S3 E20: Hello, God? Pick Up, It’s Urgent!

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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real.

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Okay, today there's a special guest and we haven't had a special guest in a long, long time.

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Yeah, so Trisha is one of our good friends.

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She travels.

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All our daughters do cheer together at Top Gun.

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We talk about cheer all the time on here.

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Tisha and I are a lot and Trisha is like our counterpart.

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Yeah, she keeps us calm.

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She's sweet as pie, literally.

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You guys have heard her.

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You've listened to us for a while.

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You heard us tell a story about when Tisha was cussing in the car.

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Yeah, and our friend said now, girls, miss Tisha's just a little frustrated right now.

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That's Trisha.

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We were driving in Vegas.

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Yeah, she's awesome.

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So we've gotten to know her a lot over the last couple years and I want to first ask a few questions that will liven it up a bit, and then we're going to go into a story.

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She told me this story years ago and it literally changed my life, so I've been wanting to have her on since a year ago.

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It was a year ago.

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I'm excited to hear it, because you told me this story, but I haven't heard it from you when I botch a story.

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Yeah, that's what I was thinking.

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I botch it and I had all these questions and she didn't know the answers and then I was like huh, so I'm excited to hear the real story.

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Yeah, me too, I'm excited to share first question for.

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Trisha, though we were practicing on the mic and this just happened, um, and Melissa asked you know, we encourage, we're pro men here, pro women, pro everything.

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Yeah, I've said some stupid things, I'm trying to get better, but so we were joking with Tricia and asked her her favorite you know position, because not that we're, because she's happily married Married, and we were into that.

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And she said Mishies.

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She's a jerky.

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So she's a jerky.

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Yeah.

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For a year a jerky.

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You know that.

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But you know that.

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That's why this side of the couch is Mishy's and that side is like swinging from the rafties.

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No, that's the dream couch.

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Yeah, yes.

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And even though we just talk about it all on this podcast If you haven't listened before we're just moms that tell it's like a reality podcast.

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Yeah, we don't know anything more than the next guy.

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We just tell you stories about our life and things.

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We learn all the time.

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Yeah, trisha also was on the plane ride with us.

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She was also at NCA with us.

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Yeah, she went through that with us.

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Her husband's a pilot.

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That's the pilot that we were texting.

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We're always texting him the ding.

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Where's the ding?

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Yeah, we're like it's from the exhaust.

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Yeah, we love him.

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Mike's amazing.

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Yeah, okay.

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So last year we were at Summit.

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That's a cheer competition for our girls, it's like the end of the year and Tricia and I just happened to be laying by the pool I have no, oh, you know why.

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I was quitting real estate and I was talking to you about my dad dying, which everybody's heard about that a lot, and how my priorities changed and how like I want to just tell I want to like talk about God more.

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I think that's what I was saying.

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I like want to spend time just talking to people more.

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And then I think you said, yeah, everything I've been through, you know that's important to me.

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And I said what have you been through?

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Like?

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Because isn't it funny how, on the outside and Melissa would probably agree Melissa had just met Trisha, but you're so and you're like the perfect Christian to me, like I love it.

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You're like you know what?

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When we, after you cussed that day, tricia asked us what devotionals are we reading?

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Member.

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Oh, where you were like do you like any books?

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Cause we were like you were talking about some like Colleen Hoover where they were like banging.

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And then she's like Tricia, have you read any good books lately?

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And she's like, well, this devotional that Joyce Meyer or something, and we were like what the hell?

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She just reads the wrong kind of books.

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Yeah, yeah.

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But you're so sweet, the sweetest we like admire you a lot.

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You're an excellent mom you like are someone that we always think like has it right, yes, wow it right?

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yeah, you know what?

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You don't tell people that enough in life, like when you really think about them, like you don't tell me anything good specifically, yeah, like, or like you as in general.

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Yeah, like your friends don't know what you really think about them, like I would never, just randomly on a Tuesday, be like.

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You know what you're.

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Light, oh my god.

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I should yeah.

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I'm gonna do that more, me too, and I'm gonna be nicer to Tisha.

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I heard last week's episode that we're editing right now because it was naughty.

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But I'm gonna be nicer to you and I've said it before, just finally, and I mean it this time.

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You know, everything happens it was my low sometimes god has a funny way of showing his things and, um, I remember when she yeah, yeah, and I feel like you know you do.

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You are now realizing how you sometimes the joke goes too far, yeah, and, and I'm going to be better.

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I'm going to be better we all make mistakes.

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Okay, Trisha, so she this is her first podcast.

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Yes, my first podcast and we're super excited.

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I just want you to kind of tell me about you know, you were talking to me and you were in college and you grew up.

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I would have thought you grew up as a Christian, because you to me seem just like you know.

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Leave it to beaver.

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I love you Very.

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Leave it to beaver Very.

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Leave it to beaver Very pure, very innocent and like wonderful, which is great, but I also like people's stories, yeah, so I was like so intrigued by your life.

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Yeah, there's not a single person on the planet.

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That's perfect.

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And I think we do judge people from the outside a lot of the time.

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Yeah, and yeah, I'm just trying to keep it together most of the time, but, um, yeah, I just, I love you, I know.

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Yeah.

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So there's a lot and I think I am not like super like.

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I don't always talk about myself.

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I don't really like to talk about myself, but when Tisha loves it to talk about myself, I don't really like to talk about myself, but when Tisha loves it To talk about myself, no, I don't.

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Well, my husband loves.

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Well, he wouldn't say he loves to talk about himself, but like he's really good, he just has like the gift of dad.

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That's how Crystal is.

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Yeah, I talk about myself.

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I never talk about myself.

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And I love that.

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But, like the opportunity presented itself when we were at the pool and I was like, yeah, sometimes your perspective changes with different life experiences and I've had a near-death experience and when that happens, you're, you know, you're just everything completely changes and you're a different person and with my near-death experience, I was I was not a Christian at the time Did you grow up, what was your family life like?

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So great.

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Mom and dad Loved them dearly.

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They provided everything under the sun for us.

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It really was.

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It's not like leave it to beaver, but my mom was cooking dinner but she also was working like 12, 15-hour shifts, shifts as a nurse and my dad was working full-time but coming home and mowing the lawn you know like so kind of like yeah, really hard workers and um yeah, so

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that's awesome, and you guys were christian growing up.

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Well, I would say that's probably what my parents would associate with, because they, like, christened me as a baby.

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Yeah, but we didn't regularly go to church.

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We moved, um, I grew up in Maryland and then moved to Connecticut when I was like in after kindergarten, and then we moved to North Carolina.

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I so my dad's job moved us around and we just we didn't have a church family, which is huge and everybody needs a church family, no matter where you are.

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Yeah, uh, and then you know I, we lived in North Carolina.

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Um, start, well, I lived in North Carolina, starting when I was in seventh grade, and that was a big move for me, moving from Connecticut to North Carolina that's probably a big pivotal time and, uh, finally adjusted.

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But it was really hard, lots of ups and downs.

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It was like a roller coaster, but my parents are always right there with me the whole time and they were just really great.

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And, um, I went to college in North Carolina as well and I didn't know that I, like I didn't choose my.

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I went to two community colleges before I went to the four-year college.

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Yeah, we had a good time and, yeah, community college, yeah, I mean that's where you were when.

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Well, no, I um in Asheboro I had.

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Um, I went to community college.

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Yeah, I mean, that's the way to go.

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Is that where you were when?

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Well, no, I in Asheboro I had.

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I went to community college and then I went to the beach, wanted to move to the beach with my friends.

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Oh, how fun.

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Just to give you like a little, very independent like as soon as I graduated high school.

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You were out?

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Yeah, it was like out, but I had to get that little bit under my belt.

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I graduated when I was 17.

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Really, yeah, so I just have a late birthday.

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Yeah, that's the reason why I started early.

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Do you house her?

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Muscled my way through.

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Yeah, oh no, it was a big struggle but anyway.

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So moved to the beach with my friends, with my best friends, had the best time.

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We worked as waitresses, I know y'all have talked about being servers.

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Just like a normal yeah.

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Went to school, paid our way to live in a fantastic townhouse and just partied a lot, yeah.

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And then we let's see, I transferred to a college in Raleigh, north Carolina, to Meredith College, and I met my best friend there and she was a transfer student as well and she would talk about loving the Lord and I was like what are you talking about?

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Like who is Jesus?

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So just to give you a little background.

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And then graduated in 2002.

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Doesn't seem like it was that long ago Graduated in 2002.

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Doesn't seem like it was that long ago.

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And had a place, you know, maybe like a year later had my own apartment job and you know, you just get a wild hair and I wanted to go out and have fun.

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That's how I was.

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We were in a great city, in Raleigh, and called a friend, called an old friend, and like hey, you want to go watch the football game at the sports bar, and she's like, yeah, so got our friends together, went to the sports bar and it's kind of like a city where you bump into people that you know.

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Everywhere, kind of everywhere.

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That's so fun, so it's like that age group everyone's out.

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Yeah, like uh, I was 22.

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I was always a little bit younger than everyone else and my friends were like 23 24, so they really were into their career.

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Yeah, not married yeah, yeah, like that in between age, yes, and I I think yeah anyway.

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So it's that time where you're and I think, yeah anyway.

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So it's that time where you're like, okay, I'm not married, single, and I just want to go out and have fun.

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So I did, and then I had probably too much to drink, but I still knew.

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So you were all at the sports bar, all at the sports bar, bunch of friends, just girls or girls and guys.

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Girls and guys.

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Okay yeah, and we were just having a good time.

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We got on TV, you know, like this, yeah, yeah, and you know whoever was there, because our team won, but you were with a group, so you feel safe, you know, feeling safe, and I said, oh, I'll get a ride home.

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And then I didn't quite get a ride home, and so that's where it kind of all begins.

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So you were all hanging out and they left.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, my close friend left and her friends, her co-workers, said, oh, I'll give her a ride home.

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And I was like, oh yeah, they can give me a ride home.

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That's fine.

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I've done that 50 times.

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Acquaintances yeah, I've done that a bunch.

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We've been out all night.

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Sure, yeah.

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Well, we ended up going to another bar and I knew I needed to go home, like it wasn't my first rodeo.

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I needed to go home.

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Oh, I and no, we went to that second bar and then it was like and so you were with this coworker that you don't know super well.

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Yeah, that was going to give you right home Two of them.

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Yeah, not like your core group of friends.

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No, yeah, but I've done it and I'm, and I was so naive and trustworthy and I still kind of am like that, yeah, but anyway, um, so we went and we I don't even know like I don't remember a whole lot from that second bar because you were had so much to drink so you were kind of yeah, it's kind of foggy yeah very foggy and I remember, um, when it was time to go, time to leave, I couldn't get back into the bar to try to get my stuff to leave.

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Oh really, yeah, at one point, yeah and you're like I didn't have a ride home right did that co-worker leave the lady that was supposed to give you a ride?

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uh, it was two men.

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Um, yeah, they're gone, like everybody's gone.

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The bar is shut down.

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It's closed oh, so did you go outside and then you tried to go back in, to get try to go back in, oh, so, like it closed and you were out and then you were like my stuff's yeah, my stuff's I gotta get in.

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Oh shoot, yeah, I didn't know, but I, my stuff was not in there, like I was really out of it, yeah.

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And then, uh, I was on the highway and woke up in a vehicle with three strange men.

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Okay, so the last thing you remember is trying to get back in the bar Like.

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I need to get my stuff, so I can get a ride home.

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Yeah, and then that's the last memory you have, and did you?

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have drinks at the bar Like they gave you drinks.

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Oh, yeah, so somebody.

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They witnessed me drinking at the bar.

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I don't necessarily remember ordering drinks or anything like that.

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Do you think?

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that they put something in your drink.

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Well, the only, yeah, I do, because when I woke up on the highway and it was like approximately, like there's a landmark on this highway in North Carolina and I saw that I was like headed the wrong direction, like the opposite direction, like going out of my house yeah, of my home, of my apartment.

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We are leaving town.

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I woke up and I'm like so you woke up in the car and what was going on?

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so I just kind of like came to and I'm like who are you?

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I need to get out like, let me out of here three men in the car.

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Yeah, I need to get out now.

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And you didn't know any of them.

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Didn't know any of them Were you sitting, or were you?

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I was sitting and I woke up, okay.

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I woke up and I was in the back seat, like behind the passenger, the front passenger, and I was like you got to, let me out of here, let me out right now.

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And we're on the highway and then I try to get out and I can't get out.

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Were you like who are you guys?

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Oh yeah, I'm like going crazy and were they saying anything?

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Yeah, like this?

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Yeah, they were.

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They were saying oh, we're going to take you to, you know, go have sex.

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They were saying that to you oh yeah, they wanted and they were using like I hate the P word.

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They were saying the P word word.

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They were saying the p word and then they were um and I was like no.

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I never said I was gonna do that yeah, I was like.

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No, I never said I was gonna do that because you're out of it, um, yeah, completely.

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And then I'm like, wait, what?

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No, I never said I was gonna do that.

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And then they were like yeah, you are yeah.

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And so then I tried to grab, like jump to the front to grab the steering wheel and I like could not budge it.

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It was like so strong, oh my, just to get like attention, yeah, because you just feel like you got to get out.

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It's like so like and I'm gonna try dying.

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What were they saying to you?

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I'm gonna try, I'm gonna die, trying to get out yeah you knew.

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You knew this was like life or death yeah, because they were telling you too.

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Yeah, like they were taking me away from they were.

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Away?

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Were they old or young, or do you not remember they were Like, were they your age or were they older, would you say?

00:15:50.341 --> 00:15:56.960
I would say, maybe If they weren't the same, probably slightly older, I would say, yeah, like 30s or 40s.

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Were you tied down or anything.

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Maybe like 30,.

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Yeah, I don't know.

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What's that?

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Were you tied down or anything?

00:16:07.340 --> 00:16:09.586
No, yeah, I don't know what's that, were you tied down or anything?

00:16:09.586 --> 00:16:15.019
No, they just had you in the car, yeah, and so then, um, I woke up and, uh, when I was, I tried, after I tried to crash the car.

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I don't think I told you this.

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I'm sorry it's such a long story no, we're great.

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Oh, I um, I told you it's crazy so I, after I tried to crash the vehicle or like get anyone's attention out on the highway, because it's like pitch dark out there, there's no lights, like I don't know in North Carolina at night there's not like a whole lot of lights going on.

00:16:34.659 --> 00:16:35.725
So you knew you were going out.

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It's not like city time.

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Yeah, I.

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Just.

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The only thing I saw was the sign to the next city over, and I was like, like leaving city limits oh yeah, yeah oh my god, sick well you hear that those stories like don't ever.

00:16:50.869 --> 00:16:55.885
If you're kidnapped, don't ever get in the car, because once you leave it's like so hard to find someone.

00:16:56.147 --> 00:17:05.872
So yeah, so I was in Raleigh leaving and I saw the sign for Durham and I knew that was like the red flag that they were taking me away somewhere.

00:17:06.333 --> 00:17:15.382
And then, um, so they were using the p-word to you, like talking to you, that derogatory, oh yeah, like we're gonna we're gonna get some.

00:17:16.444 --> 00:17:23.502
Oh my god, all this and I was like, oh no, but after I tried, so then it was a struggle in the car did they hit?

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hit you or anything?

00:17:24.625 --> 00:17:33.446
Yeah, the guy in the back hit my face and my face, hit the window and knocked my two front teeth out.

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He hit you that hard.

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Oh, my God.

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And I knew immediately my two front teeth were just like gone.

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That, if that doesn't upset you, Were you bleeding most likely you were still probably so out of it from waking.

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I just, it's just like this feeling your tongue, like when you don't have your two front teeth, your tongue sits differently in your mouth.

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So like immediately, you know immediately so quick question when you woke up and you saw the guys, did you like recognize any of them from the bar earlier?

00:18:06.186 --> 00:18:08.425
No Like were they like casing you out all night?

00:18:08.425 --> 00:18:09.722
Oh, no, no, no, there was just like.

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You're like who are these people?

00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:12.988
I have no clue who they were.

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It's not like a guy you were talking to.

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I didn't know.

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He knocked your teeth out.

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I had no idea.

00:18:16.588 --> 00:18:21.073
Yeah, so you knew at that.

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Oh, you know, it's life, or?

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death.

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They're planning on not having you come back.

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Right, and then I was really crying, upset, distraught, and I just started saying the Lord's Prayer.

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That's all I knew.

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I was not.

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That was what I remembered.

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And in college my mom had given me a bookmark and told me to memorize the Lord's Prayer.

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And I didn't, I mean, that's all I.

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That was my go-to.

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So you did memorize it because she, I memorized it, because she told me to that's you this?

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yeah okay mom, my kids are all hurt.

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You know, I had it next to my bed and I would memorize it and I, yeah.

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I think it is really unusual that I memorized it, because it wasn't a time in my life that yeah, you know, I was really following Christ or yes, yeah, I think we're always searching yeah, I think we're always searching for something we want that love and comfort.

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And I, she just knew it was really important.

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So I said the Lord's Prayer.

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You just thought I don't know what to do.

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I'm gonna just start saying this yeah it wasn't a whole lot of like.

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I just it, just like when I was fighting to get out, so you couldn't open the door.

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It's like you just act really fast.

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Yeah, the doors were locked.

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I couldn't open it?

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Did they try touching you again at all?

00:19:31.787 --> 00:19:36.587
Oh yeah, he was like grabbing me and, yeah, trying to hold you down.

00:19:36.587 --> 00:19:38.412
Well, um.

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Or doing things.

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Fill up.

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You know he wanted to fill me up, yeah, so you were fighting him the whole time in the car, yeah, and they were probably yelling at you, yeah, and saying things to you Mm-hmm.

00:19:50.160 --> 00:19:50.441
Yeah.

00:19:50.441 --> 00:19:52.348
So it was like fast, it was quick.

00:19:52.348 --> 00:19:59.541
And then, when he knocked my two front teeth out, I started to say the Lord's Prayer, because you knew, yeah, I had to get out.

00:19:59.721 --> 00:20:04.772
And you were, you were like done fighting at that point, because you were hurt.

00:20:05.153 --> 00:20:07.106
Okay, so you started just saying it.

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I just started saying it Like loud Reciting it oh yeah, loud out loud, like really loud.

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Yeah, like over and over or just once, because I was crying.

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Yeah, I think I just started to say it.

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And when I started with our father, I was like I'm going to cry and I got to.

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Who art in heaven?

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I don't even know which verse I was on, so you were saying it like loud, like our Father who art in heaven.

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Yeah, I am just like.

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And then the guy who was driving said don't bring the Lord into this.

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Really yeah, so what did you do then?

00:20:43.923 --> 00:20:51.461
We all just kind of froze and I just was like a blank stare.

00:20:52.813 --> 00:20:54.470
Did he yell like don't bring the Lord into this.

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Yeah, he said, don't bring the Lord into this.

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And then he asked the guy next to him if they should let me out.

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And they let me out.

00:21:03.297 --> 00:21:09.773
They pulled over and let me out on the side of the highway Just from saying the Lord's Prayer, mm-hmm, because they gave him the crepes.

00:21:09.773 --> 00:21:11.519
That's crazy.

00:21:11.519 --> 00:21:16.961
So somebody had a grandma or a mom or somebody who like that struck a chord?

00:21:17.060 --> 00:21:18.284
Yeah, it struck a chord, yeah.

00:21:18.284 --> 00:21:20.738
So do you feel like it struck a chord with the driver the most?

00:21:20.778 --> 00:21:24.757
Yeah, oh yeah, because the guy in the back, he didn't care, he punched my two front teeth out.

00:21:24.817 --> 00:21:27.280
I'm like so because he said, let's let her out.

00:21:27.280 --> 00:21:28.042
They were like okay.

00:21:28.503 --> 00:21:31.337
Yeah, and the passenger said let her out.

00:21:31.337 --> 00:21:33.299
Oh, but the driver was convicted.

00:21:33.299 --> 00:21:34.690
Yeah, so they both were.

00:21:34.710 --> 00:21:37.916
So I guess they were both convicted and the guy in the back was already too invested.

00:21:39.031 --> 00:21:41.660
He just let yeah, he just let me out too.

00:21:41.750 --> 00:21:45.037
So they just stopped the car in the middle of the highway and let you out and I get out yeah.

00:21:45.037 --> 00:21:45.979
And are you still pretty?

00:21:45.999 --> 00:21:51.531
disorientated, so disoriented, so distraught, can't really like.

00:21:51.531 --> 00:21:58.219
My body felt super heavy From the drugs, from like what they put into it and you're bleeding.

00:21:58.538 --> 00:22:01.461
That had to hurt You're scared to death shaking.

00:22:01.461 --> 00:22:05.746
It's pitch black, pitch black and you get out on the highway with no lights.

00:22:05.746 --> 00:22:08.959
No lights and you get out on the highway with no lights.

00:22:08.959 --> 00:22:09.801
No lights and the only lights I could see.

00:22:09.801 --> 00:22:11.107
Did you have a phone back then?

00:22:11.127 --> 00:22:11.650
Oh no, no phone, no, nothing.

00:22:11.650 --> 00:22:13.435
So they threw you out and then they took off.

00:22:13.717 --> 00:22:14.799
Yes, oh my gosh.

00:22:15.342 --> 00:22:15.623
Yes.

00:22:16.424 --> 00:22:17.307
And you're hysterical.

00:22:17.608 --> 00:22:19.836
Hysterical In the middle of a highway outskirts of town.

00:22:20.458 --> 00:22:21.480
No lights on the freeway.

00:22:30.070 --> 00:22:30.892
Right leave to get out though.

00:22:30.892 --> 00:22:31.614
Yes, yeah, yeah.

00:22:31.614 --> 00:22:35.001
So then I was like, okay, next step, go home and go back towards Raleigh where I live.

00:22:35.001 --> 00:22:44.490
And I saw the only light I could see was for, like Miami Boulevard off the I-40 was lit up and so I was like I gotta get over there and that's the opposite side of the highway.

00:22:44.490 --> 00:22:59.551
So I crossed the highway, was there like a median, like there's a huge construction zone, and I could didn't see it at first when I started to go and I just needed to run away, you know.

00:22:59.551 --> 00:23:21.499
And so I crossed over a cement, one cement barrier, and then I landed down in the mud and it was just like I was like knee deep in like Carolina red clay mud, like it, just like it's like I don't want to like kind of like quick sand yeah, oh my gosh so muddy and I'm like slopping through, yeah, trying to get

00:23:21.880 --> 00:23:23.182
out in the dark.

00:23:23.182 --> 00:23:33.440
And then, finally, I get to the other side and I have to climb over another cement barrier and at that time I'm in the, I'm on the highway.

00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:39.772
Well, I thought I was on the median and I wasn't Come to find out.

00:23:39.772 --> 00:23:40.978
I was like in the middle.

00:23:40.978 --> 00:23:47.801
I was in the middle of the road, like I was in the middle of a lane, probably because the cement barrier was butted up.

00:23:47.801 --> 00:23:50.511
Yeah, the highway because of the construction right.

00:23:50.511 --> 00:24:08.221
And I am just walking back towards Raleigh, trying to run, walk anything, and I hear a car come and I just like throw my hands in the air and scream at the top of my lungs God help me.

00:24:08.221 --> 00:24:17.856
Like with all my might and all my being, and I had no clue, I was about to get hit by a truck because it was from behind.

00:24:17.856 --> 00:24:20.154
Oh, the car was behind you.

00:24:20.154 --> 00:24:22.096
Yeah, the truck was behind me.

00:24:22.530 --> 00:24:23.474
So he didn't see you?

00:24:24.150 --> 00:24:25.998
No, because that's pitch black.

00:24:25.998 --> 00:24:35.133
It was pitch black and he wasn't expecting a young woman on the highway in the middle of the night and in construction, it's like 2 or 3 am and it's a big truck 3 am.

00:24:35.133 --> 00:24:41.949
Yeah, so it was like a delivery truck, um, and it has like a flat front.

00:24:41.949 --> 00:24:42.871
It's an Isuzu truck.

00:24:42.871 --> 00:24:43.713
I see them all the time.

00:24:43.713 --> 00:24:43.815
It's.

00:24:43.815 --> 00:24:45.138
Yeah, it's like a reminder when you're waving your hands.

00:24:45.138 --> 00:24:45.681
Were you waving your hand?

00:24:45.681 --> 00:24:46.703
Yeah, he, thankfully he was going the speed limit's.

00:24:46.723 --> 00:24:47.887
Yeah, it's like a reminder when you're waving your hands.

00:24:47.907 --> 00:24:48.830
Were you waving your hand?

00:24:48.830 --> 00:24:50.997
Yeah, he, thankfully he was going the speed limit though.

00:24:50.997 --> 00:24:56.019
He was going like I think the speed limit's like 60 and you're waving behind you.

00:24:56.019 --> 00:25:02.634
Yeah, there was no time, I just heard the car and I threw my hands up and he came from behind.

00:25:02.634 --> 00:25:09.505
So I'm walking this way and throw my hands up in the air and say, lord help me Not knowing.

00:25:10.732 --> 00:25:11.335
He was probably right.

00:25:11.335 --> 00:25:12.298
I mean, he was right there.

00:25:12.298 --> 00:25:31.103
I got clipped on my right side and hit from behind and the driver swears that he saw someone walking behind me and I was like, well, if anyone was behind me, like they could have caught me, like I would have like if they were trying to kidnap me again or swung around to come get me, then they would have gotten me.

00:25:31.930 --> 00:25:32.172
That's crazy.

00:25:32.192 --> 00:25:35.130
Because I was so like I couldn't run, like I just wanted to run and I couldn't run.

00:25:35.211 --> 00:25:37.170
Wait, he swears, he saw someone behind you yeah, he saw someone.

00:25:47.076 --> 00:25:49.477
I wonder if it was like an angel or something.

00:25:49.517 --> 00:25:50.257
Yeah, that are like.

00:25:50.257 --> 00:25:57.101
I saw somebody like I wonder if it was like you know God with you.

00:25:57.541 --> 00:26:02.444
He was a very devout Christian, the guy who hit you.

00:26:02.484 --> 00:26:05.465
Yeah, so he saw, he hit you and he pulled over Immediately.

00:26:05.486 --> 00:26:08.307
Yeah, and called emergency services.

00:26:08.307 --> 00:26:10.875
Pretty sure it was just trying his heart out.

00:26:10.895 --> 00:26:14.998
Well, thank goodness he had a like construction vehicle, because I bet you, that's why they had access to a phone?

00:26:15.057 --> 00:26:17.410
Oh yeah, because back then there wasn't really like cell phones.

00:26:17.410 --> 00:26:19.175
Yeah, like a delivery vehicle.

00:26:19.175 --> 00:26:22.018
Yeah, you're right, a regular car wouldn't have had a phone to call.

00:26:22.018 --> 00:26:29.651
Did he knock?

00:26:29.651 --> 00:26:29.971
Did you out?

00:26:29.971 --> 00:26:30.953
Oh yeah, like were you passed out again.

00:26:30.953 --> 00:26:31.295
When he hit you?

00:26:31.295 --> 00:26:32.377
Oh, oh yeah, I was completely knocked out.

00:26:32.377 --> 00:26:33.561
Okay, I don't even remember being hit.

00:26:33.561 --> 00:26:40.660
Yeah, and I don't remember being hit at all, I just remember um them asking for my phone number.

00:26:40.799 --> 00:26:44.532
They asked if I had a phone number for someone to call someone.

00:26:44.532 --> 00:26:46.738
I had my ID in my back pocket.

00:26:47.219 --> 00:26:48.742
Yeah, because we were going out of the bars.

00:26:48.863 --> 00:26:53.481
Yeah, so they were able to get my name, but they wanted a phone number.

00:26:53.481 --> 00:26:57.977
So then they called my parents in the middle of the night and it's like the dreaded phone call my mom calls it.

00:26:58.176 --> 00:26:59.601
Oh my God, Is it still right now?

00:26:59.601 --> 00:27:01.075
Can you imagine getting that call?

00:27:01.075 --> 00:27:04.854
Oh I know, oh, it's so weird wake up, like what happened.

00:27:04.894 --> 00:27:07.239
So he called for 911.

00:27:07.239 --> 00:27:10.684
Um, you woke up at all on the side of the road?

00:27:10.684 --> 00:27:13.876
No, yeah, so you woke up in the hospital.

00:27:13.876 --> 00:27:19.075
Yes, so last thing, you know you're crawling through the mud and then you hear a car.

00:27:19.075 --> 00:27:22.823
Hear a car and then you wake up in the hospital right and I just I had.

00:27:23.089 --> 00:27:26.817
I knew that I had called out with all my being for God to help me.

00:27:26.817 --> 00:27:30.743
Like everything inside my body wanted God to help me.

00:27:30.743 --> 00:27:46.275
And so when I woke up and I came to in the ICU, first my dad's like you've been hit by a truck, and I was like, oh my gosh, like just kind of like in shock, like I didn't even know.

00:27:46.275 --> 00:27:51.280
And then, but my first question was can I walk?

00:27:51.280 --> 00:27:52.919
Can I?

00:27:52.919 --> 00:27:54.813
Because I'm just like, yeah, that's normal.

00:27:54.873 --> 00:27:55.756
Like am I paralyzed.

00:27:55.796 --> 00:27:56.920
Yeah, can I walk.

00:27:56.920 --> 00:27:59.076
Yes, like, can I have children?

00:27:59.076 --> 00:28:02.055
And they're like.

00:28:02.055 --> 00:28:06.296
We'll get back to you on that and that's an interesting question.

00:28:06.296 --> 00:28:09.859
Yeah, I know the two first questions can I walk and can I have?

00:28:09.930 --> 00:28:12.635
children 22 at the bar, you know, yeah I know right.

00:28:12.655 --> 00:28:18.636
Yeah, when you woke up, did you remember the guys like did you remember being kidnapped or did you just?

00:28:18.977 --> 00:28:20.119
I think, yeah.

00:28:20.119 --> 00:28:31.711
So I remember like I must have gone to like surgery and then, um, and I remember the surgeon asking me how did your two front teeth get like?

00:28:31.711 --> 00:28:32.714
He woke me up.

00:28:32.714 --> 00:28:41.042
Yeah, tried to be as gentle and I was just like hysterical, like still scared, still thought maybe I don't know you were kidnapped again, I don't even know.

00:28:41.183 --> 00:28:48.862
Yeah, just so distraught and hysterical and was just started falling like they hit me, you know, and um.

00:28:48.862 --> 00:28:58.213
So then he knew probably then that he needed to like run all the rape kits, but I had bled so much did they do anything to wait?

00:28:58.253 --> 00:29:03.063
you had bled so much from from the uh, my pelvis being shattered.

00:29:03.263 --> 00:29:05.313
I had, oh, from the accident.

00:29:05.313 --> 00:29:09.240
Yeah, like I don't know that the rape kit Was that correct?

00:29:09.240 --> 00:29:10.262
I'm not very medical.

00:29:10.262 --> 00:29:13.679
Yeah, yeah, because it was after I had lost like liters of blood.

00:29:14.993 --> 00:29:15.656
So you shattered your?

00:29:15.656 --> 00:29:17.817
Yeah, so tell me what happened in the accident.

00:29:17.817 --> 00:29:19.309
What happened to your body?

00:29:21.834 --> 00:29:42.362
I had a scalp laceration, a skull fracture, two front teeth knocked out from being hit, fractured ribs, lung contusion, liver laceration, your arm, my arm, my right ulna was broken Pelvis.

00:29:42.362 --> 00:29:44.356
Pelvis was completely shattered.

00:29:44.356 --> 00:29:49.530
My mom said it was just like five pieces, like in pieces, multiple pieces on the x-ray.

00:29:49.530 --> 00:29:51.457
When she saw it she was right in there.

00:29:51.457 --> 00:29:53.811
I wanted to be right in there in the emergency room and everything.

00:29:53.852 --> 00:30:06.032
and she fought for my life as well, telling them they better get me stable because you weren't sadly, because I was not stable, I was losing a lot of blood well, you were hit by a big delivery truck.

00:30:06.473 --> 00:30:09.041
yeah, going 60 miles an hour it's insane.

00:30:09.061 --> 00:30:09.523
It's insane.

00:30:09.523 --> 00:30:21.810
You're alive, yeah, and I'm surprised like my bones didn't like like I had a liver laceration and a lung contusion, but I'm surprised like my bones didn't like puncture me somehow, you know, because they were.

00:30:21.810 --> 00:30:23.737
My pelvis was just completely shattered.

00:30:23.737 --> 00:30:25.221
Yeah, were you on a ventilator?

00:30:25.221 --> 00:30:27.252
I don't know.

00:30:27.252 --> 00:30:33.233
I wonder for a minute to get those are some pretty major organs.

00:30:33.233 --> 00:30:35.057
Oh yeah, probably um.

00:30:35.057 --> 00:30:39.343
You know, in ICU, I'm trying.

00:30:39.343 --> 00:30:43.115
I don't remember waking up to having a ventilator in ICU.

00:30:43.134 --> 00:30:48.294
Yeah, yeah were you relieved that you were in a hospital and not dead when you woke up?

00:30:48.434 --> 00:31:02.527
yes, like even if the accident it was still probably like I'm still here yes, yeah, so thankful, so thankful to be alive and to be surrounded by family, and and all I wanted to know was what happened.

00:31:02.527 --> 00:31:05.836
Like I just need to know the truth, like can somebody just tell me the truth?

00:31:05.836 --> 00:31:14.619
And I was just, but I also just had this like huge um, uh, I don't.

00:31:14.619 --> 00:31:20.970
I just really wanted to know the Lord really more right away immediately.

00:31:21.310 --> 00:31:24.355
I didn't want to listen to any music, but Christian music.

00:31:24.355 --> 00:31:28.703
Like you knew, he saved you, oh for sure, immediately, like a hundred percent.

00:31:28.703 --> 00:31:30.355
A hundred percent, that's crazy.

00:31:30.355 --> 00:31:38.037
There's just no other explanation for how I survived, like I really feel like it was divine intervention somehow.

00:31:38.037 --> 00:31:53.557
Oh, a hundred percent, yeah, divine intervention because, uh, yeah, there was just so many close calls, you know, that could have taken my life, yeah, so then, what was the recovery like from there?

00:31:54.519 --> 00:31:55.020
Long.

00:31:55.020 --> 00:31:58.176
It was like 10 weeks in the hospital.

00:31:58.176 --> 00:32:01.324
Oh my gosh, that's long, yeah.

00:32:01.324 --> 00:32:13.232
So at first, though, they were so good to me, so it's a miracle in itself that I was by, like, one of the most renowned hospitals in the world at.

00:32:13.232 --> 00:32:14.355
Duke Hospital.

00:32:14.355 --> 00:32:24.459
I mean, there's no way I would have survived at some like little hospital, yeah, if um because my surgeon, like he's the best in the world.

00:32:24.459 --> 00:32:33.358
That's crazy and so, yeah, I don't think anyone else could have pieced me together.

00:32:34.490 --> 00:32:39.962
So in all of this bad, we see God showing up in like all these different places.

00:32:39.962 --> 00:32:45.154
Yeah that he held you in the worst moment of your life, he was still protecting you.

00:32:45.978 --> 00:32:52.760
Yes, I mean, and it's just like one thing after another, like the good, just in the light just kept shining through.

00:32:52.760 --> 00:33:07.471
You know, it was such a horrible experience, but I could see God in every turn, because it was horrific, it was painful, it was excruciatingly painful yeah, working back from that yeah the pelvis.

00:33:07.873 --> 00:33:31.040
So you shattered your pelvis, yeah, and you are still able to have kids yeah, I was just gonna say that's insane that you could still have kids in your pelvis yeah, so, um, I had to have like a it's called a external fixator, so I had like pins going in my pelvis and pins coming out of you know, and so I had to lay bedridden for a long time.

00:33:31.040 --> 00:33:32.103
Like how long?

00:33:32.604 --> 00:33:41.258
I guess it was like 10 weeks, 10 weeks in the hospital and then did you have to like, relearn how to walk and everything uh, yeah, I had to my.

00:33:41.819 --> 00:33:43.526
All my muscles had atrophied.

00:33:43.526 --> 00:33:46.634
I had physical therapy while I was in the hospital.

00:33:46.794 --> 00:33:53.171
10 weeks is a really long time to be in a hospital yeah, and so a lot can go wrong.

00:33:53.270 --> 00:34:20.536
during that time, yeah, and my mom was my um advocate the whole way and my dad and my brother and sister and I had a lot of friends coming to visit me and um, so I started off like in the pediatric unit at Duke and, um, yeah, like I just didn't know what happened and I wanted answers.

00:34:20.536 --> 00:34:26.755
But I knew I wasn't going to get any answers and I just cried and cried and nurses were like are you saved?

00:34:26.755 --> 00:34:27.679
Are you saved?

00:34:27.679 --> 00:34:28.641
They said that to you.

00:34:28.641 --> 00:34:31.958
Yeah, like a nurse, you know she had come in to clean the room or whatever.

00:34:32.409 --> 00:34:40.539
And it's just like the Lord just was bringing all these people into my life, yeah, and I was like yes, I'm saved, which I feel like that's like a legal in a way like not really, it's just not common.

00:34:40.681 --> 00:34:46.197
Yeah, yeah, because I was so encouraged to do that, yeah right god for fully.

00:34:46.539 --> 00:34:49.570
Oh, I know so you're crying in the room and they're asking you are you saved?

00:34:49.650 --> 00:34:51.954
yeah, and I was like did anyone pray with you or anything?

00:34:54.217 --> 00:35:14.237
uh, not at that moment, but later yet, like I had a lot of people coming in and praying and praying with me, but no, it was more of the experience that I think saved me, and knowing that the Lord had saved me, and me wanting to, and me like admitting, like yes, I am saved, yeah, literally yes.

00:35:14.438 --> 00:35:23.500
So quick question when you, after you like, were out of surgery and more with the program, did you remember, remember, like, oh, I was kidnapped.

00:35:23.500 --> 00:35:24.702
Like did you tell the police?

00:35:24.702 --> 00:35:26.690
Did they like?

00:35:26.891 --> 00:35:27.751
try to find the guys.

00:35:27.751 --> 00:35:47.762
Yeah, so there was like a report and I didn't have like license plate numbers, I didn't have and your memory was foggy because you were like out of it, so foggy All I could say was there was an SUV, and then I could describe the guys a little bit, but I didn't know any names, I didn't know where they were from, I didn't know a whole lot and that was it.

00:35:47.762 --> 00:35:49.545
And they never found them right.

00:35:51.675 --> 00:35:52.710
No, no, they didn't.

00:35:52.710 --> 00:36:04.019
And for a long time, like we investigated, like we had a private investigator to try to find, Really your parents, friends were trying to go to the bars, everybody was trying to help to find out what happened and who took me, and all that.

00:36:04.039 --> 00:36:05.762
Was there cameras or anything Did they see?

00:36:06.342 --> 00:36:07.065
Not that I know of.

00:36:07.065 --> 00:36:08.106
No, I don't think so.

00:36:08.126 --> 00:36:09.467
Back then they probably didn't have cameras.

00:36:09.467 --> 00:36:14.893
Well, it's just crazy, because it's like who knows if those guys are out there did it to someone else, or if she wasn't the first.

00:36:14.914 --> 00:36:27.083
I know right, she was the first, yeah, so I just really had to pray and forgive and forgive and forgive.

00:36:27.083 --> 00:36:31.126
Oh yeah, it's so hard Like I still have to just like Forgive them.

00:36:31.126 --> 00:36:36.740
It's like a yeah, because otherwise it'll just eat me up.

00:36:37.101 --> 00:36:38.802
Did you so 10 weeks in the hospital?

00:36:38.802 --> 00:36:40.545
Did you have to re physical therapy?

00:36:40.545 --> 00:36:44.355
I'm sure it wasn't just the 10 weeks, it was probably at least a year of recovery, right?

00:36:44.556 --> 00:36:44.976
Yeah.00:36:44.976 --> 00:36:47.021


And so so did you go back home?00:36:47.021 --> 00:36:58.304


I was able to go home by Christmas and have surgery to um, have the pelvic fixator, and also I had like skin grafts and stuff.00:36:58.304 --> 00:37:00.614


Yeah, all at once.00:37:00.614 --> 00:37:10.244


But because my mom was was a nurse, they allowed me to go home and recover and I had like a hospital bed at home and like they reconfigured the house.00:37:10.324 --> 00:37:11.952


They made the dining room.00:37:12.032 --> 00:37:17.851


Yeah, they made the dining room like into they had a hospital bed and all that.00:37:18.371 --> 00:37:20.597


Oh my god so how long did that go on?00:37:20.597 --> 00:37:20.637


I?00:37:22.862 --> 00:37:23.342


I don't know.00:37:23.342 --> 00:37:25.608


Probably, I guess, another eight weeks or so.00:37:25.947 --> 00:37:28.518


Maybe another 10 weeks, and then did you go ever back to your apartment on the beach?00:37:29.251 --> 00:37:36.458


Oh no, no, my apartment was in Raleigh and my family had to go and clean it out and tell them what happened?00:37:36.478 --> 00:37:37.260


You just thought it was done.00:37:37.280 --> 00:37:37.862


Yeah, that was done.00:37:37.862 --> 00:37:41.815


And go back to where I worked and tell them You're done, yeah.00:37:41.815 --> 00:37:44.440


So, you moved home, moved home.00:37:44.940 --> 00:37:46.023


Yeah, life's changed.00:37:46.603 --> 00:37:47.385


Completely changed.00:37:47.510 --> 00:38:07.742


Do you feel like you had like, besides like obviously getting saved and wanting to seek Jesus and all that, do you feel like you had like PTSD from the whole experience, like were you freaked out to go out or to I mean, obviously you weren't going out to the bar at that point, but like do you feel like you had like trauma?00:38:07.742 --> 00:38:09.106


Oh for sure.00:38:09.226 --> 00:38:12.494


Yeah, like emotional yeah, yeah, did you go to counseling?00:38:12.494 --> 00:38:13.195


For sure?00:38:13.195 --> 00:38:16.811


Yeah, you have to still in counseling good yeah that's still have.00:38:16.851 --> 00:38:18.231


PTSD from it.00:38:18.231 --> 00:38:28.985


It's just um, I don't know, like when you're in it and trying to heal and get your body back to just functioning.00:38:28.985 --> 00:38:32.969


Yeah, I mean because I had a catheter for a long, I don't know, it's probably too much.00:38:33.150 --> 00:38:34.456


No, it's never too much on here.00:38:34.690 --> 00:38:36.838


I mean, it was almost like I was back to being a baby.00:38:36.838 --> 00:38:42.617


Like that's what my parents and I kind of attributed it to Like it's like I'm being born again.00:38:42.617 --> 00:38:44.577


You know I was born again.00:38:44.577 --> 00:38:49.117


My parents are there doing all the things they do everything.00:38:50.632 --> 00:38:55.199


Well, my mom especially, and then when you said you were so independent, you had like moved.00:38:55.199 --> 00:38:57.376


So, that's really hard to go.00:38:57.637 --> 00:38:58.137


Yeah.00:38:58.199 --> 00:39:00.536


Independent, so like totally dependent again.00:39:00.717 --> 00:39:27.114


Yes, and then after I got home and you know I had to use a wheelchair and then a walker and then physical therapy was coming to the house and just regaining all my strength, and then finally I could go to physical therapy at the gym and do aquatic therapy and just get stronger and try to get stronger and stronger and eventually I was, and praise the Lord and all.00:39:27.114 --> 00:39:29.130


During that time I just wanted to go to church.00:39:29.130 --> 00:39:39.262


So when I was physically able to go to church, there was a pastor and a minister that came to see me while I was in the hospital.00:39:39.262 --> 00:39:49.476


I didn't even know them, but friends who I went to college with were like, oh you know, sent their pastor or their minister to come see me and they would see me in the hospital.00:39:49.590 --> 00:39:58.842


I mean, people just rallied around me and just lifted me up and I really think the power of prayer got me through all those really really difficult times.00:39:59.570 --> 00:40:00.793


Well, I not.00:40:00.793 --> 00:40:01.697


This is not the same.00:40:01.697 --> 00:40:04.010


But I've been through things, even like in here, whatever.00:40:04.010 --> 00:40:11.621


When you go through something, you're like I'm going to change after this, like I'm gonna, I'm going to be better, and even as a kid, you know you negotiate, you get me through this.00:40:11.621 --> 00:40:16.016


I promise I won't miss one more service or I'm going to live different you know in college.00:40:16.056 --> 00:40:27.398


I made those deals all the time so I could see where, maybe after the accident, when you woke up, we're grateful, we're passionate and then, as you're going through, really it looked like the road got harder.00:40:27.398 --> 00:40:30.010


I mean, as hard as that night was in the car.00:40:30.010 --> 00:40:33.900


It wasn't like things turned around quickly ever during that time.00:40:33.900 --> 00:40:34.782


Did you ever change?00:40:34.782 --> 00:40:35.692


Did you ever get like?00:40:35.692 --> 00:40:38.097


You know, I think people get angry or bitter like god.00:40:38.097 --> 00:40:38.860


Why all this?00:40:38.860 --> 00:40:43.717


Yeah, did you ever question that or did you stay on that grateful?00:40:45.221 --> 00:40:52.340


uh, I was super grateful and so excited to go to church just the majority of the time.00:40:52.340 --> 00:40:53.282


That's crazy.00:40:53.282 --> 00:41:01.840


However, like getting dressed and seeing the scars are like huge reminders all the time, all the time, really.00:41:01.840 --> 00:41:03.583


Yeah, what are the scars like?00:41:03.583 --> 00:41:07.297


They're kind of personal like.00:41:07.436 --> 00:41:10.865


I just like it's okay, they're big, yeah, yeah.00:41:10.865 --> 00:41:13.431


So how do you work through that reminder?00:41:15.893 --> 00:41:19.657


uh, just so, thankfulness, gratefulness, youness.00:41:19.657 --> 00:41:27.067


You know, and you know my husband's really good at saying, well, we've got you, you know.00:41:27.067 --> 00:41:31.918


Yeah, that's cute, and my parents too, like I wouldn't have it any other way.00:41:31.918 --> 00:41:34.097


I have you, you know.00:41:34.751 --> 00:41:40.356


So when you you met your husband after all this Mm-hmm, so did you have to tell him what happened to you?00:41:41.199 --> 00:41:50.862


Yes, Like I think that was part of the healing too, Like it was just so big and such a huge story and part of my life now.00:41:50.862 --> 00:41:52.291


Yeah, that I.00:41:52.291 --> 00:41:55.380


It was only fair that I tell him how did you meet him?00:41:55.380 --> 00:41:57.757


I met him through a friend.00:41:57.757 --> 00:42:02.809


We had a mutual friend and I was leading a Bible study.00:42:03.311 --> 00:42:08.400


It was Rick Warren'ss so you got that involved in church after that, yeah, yeah.00:42:08.400 --> 00:42:09.643


So now you're leading a bible study.00:42:09.643 --> 00:42:10.326


How many years later?00:42:11.893 --> 00:42:15.420


uh, I gosh, that was probably only like a year and a half.00:42:15.420 --> 00:42:19.954


That's how much you dove into your faith oh, for sure yeah, that's crazy.00:42:20.916 --> 00:42:22.298


So you had a Bible study and he walked in.00:42:22.659 --> 00:42:25.985


Yeah, it was the no, it was the purpose-driven life.00:42:25.985 --> 00:42:53.023


And my friend's boyfriend came to the Bible study and the boyfriend was in the squadron in the Air Force fighter pilot squadron with Steve and Steve had helped out my friend's mom like move some furniture, and then my, and then Steve asked my friend, hey, do you got any friends you want to set me up with?00:42:53.023 --> 00:42:57.161


Because they were like, oh, thank you so much, steve, thank you for all your help.00:42:57.161 --> 00:43:03.260


You know, uh, I don't even know if they asked the questions or anything you know we could do.00:43:03.260 --> 00:43:06.936


And then he was the joke is he said well, actually, do you have any friends?00:43:07.496 --> 00:43:20.512


you, yeah, set me up with yeah and um, at first my friend was like no, actually I don't, but her boyfriend had met me at the bible study, was like what about Trisha?00:43:20.512 --> 00:43:23.478


And so well, that's it.00:43:23.478 --> 00:43:29.197


We went to a little minor league hockey game and it was a whole squadron.00:43:29.197 --> 00:43:32.054


They all went out and they all knew that my husband was being set up with me.00:43:32.054 --> 00:43:41.088


And then there was another single guy too, and so they put like me in between the two single guys and like wow, yeah yeah, about night they're both like super nice.00:43:41.288 --> 00:43:42.954


Yeah, we're just talking.00:43:42.954 --> 00:43:44.179


Everybody's having a good time.00:43:44.219 --> 00:43:44.842


So you picked.00:43:44.862 --> 00:43:46.007


Steve, I picked Steve.00:43:46.206 --> 00:43:46.769


Yeah, that's so cool.00:43:46.769 --> 00:43:50.139


So how long after you guys started dating did you tell him what had happened to you?00:43:50.139 --> 00:43:51.041


Was it like right away?00:43:51.230 --> 00:43:54.079


Or was it like more serious?00:43:55.331 --> 00:43:55.934


I don't know.00:43:58.311 --> 00:44:00.036


He would probably know the answer to that.00:44:00.036 --> 00:44:06.512


Okay, probably know the answer to that.00:44:06.532 --> 00:44:34.121


okay, so it was probably pretty quickly because I was living with my parents still and I had to like explain that and just kind of like go like, hey, this just happened not that long ago because we talked a lot about our faith, yeah talked a lot about our faith and when he had grown up as a in a Christian family with great parents and great family, and I was like wow really, and I was so intrigued and I was just telling him all the Bible studies I was in and learning about the Lord and I just loved it so much.00:44:35.032 --> 00:44:38.780


Do you think your parents' faith grew through this whole thing too?00:44:38.780 --> 00:44:42.579


Oh yeah, Like did their relationship change with God?00:44:45.650 --> 00:44:49.016


Yes, yeah, I think they definitely became believers.00:44:49.036 --> 00:44:51.159


yeah, that's crazy, that's crazy.00:44:51.159 --> 00:45:00.916


And so where you were living in raleigh, when you were going to, when you were when the accident happened, where your, where your parents live, was that a different city, different city.00:45:00.916 --> 00:45:04.422


So if you wouldn't have come home, you wouldn't have met steve correct.00:45:04.570 --> 00:45:05.672


Yeah, yeah, it was his first.00:45:05.672 --> 00:45:08.119


Uh duty station was in fayetteville, that's cool.00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:09.521


Yeah, that's so cool.00:45:09.521 --> 00:45:13.239


So again, god putting you in the places he wants you for his, his plan.00:45:13.239 --> 00:45:16.697


But you know we talk about this a lot how messy the plan can be sometimes.00:45:16.697 --> 00:45:18.686


This is a very good example of it.00:45:18.686 --> 00:45:32.197


But it's crazy because church last week was about anxiety and it's about how gratefulness attacks anxiety, because anxiety is longing for what we want to be or what we don't have yet or what we're worried we're not enough and this and that.00:45:32.197 --> 00:45:36.896


And then, when we focus on gratitude, it it calms that down, calms those voices.00:45:37.376 --> 00:45:48.858


So the whole time I'm sitting here listening to you speak, you're talking about how grateful you are and that makes me emotional because it's like how do you be that grateful in like such a hard, hard time?00:45:48.858 --> 00:45:50.842


That's a gift.00:45:50.842 --> 00:45:52.090


That's not normal.00:45:52.090 --> 00:45:56.061


Yeah, no, I've been through a lot of medical things and I'm not grateful.00:45:56.061 --> 00:46:01.365


When I'm going through them, I'm very frustrated, yeah, and like relearning to walk and and be like that.00:46:01.365 --> 00:46:08.603


That's a really, really hard time and it literally sounds like the whole time you're just thinking of what you have instead of what you don't.00:46:12.289 --> 00:46:20.777


And that's like such a gift that you're like that and you're like trying to go to church and seek that instead of just like sitting and feeling sorry, which I feel like so many people could choose.00:46:21.030 --> 00:46:33.364


I feel sorry for myself for way less Dang it, you know, sorry, which I feel like so many people could choose.00:46:33.364 --> 00:46:34.449


I feel sorry for myself for way less, you know, but uh, it's just inspiring.00:46:34.449 --> 00:46:35.266


It really is, and it's inspiring, um.00:46:35.266 --> 00:46:38.514


So we're on that flight, we're all at NCA together and, in funny story, trisha's sister-in-law was my college roommate.00:46:38.514 --> 00:46:39.094


It's crazy.00:46:39.155 --> 00:46:40.498


So I know which is so weird.00:46:40.518 --> 00:46:41.501


Steve's family very well.00:46:41.501 --> 00:46:43.260


I think I called him Mike, but that's her husband's name.00:46:43.260 --> 00:46:44.103


But Steve's amazing, I know his.00:46:44.103 --> 00:46:44.364


Which is so weird.00:46:44.364 --> 00:46:44.764


Steve's family very well.00:46:44.764 --> 00:46:45.798


I think I called him Mike, but that's her husband's name.00:46:45.798 --> 00:46:46.570


But Steve's amazing, I know his family very well.00:46:46.570 --> 00:46:53.876


They're amazing and it's so cool as I got, as I've gotten to know you, that it's like crazy Cause seeing that plan unfold, it's like God's perfect purpose.00:46:53.876 --> 00:47:04.335


But, um, you know, when we were at NCA, obviously super scary.00:47:04.335 --> 00:47:06.927


And then when we're on our flight home, tisha does this thing, because I told Tisha this story after Tisha was up in the room.00:47:06.869 --> 00:47:08.045


I don't know why you weren't at the pool with us, to be honest um, yeah, that is weird.00:47:07.987 --> 00:47:09.855


Yeah, you're like you're probably grouchy.00:47:09.855 --> 00:47:13.871


So, anyways, I told Tisha the story after and she couldn't get over it.00:47:13.871 --> 00:47:15.818


You know the lord's prayer, so she was.00:47:15.898 --> 00:47:19.610


I was like that's not real you know, and she's like no, it really is.00:47:19.610 --> 00:47:20.893


And I was like, are you serious?00:47:20.893 --> 00:47:28.557


Cause it's such a like like I don't know anyone that had something that happened, like it's so crazy, you know.00:47:29.510 --> 00:47:31.860


And so she now does the Lord's prayer all the time.00:47:32.050 --> 00:47:44.655


And it's funny because our church did a service on the Lord's prayer and there's like a study like certain personalities have a harder time praying, like um cause, prayer is very abstract, you know.00:47:44.655 --> 00:47:53.780


It's kind of like there's no right way to do it and so for certain personalities that like aren't good with that, like it's harder to pray.00:47:53.780 --> 00:47:57.503


It's like a proven thing and so Is that your personality?00:47:57.503 --> 00:48:00.505


Yes, so like I like direction, like this is what to do.00:48:00.545 --> 00:48:01.326


Is it right or wrong?00:48:01.326 --> 00:48:02.947


You don't want to do it wrong, I want to do it right.00:48:03.027 --> 00:48:12.213


Yes, and so prayer is like really difficult for me, Like unless I have something I've specific I want to pray for, like just to pray on a daily.00:48:12.213 --> 00:48:13.135


It's like I get.00:48:13.135 --> 00:48:15.362


I I'm like oh, what do I say?00:48:15.362 --> 00:48:18.496


Am I doing it right?00:48:18.496 --> 00:48:27.675


The Lord's Prayer and how they dissected it and it because Jesus gives us that, so it's like a very good directive of how to pray.00:48:27.675 --> 00:48:43.222


And so after that service, and then I saw this other girl that I follow on Instagram and she was saying how she was explaining how, why prayer is harder for certain personalities than others, and like how we should use the Lord's Prayer and like pray that, and so I started doing that.00:48:43.222 --> 00:48:43.748


And then she told me the story.00:48:43.748 --> 00:48:45.632


So it was like we should use the Lord's Prayer and like, pray that, and so I started doing that, and then she told me the story.00:48:45.632 --> 00:48:47.268


So it was like three things about the Lord's.00:48:47.289 --> 00:48:47.409


Prayer.00:48:47.409 --> 00:48:49.034


Oh, I didn't realize that was before.00:48:49.034 --> 00:48:57.041


That, yeah, and it was real, because growing up we read the Lord's Prayer every day at church, but, like in newer churches, you don't even learn the Lord's Prayer?00:48:59.313 --> 00:49:07.088


No, and I didn't grow up in church, so the first I heard about the Lord's Prayer is at church, when they did it, like I've heard it yeah, but like not dissected.00:49:07.108 --> 00:49:09.855


It's not like the meaning and the meaning and I didn't even know.00:49:09.894 --> 00:49:11.960


That's like when Jesus was telling him how to pray.00:49:12.141 --> 00:49:13.092


I didn't know what it was.00:49:13.092 --> 00:49:14.356


I just saw the Lord's Prayer.00:49:14.396 --> 00:49:15.579


Like I, didn't know what it was.00:49:15.579 --> 00:49:20.097


So then I learned that, and then I saw the girl on Instagram, and then you told me the story.00:49:20.097 --> 00:49:23.021


So then I felt like God was wanting me to learn the Lord's Prayer.00:49:23.143 --> 00:49:26.429


Oh my goodness, I didn't even know that was all going on.00:49:26.510 --> 00:49:30.561


So I felt like three things happened that were telling me about the Lord's Prayer.00:49:30.561 --> 00:49:33.818


So I was like shit, I'm memorizing this Today.00:49:34.039 --> 00:49:37.137


Yes, today, and then I'm sending it on our family group chat.00:49:37.230 --> 00:49:40.916


I'm like everyone, memorize this Save Trisha's life.00:49:43.929 --> 00:49:46.119


Like I rises, save Trisha's life, like I was dead serious, it's like a big thing in her life.00:49:46.119 --> 00:49:48.246


So then we're on the flight a few weeks ago and we're all saying the lord's prayer.00:49:48.246 --> 00:49:48.849


Trisha's there all the time.00:49:48.849 --> 00:49:51.681


Every fight she starts yelling the lord's prayer.00:49:51.681 --> 00:49:52.525


I'm like here we go again.00:49:52.545 --> 00:50:00.335


I just repeat it over and over and over and it was so ironic because we were all together and we're telling Trisha ask Steve, what's happening with this plane?00:50:00.335 --> 00:50:04.181


And we're saying our, our father, who art in heaven, how will be thy name?00:50:04.181 --> 00:50:06.637


And we were saved again, we landed and it was great.00:50:06.929 --> 00:50:15.858


But it was like such a tool, because at that time you weren't as strong in your faith, but you had the Lord's Prayer, and so that was what you felt comfortable going to.00:50:15.858 --> 00:50:16.755


And, like.00:50:16.755 --> 00:50:20.331


That story will forever give me chills and remind me how real God is.00:50:20.331 --> 00:50:23.213


I never heard you say that he saw someone behind you.00:50:23.213 --> 00:50:31.780


That, to me, is like I'll think about that for a while, For sure For a while that's pretty crazy Little small miracles.00:50:31.860 --> 00:50:33.641


That all happened yeah.00:50:34.322 --> 00:50:37.023


And yeah, Were you nervous to have kids because of your pelvis?00:50:37.023 --> 00:50:38.505


I'm sure they were nervous for you to carry.00:50:39.125 --> 00:50:42.387


Yeah, I think I had to go have like a cat scan.00:50:42.387 --> 00:50:47.675


No, yeah, I think I had to go have like a cat scan.00:50:47.695 --> 00:50:48.619


No, well, yeah I think I did.00:50:48.619 --> 00:50:50.123


I think they had to make sure everything was good to hold.00:50:50.123 --> 00:50:51.989


Yeah, did you deliver like, were you able to push or did you have a?00:50:52.010 --> 00:50:54.414


c-section, uh, okay.00:50:54.414 --> 00:51:01.875


So I had to have a high-risk doctor, not only for my pelvis, but also after I broke my arm.00:51:01.875 --> 00:51:07.516


My arm swelled up like a balloon and they didn't know why and I went to the hospital.00:51:07.516 --> 00:51:14.324


This was like a month after I'd already been home and I went to the hospital and like blood shot out and like shot the doctor.00:51:14.324 --> 00:51:24.360


It's like beautiful white coat on the wall and just like splattered whenever they like pressed it, yeah it was kind of comical at the time because I'd already been through so much.00:51:24.460 --> 00:51:26.146


I was like, oh my gosh, what is happening?00:51:26.146 --> 00:51:27.090


Was it just like a blood bubble?00:51:27.090 --> 00:51:29.215


Yes, it was like a hematoma.00:51:29.215 --> 00:51:30.619


And they're like why do you have a hematoma?00:51:30.619 --> 00:51:31.541


I'm like I don't know.00:51:31.541 --> 00:51:37.476


And so they sent me to the blood the hematologist and they're going to watch you.00:51:38.398 --> 00:51:49.764


So I have another like blood disease, where your blood it's called von Willebrand's doesn't clot right away, and so whenever I was pregnant there's a lot that goes into pregnancy.00:51:49.764 --> 00:51:50.329


It's really just incredible.00:51:50.329 --> 00:52:02.510


Your body kind of like regulates and so while I'm pregnant my blood work is good, like it's, my blood will clot correctly All the things.00:52:02.550 --> 00:52:03.938


That is crazy, but as soon as you give birth, then it's my blood will clot correctly all the things.00:52:03.842 --> 00:52:08.822


That is crazy, but as soon as you give birth, then it's like no, Because you don't want to bleed to death.00:52:08.822 --> 00:52:09.161


Right.00:52:09.161 --> 00:52:14.380


So it's like they didn't want me to lose a ton of blood and I couldn't have an epidural.00:52:15.344 --> 00:52:16.288


You delivered naturally.00:52:16.688 --> 00:52:21.476


Yeah, so first was a C-section because it was a really tiny hospital and they were like we don't know what's going to happen.00:52:21.476 --> 00:52:29.315


I, because it was a really tiny hospital and they're like we don't know what's going to happen.00:52:29.315 --> 00:52:30.139


I didn't make it to the high-risk doctor.00:52:30.139 --> 00:52:31.682


They were two hours away and I was already dilated, like was that post-carry?00:52:31.682 --> 00:52:43.989


Yeah, because I am like about to give birth and I was at a different hospital than I was supposed to be at with it and um, yeah, why it was ready to come out enter the world and come out yeah, couldn't make it, so they just had a c-section.00:52:44.771 --> 00:52:47.356


And you know, I'm so like out of it.00:52:47.356 --> 00:52:50.061


I'm like, okay, yeah, c-section it is.00:52:50.061 --> 00:52:53.333


And so I had a c-section, or that's the best option.00:52:53.333 --> 00:52:55.016


Well, I had to be completely put under.00:52:55.577 --> 00:53:02.780


Oh for that and yeah, because they can't give you the right, no, epidural, no, like tw, whatever it's called when you get it.00:53:02.780 --> 00:53:04.543


Spine block yeah, the spinal whatever.00:53:04.889 --> 00:53:18.889


Yeah, so when I gave birth to Maren, the doctor in Mississippi went back to the paperwork for the the high risk doctor and he had suggested vaginal.00:53:18.889 --> 00:53:19.971


So I had a VBAC.00:53:19.971 --> 00:53:21.373


You had a VBAC.00:53:21.599 --> 00:53:24.927


Yeah, I so wanted to like I felt like, yeah, that's like risky in itself.00:53:24.927 --> 00:53:25.963


That's crazy that you were.00:53:25.963 --> 00:53:27.722


You pushed through that and you did.00:53:27.722 --> 00:53:30.697


You not have an epidural, no epidural, so you had a natural childbirth, yeah.00:53:31.760 --> 00:53:36.704


And it was very rewarding it was like Again, here she is.00:53:40.340 --> 00:53:40.561


I rewarding.00:53:40.581 --> 00:53:42.811


It was like again here she is, I know it's really crazy to say I'm gonna be a better person after no, I hope so.00:53:42.811 --> 00:53:57.782


It's just like the whole time in the hospital, all the nurses like I got to know the nurses pretty well and they were just incredible and um, they're like wow, girl, childbirth's gonna be nothing for you, you know, because of all the pain I went through, yeah, and everything did you feel like it was well again?00:53:57.822 --> 00:53:59.045


that's almost preparing you.00:53:59.166 --> 00:54:08.190


It's weird how mind-blowing you're so intriguing and you're the sweetest thing, thank you yeah, I don't feel that way at all by golly, miss Tisha's just really having a bad day?00:54:08.230 --> 00:54:11.945


yeah, but every day we've seen you ever in our lives.00:54:11.945 --> 00:54:20.833


You're in a good mood and smiling ear to ear like it's just crazy how God's gonna use his testimony and I I think this is the beginning and that's something we talked about that day.00:54:20.833 --> 00:54:24.811


I was that whole day and it was at a time in my life where I was quitting.00:54:24.811 --> 00:54:28.791


I had called people from this trip and said that I'm leaving the team.00:54:28.791 --> 00:54:33.552


Like it was such a big week for me last year when we were at Summit.00:54:33.552 --> 00:54:37.181


That's when I called everyone and started to tell them because I felt like it was so time.00:54:37.181 --> 00:54:48.929


So your story really inspired me and you said I really feel like God wants me to tell my story and I really want to because I'm like you need to write a book, like you need to get this out, like this is something I've never heard in my life.00:54:48.929 --> 00:54:56.835


Yeah, and you were like I just feel like that's my purpose is that God wants me to tell this story, so we're just grateful that we get to be the first time.00:54:57.275 --> 00:55:07.762


Yeah, you know yeah, for sure, so did you do your kids obviously know this story.00:55:07.802 --> 00:55:09.226


Yes, yes, yeah, I don't know that they know, like all the details.00:55:09.226 --> 00:55:48.920


It's funny because, like my mom has told them when they were really young, and then I'm sure my husband has told them a little bit and I just kind of say, yeah, I had a near-death experience, I was hit by a truck, like I don't go into huge detail, but now that they're older I feel like they are ready and I think that is God's provision, because it's a traumatic story and to listen to that they have to be old enough to understand it right and not yeah, and even like steve as an adult, when he heard it, he he was moved like who are these men and how do I find?00:55:49.141 --> 00:55:53.130


yeah, no, it's crazy, and it's just like happens and we're we're naive sometimes.00:55:53.150 --> 00:55:58.463


So I think your story is also going to save people's lives because they're going to be careful who they stay out of at a bar with.00:55:58.463 --> 00:56:00.710


You're going to be careful about what you drink.00:56:00.710 --> 00:56:04.123


You know you had just happened to not be with your core group of friends.00:56:04.123 --> 00:56:06.831


That would have been making sure you're with them when they leave.00:56:06.831 --> 00:56:08.023


Yeah, you know what I mean.00:56:08.023 --> 00:56:20.914


Like it's very I've been, I've gone out with so many people I probably shouldn't have, you know, and it's just such an important story of courage and it's scary.00:56:20.914 --> 00:56:25.681


But it also shows that God can show up in any circumstance when you think.00:56:25.681 --> 00:56:29.682


I mean, who would have thought you would have been out of that car After your teeth were gone?00:56:29.682 --> 00:56:30.887


Who would have thought they would have let you out?00:56:30.887 --> 00:56:32.110


It's crazy.00:56:32.110 --> 00:56:36.469


And the fact that you could see their faces, it's crazy that they let you out.00:56:36.469 --> 00:56:37.552


Yeah, yeah.00:56:38.001 --> 00:56:48.728


So because you have a daughter, obviously, and she's getting older, do you feel like you have fears about her being that age or do you just feel like, oh, trust God, they'll protect her?00:56:48.728 --> 00:56:49.509


Like what?00:56:49.530 --> 00:56:50.452


are your thoughts on?00:56:50.492 --> 00:56:50.711


like.00:56:51.280 --> 00:56:53.286


Oh yeah, we know Tisha's pretty Cause.00:56:53.326 --> 00:56:56.300


I'm, yeah, I'm really crazy, I think every well, oh, no, I worry.00:56:56.342 --> 00:56:58.905


I'm always thinking my kids are getting sex the worst you know?00:56:58.925 --> 00:57:02.072


yeah, absolutely, especially living in a big city.00:57:02.072 --> 00:57:24.887


Yeah, like, yeah, I think I have, um, definitely passed on that anxiety to my daughter a little bit, really, yeah and I think in a healthy way perspective or more like gotta be careful like this can happen time we also have to be smart, right, yeah, we gotta, yeah, uh, row to shore.00:57:24.887 --> 00:57:28.293


You know, we can't, we can't just stand by.00:57:28.293 --> 00:57:34.989


Um, so, yeah, for sure, I I want her to make.00:57:34.989 --> 00:57:36.230


She is better.00:57:36.230 --> 00:57:38.172


She already is better than me she's way better.00:57:38.454 --> 00:58:02.572


Yeah, oh, you're pretty amazing smarter she's, she, she's, prettier, she's, she's amazing, but you're amazing too, she's so I, in that sense, like I don't worry, like I feel like she's so like assertive and sure of herself that she would be like uh no, like she would be able to like protect herself.00:58:02.572 --> 00:58:13.358


However, I do feel like self-defense, like I think about her like learning self-defense yeah, I think that, even with my son yeah, steve really wants the kids to like learn jujitsu and like I do.00:58:13.438 --> 00:58:15.764


I feel like we're at that point like you need to like.00:58:15.764 --> 00:58:22.684


I want them to be prepared and have, if something happens, I agree not just feeling helpless like what do I do?00:58:22.684 --> 00:58:31.931


Like how you felt yeah, and just like know yourself so well, like I don't feel like when we're in our 20s, that we really know ourselves.00:58:31.951 --> 00:58:34.422


I was so bad in my 20s like we're just kind of like.00:58:34.422 --> 00:58:38.565


I was just like you're just lost and very naive that bad things can happen.00:58:38.585 --> 00:58:46.891


Yeah, yeah, it's a very self-thinking about anything bad happening we talked how we went to have a sue and we got on boats with people we didn't know that's very dangerous.00:58:47.012 --> 00:58:48.920


Oh yeah, like a lot of dangerous decisions.00:58:48.920 --> 00:58:51.570


I went to vegas with all my girlfriends crazy.00:58:51.630 --> 00:59:05.873


Oh yeah, something to think about, yeah yeah, so, um, I I think it's so important to have a relationship with the Lord and like to really be strong in that and, yeah, just keep seeking the Lord.00:59:05.873 --> 00:59:11.751


And I think if she stays on that path and if my son stays on that path, I'll protect him.00:59:11.751 --> 00:59:22.793


Yeah, and you know, and I wasn't on that path, I just it was just a tiny little bit of faith that I had in God to save me that day.00:59:22.793 --> 00:59:27.472


I wasn't like a devout Christian, like living the right way at all.00:59:27.920 --> 00:59:28.461


Which I love.00:59:28.461 --> 00:59:38.905


That because I think sometimes we think, as only if you're on that good path are you going to get grace, or protection and all those things.00:59:40.619 --> 00:59:44.869


And you got it, but that's what probably saved you is like you felt so worthy after that, like oh, he saved me.00:59:45.251 --> 00:59:55.818


Yeah, little old me, so much grace and um, yeah, so I do think kids need to like we learn from our mistakes.00:59:55.898 --> 01:00:13.349


But yeah, just well, I like this story because I think sometimes people have a perspective and I have even had this perspective because I've seen things happen not just to me but family members Like why do bad things happen if there's God?01:00:13.349 --> 01:00:23.034


And so I love when people are like bad things are going to happen because God can, because we're bad, people make bad choices.01:00:23.034 --> 01:00:38.371


Yeah, like those guys were bad guys and God didn't let, like he didn't make that happen, you know, but then he was able to save you and it's funny how he can turn any circumstance into good.01:00:38.592 --> 01:00:42.742


Yes, Not funny, but it's amazing Ironic.01:00:42.742 --> 01:00:43.905


No, it's so how he can turn any circumstance into good.01:00:43.965 --> 01:00:44.568


Yes, not funny, but it's ironic.01:00:44.568 --> 01:00:44.909


No, it's so true.01:00:44.909 --> 01:00:49.061


Yeah, so I love how you chose to, instead of being like I can't believe there's still a lot of bad did happen.01:00:49.061 --> 01:00:52.349


Yeah, like there's no God yeah, he let me get hit by a truck.01:00:52.349 --> 01:00:56.807


He let my teeth get knocked out like he let, but instead you were like he saved me.01:00:56.807 --> 01:01:04.211


You focus and I think that's the good lesson, like bad things will happen and all God promises is he's going to be there with us through them.01:01:04.500 --> 01:01:12.333


Which he so evidently was so like if people can learn to cling to that like bad things are going to happen, but he'll be there.01:01:12.699 --> 01:01:13.320


Yeah, every.01:01:13.320 --> 01:01:21.253


It's just like weathering the storm, like yeah, yeah, you know, know, I'm sure you listen to Christian.01:01:21.253 --> 01:01:22.795


I love Christian music.01:01:23.099 --> 01:01:31.447


Yeah, because it's like it just kind of sings what's on your heart and you can trust in the storm, you can have faith.01:01:31.447 --> 01:01:37.059


You know he's been so faithful and you can go back to like how he's been so faithful in your lives.01:01:37.059 --> 01:01:39.525


Yeah, and you know, we have beautiful, healthy children.01:01:39.525 --> 01:01:41.090


We've got good husbands We've got.01:01:41.090 --> 01:01:47.083


Yeah, you know there's just so much that we forget and we kind of To be grateful for you yeah.01:01:47.103 --> 01:01:48.086


Yeah, gratitude.01:01:48.106 --> 01:01:48.929


It's easy to.01:01:49.110 --> 01:01:49.632


Gratitude.01:01:49.632 --> 01:01:51.161


Let's be grateful this week.01:01:51.161 --> 01:01:53.163


Thank you, tricia, you did amazing.01:01:53.163 --> 01:01:54.804


I told the story.01:01:55.224 --> 01:01:59.489


Yeah, I had all these questions I'm like, and then what she's like I don't know.01:01:59.489 --> 01:02:01.210


But then she was hit by a truck.01:02:01.210 --> 01:02:03.271


I'm like, well, how'd she get from the car to the truck?01:02:03.313 --> 01:02:05.474


Like it was like you know I'm the summary.01:02:05.474 --> 01:02:06.235


It changed my life.01:02:06.235 --> 01:02:07.255


Thank you, Trisha.01:02:07.536 --> 01:02:08.416


Oh, it was amazing.01:02:15.068 --> 01:02:17.250


You told it so beautifully, and you trisha I love you.01:02:17.250 --> 01:02:18.271


See you guys next week.01:02:18.271 --> 01:02:26.451


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