19:55.298
even put together a crib.

00:19:55.298 --> 00:19:58.423
Yeah, anyways, but it's all paid for advertising.

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You can tell this crib is the best by baby and me.

00:20:00.904 --> 00:20:12.384
But okay, so this is the part I was going to.

00:20:12.384 --> 00:20:14.007
Da, da, da, she like tells you all this.

00:20:14.007 --> 00:20:17.393
So she's at her OB appointment and it's her last OB appointment.

00:20:17.393 --> 00:20:25.719
So she's like last OB appointment and the boys are in the OB appointment and there was something about it that was like weird to me.

00:20:25.719 --> 00:20:30.194
They're like not young, like I don't really like I'm naked around Broxton still.

00:20:30.194 --> 00:20:34.284
Yeah, like it, not like, but it's like I'm getting more uncomfortable with it.

00:20:34.789 --> 00:20:37.481
Well, and I think naked getting in the shower is a little different than like.

00:20:37.481 --> 00:20:39.170
Well, she had to pee in the cup In a stirrup.

00:20:39.170 --> 00:20:40.676
No, even peeing in the cup.

00:20:41.150 --> 00:20:42.876
When I'm peeing in the cup, you're like in it.

00:20:42.876 --> 00:21:01.798
Yeah, so like the she's in the thing with the boys and I in the stirrups, you know, and I'm like at the end they're checking you.

00:21:01.798 --> 00:21:07.492
Yeah, so are they doing the lube, you know, and like checking her with the boys centimeters and the sun's all.

00:21:08.133 --> 00:21:09.795
Yeah, you know so that.

00:21:09.835 --> 00:21:19.265
So that's why I checked it here, you gotta hear moments like this, feel like they'll never come until they suddenly do.

00:21:19.265 --> 00:21:23.998
Today was my 39 week appointment, my final checkup before we meet our fifth baby.

00:21:23.998 --> 00:21:30.105
I wanted feeling so many things excitement, nerves, that surreal sense of knowing everything is about to change.

00:21:30.105 --> 00:21:34.641
I did all the usual things pina cup step on the scale, blood pressure gown on.

00:21:34.641 --> 00:21:36.557
But there was nothing usual about it.

00:21:36.650 --> 00:21:46.978
It was the last time I'd hear this heartbeat before hearing my baby's cry and at the very same time, we've been racing to finish our dream home, but you never know, like it could just be the editing and then they were out.

00:21:47.558 --> 00:21:49.403
You know they're not out, they're in the room.

00:21:49.529 --> 00:21:50.791
You think, know they're not out, they're in the room.

00:21:50.791 --> 00:21:51.493
You think, yeah, there's no adult.

00:21:51.493 --> 00:21:55.981
They're up sticking four boys, yeah, in the hall of an ob, like tripping a pregnant person.

00:21:55.981 --> 00:22:00.155
Yeah, running, you know who's videoing though oh, do you think her husband?

00:22:01.117 --> 00:22:01.720
or like a nanny?

00:22:02.221 --> 00:22:06.378
I mean, it's just weird, like who's videoing we know influencers that never show their nanny and they have a nanny.

00:22:06.459 --> 00:22:09.993
It's such a lie, that's what I'm saying, like it's weird, like who was videoing all that?

00:22:09.993 --> 00:22:15.601
She's like putting it in the thing like, oh, you're right see unagi.

00:22:17.063 --> 00:22:19.551
Anyways, I thought someone would light her up about the boys being in there.

00:22:19.551 --> 00:22:22.981
Yeah, and they were like you're amazing, brooke, we can't wait to meet the baby.

00:22:22.981 --> 00:22:24.313
I love you so much.

00:22:24.313 --> 00:22:27.480
Yeah, and I'm like we just said that we play dead and we're lit up.

00:22:27.580 --> 00:22:29.273
I know, and then it's all you're gonna die.

00:22:32.083 --> 00:22:46.223
I get the weirdest comments still about the Justin Bieber reel in the middle of the night it's horrible they're all just kill yourself and I'm like going to bed and I'm like it's like so weird, it's awful, yeah, no, oh my gosh, my friend.

00:22:46.223 --> 00:22:47.211
I think I've said this on there.

00:22:47.250 --> 00:22:56.776
My friend sent me this, this like a meme, and it was like prepare your kids for social media by hanging all their artwork on the fridge and then telling them how horrible it is.

00:22:57.458 --> 00:23:00.373
It's the truth, though, like it's the truth, it's awful.

00:23:00.373 --> 00:23:03.942
Oh my gosh, I saw this saddest story on Instagram.

00:23:03.942 --> 00:23:08.916
It was a mom like they were divorced and the son it was like 14 cute kid too.

00:23:08.916 --> 00:23:11.201
He went to go to his dad's for the weekend.

00:23:11.201 --> 00:23:11.990
Did you see this too, um?

00:23:12.010 --> 00:23:12.912
so she like said good night or whatever.

00:23:12.912 --> 00:23:13.952
He went to go to his dad's for the weekend.

00:23:13.952 --> 00:23:14.413
Did you see this?

00:23:14.413 --> 00:23:14.653
No, did you?

00:23:14.653 --> 00:23:15.736
So she like said goodnight or whatever.

00:23:15.736 --> 00:23:22.424
He was like with his dad and she talked to him during the day and then at like 2 in the morning he sent her something that said Mom, I will always love you.

00:23:22.424 --> 00:23:26.272
Or Mom, goodnight I love you.

00:23:26.272 --> 00:23:27.473
Something that was a little weird.

00:23:27.473 --> 00:23:29.936
At 2 a next morning she's like text him good morning, you know you.

00:23:29.936 --> 00:23:30.397
Okay.

00:23:30.397 --> 00:23:37.226
Then called him at like, so text him at like seven, calls him at nine, calls him at ten, doesn't answer and he said the dad's yeah.

00:23:37.226 --> 00:23:43.442
So at like 11 she calls the dad and um, no, the dad didn't something didn't answer.

00:23:43.501 --> 00:24:03.539
She drove over there, found him he had killed himself because someone in the middle of the night, like late at night, he was texting with somebody about like um, a bot or whatever, like dating, like texting, so like he met someone online and they had been texting back and forth and they asked for like a nude and he sent it.

00:24:03.539 --> 00:24:06.893
And as soon as he sent it they said we're going to ruin your life, give us this money.

00:24:06.893 --> 00:24:09.057
And he's like I don't have the money, I don't like.

00:24:09.057 --> 00:24:10.317
My parents don't even have that kind of money.

00:24:10.317 --> 00:24:12.461
And then he said they said you might as well kill yourself.

00:24:12.461 --> 00:24:13.824
And he did.

00:24:13.824 --> 00:24:17.719
Oh my God, isn't that the most awful, awful thing?

00:24:17.719 --> 00:24:20.990
And her kid is the most normal kid that just went to her dad's for the night.

00:24:21.029 --> 00:24:23.700
See, those stories make me be like you can't have a phone.

00:24:25.593 --> 00:24:27.876
You can't have a yeah, and he was like a great would.

00:24:27.876 --> 00:24:33.953
He looked very confident, but it's like really scary, like a split second decision when especially for young kids.

00:24:33.993 --> 00:24:44.992
Their brains aren't developed yet to like have the, the like mental capacity to know, like, okay, this is gonna pass, like think logically, you know nude, going out like to the whole world.

00:24:45.513 --> 00:24:52.212
that would make you like at least before, when I got made fun of, which I did a lot as a kid I could move schools and start over.

00:24:52.413 --> 00:24:56.378
Yeah, you can't get away from it, these days and like a nude is different than like a normal.

00:24:56.378 --> 00:25:05.295
Making fun of yeah, that's like Totally, I know, isn't that sad, it's so scary, oh, that's awful, I know.

00:25:05.315 --> 00:25:15.048
And then on social media I saw another really great kid that went to like the mall, it was like during the day, it was like four boys, they were all hanging out and he was like a stud athlete, really good kid.

00:25:15.048 --> 00:25:22.971
They were at their friend's house and I think, um, I think he hurt something or he was in pain and they were like here, just take a percocet.

00:25:22.971 --> 00:25:24.837
Like if you never had one, it'll take it.

00:25:24.837 --> 00:25:26.724
Da, da, da takes the percocet.

00:25:26.724 --> 00:25:27.808
Was it spliced?

00:25:27.808 --> 00:25:29.996
Yeah, he, um, his heart stops.

00:25:29.996 --> 00:25:31.862
The kids all get scared and leave.

00:25:31.862 --> 00:25:34.390
And then his sister couldn't get a whole.

00:25:34.390 --> 00:25:44.751
Oh, his sister saw a picture on social media of him passed out, called the parents, called the ambulance and if they would have, like, intervened right away and not ran scared, they could have saved his life.

00:25:45.394 --> 00:25:48.567
But he died just because he didn't know it was laced like one pill.

00:25:48.567 --> 00:25:49.770
Do you know what I'm saying?

00:25:49.770 --> 00:25:50.894
Like one pill.

00:25:50.894 --> 00:25:53.079
Think of all the bad things you did and could have died.

00:25:53.079 --> 00:25:57.515
I'm just kidding, but like you know what I'm saying, like it's like, and it wasn't even.

00:25:57.515 --> 00:25:58.638
It was like in pain.

00:25:58.638 --> 00:26:01.640
It wasn't like trying to like roll.

00:26:01.640 --> 00:26:05.354
Remember rolling ecstasy back when we're they called it rolling.

00:26:05.354 --> 00:26:05.914
Do you remember that?

00:26:05.914 --> 00:26:10.640
Yeah, ecstasy was like a big thing when we were young.

00:26:10.680 --> 00:26:12.622
Yeah, there was like a big ecstasy thing.

00:26:12.622 --> 00:26:14.644
We weren't but others were doing.

00:26:14.724 --> 00:26:21.069
My boyfriend was actually at the time, so was mine.

00:26:21.069 --> 00:26:21.590
I'm all he's so loving.

00:26:21.590 --> 00:26:22.672
Tonight he's so open with his feelings.

00:26:22.672 --> 00:26:23.513
Mine was like the biggest drug dealer.

00:26:23.513 --> 00:26:24.996
I had no idea he was at church with me every Sunday.

00:26:24.996 --> 00:26:27.358
And then someone on the side I didn't believe it though, yeah.

00:26:27.358 --> 00:26:30.363
And then my one friend's like I bought it from him on Friday.

00:26:30.363 --> 00:26:32.445
And I was like wait, you sure it's him.

00:26:32.445 --> 00:26:35.936
And he had like a very distinct look and they're like yeah.

00:26:35.936 --> 00:26:39.471
And I was like nah, he's a Christian, he goes to church with me on Sundays.

00:26:39.471 --> 00:26:41.798
And they're like I bought it from him.

00:26:41.798 --> 00:26:43.240
And then it was him.

00:26:43.240 --> 00:26:44.303
It was bad.

00:26:44.303 --> 00:26:45.752
And then I saw him at a club.

00:26:45.752 --> 00:26:46.776
Remember we went to insomnia.

00:26:46.776 --> 00:26:47.858
This is horrible.

00:26:47.858 --> 00:26:49.001
So insomnia.

00:26:49.001 --> 00:26:55.282
Back in the day you weren't allowed to be there if you were under 18, from like 10 to 12.

00:26:55.750 --> 00:26:57.097
But you could be there at 1.

00:26:57.097 --> 00:26:58.865
Yeah, it was weird, like why does that make sense?

00:26:58.865 --> 00:26:59.529
No, it doesn't make any sense.

00:26:59.529 --> 00:27:02.298
Underage can be there at like 1 am to 3.

00:27:02.869 --> 00:27:05.778
But if you're under, if you're not 21, you can't be there till 1.

00:27:05.778 --> 00:27:06.721
Yeah, remember, we went.

00:27:06.721 --> 00:27:08.053
Whose parents are letting us?

00:27:08.053 --> 00:27:12.403
Go we stayed up and went and I saw him there with all these people around him.

00:27:12.462 --> 00:27:15.210
Yeah, I remember I was like he's a drug dealer and we like saw him and then we laughed, remember, yeah.

00:27:16.030 --> 00:27:19.498
Yeah, and I think he shoved me in the hall, oh, and I still like.

00:27:19.498 --> 00:27:22.590
Anyways, back the dating, the dating era.

00:27:22.590 --> 00:27:26.896
I have some, you know, with the cheerleaders and with like family.

00:27:26.896 --> 00:27:29.500
We have a lot of like dating in our lives these days.

00:27:29.500 --> 00:27:33.986
Like I, the girls are coming to me for dating advice because it's like an area I love to talk about.

00:27:34.006 --> 00:27:35.508
I wish we could take like callers.

00:27:35.508 --> 00:27:39.296
Well, I think we should bring some in or we could take callers.

00:27:39.497 --> 00:27:41.410
Yeah, cause you know cause everyone calls us for advice.

00:27:41.430 --> 00:27:45.013
They do and we like are given advice a lot, I know Keep calling us too.

00:27:45.034 --> 00:27:49.118
I'm not trying to act like I have it all figured out, but I feel like in that area I made enough mistakes.

00:27:49.118 --> 00:27:50.339
I do have something.

00:27:50.359 --> 00:27:54.305
Well, that's what I tell, like the girls, I'm like I'm not telling you this because I didn't do it.

00:27:54.305 --> 00:27:59.803
I did it and like I got me nowhere, so let me help you not do it, but they're they listening.

00:27:59.803 --> 00:28:15.337
Is is hard, but yeah, we're giving a lot of dating advice right now, but we were talking about, like you know, making him what you want or finding the one that just is yes, I think that's like a really hard topic, especially when you're younger because you're not developed yet, so you're thinking one day he's going to be this.

00:28:15.829 --> 00:28:22.059
Well, and there are those very, very few scenarios where I feel like the guy was an idiot and then he figured it out.

00:28:22.970 --> 00:28:27.998
I feel like more people than I thought would marry who I thought was an idiot and they're still married.

00:28:27.998 --> 00:28:32.157
Like there was some I'm like this is never gonna last, yeah, and they're lasting.

00:28:32.157 --> 00:28:38.372
And then there's some that I thought were the most picture perfect couple that didn't make it like not long, right.

00:28:38.372 --> 00:28:45.700
So I don't know if that's like we didn't see everything or life or what, but like some people I really thought would make it are making it way longer than I thought.

00:28:45.700 --> 00:28:52.702
And then other people I thought were so perfect I see that on social media all the time you see like the perfect couple and then all of a sudden they're divorced, yeah.

00:28:52.763 --> 00:28:57.477
Cause it's, but I believe they were perfect, cause I buy into all that stuff and I'm like, look, they're matching Halloween costumes.

00:28:57.738 --> 00:29:00.653
Yeah, and I'm like this is weird, why are they so showy?

00:29:00.894 --> 00:29:01.295
Yeah.

00:29:01.555 --> 00:29:01.855
Yeah.

00:29:02.798 --> 00:29:03.419
Are you showy?

00:29:03.900 --> 00:29:04.981
No, I don't feel like we are.00:29:05.022 --> 00:29:05.323


Do you?00:29:05.502 --> 00:29:11.365


No, Some people are like compared to how I am in real life, I feel like I'm way more about him than I am.00:29:11.365 --> 00:29:11.866


Yeah.00:29:11.906 --> 00:29:12.707


Sometimes I feel bad.00:29:12.707 --> 00:29:14.948


I'm like do people wonder if I'm still married?00:29:14.948 --> 00:29:17.108


Like I don't post Kyle enough, but it's very awkward.00:29:17.108 --> 00:29:22.623


Like I could never be, like he is my rock and like I don't think I could talk to him like that.00:29:22.623 --> 00:29:25.453


Yeah, I just don't talk like that in general though I'm not very mushy.00:29:27.076 --> 00:29:34.431


I feel like you can be about like inspirational things, like coaching or like yeah, but I'm not like saying well, I do talk about the girls Like.00:29:34.451 --> 00:29:35.737


They make me very proud, yeah.00:29:36.351 --> 00:29:37.994


But you wouldn't say that about Kyle.00:29:38.175 --> 00:29:38.517


No.00:29:38.616 --> 00:29:39.660


You wouldn't post that yeah.00:29:39.941 --> 00:29:45.221


No, speaking of husbands, we had a talk this weekend about grouchy men.00:29:45.221 --> 00:29:48.960


I hope we don't get lit up for this, but men are grouchy, like a lot of them.00:29:48.960 --> 00:29:54.534


And like are grouchy like a lot of them and like it's fine.00:29:54.534 --> 00:29:55.817


Yeah, remember you said I got the secret, I figured it out.00:29:55.817 --> 00:29:56.839


Yeah, like so, kyle, I okay.00:29:56.839 --> 00:29:58.865


So my dad was like my dad was more the grouchy one.00:29:58.865 --> 00:30:00.392


My mom was like the yes girl.00:30:00.392 --> 00:30:03.858


Yeah, so I'm maybe more the yes girl, my Kyle's more like my dad.00:30:03.898 --> 00:30:05.301


Like no, no, no.00:30:05.301 --> 00:30:06.951


And my dad would say no.00:30:06.951 --> 00:30:10.661


And then my mom would be like Bob, come on, let the kids have fun.00:30:10.661 --> 00:30:13.873


Yeah, and then they would come over and then he'd come out yelling go to bed.00:30:13.873 --> 00:30:15.678


Yeah, remember him always yelling at us.00:30:15.678 --> 00:30:19.256


He was always yelling at us and I wasn't like offended by it as a kid.00:30:19.256 --> 00:30:20.759


Right like my dad walked on water.00:30:20.759 --> 00:30:24.096


He's still in my head completely walks on water, the best dad there ever was.00:30:24.096 --> 00:30:30.560


Like very few errors did he make to me, but like he was totally the strict one and like totally the no man.00:30:30.560 --> 00:30:35.656


Right, like I would call the house sign and be like hey, dad is mom there and he's like what do you want?00:30:35.998 --> 00:30:38.032


yeah, and it wasn't even nice like intervening.00:30:38.053 --> 00:30:41.069


The call, yeah, because he knows I'm like dad, I just need to talk to mom real quick.00:30:41.069 --> 00:30:41.530


Can you put her on?00:30:41.530 --> 00:30:43.036


He's like no, you can talk to me.00:30:43.036 --> 00:30:44.019


What do you want?00:30:44.019 --> 00:30:45.150


And I was like dad, it's my period.00:30:45.150 --> 00:30:46.152


It's bleeding everywhere.00:30:46.152 --> 00:30:46.653


Can I talk to mom?00:30:46.653 --> 00:30:48.115


Oh god, here and I'd be like mom.00:30:48.115 --> 00:30:48.817


Can I go to Susie's?00:30:48.817 --> 00:30:49.397


She's like sure.00:30:49.397 --> 00:30:54.666


And then like every time, because if I said period, he was off the phone, yeah, but he would not.00:30:54.666 --> 00:30:56.549


He would say no, and but I wasn't offended.00:30:56.549 --> 00:31:00.361


But like when Kyle's nasty to the kids, I'm like protective.00:31:00.361 --> 00:31:01.805


Yeah, like you're so rude.00:31:01.805 --> 00:31:03.432


Why are you talking to them like that?00:31:03.531 --> 00:31:07.663


you know my, my dad is married to his.00:31:07.663 --> 00:31:09.166


My stepmom passed away.00:31:09.166 --> 00:31:10.830


Um, they're married forever.00:31:10.830 --> 00:31:12.534


And then he married someone new later in life.00:31:12.534 --> 00:31:18.884


They married a few years now and so I was talking to her and she said I wish I would have.00:31:18.884 --> 00:31:29.893


Now that she has grown kids and her kids are great and good, she goes, I wish I would have let him be harder on the kids, really, yes, and she said that to me and I was like because I think I was like complaining or yeah, I was like she saw something.00:31:29.893 --> 00:31:30.233


Yes, and she goes.00:31:30.253 --> 00:31:31.978


You know, I wish I was like complaining, or yeah, I was like, oh, she saw something.00:31:32.018 --> 00:31:32.538


Yes, and she goes.00:31:32.538 --> 00:31:36.135


You know, I wish I would have let him be harder on the kids and I was like, oh, wow.00:31:36.135 --> 00:31:39.465


So that's crazy, that like later in life she's saying that Really yes.00:31:40.108 --> 00:31:44.654


Yeah, because now that I'm thinking, even talking to you like my dad was always like yelling at us.00:31:44.654 --> 00:31:46.497


Yeah, like you just said, he was yelling at you.00:31:47.057 --> 00:31:48.500


Yeah, I didn't care.00:31:48.500 --> 00:31:49.540


Everybody's like oh Bob, here he goes.00:31:49.540 --> 00:31:50.261


Yeah, we'd like laugh.00:31:50.261 --> 00:31:52.924


Remember, we were like shaking and he's like stop laughing down there.00:31:52.924 --> 00:31:56.429


He'd be like you guys need to rest and we were just like laughing in the room my dad was Ben.00:31:56.669 --> 00:32:13.480


Yeah, he's so, ben, like you need to rest before practice, so we had to go lay down yeah, we're like laying everything, just like Kyle.00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:13.820


Yeah.00:32:13.820 --> 00:32:23.227


So when we got home from the casino, ken had asked earlier to have a sleepover and I said yes, because I'm thinking I'd rather him be at my house yeah, 100%, as she gets older too, so I get home.00:32:23.227 --> 00:32:36.070


They'd gone to a movie, so they didn't have dinner, but they just't being loud, they were just like talking, but like our windows right there.00:32:36.070 --> 00:32:42.094


So like he's like, and I'm thinking they're just in the hot tub, like they're not doing anything wrong who cares?00:32:42.094 --> 00:32:47.614


So I was getting done with him, though you know I may have said some not nice things.00:32:47.653 --> 00:32:48.234


Tell the truth.00:32:48.234 --> 00:32:49.175


I love these stories.00:32:49.175 --> 00:32:51.601


It no because it makes me feel way better about myself.00:32:51.601 --> 00:32:52.501


Tell me no.00:32:52.501 --> 00:32:53.604


So what did you say?00:32:53.604 --> 00:32:53.769


It?00:32:53.789 --> 00:32:55.974


was after he already complained they're in the hot tub.00:32:55.974 --> 00:33:00.726


So then they come in and they're like hey, can we, can we do our dash Taco Bell In your room?00:33:00.726 --> 00:33:01.730


Who walked in?00:33:06.433 --> 00:33:07.335


Well, I walked out to check on him.00:33:07.355 --> 00:33:11.459


Because he's yelling, it's late and it's a Friday, so I'm like it's fine.00:33:11.459 --> 00:33:13.441


And he's like and so I go out there.00:33:13.441 --> 00:33:14.602


And I'm like hey, you guys need to be quiet.00:33:14.602 --> 00:33:16.103


And Ken's like mom, can we get Taco Bell?00:33:16.103 --> 00:33:16.603


And he hears it.00:33:16.603 --> 00:33:18.664


And he's like no, it's door dashing.00:33:18.785 --> 00:33:36.678


So I'm like shh, you know, I'm like ignoring him and so I water.00:33:36.678 --> 00:33:38.096


So they're like laughing hysterically because they're jumping in the water.00:33:38.096 --> 00:33:38.877


So he's like raging, raging.00:33:38.877 --> 00:33:39.089


Well, he told you to be quiet.00:33:39.089 --> 00:33:39.807


So then I'm door dashing canes.00:33:39.807 --> 00:33:44.820


It's like the wheels are off, you know, and like again I'm like, oh, I'm glad they're here and they're just door dashing like they're not trying to sneak out or do drugs or anything weird, you know, yeah.00:33:44.942 --> 00:33:49.957


But so I go back in the room and he's like so mad and I just had it with him.00:33:49.957 --> 00:33:52.902


At this point I'm just like shut up, you know.00:33:53.323 --> 00:33:54.124


And so he goes.00:33:54.124 --> 00:33:56.076


I can't tell it.00:33:56.076 --> 00:33:58.826


It's like people are gonna be like you're now.00:33:58.826 --> 00:34:01.413


Now the tiktokers are really like your marriage is doomed.00:34:01.453 --> 00:34:05.752


Yeah, they're all like I'll sleep with him yeah, exactly, I was like oh well, that's great.00:34:05.792 --> 00:34:08.338


At least I don't know, I'm just kidding, I'm totally kidding.00:34:08.338 --> 00:34:11.440


So I walk back in and I'm like he's like I can't believe you're doing this, you know, and I'm like kidding.00:34:11.440 --> 00:34:18.096


So I walk back in and I'm like he's like I can't believe you're doing this, you know, and I'm like doing DoorDash and then I go, he goes, they're loud and I just I finally had had enough.00:34:18.096 --> 00:34:18.717


Yeah, you had enough.00:34:18.717 --> 00:34:21.239


And so I just said just shut the fuck up.00:34:25.771 --> 00:34:27.358


And he couldn't believe it.00:34:27.358 --> 00:34:33.250


And then I said it like three times Because I don't feel like I had the impact you can't do it anymore.00:34:33.250 --> 00:34:35.342


Yes, I just was like shut up.00:34:35.342 --> 00:34:40.960


And I said it just like that and he looked at me and I go, shut them up.00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:45.838


And he goes and he couldn't believe it and I go, literally just shut them.00:34:45.838 --> 00:34:51.577


And then he was like I will not, I will not shut up.00:34:51.577 --> 00:34:54.237


And I was like shut up.00:34:54.237 --> 00:34:56.914


You know like I just was like God.00:34:56.914 --> 00:35:01.313


If I have to hear his voice for another minute, I'm going to just bang my head against this wall.00:35:04.481 --> 00:35:12.922


No, but it feels like that sometimes, like I'm trying to understand it, I'm like, okay, I was trying to be supportive, but shut the fuck up, god.00:35:13.409 --> 00:35:14.918


They're just, it was nothing.00:35:14.918 --> 00:35:16.244


And it's a Friday night, I know.00:35:16.344 --> 00:35:17.530


I feel like that sometimes too.00:35:17.530 --> 00:35:22.302


It's like we got to pick our battles, yeah, so then the next morning, you know.00:35:22.530 --> 00:35:24.516


So I do this thing where, like, I know, I'm wrong.00:35:24.797 --> 00:35:26.059


So then you get more mad at him.00:35:26.181 --> 00:35:34.471


Yeah, I flip it.00:35:34.471 --> 00:35:35.112


I try to flip it.00:35:35.112 --> 00:35:37.360


Like well, like I'm gonna forgive you, and like I messed up, you know.00:35:37.380 --> 00:35:39.005


So the next morning he's like making my coffee and he's like, yeah, here you go.00:35:39.005 --> 00:35:39.447


Should I shut the?00:35:39.567 --> 00:35:41.172


and I was like he's really good at making it a joke.00:35:41.172 --> 00:35:46.072


He always makes me laugh in the morning when like something's like yeah, I'm mad did you say sorry?00:35:46.233 --> 00:35:47.155


yeah, and so I.00:35:47.155 --> 00:35:48.378


Well, at first I tried not to.00:35:48.378 --> 00:35:52.242


I was like, yeah, and last night you were out of control and he's like.00:35:52.242 --> 00:35:53.177


And then I knew I'm like I better just give in.00:35:53.177 --> 00:35:53.867


I was like, yeah, and last night you were out of control and he's like.00:35:53.867 --> 00:35:55.043


And then I knew I'm like I better just give in.00:35:55.043 --> 00:35:57.449


So I was like, sorry, I just couldn't listen to it anymore.00:35:57.489 --> 00:36:00.599


Well, I think you were getting like I can always understand.00:36:00.599 --> 00:36:14.246


You're like okay, this is the beginning of this, so we have to have a house where people are comfortable, Otherwise, they'll go at other people's houses Like who knows what weird things are going on.00:36:14.349 --> 00:36:15.635


No, I get like that with Kyle too.00:36:15.635 --> 00:36:24.259


Like, but if I didn't have a Kyle, we wouldn't have our house, we wouldn't have any nice things, we would be on the street because I'd spend all of our money.00:36:24.259 --> 00:36:30.257


No, you're responsible, like, about things, so I would have not enough to upgrade it.00:36:30.257 --> 00:36:44.338


You know, I'd be like I'd still be at 40, 30, you know, in my first house and, um, not that that was bad, but we just we would never moved because I would have never saved any money.00:36:44.338 --> 00:36:50.717


Um, but, like, you have to have that counterpart, and I do believe that God puts us with our counterpart, but why does it make it so hard sometimes, like, I'm pro man and I'm pro-my husband.00:36:50.737 --> 00:36:57.315


but like we were talking about it this weekend like all the guys were grouchy, and then our other friend's like is it weird, my husband's too grouchy.00:36:57.356 --> 00:37:22.949


I'm like no, they're all grouchy, yeah well we were hiking the next day and I was telling her and I do think they're more grouchy when they're younger, I feel but that wasn't my comfort zone, like I'm a high school girl, that's like I taught, I've coached.00:37:22.969 --> 00:37:32.494


Yeah, see, I feel like this is my era, so I really want my say, and like his mom was very good with kids that were younger, so I like kind of took his lead more Like do you think this is okay?00:37:32.494 --> 00:37:35.900


And he's like, no, they need to go in their bed.00:37:35.900 --> 00:37:38.422


And I'm like, okay, they need to eat their dinner.00:37:38.422 --> 00:37:40.144


And I was like, okay, they need to eat when.00:37:40.144 --> 00:37:42.829


Now it's like Now I'm like my turn you shush.00:37:42.829 --> 00:37:45.661


Yeah, maybe that's why, because we didn't argue as much when they were little.00:37:45.661 --> 00:37:47.442


This is harder for me now.00:37:47.442 --> 00:37:51.362


Like when they were little, we didn't argue, yeah, about parenting as much as we do now.00:37:55.579 --> 00:37:56.199


Well, the parenting.00:37:56.219 --> 00:38:10.726


So I was like an only child so I always was with my friends because there was nothing going on at home.00:38:10.726 --> 00:38:12.358


It was just like me and my parents.00:38:12.358 --> 00:38:15.706


So like I was always had people over or I was doing things.00:38:15.706 --> 00:38:21.445


My brother, excuse me, had moved out, so like it wasn't like if I stayed home there was no family life.00:38:21.445 --> 00:38:22.829


It was boring, yeah.00:38:22.829 --> 00:38:24.192


So like I was always out where.00:38:24.192 --> 00:38:27.800


If he was home, it was like his friends were there because his siblings are all his age.00:38:27.800 --> 00:38:28.561


It was like fun.00:38:28.561 --> 00:38:30.586


So I'm always like let them go.00:38:30.586 --> 00:38:31.836


Like he didn't do sleepovers.00:38:32.237 --> 00:38:37.568


Well, I think he's just not naturally as out like not outgoing.00:38:37.568 --> 00:38:52.987


But like you're very regimented, I'm very-spirited, yeah well and I think you always love having all the kids over and you don't care about my house if there's sleepovers every night like that's where I feel like he's more, like it's a school night why is there a sleepover, you know?00:38:52.987 --> 00:38:54.880


So I think it's just the difference.00:38:54.880 --> 00:38:56.764


My dad yelled about that too and it didn't matter.00:38:56.905 --> 00:39:04.788


Yeah, it's fine, he totally yells, but we still have sleepovers yeah, that's where I think it's just the ground he gets like so worried about like kids eating our food in our pantry.00:39:04.788 --> 00:39:08.914


We bought that food and I'm like I would have never had a treat in my life if I didn't eat someone else's pantry.00:39:08.914 --> 00:39:14.896


Yeah, you know like we have enough money to buy some more groceries, like you know.00:39:14.896 --> 00:39:16.438


Yeah, like it's dumb to me.00:39:16.438 --> 00:39:16.858


Yeah.00:39:16.878 --> 00:39:17.398


That is a dumb.00:39:17.458 --> 00:39:18.998


I love you, kyle, because he does listen.00:39:18.998 --> 00:39:20.579


I love you, but I'm trying to get help here.00:39:20.579 --> 00:39:22.800


Yeah, you know, but he's like that's our.00:39:22.800 --> 00:39:24.541


You know it's going to be expensive to fill the pantry.00:39:24.922 --> 00:39:29.804


Well, this is where I think I feel like Kyle comes with a more scarcity mindset.00:39:29.923 --> 00:39:30.603


Yeah, he does In life.00:39:30.884 --> 00:39:35.045


He does, so he's very like we're going to be out.00:39:35.045 --> 00:39:37.246


He's not like I.00:39:37.246 --> 00:39:42.648


I think he's more like hey, groceries are expensive, this is true.00:39:42.648 --> 00:39:44.630


We're feeding the neighborhood, this is true.00:39:44.630 --> 00:39:45.489


He's not wrong.00:39:45.489 --> 00:39:47.650


But I feel like you're more like yeah, who cares?00:39:47.650 --> 00:39:48.490


Like let's feed the kids.00:39:48.512 --> 00:39:50.192


Half of the things I buy my kids don't even like.00:39:50.192 --> 00:39:53.353


I'm buying them for whoever wants to have them Right Like Star Crunches.00:39:56.338 --> 00:39:57.539


Yeah, my kids her house.00:39:57.539 --> 00:39:58.260


They come out.00:39:58.260 --> 00:40:00.724


Bears pockets are like I'm like, what's in your pockets?00:40:00.724 --> 00:40:02.226


He's got like eight packs of gushers.00:40:02.226 --> 00:40:05.391


I'm like this is not okay, like I should start vending Kyle's probably.00:40:05.411 --> 00:40:14.574


Like kids can't come over no, I know no, but I think the grouchy I think when we were talking about our husbands this weekend and how they were all grouchy went out because they were all with the kids.00:40:14.574 --> 00:40:20.344


I think it's a very normal thing and I did say your husband used to be way grouchier and I saw, I figured.00:40:20.364 --> 00:40:21.507


she said I figured out.00:40:21.507 --> 00:40:22.708


I'm like the husband whisperer.00:40:22.708 --> 00:40:24.163


Yeah, like you have fixed it.00:40:24.384 --> 00:40:29.422


I fixed it, but you're very good at being a girlfriend, whereas Dr Laura Schlesinger always talks about being the girlfriend.00:40:29.422 --> 00:40:33.659


Um, this one influencer I follow posted like it was kind of awkward for me.00:40:33.659 --> 00:40:53.117


She posted like her hair up in this cute outfit, he was hugging her, she was kissing him and I was like, yeah, oops, I stay in that first one way too long.00:40:53.117 --> 00:40:58.224


Like I don't get as dressed up and I think a lot of that's like right now I have the holiday weight.00:40:58.224 --> 00:41:03.271


The holidays were a few months ago, but it's like your clothes are a little tighter, so getting ready is kind of depressing.00:41:03.271 --> 00:41:05.436


Like it's like oh God, finding an outfit.00:41:05.436 --> 00:41:08.485


You know, it's like your own insecurity, even like feeling sexy sometimes.00:41:08.485 --> 00:41:12.583


Yeah, if you're like not feeling good about your body, you're like when they're touching you're like what are they feeling?00:41:12.583 --> 00:41:13.365


Is it a role?00:41:13.487 --> 00:41:30.226


Yeah, Like you're not, like I'm just trying to like I'm focused on the dishes and this and that, but like you really have to lean into that.00:41:30.226 --> 00:41:31.650


I feel like I realized that he loves my attention.00:41:31.650 --> 00:41:43.574


So I was like, okay, if I give him attention, it goes so much farther, farther, yeah, and then he's like a lot in a, he's in a better mood, he's way more so I think, as my kids got older, when they were younger, I did not do this at all.00:41:43.574 --> 00:41:43.954


I was all about the kids.00:41:43.885 --> 00:41:47.802


Yeah, I was like the kids, the kids, the kids, and he got whatever was left over and it was grouchy.00:41:47.802 --> 00:41:52.375


And I think that's a mistake that you make, especially when they're young and they need you for everything and it's like your first go.00:41:52.375 --> 00:41:57.260


Because you're making the meals, you're making the snacks.00:41:57.260 --> 00:41:59.702


My friend when we were hiking she's a jerky, she listens.00:41:59.702 --> 00:42:04.288


Um, I'm like as they get older it gets better because you don't have to do so much.00:42:04.708 --> 00:42:16.860


So now I feel like I my number one more than the kids is like giving him attention, so I feel like walk me through your day.00:42:16.880 --> 00:42:19.268


So in the morning I feel like you're good.00:42:19.289 --> 00:42:23.458


I feel like people are going to be like this lady's weird, like who cares what they think you're?00:42:23.498 --> 00:42:24.380


talking to your friend here trying to learn.00:42:24.380 --> 00:42:28.255


So he wakes up in the morning, so I know his love language is touching and so he makes my coffee.00:42:28.255 --> 00:42:30.784


So I have to be happy he makes my coffee.00:42:30.784 --> 00:42:33.514


So he's really big on me being like thanks for the coffee.00:42:33.514 --> 00:42:34.958


I have to like acknowledge the coffee.00:42:34.958 --> 00:42:36.181


Yeah, I would want that too yeah.00:42:36.523 --> 00:42:41.362


And so then I always do this thing where I like hold my shirt out like this, meaning put, put your hands down my shirt.00:42:41.362 --> 00:43:01.427


And then he like Every single day, almost every single day, I would say five days out of the week, and I say, oh, good morning, like, and he like puts his hand down my shirt and gives a little like you know, yeah, and it's not like we're going to go do it, yeah, but it's like I'm like giving yeah, like you want him to touch you, yes, but do you?00:43:01.427 --> 00:43:01.748


Yeah.00:43:01.748 --> 00:43:04.902


I mean, I don't mind it, yeah, it's two seconds, you know yeah.00:43:04.902 --> 00:43:07.824


So then we get ready and then he's making the sandwiches.00:43:07.824 --> 00:43:09.681


I'm always like, honey, can you make sandwiches?00:43:09.681 --> 00:43:11.434


You know, I do the little IES, I flirt.00:43:11.534 --> 00:43:13.403


Every day you say this yes.00:43:27.635 --> 00:43:29.706


He's not just making them honey sandwiches or you know, and I flirt a little and then he, when he leaves, I see him off, you know, I give him some rub and some a kiss.00:43:29.706 --> 00:43:30.925


Yeah, like get off the couch, yes, well, like by that time I'm getting ready.00:43:30.925 --> 00:43:33.244


Or like making the lunches, cause he makes a sandwich, but then I pack all the lunches and snacks and all that.00:43:33.244 --> 00:43:37.239


So then I'm doing the kids getting ready myself, but I stopped giving him attention.00:43:37.239 --> 00:43:39.322


Love you, have a good day, you know, yeah.00:43:39.362 --> 00:43:43.869


And then I feel like when he gets home I just very am like giving him attention.00:43:43.869 --> 00:43:44.110


Yeah.00:43:44.409 --> 00:43:47.074


Yeah, and it's such a simple thing to do and it's like it's not a whole.00:43:47.074 --> 00:43:48.179


So when he gets home, what do you do?00:43:48.994 --> 00:43:50.240


Like I acknowledge that he's home.00:43:50.240 --> 00:43:55.481


I always make sure the house, the kitchen is clean.00:43:55.481 --> 00:43:59.827


So do you get up, like if you're on, you know, and like I just very much give him attention now?00:43:59.827 --> 00:44:02.210


Yeah, and like all throughout the day I'll give him attention.00:44:02.210 --> 00:44:03.411


Do you like text him during the day?00:44:03.411 --> 00:44:04.697


Yeah, I'll text him things you know.00:44:04.778 --> 00:44:05.159


Like what.00:44:05.199 --> 00:44:07.706


Like I love you, I can't wait to see you tonight, let's watch our show.00:44:07.706 --> 00:44:13.188


Like just like I'm like he thinks that, like he's on the forefront of my brain all day.00:44:13.188 --> 00:44:29.315


Yeah, you know, and I am busy too and there's some days it doesn't happen, but I feel like I very much make an effort to like give him so much attention and then he is just like so happy.00:44:29.315 --> 00:44:31.860


Yeah, it's weird and he's way less grouchy.00:44:32.121 --> 00:44:34.286


Yeah, my friend, my other friend said this too.00:44:44.875 --> 00:44:45.197


Her husband.00:44:45.197 --> 00:44:48.043


She'd be like then I get to go watch my shows and then he says yes to things and it's like we're do it wrong, you know, and it's not always about sex, because sometimes you're not in the mood.00:44:48.043 --> 00:44:49.813


Well, that's, I think my problem is like, sometimes I worry, it's going to lead to that.00:44:49.833 --> 00:44:50.574


And then I have to say no.00:44:50.574 --> 00:44:51.516


I'd never want to say no.00:44:51.516 --> 00:44:53.878


I never want to say no to those rude people.00:44:53.878 --> 00:45:00.007


Um, don't you know like start it.00:45:00.007 --> 00:45:00.867


Then I have to say no.00:45:00.867 --> 00:45:02.530


So I think I worry about that too much.00:45:02.530 --> 00:45:03.411


Yeah, you know.00:45:03.994 --> 00:45:09.387


I think it's just like knowing what they like, and doing it.00:45:09.507 --> 00:45:11.382


I know Kyle would love if I woke up in the morning.00:45:11.382 --> 00:45:12.800


He loves having a friend in the morning.00:45:12.800 --> 00:45:15.836


Yeah, and I am not a morning person, I don't want to talk to anybody.00:45:15.836 --> 00:45:19.920


Yeah, and he wants to like do a, do a lot of feeling, do a lot of like yay, let's talk about our day.00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:22.742


Yeah, so it's like, oh gosh, but I think I should wake up.00:45:22.742 --> 00:45:25.865


Yeah, if I woke up with him, it would just like be beside himself.00:45:25.985 --> 00:45:29.710


That's what it's weird, because I feel like Ben is like he used to be really nasty.00:45:29.710 --> 00:45:30.690


Yeah, he did.00:45:30.710 --> 00:45:31.690


It's like a different person.00:45:31.690 --> 00:45:32.692


It is like a different person.00:45:42.835 --> 00:45:44.219


Like I have two dogs now said no, he was like a harder no than Kyle.00:45:44.219 --> 00:45:45.324


Yeah, like it's a full transformation.00:45:45.324 --> 00:45:46.407


Anything I want, I got, I get it.00:45:46.427 --> 00:45:47.652


It's weird, it's like a magic genie, you know.00:45:47.672 --> 00:45:53.324


Rub him and you know but like yeah, I'm not manipulative, like it.00:45:53.463 --> 00:45:56.208


I mean no, I think you're just working at it more.00:45:56.208 --> 00:45:58.623


I think when we're dating, we're more like working at it.00:45:58.623 --> 00:46:01.976


We want them happy, so you're like more, like thinking what could I do for him?00:46:01.976 --> 00:46:04.264


Yeah, and you know, and it's so simple.00:46:04.324 --> 00:46:05.025


It's so simple.00:46:05.215 --> 00:46:06.891


Kyle's like better at that because he's more you.00:46:06.911 --> 00:46:11.206


Yeah, so Kyle like does more stuff like that for me than I do for him.00:46:14.978 --> 00:46:16.179


And I have to remember he wants that back.00:46:16.179 --> 00:46:17.621


That's why he something, oh yeah.00:46:17.641 --> 00:46:18.762


He totally needs my attention.00:46:19.242 --> 00:46:24.708


But like there's times when I'm telling him shut up, I'm not like always like oh, love you, no, no no.00:46:24.929 --> 00:46:36.699


Yeah, it's real and like I do see people on social media that post things that they're like oh, I love you, and it's like after 15 years, so maybe that's their husband's love language.00:46:36.719 --> 00:46:38.461


Yeah, maybe they really like getting that post on social media, totally Maybe.00:46:38.461 --> 00:46:44.208


That's why they do it because, I see that I'm like ah, fake you know, but they're lying, again they're lying.00:46:44.208 --> 00:46:46.956


I'm like no, you're not doing that but maybe that's why they do it.00:46:47.036 --> 00:46:48.625


Maybe that's their husband's love language.00:46:48.644 --> 00:46:52.721


Yeah, like they love being boasted like on Sunday he woke up and he gets really bad migraines.00:46:52.721 --> 00:46:57.018


He woke up, he had a bad migraine, so like I knew he was in bed still with me at like 720.00:46:57.018 --> 00:46:58.300


I was like why is he in bed?00:46:58.300 --> 00:46:59.400


He like like never sleeps in.00:46:59.400 --> 00:47:01.103


So then I like smelled peppermint.00:47:01.103 --> 00:47:02.304


I'm like what the hell's going on?00:47:02.304 --> 00:47:09.103


And he had like the peppermint oil cause he was nauseous from his migraine and so I was like, oh honey, do you need anything, you know?00:47:09.103 --> 00:47:11.757


So I was like nursing him back to health, you know.00:47:11.757 --> 00:47:27.563


And then, like I went and took I had to go take bear, I picked up Broxton, I was taking the boys and then I came back and he was like feeling a little better and I was like, oh, do you need a nurse, you know?00:47:27.563 --> 00:47:29.568


And I came over and I said let me nurse you back to health and I was giving him like some attention.00:47:29.588 --> 00:47:35.411


And then he was like fine, you know, I'm like this is so easy, it's so simple, men aren't that complicated you're right, they're not, they're not they just need attention.00:47:35.492 --> 00:47:37.639


I think it's important we remember to be the girlfriend.00:47:37.639 --> 00:47:41.632


Yes, yes, it's like so hard I have to remind myself every day don't be the hag wife.00:47:41.632 --> 00:47:42.916


No, because I think I am.00:47:42.916 --> 00:47:47.126


Sometimes I'm just like grouchy and I do that too, but I'm not grouchy to everybody else.00:47:47.126 --> 00:47:48.097


So I need to do better.00:47:48.097 --> 00:47:51.445


I'm just tired by then, you know, but I got to be the girlfriend more.00:47:51.547 --> 00:48:08.224


It's better that way and dress up yeah, yeah, dress up no, not like weirdly, but like get ready like go out and get ready, because he always says like when you go to work you know you get all, yeah, but like even on a date night, like you know, make sure you get dressed and stuff, like really treat it like a girlfriend, work for it still.00:48:08.996 --> 00:48:11.480


Just like anything in life, I know you have to work at it to make it good.00:48:11.500 --> 00:48:23.360


Yeah for sure, for sure, I'm going to do that.00:48:23.360 --> 00:48:25.300


I was like no, it's fine, what happened?00:48:25.300 --> 00:48:30.065


I was like I'm taking them out, they're too big, because my kids are like mom, they're so big I know, are you going to?00:48:44.175 --> 00:48:44.878


No, he couldn't sleep all anyways.00:48:44.878 --> 00:48:45.420


All right, so moving on.00:48:45.420 --> 00:48:45.641


No lessons.00:48:45.641 --> 00:48:46.505


Tisha doesn't want us to give any lessons.00:48:46.505 --> 00:48:47.106


The lesson is be a girlfriend.00:48:47.106 --> 00:48:48.552


Let's do an experiment this week you be a girlfriend to him.00:48:48.552 --> 00:48:56.036


If I said something with IES, he would die no, but you do it, and do it in his way yeah, your turf looks amazing no, but I feel like Kyle.00:48:56.036 --> 00:49:03.827


It's more like giving him a say and doing the I know, I did give him a things that he cares about, that you we're gonna go get the real ID tomorrow, Can't wait.00:49:04.114 --> 00:49:05.882


He's like I'm getting all the paperwork ready yeah.00:49:06.436 --> 00:49:09.976


And you could be like I'm excited to get the real ID, Want to get lunch too.00:49:10.197 --> 00:49:11.239


Like something like that.00:49:11.239 --> 00:49:14.327


Yeah, that's true, he's going to listen to this, but yeah, I agree.00:49:14.467 --> 00:49:24.831


You're right, I know he hasn't listened the last couple.00:49:24.768 --> 00:49:25.659


He's jerking around again.00:49:25.659 --> 00:49:26.659


He's like I got rekt today, all right, see you next week.00:49:26.659 --> 00:49:27.911


All right, next week, welcome to jerking around.00:49:27.911 --> 00:49:32.981


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