S3 E12: From Hardware Hijinks to Hollywood Hope

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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real.

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Hey guys, hey, welcome, welcome.

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Today there's a lot of fun things to talk about.

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Yeah, I guess we'll see when they come out, but today, you guys, we have been so blessed to run into a lot of jerkies out on the streets.

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Yeah, so Tisha always thinks there's two listeners.

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I do feel like there is way more than two.

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Yeah, but we want you guys to know how important it is that you listen, because Tisha wants to quit like every day, every day.

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So keep commenting, keep telling us that you like it.

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Every time I get a nice comment on my Instagram or in person, I send it to her and our pod daddy so that she doesn't quit.

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So, literally, she has nightmares about quitting once a week.

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So keep those coming in.

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I feel like you could run it without me, I mean.

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No, she's trying to quit right now, but keep those comments coming in if you think that someone else.

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It is nice, it is encouraging, yeah it is and that someone else will benefit from this podcast.

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Maybe they want I can't I'm going to be more appropriate today but maybe you know they need help with this or that or whatever we talk about.

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They need a Chevy in their life.

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Yeah, go ahead and share our podcast on Instagram.

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It means a lot to us or any of the places that you watch us, and if you want to give us a review, that would go a long way.

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It really helps us be seen by other new jerkies.

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But thanks again.

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So if you see us, tell us what you like, because it keeps Tisha from quitting.

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Yeah, but moving on, we've had oh, it's been fun some people with some of the trendy topics that's been new for us this season.

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Um, thanks to you know, trying to revamp where we want to be.

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Tisha sent me tisha has nightmares that were too inappropriate and I do too, but she sent me and tyler's gonna laugh but she sent me this great podcast, girls gone Gone Bible.

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Yeah, and it's great, because sometimes when we find something all of a sudden, it's like trending Right.

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So she sends me these girls and we I think we both shared it on our page.

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Yeah, it was a really great info about dating and how you date to marry Right.

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And so then we like deep dived into their podcast and they're like number seven on top charts, because when it's crazy, because when we saw they weren't and then they were all of a sudden In like a few days.

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Yeah, it was weird.

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Same with Mel.

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Robbins, Is the top chart really the top chart?

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I really like them too.

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Oh, I love them.

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I feel like they have so much good like Content yeah.

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Oh yeah, so follow Girls Gone Bible.

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They she's just wanting me to become Girls Gone Bible and I'm watching these girls.

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Well, I was like, look at these wholesome girls, we should be more wholesome.

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And then I listened to it last week Can we cut the Stabler role play?

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They don't know Stabler yet.

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Oh shoot I forgot.

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Yeah, no, she, yeah Last week.

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I listened at the gym this morning and I told her because I'll start to think it's super inappropriate and it is when I listen.

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But I was laughing out loud because sex is something in marriage no one talks about when you don't want you.

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And the thing you did and it was like I felt like I was like with my friends, like yes, well, we're not trying to be inappropriate for being inappropriate, we're just trying to be genuine and we are a little sometimes we're very inappropriate in real life.

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Yeah, like it gets awkward with a lot sometimes, like we use the home depot guy yeah, they, yeah.

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What happened with?

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him remember when you were returning the thing, and then we should probably cut this because we can't tell the story right, yeah, we can.

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Tyler wants it, let's go, I don't remember.

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So crystal bought a fan.

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The fan was broke.

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So we had to go talk to the guy because she, I'm like, just buy the new fan, put the broken part in the other one and return it.

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And she's like that's not being honest, I'm like.

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And then the guy was like, yeah, just do that, but anyways.

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So we go talk to the guy and the poor guy I don't think he's ever been talked to like this.

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We always go after the young ones too and make it weird was he young?

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he was like youngish, like younger than us.

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Yes, oh yeah, I know I feel young, but I'm not, we're not.

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No.

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So he was like early 20s maybe, and we were talking to him and Crystal's telling him the story and he's kind of like oh, you know, just return it.

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And then I, why did I?

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I don't know why we start talking about I don't know where it went.

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Well, we know what we mean about her kitty, because she doesn't have a cat.

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So kitty is like I don't have any fur.

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And so I said, yeah, she's always telling me pet my kitty.

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And then she's like do you like a hairless kitty or you like a hairy kitty, you know?

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So we're saying this.

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This is why we're never gonna be girls got bible exactly they're never calling us to go on their podcast no I don't.

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Well, I think the guy was like, because I think he was uncomfortable about the return and so I was just trying to make him laugh.

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We like to make people laugh.

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We do it with servers, we do it with everybody.

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I don't know if they like it, but they laugh.

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Oh, he was dying, yeah.

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And then he was like I'll buy you a fan by the end.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Well, I think sometimes we talk to people like a we and then it sounds like we're together.

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I think that's where we started.

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That's what it started.

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It was like we're not.

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And then I said, well, she's always trying to get me to pet her kitty and I don't know where it came up with that.

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I know it really takes you there.

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Yeah, it does.

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I just picture it.

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I don't have a kitty.

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Yeah, yours is a hairless.

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Yeah, I'm into the hairless.

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Yeah, but you know you bible, and she was like on her knees at her live event and I was like that's just not me and I was telling tisha from stopping her from yeah, because you're on your knees a lot at home, so she doesn't want to be on her knees, oh I can't sleep.

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We're too inappropriate.

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And then she's telling me to pet her kitty no, but yeah, you are on your knees at home no do it, yeah, laying down, yeah, no, anyways, been moving on.

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I am girl's gone.

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Bible is a good.

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Well, this is why I'm inappropriate, because when it's just you and I and our pod daddy here, it feels like natural.

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And I can be inappropriate because I am inappropriate, so am I.

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But once it comes out, or once I start thinking this is going to go to everyone I know and everyone I see, even though not everyone listens, I start like freaking out, they could, they could find it.

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And then I think of, like my husband and like the people he's doing business with, do they want to know about this?

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And am I embarrassing him, am I embarrassing my children?

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And I start spiraling and then I'll wake up to pee in the middle of the night and then I start spiraling and I can't go back to sleep for hours and I have all these crazy thoughts, you know, the middle of the night thoughts, oh, every time I had so many this weekend.

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So then I call Crystal and she has to talk me off a ledge.

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I'm like we're not quitting it.

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You think like we talked about this too and we're gonna stop saying like I just said it.

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But God created me not to be and I love girls gone bible.

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It's just not the way I'm.

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I've been a Christian my whole life so I don't really like I'm not as you can judge me.

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I've been judged so much.

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I don't feel like I have to stay in that lane to say I, my parents, were always Christian, very Christian, but they still, I guess, sinned or went to the casino or like they weren't in a box where I felt like I had to be one of those.

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I don't know, you know, like the people that are in that lane, they never waver in that lane and I think sometimes for me those type of people are hard to relate because I'm not in a box and so can I still love God and can I still be a Christian and have faith without, you know, being perfect, being perfect.

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But I feel like the secret to our faith is that only Jesus is perfect.

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Right, we all have grace because we're imperfect, and I think sometimes people in Christianity judge each other and people are judging us because we are on this soapbox of saying what people think or say in private.

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We're saying out loud but you're allowed to have sex when you're married, right?

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It shouldn't be something that we're not allowed to talk about, right?

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My mom talked about it with my dad always and I thought it was so cool that they had a healthy sex life, and if you don't want to talk about it, then don't listen.

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Yeah, girls Gone Bible is a great podcast.

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Well, what I like about that podcast is it's very educational.

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Yeah, like.

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Bible-based yeah, because I do think that the world needs more of that, yeah, and so I think that's maybe why it's so popular too.

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I think people crave that.

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And so I crave that, I totally crave that.

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You love a good and see, that's just not me, Like I'll mess it up, but I can.

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I know my faith and I know my stories, but I can't quote the Bible like that.

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Yeah.

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And if I were to try to be that, I wouldn't be authentically myself.

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Right, well, I think that's where it would be weird if they're maybe being authentic, so it's perfect.

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Yeah.

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And that's their calling.

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Yes, my calling is to live on the edge.

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Yes, stay.

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I don't color in the lines.

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Yes and you do.

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And you like to.

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I am more in the lines, kind of gal.

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So, moving on trending topics.

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So we learned a lot about Girls Gone Bible, but trending topics, what's been so cool about running into jerkies, in in the wild?

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You know, out there Influences, yeah, out there influences.

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They'll ask us like, hey, what do you think about this?

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Or why aren't you guys talking about that right, which I can't say the guy's name?

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so let's say it band, oh, justin Baldoni or whatever.

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Yeah, blake Lively feud going on in the big deal media right now they're suing each other, for she's suing him for sexual harassment, he's suing her for defamation, and so it's crazy and we're going to encourage you to pick a side, because we did.

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I've, I've seen Justin, so am I yeah, and I and I wasn't.

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I actually love Blake Lively more than you do, yeah.

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I loved her gossip girl era.

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I was very Blake Lively, you know, yeah, but now not so much for me.

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It's funny because last week we planned on talking about it but we forgot and then later in the day it blew up on social media and I was so annoyed I was like we should have talked about it.

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But we're talking about it now, so she started.

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It started back during the movie.

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We went to see it.

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First of all, it Ends With Us is the best book ever read.

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It's so good.

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I think I read two of her books twice.

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Yeah, I think it ends and it starts with us.

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Yeah, it ends with us.

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I fully read twice.

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Maybe it was the only one.

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It's so good.

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It's the best book.

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If you're above 16, I would say there is still some.

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That's why Tisha likes Colleen Hoover.

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There's always a little risque and she likes to talk about the giddy.

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You know baby girl, but there is some risque, like she likes to like put the blanket over her head.

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Who you no.

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When you're reading no, no, I was like what and pet the kitty?

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I was like Colleen.

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Yeah, no, I didn't know who you were talking about.

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Oh, you do.

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No, but the book theme is about abuse.

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Yeah, domestic violence.

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Domestic violence and like a heavy book.

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But what's so cool about it is that when you're reading it you know it's so easy to judge people that it you know, right, you're, you see, even.

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You know, last night one of my cheerleaders was over the house.

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They were working on something and I got on her about this boy she's talking to, but not, and I'm like, oh good, has he picked you up for a date, right?

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She's like, well, no, I'm like, oh good, I'm like do you guys go to church together?

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She's like, yeah, I'm like, so he picks you up for a date, right?

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She's like, well, no, I'm like, oh good, I'm like do you guys go to church together?

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She's like, yeah, I'm like, so he picks you up and he takes you.

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She goes well, no, we see each other there.

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I'm like, yeah, he's not working for you, right?

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And Kyle's like you're being hard, would you stay right?

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Reading this book gives you like a.

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You can understand the behind the scenes of why you stay right.

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Colleen Hoover writes love stories like you are in love with.

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I'm in love with every guy she writes about Ryle.

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They always have the cutest names, right, ryle.

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And the girls are always like edgy, yeah, but like confident in who they are.

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So you want to be the girl but you want to like the guy and you relate to everything they're feeling.

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It's crazy.

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Yeah, she's the best writer um, yeah, so it makes you side with the victim and seeing why she it's so hard he didn't mean it.

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He didn't mean it.

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I was like team ryle, I'm like alice is boring, you know totally and that no, but not really said that and then when we read the book again, we saw it differently.

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But that first time you're so.

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So what happens in the book is she falls in love with this guy.

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She's not someone that falls in love easily, he's a brain surgeon.

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What?

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girl doesn't want to.

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Yeah, neurosurgeon, yeah, yeah, and it's like he's, he's rich, he's cute, buff, he's.

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He can't be tamed, he loves her, never loved anyone else loves her.

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Oh, he loves and they love each other so good, yeah, so they're so happy.

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And then he acts still horrible to say.

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But the first one I did feel like was an accident.

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Yeah, he accidentally hit her.

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We sound horrible, we can't.

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But in the story youyle.

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So all of us that have ever read the book couldn't wait to see the movie.

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But what bothers me why I'm telling you about the book is Blake Lively hasn't read the book.

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Yeah, he's alleging that she has not read it.

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It's so wrong.

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It's the best book.

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Well, it's rude to like.

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And how did that's?

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I feel like if you're an actress, you need like research.

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Yes, you should be researching your character, and I I feel the most research you can do about this character is to read the novel that you're acting and it's the best novel the way she writes it.

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It's like a story of hero, do you?

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really think she didn't read it.

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I do, yeah, because they kept trying to change the script and if you've read the book and the way he wrote the movie.

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Well, that makes sense because a lot of her interviews after she got slammed because she was talking about lily and her style and her outfits and everyone's saying this is like a really heavy subject around representing a woman that has suffered generational domestic violence and so was.

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She was slammed saying that she wasn't taking, she wasn't depicting the theme of the book the right way and he was, and so I think that's why she got mad, because she looked bad.

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She looked like an idiot she did and anyone that's read that book, the whole theme of it, and she's not 22.

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I mean, I know I try to look 22.

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You did your hair like her after the movie I know but she doesn't look 22,.

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But I know I don't either, but I'm not trying to act like it.

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I thought she looked great in the movie and there was talk that she was carrying baby weight and that he was negative about that and I thought she looked great in the movie.

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I thought she was carrying baby weight.

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I'm just going to say it.

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It's not a shame.

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I filming for six weeks if you have to.

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Oh god, I'm just saying no, I know, but she didn't.

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She looked great in the movie and I think it's almost great that she's not right perfect size in the movie totally because you love lily just as much you're so into lily, even with right.

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But now it's coming out he.

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So she sues him for sexual harassment, which is laughable because if you watch, like I've, Candace Owens is now chiming in and she's reading the pages and pages of the lawsuits.

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So you know me, I can't summarize it cause I'll mess it up.

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But you want more info, go to Candace Owens.

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She's all over this right now.

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But his lawsuit is like a hundred pages and the lawyer is like get ready.

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So he released.

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I guess they said that he was licking her neck and whispering inappropriate things in her ear.

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What Blake Lively's team didn't realize is Justin Baldoni is also the producer, Director, Director of the movie.

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He let the camera roll and the sound while they were doing that video.

00:15:45.601 --> 00:15:49.861
So then last week he released the audio and they're talking about their marriages.

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It's like the most appropriate conversation.

00:15:52.370 --> 00:15:53.634
I saw that in her spray tan.

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Yeah, it wasn't inappropriate.

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He didn't lick her neck.

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She's telling him he needs a nose job.

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It was like the most innocent Right Depiction of what was.

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Is that the right word?

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Yeah, maybe I found a big word.

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I thought it was great though.

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Yeah, kind it's great though.

00:16:07.874 --> 00:16:14.065
Yeah, it kind of goes, but he also now it's like he's released another video last night, I guess, he was yeah.

00:16:14.370 --> 00:16:25.100
Well, now they're saying Ryan Reynolds is the cause of all this, because he got jealous, because they had chemistry, allegedly, I don't know, but they cornered him in their hotel, ryan Reynolds, no.

00:16:25.100 --> 00:16:27.974
Their penthouse, yeah, ryan Reynolds, blake Lively.

00:16:27.974 --> 00:16:30.580
And then they had Taylor Swift there, which is like why is Taylor Swift?

00:16:30.620 --> 00:16:30.860
here.

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She doesn't know anything about a movie.

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And she's.

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Why is she here?

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I don't know.

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I think she has a hairy?

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No, I do, and so I do, and she has all those cats, yeah.

00:16:42.950 --> 00:16:44.134
So, there's kitties everywhere.

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Kitty there, kitty there.

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I'm not a Taylor Swift fan either, so it's fine, but don't post that, because we'll be like, oh, you know, it's like I say, post it, but yeah, so anyways.

00:16:56.697 --> 00:17:03.407
So they were saying that they were using their like star power to kind of like bully him into using Blake's ideas for the movie.

00:17:03.407 --> 00:17:04.867
And he was like, yeah, these ideas are.

00:17:04.867 --> 00:17:12.451
And she sent him this weird text after saying she has like forces and powers and if he doesn't, use her stuff.

00:17:12.471 --> 00:17:13.032
It was kind of weird.

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I'm probably saying it wrong too.

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No, they did something like the lion and then he left her a voicemail at 2 am.

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Now he's releasing the voicemail.

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He's so apologetic and respectful of the voice.

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Yeah, it's not looking like what she's alleging is accurate.

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Yesterday it's not looking good for her.

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Yesterday we saw a video on the plane.

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You know we've been together for about 80, 90 hours consistently because we went on a cheer trip this weekend.

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But on the plane there's a video of him.

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Fans run into him at the grocery store and he won't even touch the girl's back Like in the picture.

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You can see his hand.

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It's appropriately placed on her shoulder and he didn't even like there's this much space between his hand and her back.

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Yeah, so we're saying, if he's that kind of guy, is he really?

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Yeah, or he's just like oh, I'm getting sued, I better keep my hands up here, you know.

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But also A Simple Favor is another excellent book, Such a good book.

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And Blake Lively and Anna Kendrick are in that movie, and now it's coming out that Blake and Anna had beef in that movie.

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And I heard her and Blair on Gossip Girl had beef Well.

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Blake was trying to change the storyline in A Simple Favor 2.

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Did you read that book?

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Blake.

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Maybe she just needs to go, like, make her own movie.

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You know, yeah, it's weird.

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And why are we changing books?

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It's like.

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But anyways, I like.

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If she's having all these issues with people, it's like the common denominator.

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Remember, in cheer?

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Yeah, it'd be like.

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If you're falling in every stunt, you're the common denominator.

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How do you fight with Blair too?

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Yeah, you're the common denominator.

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So if she's the issue and all these issues, she's the issue.

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I know it's bad.

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I think she thought she would take him down, right.

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And then my friend got in an accident years ago and then she was getting sued for the accident and she was single and young and so frustrated and they she ended up hiring a family member that's a personal or a PI, and ended up that the guy was a lawyer, so he was suing her, right.

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And then the PI got involved and my friend didn't remember what happened in the accident.

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It was so traumatic, right, she was in the hospital for months.

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I remember it came out that he caused the accident Because her family that's a PI did all the evidence, so then he sued her and then she ended up winning the lawsuit.

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That's crazy and it's like I think that's what's going to happen here.

00:19:21.577 --> 00:19:30.884
It's like you try to save your name because you're worried about bad publicity, right, and little did you know the bad publicity coming at Blake and Ryan right now?

00:19:30.923 --> 00:19:35.820
Yeah, we'll see, unless she releases some new, allegedly Alleged things.

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I'm team Bandone.

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For now.

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Yeah, what is Bandone?

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Is he Italian Baldone?

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I think there's an L in there.

00:19:41.069 --> 00:19:43.550
Speaking of Italians, let's jump to Paige DeSorbo.

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Yeah, ugh, paige, I love, but what is going on?

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Yeah, I always think, and I'll say this thoroughly you always say a girl doesn't leave unless she has something on the back burner.

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That's what I was going to say.

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No girl just walks out of a relationship where it's like cut.

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Like Craig said, they weren't talking after.

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No girl is that strong.

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Every guy I broke up with I knew it was wrong but I was still like, hey, you busy later, totally.

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Yeah, I miss you.

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Like it's so hard, a hundred percent.

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So when they didn't talk, I'm like something's weird.

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Why, before the holidays, so supposedly allegedly she was with this guy on New Year's.

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We talked about last week, which might not air, but last week we talked about how she His ex-fiance is alleging that Paige was pursuing him and DMing him while they were together.

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Yes.

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Which she fully was.

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Fiance, I'm just disappointed and she was with Craig.

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It's so rude.

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It's so rude.

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I always say if you want to get out, get out Right, don't cheat, don't have an emotional affair.

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Yeah, it was emotional.

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I'm not saying she like did anything, but they were definitely talking Right, yeah, well, we know somebody.

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Well, we kind of.

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Anyways, ben and I know somebody and the guy's wife is leaving him and he was like all distraught and she got a boob job and she was going out and Ben's telling me what he's telling him and I'm like, oh, she totally has someone else.

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You're not leaving your marriage with your new boobs and all this.

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If you're not, there's someone else, there's always someone else.

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There's someone else.

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Girls don't leave that easily.

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I said it right away.

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I'm like there's someone else.

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They really don't.

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So it's sad.

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I know it's sad, but I'm team Craig still.

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I love.

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Paige and Sorbo though, but I'm team Craig.

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I think they're not right.

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That's horrible.

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I'm just kidding.

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I love Ben.

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I'm not going anywhere.

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I know it's just.

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I feel for Craig, like when Jessica Simpson did that years ago when she got her.

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What was that movie your Boots Are Made for Walking?

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Oh, the Dukes of Hazzard.

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Yeah, she got her Duke's body.

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Then she was leaving.

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Nick the.

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Duke's body was like really good, though yeah, she was starving.

00:21:57.451 --> 00:21:58.354
Well, I think sometimes when you chase fame.

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That's why we don't want to be famous, but kind of, but not really.

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Yeah, but we don't really want to be famous.

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We just, you know, no, just rich.

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No, I'm just kidding.

00:22:01.707 --> 00:22:08.150
She always gets mad at me when I say rich so embarrassing I mean like if I didn't have to worry about it money, I think anyone would agree.

00:22:08.150 --> 00:22:16.403
I don't feel like you worry about money right now no, I mean a little like I worry about, like the future you guys.

00:22:16.624 --> 00:22:18.251
You don't even know what she's like to fly with.

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It's so stupid.

00:22:19.654 --> 00:22:20.738
She's worried the whole time.

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She got on the plane yesterday and said I have a bad feeling.

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I said if you had a good feeling I'd be worried.

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I did have a bad feeling looks at the plane the whole time like if you did see the wing flaming.

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What are you gonna do?

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you gonna go out there and put it out I don't know, and I I'm a glutton for punishment.

00:22:35.428 --> 00:22:43.163
You are weirdly no, yes, no, no, we're not, no, moving on, moving on.

00:22:43.163 --> 00:22:48.473
There's some things that stay in a friendship and they're not discussed publicly.

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Anyways, I am a glutton for punishment.

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Stop, I know.

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I know it's a hard.

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No.

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I do when I look out the window.

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If I see the engine on fire, I mean, I half expect to see it when I'm looking out, and when I see it, what are you going to do then, though?

00:23:03.373 --> 00:23:07.015
I don't know, but I know it's coming, and so you always like to not.

00:23:07.015 --> 00:23:08.035
Oh, it's just horrible.

00:23:08.035 --> 00:23:13.656
I hate flying, and it's weird because I'm flying all the time for cheer and I don't get used to it.

00:23:13.856 --> 00:23:16.077
I wish there was a way I need to get hypnotized.

00:23:16.117 --> 00:23:18.338
Have you heard of people like getting hypnotized?

00:23:18.378 --> 00:23:23.780
Yeah, is that godly Maybe not, I don't think so I don't think it is either.

00:23:23.821 --> 00:23:24.882
I think you just pray about it.

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Yeah, I.

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Worries of the devil.

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I know and you're letting the devil in, and I almost think you like it, because you are a glutton of punishment.

00:23:32.704 --> 00:23:34.306
I almost think you like thrive in this.

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Like I'm on the plane, I'm scared.

00:23:35.625 --> 00:23:36.846
Let me look out the window.

00:23:37.007 --> 00:23:38.807
No, I hate every minute of it.

00:23:38.807 --> 00:23:40.067
Then take a dramamine with me.

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I know I say the Lord's Prayer over and over and over 50 times, still scared.

00:23:48.076 --> 00:23:50.138
I know, I know, but you drive like a maniac.

00:23:50.138 --> 00:23:51.961
You almost crashed us 50 times the other day.

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You're texting the whole time.

00:23:53.284 --> 00:23:56.577
You should be scared then I know I don't, I'm not scared, then I don't know.

00:23:56.617 --> 00:23:57.604
We're late for a flight.

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We're running to the airport.

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I think I'm in control when I'm driving and which is crazy because God's control is way more like safe than my control.

00:24:07.575 --> 00:24:10.621
My control sucks, but God's control is way more.

00:24:10.621 --> 00:24:15.577
I should have more of a peace when God's in control, but for me that's a really hard area.

00:24:15.577 --> 00:24:18.491
I know we talk about this and sure.

00:24:18.491 --> 00:24:19.192
Yeah.

00:24:19.292 --> 00:24:24.463
So I don't actually have a hard time most of the time lending God being control.

00:24:24.463 --> 00:24:25.672
I always trust him.

00:24:25.672 --> 00:24:30.862
I always feel like I give it to him, but lately, in certain areas, it's harder for me.

00:24:30.862 --> 00:24:31.743
So I'm getting it.

00:24:31.743 --> 00:24:34.878
I'm getting it how hard it is to release and trust him.

00:24:34.878 --> 00:24:42.595
But I think we talked about this weeks ago and I've still been trying to live like that that sometimes good things come out of the pivots, and I'll say that again.

00:24:43.050 --> 00:24:44.236
Good things come out of the pivots.

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So like when life takes you on a turn, instead of stressing about the turn, enjoy it because he might be taking you somewhere else.

00:24:50.193 --> 00:24:51.596
Like it's God's plan, yeah.

00:24:51.596 --> 00:24:54.478
And like sometimes, even in anything like our friendship.

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We had two years of dark time and, as much as it was hard and I hate that that pivot forever changed everything.

00:25:01.222 --> 00:25:06.407
Like you're a different person, like we'd never have jerking around no, no, but like you grew as a person.

00:25:06.407 --> 00:25:10.577
Your marriage got better, you made other friends that like you're still so close with.

00:25:10.577 --> 00:25:13.885
I feel like the pivot was a good thing, even though it was something really hard.

00:25:13.885 --> 00:25:23.578
And I feel like every time like there's a pivot, sometimes we don't realize God's working it out for the good, but we always want to like maneuver it and you've got to let go.

00:25:24.059 --> 00:25:32.894
But sometimes we want to make decisions right in the middle of a pivot and the hardest thing is, sometimes he wants us to just sit and wait, and I don't think you're good at that.

00:25:32.894 --> 00:25:37.101
I think sometimes, like in life, there's some things you want to make decisions.

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Let's like just pray in it and sit in it.

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Remember, I thought about this.

00:25:41.250 --> 00:25:56.619
Well, I always think God doesn't care about these things because he's like dealing with like the people getting murdered and all the world issues and the people that don't even know him in the dark corners of the world, and so I feel like my problems are stupid.

00:25:56.619 --> 00:25:59.130
So I'm just like I'll solve this Cause.

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It's like minor and God doesn't need to be bothered with this.

00:26:03.574 --> 00:26:13.759
So I'll do this one and then the things that I can't, I can more, like when my control runs out and I know I'm not in control, then I can go to him.

00:26:13.759 --> 00:26:18.241
But if it's something that I can control, which is like 90%, I feel like I'm in.

00:26:18.241 --> 00:26:20.008
I'm not trusting him at all.

00:26:20.369 --> 00:26:22.637
I know, but little pivots, you never know where he's guiding you.

00:26:22.637 --> 00:26:28.318
Yeah, and I think sometimes, like you've made those pivots and like you've taken control, and then later we're like why did I?

00:26:28.318 --> 00:26:28.960
What am I doing?

00:26:28.960 --> 00:26:34.217
Yeah, why did I do that instead of just sitting in it for a minute and not making a rash decision just time?

00:26:34.217 --> 00:26:49.563
Yeah, because, like we always talk about where my kid Maddie, when we were deciding on high school and totally in right fashion of us, you know, we wanted to time that together and go to the same high school and Tisha was asking me where you know, where are you going to go to high school?

00:26:49.563 --> 00:26:50.223
Where are the kids going?

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And I said I don't know.

00:26:51.267 --> 00:26:52.107
God hasn't told me yet.

00:26:52.107 --> 00:26:57.796
Yeah, and you thought that was so stupid, totally, and I literally prayed on it for like a year before.

00:26:57.836 --> 00:27:02.138
And then all of a sudden, randomly, out of nowhere, you ran into, I ran into and Cindy, who I coach with.

00:27:02.159 --> 00:27:04.681
We talk about that story all the time because it was so, from God.

00:27:04.681 --> 00:27:15.229
Yeah, it was a basketball game I didn't really want to go to of a friend of mine's daughter and like I run pretty busy, it's not like I'm just running to a basketball game on a weekday, right, like our kids are very busy.

00:27:15.229 --> 00:27:19.291
So my kids with Kyle I'm not making it look like it, they're our kids.

00:27:19.291 --> 00:27:20.772
Yeah, well, it is our kids.

00:27:20.772 --> 00:27:37.740
Yeah, it's weird, but I went to the same area I've never run into her and, um, we ended up talking and like crying had an hour talk and in the middle of that she, you and I had been talking about coaching.

00:27:37.780 --> 00:27:46.103
It's God laid it on my heart and I was like I feel like I'm going to coach again and I've been praying about it and we were going to go to another school and then she told me that position was opening.

00:27:46.103 --> 00:27:51.170
But she said to me that first night I'd like you to coach with me and it was at the one school I didn't want to go to.

00:27:51.170 --> 00:27:52.151
I didn't want to go to Liberty.

00:27:52.151 --> 00:27:53.236
I thought it was.

00:27:53.236 --> 00:27:55.201
I had my own pretense of what it was like there.

00:27:55.221 --> 00:27:58.496
I was like I don't want to it's Liberty, like I don't.

00:27:58.496 --> 00:28:01.940
But again, if that was my choice, that wouldn't have been where I would have picked at that time.

00:28:01.940 --> 00:28:14.710
I would just picked something, whereas you were just like hold on, I'll know there's a sign and then a very clear sign, very clear sign, and I look at like the people God has put in our life.

00:28:14.750 --> 00:28:18.285
From that school and from that decision, they're God.

00:28:18.285 --> 00:28:22.561
It's not just about where my kids go to school, it's like who furthers their faith.

00:28:22.561 --> 00:28:23.839
Who's furthering my faith?

00:28:23.839 --> 00:28:32.761
Right Like the people I coach with make me so much better of a person.

00:28:32.781 --> 00:28:33.505
They fill my cup my kids direction.

00:28:33.505 --> 00:28:34.709
Who you make friends with in high school is a big deal.

00:28:34.709 --> 00:28:35.592
Totally, they're all Christian.

00:28:35.592 --> 00:28:36.997
It's like crazy what he did in that decision.

00:28:36.997 --> 00:28:44.060
Yeah, so I think in those small pivots, even when I found Top Gun years ago, one of my favorite things this weekend, we were on a cheer trip.

00:28:44.060 --> 00:28:51.420
This last weekend Our girls do competitive cheerleading We've probably talked about it and they cheer at Top Gun All-Stars, Peoria and we're obsessed with it.

00:28:51.441 --> 00:28:54.923
there we're obsessed with it, and our gym owner is one of our very best friends.

00:28:54.923 --> 00:28:59.909
Yeah, he's the best I've talked about on here, who I admire, and he's one of my favorite people I admire.

00:28:59.909 --> 00:29:02.172
They always say he's actually a jerky now.

00:29:02.172 --> 00:29:07.461
Yeah, but they always say you want to be in a circle with people that are better than you, and that's who he is to me.

00:29:07.461 --> 00:29:09.663
Yeah, he's like someone I aspire to be more like.

00:29:09.683 --> 00:29:10.986
He's amazing, anyways.

00:29:10.986 --> 00:29:15.477
So our highest level team who's the best team level six team competed.

00:29:15.477 --> 00:29:18.987
We went and watched, and as soon as they finished, it was a perfect routine.

00:29:18.987 --> 00:29:32.644
As soon as they finished, they walked through the parents and, before they celebrate with their parents, they pulled them over to a huddle, they got in a circle and they thanked God it was so cool to me and the coach prayed and he thanked God for all the things.

00:29:32.644 --> 00:29:33.247
Thank God for the athletes.

00:29:33.247 --> 00:29:34.795
Then, after they finished, they went and celebrated.

00:29:34.795 --> 00:29:36.338
Right, and I'm like it's so.

00:29:36.338 --> 00:29:44.065
Not about sports, it's not about shooting, it's not about the bow, it's not about the full, it's about what this program is teaching my kids.

00:29:44.065 --> 00:29:54.183
Right again, though, god put our kids at this gym with these people to grow them closer to him, and they're small decisions, but they forever changed the trajectory of our life.

00:29:54.183 --> 00:30:04.406
Yeah, so trust, but speaking of on the way, here we were talking about club sports and I felt guilty many times about how busy we run.

00:30:04.756 --> 00:30:09.701
You know like I don't know about your week, but Monday we have this After school.

00:30:09.701 --> 00:30:17.739
Tuesdays are it's every night lighter night, but usually a practice gets put on there too, wednesday night, something Thursday night, something Friday, saturday, sunday.

00:30:17.739 --> 00:30:22.517
It's crazy and I think the the motto out there is that too busy is too busy.

00:30:22.517 --> 00:30:25.183
You don't want your kids running around, you don't want to miss this time.

00:30:25.183 --> 00:30:27.135
Yes and after we.

00:30:27.135 --> 00:30:27.999
Can you know, or?

00:30:28.019 --> 00:30:32.278
we fill the kids with so much sports and all these things that don't matter that they're too busy.

00:30:32.278 --> 00:30:33.563
That's kind of like.

00:30:33.563 --> 00:30:35.976
There's like both sides of the spectrum.

00:30:36.678 --> 00:30:44.605
And I would say that probably I was on the other side Kevin Lehman, someone I really respect, as, like a parental leader, always says, they're not hamsters.

00:30:44.605 --> 00:30:47.659
Don't run them on a wheel, don't keep them so busy that they can't breathe.

00:30:47.659 --> 00:31:09.202
Right, I don't think I'm doing great and not keeping them so busy they can't breathe, but lately, with the phones and the video games and everything that goes on at home, I don't want them sitting at home on electronics and when we are home, sometimes the tensions are a little weird and I feel like that's something people don't talk about.

00:31:09.202 --> 00:31:10.799
Like what does a family night look like?

00:31:11.080 --> 00:31:16.258
right because we talked about it once that we I thought your family nights were amazing.

00:31:16.258 --> 00:31:18.002
You thought my family nights were amazing.

00:31:18.022 --> 00:31:19.255
I'm all get out of here.

00:31:19.255 --> 00:31:24.155
I don't care if you hate the movie, you're watching it or you're grounded and it's like yeah.

00:31:24.195 --> 00:31:29.364
So like I have this like insecurity of are we doing enough like we've done, like game nights times.

00:31:29.364 --> 00:31:31.066
It's kind of awkward but we do it.

00:31:31.066 --> 00:31:34.657
But then we'll make them watch a show with us or a movie to get them out of their rooms.

00:31:34.657 --> 00:31:41.782
But my kids are in their rooms a lot when we're home so I don't really want them in their rooms on social media or playing sports.

00:31:41.782 --> 00:31:50.477
So I don't mind keeping them busy because I noticed that for me there's a healthy limit, right, there's busy enough where I'm productive, but too busy where I'm spinning.

00:31:50.477 --> 00:31:58.462
And that's what last year was Right, it was too busy, I'm spinning, I'm missing moments, I'm missing life, I am too distracted.

00:31:58.462 --> 00:32:10.626
So I feel like I learned how to be present, right, but in still being present, I think some of my best memories or moments with my kids have been through club sports, right, and some of my favorite people I've met has been through club sports.

00:32:10.894 --> 00:32:20.300
Well, like you said, so, nowadays, when kids are at home, unless you're planning and you're having implementing things, which, if you do that, that's amazing.

00:32:20.415 --> 00:32:26.050
Yeah, and I'm not that mom, but I love it If you're implementing like no phones, we're doing this, we're doing this.

00:32:26.050 --> 00:32:26.974
I love that.

00:32:26.974 --> 00:32:28.596
Sherry Beltrama was great at that.

00:32:28.875 --> 00:32:33.420
But a lot of times when kids are home it's almost the opposite of like now.

00:32:33.420 --> 00:32:53.901
When they're home, they're scrolling, they're playing video games or they're on their phone or they're on electronics or they're being antisocial, where when they're in the club sports and they're interacting in more real life because now so much of life is virtual it's almost like isolation.

00:32:53.901 --> 00:32:59.105
More when they're home, because I feel like you know, my oldest is not in.

00:32:59.105 --> 00:33:02.643
He's between football and we're making him do track.00:33:02.643 --> 00:33:06.362


He's real excited, but he's in between.00:33:06.362 --> 00:33:14.928


So he had a couple months and it's like he's coming home and playing video games and and I'm working and and the other kids are at sports.00:33:14.928 --> 00:33:16.375


So there's not a lot for him and I to do.00:33:16.375 --> 00:33:21.115


We'll watch shows or whatever, but there's not a whole lot planned at home and I'm finding the idle time.00:33:21.115 --> 00:33:28.326


He's grouchier than when he was busier in the beginning of the season of the year and he's a lot less less social.00:33:28.326 --> 00:33:33.381


He was talking to friends every day because they were in football and now I feel like he's almost.00:33:34.282 --> 00:33:36.675


It's the opposite, yeah, and you wouldn't think it would be.00:33:36.675 --> 00:33:39.932


You'd think, oh, he's at home and he's getting more missing assignments.00:33:39.932 --> 00:33:42.179


He has more time in his hands weird, yeah, yeah.00:33:42.179 --> 00:33:56.221


So, and I do think being so busy and learning to juggle and balance is like a really good skill to learn young, because as a mom or a dad, you have to learn to juggle work, parenting, all the things.00:33:56.221 --> 00:34:05.538


So I think it's good for them to learn early on how to manage your time, how to manage oh, if I have practice, I have to get this homework done, or you know, it's just good life skills.00:34:05.538 --> 00:34:09.800


But I do see, like the people that move to a homestead and they they work family, they have the rules.00:34:09.800 --> 00:34:09.920


I love that too.00:34:09.920 --> 00:34:10.105


I wish I could be like that.00:34:10.105 --> 00:34:11.717


I do see like the people that move to a homestead and they they work family, they have the rules.00:34:12.018 --> 00:34:12.398


I love that too.00:34:12.398 --> 00:34:13.161


I wish I could be like that.00:34:13.161 --> 00:34:16.137


I do too and I compliment I contemplate it daily.00:34:16.418 --> 00:34:19.166


Yeah, because I'm like this world's whacked, let's get out of here.00:34:19.246 --> 00:34:24.746


You know, yeah, it's hard, yeah, I, I feel but I don't think it has the bad name that you say.00:34:24.746 --> 00:34:28.259


I always worry if it's enough family time, and I think that's a normal thing.00:34:28.259 --> 00:34:31.563


I think a lot of people worry and then we're fighting.00:34:31.563 --> 00:34:37.409


When we're all together, the kids are fighting, I'm fighting, and then you look at other people on social media and you're like they don't look, like they're fighting.00:34:37.409 --> 00:34:38.710


Why are we fighting?00:34:38.710 --> 00:34:40.175


Why is family night so fun?00:34:40.195 --> 00:34:47.983


This weekend was family time because I was with my daughter all weekend and not a lot am I with her for three or four days uninterrupted.00:34:47.983 --> 00:34:49.324


We were together the whole time.00:34:49.324 --> 00:34:51.067


It was a lot of family time.00:34:51.067 --> 00:34:53.610


I wasn't off, but it's only two of you, right?00:34:54.070 --> 00:34:58.454


So, like we don't fight, no one's fighting, yes, no one's yelling Right, there's not like this tension.00:34:58.474 --> 00:35:01.934


But I'm saying that was through club sports that there was family time.00:35:02.074 --> 00:35:04.838


Yeah, you know what I mean?00:35:04.838 --> 00:35:06.021


The kids, what's their favorite trip?00:35:06.021 --> 00:35:11.168


We've gone on and everybody knows Tisha and I like to travel because we didn't go on a lot of trips growing up, so we try to make up for it.00:35:11.168 --> 00:35:22.063


We all have our reasons, um, and they always say like they're cheer trips and I'm like right, really, I know all these places we go, but I think it's just the dynamic of all of it right now it's.00:35:22.344 --> 00:35:37.559


It's such a cool memory and now that you're fading out, because last year my oldest it was her last year with Top Gun, because then I encouraged her to do high school, to get involved in the school, and I was like getting so sad all year and Tisha's like no, I'm ready, I'm like you're dumb, you know.00:35:37.579 --> 00:35:41.775


Yeah, it's so busy, I'll be glad when it's done Right, I'm all the millions of dollars in travel.00:35:41.775 --> 00:35:44.858


It's millions of dollars, but then I'm sad for you now.00:35:45.077 --> 00:35:47.579


I'm so sad, because then I'm losing you.00:35:47.599 --> 00:35:52.521


I know I'm so sad and I'll be traveling without you, it's like so many cool memories.00:35:52.521 --> 00:35:52.963


I know.00:35:53.163 --> 00:35:58.025


And even with Broxton, like with his baseball team, I love their families.00:35:58.166 --> 00:35:59.126


Yeah, I love the families.00:35:59.146 --> 00:36:03.768


It's like the best families we have the best time, so even when we played football I love.00:36:03.768 --> 00:36:10.152


You've been blessed to meet a lot of people, but I think the tensions come when you're running around so much that you're not spending time with your husband.00:36:12.855 --> 00:36:13.583


I saw a clip and I've shared it.00:36:13.583 --> 00:36:14.434


Yeah, that's almost the time that suffers.00:36:14.434 --> 00:36:16.864


It's not the kid time, because you're all about the kids.00:36:16.864 --> 00:36:25.016


It's like the connecting with your spouse, because if you have more than one or two kids, you're dividing, and I think that's where the club scores go wrong.00:36:25.036 --> 00:36:25.538


With the family?00:36:25.538 --> 00:36:28.260


Yeah, Because even last night I was gone with Tisha.00:36:28.260 --> 00:36:33.327


It's so sounding like we're together, but I was gone with Tisha for a couple of days and Hudson, my middle daughter.00:36:33.327 --> 00:36:35.550


So when I got home Maddie had friends over.00:36:35.550 --> 00:36:36.670


They were working on a project.00:36:36.670 --> 00:36:43.599


Broxton really wanted my attention, Kyle really wanted my attention, and then I was behind on work because we were on a plane.00:36:43.599 --> 00:36:44.000


So I felt so pulled.00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:47.684


But I've been trying to choose Kyle first, because they always say it's God husband, then kids.00:36:47.704 --> 00:36:50.168


Well, and the kids will be happier seeing you guys together.00:36:50.188 --> 00:36:55.525


Yeah, someone posted that your kids, what they want for you most, is to see you choose each other first.00:36:55.815 --> 00:36:57.222


And that makes them the most secure.00:36:57.222 --> 00:37:04.813


So you're like helping their self-esteem and their psyche by seeing a strong family, yeah.00:37:04.972 --> 00:37:10.103


Marriage unit yeah yeah but I always feel guilty sometimes Because, Broxton, I want to watch a show with him too.00:37:10.103 --> 00:37:12.027


Speaking of a show, Night Agent.00:37:12.027 --> 00:37:12.847


Have you watched that?00:37:12.867 --> 00:37:14.838


Yeah, season two's out.00:37:14.838 --> 00:37:16.123


Yeah, ben's, he put it on last night.00:37:16.123 --> 00:37:19.237


I was kind of distracted, but yeah, you can't be, and the guy grew a beard.00:37:19.237 --> 00:37:19.838


I'm like no.00:37:19.858 --> 00:37:20.920


No, no, no, that's only the beginning.00:37:20.920 --> 00:37:22.681


He shaves it and he's back yeah.00:37:22.681 --> 00:37:33.583


Not even by the end of the episode he's back.00:37:33.583 --> 00:37:34.289


Yeah, because that was kind of like.00:37:34.311 --> 00:37:37.121


you know, I was into it and then I was like, ooh the beard, Do you guys play Night Agent?00:37:37.121 --> 00:37:38.661


No, but maybe we will.00:37:54.494 --> 00:37:54.876


I kitty, it's shaved.00:37:54.876 --> 00:37:56.041


Oh only hairless cats around here, boy, oh boy, oh boy.00:37:56.041 --> 00:37:57.548


Speaking of, though, when we're on our trips we were talking in the car.00:37:57.548 --> 00:38:04.215


We try not to talk on the way here but something that's new as your kids get older especially our daughters is the attitude you get of not being cool.00:38:04.215 --> 00:38:09.721


There's this all of a sudden, when you go from the kids wanting to spend time with you to you're not cool anymore.00:38:13.695 --> 00:38:13.976


Which I'm like.00:38:13.976 --> 00:38:16.474


You kind of do think I'm cool because you're still stealing all my clothes, but you act like I'm the giant, a giant idiot.00:38:16.474 --> 00:38:19.461


It's so, and I don't feel like boys do that.00:38:19.461 --> 00:38:24.085


Maybe they do, that's the jerkies, but like I feel like my boys do not think I'm an idiot whatsoever.00:38:24.644 --> 00:38:28.427


I feel like they'll have their stage where they're not as clingy with their mom.00:38:28.427 --> 00:38:30.309


But I don't think it's like a competition.00:38:30.309 --> 00:38:32.949


I think with girls there's this level of like I'm.00:38:32.949 --> 00:38:34.971


It's like the way they grow away from you, right?00:38:35.012 --> 00:38:38.277


they want to establish their own identity yes and they don't want to be in your shadow.00:38:38.277 --> 00:38:43.637


They don't want to be like you for a minute right, because my daughter and I I feel like we've always had a really great relationship so close.00:38:43.637 --> 00:38:48.784


She's always been sassy but like I don't know, she now acts like I'm a giant idiot.00:38:48.804 --> 00:38:51.947


See, and I don't see that you're not close and all this stuff you're talking about?00:38:51.967 --> 00:38:52.909


Well, she's just mean.00:38:53.469 --> 00:38:54.030


Yeah, and it's.00:38:54.369 --> 00:38:56.980


She says some things and I'm it's.00:38:56.980 --> 00:39:00.594


I'm having a hard time with it and Crystal's like you're too sensitive and I think I'm just not used to it.00:39:02.617 --> 00:39:04.820


I think it's good to lock it down.00:39:04.820 --> 00:39:07.606


I I think like sometimes like us not being cool.00:39:08.527 --> 00:39:13.034


that's not really, which I don't feel like being cool, but she makes me feel stupid all the time yeah, there they go together.00:39:13.054 --> 00:39:13.514


That's what it is.00:39:13.514 --> 00:39:13.894


That's what it is.00:39:13.894 --> 00:39:24.083


It's like not like I'm trying to be, I'm the cool mom, but like, don't make me feel like an idiot when I'm just standing there paying for millions of dollars of things for you and taking you on your stupid cheer trips.00:39:24.083 --> 00:39:31.199


They're not stupid, but you know what I mean.00:39:31.199 --> 00:39:31.882


Yeah, I'm, I'm feeling like you.00:39:31.882 --> 00:39:34.030


You're making me feel like an idiot when I'm just here for you and I do not like that feeling.00:39:34.030 --> 00:39:34.773


It enrages me, in fact.00:39:34.994 --> 00:39:36.597


Clearly yeah.00:39:36.597 --> 00:39:40.996


But I think sometimes it's important to know it's not so personal as much as it's them growing.00:39:41.275 --> 00:39:41.476


Right.00:39:41.677 --> 00:39:44.842


And she's not trying to hurt you, she's not trying to do all that.00:39:44.842 --> 00:39:47.826


She still can't disrespect for you outwardly Totally.00:39:47.826 --> 00:39:50.429


But I think sometimes kids are just growing in their own way.00:39:50.429 --> 00:39:51.599


They can't disrespect.00:39:51.599 --> 00:40:00.547


But I think there's a period, like I told Tisha last year, eighth grade with my oldest I didn't sounds bad, but like I didn't enjoy time with her like I used to.00:40:00.695 --> 00:40:02.208


That's how I'm feeling now and we're in eighth grade.00:40:02.208 --> 00:40:03.094


Maybe it's an eighth grade thing.00:40:04.536 --> 00:40:07.159


It's an eighth grade, maybe transition, and I'm looking forward to next year.00:40:07.159 --> 00:40:08.019


But, last year I went.00:40:08.019 --> 00:40:11.983


You're usually one of my favorite people to be with and right now I like want to get you out of the car.00:40:11.983 --> 00:40:13.764


Yeah, You're making me feel like an idiot.00:40:13.925 --> 00:40:14.525


That's how I feel.00:40:14.525 --> 00:40:15.106


24-7.00:40:15.126 --> 00:40:19.050


Yes, like she used to make me feel good, and then I felt like an idiot, like I felt like insecure.00:40:19.231 --> 00:40:20.192


And we'd like laugh.00:40:20.192 --> 00:40:27.224


Yeah, like you know, like it's really weird.00:40:27.224 --> 00:40:28.485


I'm like where's my sweet daughter?00:40:28.485 --> 00:40:29.527


Bring her back, you know.00:40:30.088 --> 00:40:44.715


I think it's just a phase and I think, the more you I have, I have someone in my life that's super close to me that I went to dinner with and she told me once your kids are going to go away, you're going to think you've lost them.00:40:44.715 --> 00:40:46.094


You're going to think where they go.00:40:46.094 --> 00:40:47.177


I don't even know these people.00:40:47.177 --> 00:40:48.650


She's like you need to just sustain it.00:40:48.650 --> 00:40:50.271


They come back, she's like.00:40:50.271 --> 00:40:50.932


But let them grow.00:40:50.932 --> 00:40:53.135


Don't take it personal, don't overanalyze it.00:40:53.135 --> 00:40:55.036


It's just them growing and they'll.00:40:55.036 --> 00:40:59.920


And I think it's so important to not overly react that's one of Kevin Lehman's things is don't overly react.00:40:59.920 --> 00:41:01.081


Right, be in control.00:41:01.081 --> 00:41:02.702


You know like what you did.00:41:02.702 --> 00:41:03.342


Take their phone.00:41:03.342 --> 00:41:07.905


If they disrespect, take it, do an immediate consequence, but don't make it so personal.00:41:08.206 --> 00:41:08.407


Right.00:41:08.407 --> 00:41:17.452


Well, I do that Sometimes they're not happy, and my obviously, as a mom, you want your kids to be happy.00:41:17.452 --> 00:41:29.603


So when I notice my oldest and my daughter, if I notice them unhappy or like moody and just kind of seeming meh, I immediately want to fix their problem, especially my oldest.00:41:29.603 --> 00:41:30.391


I'm like what's wrong?00:41:30.391 --> 00:41:31.152


And he's like nothing.00:41:31.152 --> 00:41:34.972


I'm just tired and I'm like, oh no, well, you seem grouchy, you seem like you're upset, you seem.00:41:34.972 --> 00:41:39.583


And then I finally had to remind myself and if he's not happy it's fine.00:41:39.583 --> 00:41:43.862


I was not happy for a lot of childhood and nobody cared, but it was good.00:41:43.862 --> 00:41:45.009


You're not going to be happy all the time.00:41:45.009 --> 00:41:46.514


I think that's an American culture thing.00:41:46.673 --> 00:41:50.431


Yeah, like you've got to be happy and you got to change your attitude and you got to it's.00:41:50.431 --> 00:41:52.494


You actually grow a lot through unhappy times.00:41:52.494 --> 00:41:54.717


Totally Like the last year was amazing for me.00:41:54.717 --> 00:42:01.710


Yeah, with my dad I wasn't happy a lot, totally, and it was so much growth right and I appreciate things so much differently.00:42:01.710 --> 00:42:05.219


Yeah, but no one was gonna make me change my attitude about my loss no.00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:15.599


so now when I'm like seeing him unhappy I'm, or my daughter, I just kind of like ignore it and try to act like it's no big deal because they're then they're fine five minutes later.00:42:15.599 --> 00:42:16.561


It's just kind of a.00:42:16.561 --> 00:42:18.612


It's the hormones too, I think it's just all of it.00:42:18.612 --> 00:42:28.516


And as as a teenager I was remember when Darlene on Roseanne, I like watched Roseanne and I was like, oh, darlene wore all black and was unhappy and then she got whatever she wanted.00:42:28.516 --> 00:42:29.940


So I was like I'm going to be Darlene.00:42:29.940 --> 00:42:35.855


So I started wearing all black and reading my book all the time and my family was like, yeah, yeah, okay, so we're going on, you know.00:42:35.855 --> 00:42:37.115


And then no one cared.00:42:37.115 --> 00:42:38.536


So then you came back, yeah.00:42:38.536 --> 00:42:40.018


So I was like, well, this sucks, you know.00:42:40.498 --> 00:42:41.619


But I tried it for like a month.00:42:41.619 --> 00:42:47.384


I was like I'm not talking to anyone, darlene wouldn't talk in the show and she just wouldn't talk to anyone and engage.00:42:47.384 --> 00:42:59.541


And it's actually really smart that they put that in a show, because kids do do weird things, they do.00:42:59.541 --> 00:43:01.085


And so I was like I'm not going to the wedding.00:43:01.085 --> 00:43:02.875


She's like okay, honey, we'll see you later.00:43:02.875 --> 00:43:05.161


And I was like, oh, cause, I thought it was.00:43:05.161 --> 00:43:05.670


I was mad.00:43:05.670 --> 00:43:06.353


She was getting married.00:43:06.353 --> 00:43:24.427


You know, it was like the fifth time or something, and I was like, well, I'm going to show her and then I'm going to be Darlene, and it's no one cared if I was happy and I think it was good for me to figure things out on my own.00:43:24.550 --> 00:43:28.139


you know, oh God, I had a mullet and was the fat kid in the corner and no one cared.00:43:28.139 --> 00:43:28.702


No one cared.00:43:28.702 --> 00:43:29.731


Yeah, I'm all mom.00:43:29.731 --> 00:43:37.961


They all said they're going to that I'm like butter the most fattening thing in the world and they said so you're going to gymnastics?00:43:37.961 --> 00:43:41.306


Yeah, and I'm like mom she never fed into feeling sorry.00:43:41.510 --> 00:43:42.635


Yeah, that's how I am now.00:43:42.635 --> 00:43:44.858


I'm trying to be with the kids Never fed in.00:43:45.038 --> 00:44:05.208


Yeah, but something interesting that you're reminding me of what we talked about this weekend and that we want to remind our kids about is like we are and you've taught me this before and I want to say it again your kids are what you say, they are Right, and so we have to be careful, when we are disappointed or we are frustrated with them, that we're not telling them they're someone else Right.00:44:05.208 --> 00:44:07.844


So you told me once, Like why are you depressed?00:44:08.005 --> 00:44:09.492


or something or even like sometimes.00:44:09.893 --> 00:44:15.436


I was listening to our podcast this morning and we were talking you were telling a story about our wonderful clients and how they don't.00:44:15.436 --> 00:44:19.018


They don't talk bad to each other, but they call their kids dumbass.00:44:24.690 --> 00:44:24.931


But where we?00:44:24.951 --> 00:44:25.894


didn't say is like they were joking.00:44:25.894 --> 00:44:27.601


Oh, he was kidding, not like you dumbass, he was using it as an example.00:44:27.601 --> 00:44:30.050


It was funny, but I do think sometimes we got to be careful not to call them names or say you are this.00:44:30.050 --> 00:44:33.619


You know, we do it, naturally, but you always taught me.00:44:33.619 --> 00:44:45.856


One kid's dad always said you're going to be in jail one day if you don't get your stuff together and if you don't get good grades.00:44:45.856 --> 00:44:46.277


And he went to jail.00:44:46.297 --> 00:44:51.092


And this weekend I had an epiphany where someone in my life always makes fun of my coaching, to be honest, and my old coaching and I had ran into one of my cheerleaders who's also jerky.00:44:51.092 --> 00:44:57.135


You know who you are and we had the best talks and she reminded me of so much of who I was that I literally forgot.00:44:57.135 --> 00:45:01.849


Right, and it was like so crazy that I started to identify as this other thing.00:45:01.849 --> 00:45:05.498


Yeah, not identifying in a weird way, but you are who people tell you.00:45:05.498 --> 00:45:06.342


You are Right.00:45:06.342 --> 00:45:12.641


So it's so important, even when our kids are bugging us and even when that we're so empowering them that they are good, even when they're being nasty.00:45:12.641 --> 00:45:14.010


Right, you know, you are like.00:45:14.010 --> 00:45:16.034


Maybe not, you're a brat, I'm like ooh, yeah.00:45:16.094 --> 00:45:22.445


Yeah, but, like, I know you're going through some things right now, but you're still great, right, like, and you'll figure it out and empower them.00:45:22.445 --> 00:45:24.119


I did call her that Instead of like, call it.00:45:24.119 --> 00:45:26.766


Take it personal, right, because that's how the devil works through things.00:45:26.766 --> 00:45:27.550


Yeah Is like.00:45:27.550 --> 00:45:32.992


Divide you guys, make you guys separate, right, tell her she's these bad things, but you want to be a mom.00:45:32.992 --> 00:45:35.974


That's never, ever Like.00:45:35.974 --> 00:45:41.157


Even I said my parents, no matter how good or bad I was at anything, they always acted like I was the best at it.00:45:41.157 --> 00:45:45.882


Right, I was literally dead last in cross country and they're like you did it, you know.00:45:45.882 --> 00:45:46.902


And they looked at each other.00:45:46.902 --> 00:45:51.867


In swim team, I was pulling on the lane lines and sinking, literally, and they were like you did it.00:45:51.867 --> 00:45:56.130


They wouldn't critique me, they wouldn't say what I could have done better.00:45:56.130 --> 00:45:56.692


They never did that to me.00:45:56.692 --> 00:46:00.217


They always told me I was great and like my brother and I have confidence of.00:46:00.217 --> 00:46:00.938


Like a donkey.00:46:00.938 --> 00:46:02.161


Yeah, does donkey have confidence?00:46:02.161 --> 00:46:04.864


I'm all I don't know, Maybe they do An elephant.00:46:05.490 --> 00:46:06.253


We have good confidence.00:46:06.253 --> 00:46:23.365


Yeah, a jackass, no, no, I do think like I've seen those things that say, like you're, I say like a lot, but I've seen those things that say you're, what you tell your kids becomes their inner voice, and I think it's so important and it's not even kids, because the person you were talking about wasn't even your parent.00:46:23.365 --> 00:46:24.817


So it's just so important.00:46:24.817 --> 00:46:26.869


Whoever we're interacting with, we speak life.00:46:26.869 --> 00:46:28.259


Yeah, like the girls gone.00:46:28.278 --> 00:46:30.635


Bible Exactly let's speak life into people.00:46:30.635 --> 00:46:35.751


But I think, even in frustration, be careful at how you say who you are Like, even if they're disrespecting us.00:46:35.751 --> 00:46:43.423


Not you're so disrespectful like If they're disrespecting us not you're so disrespectful Like those words really hurt me and I know you're better than that, right, remind them to go back.00:46:43.423 --> 00:46:51.077


But even in anything like even the girls I coach, even my husband, you know he's the one that gets the most of my everybody else.00:46:51.077 --> 00:46:53.181


He always says everybody in the world gets all the great crystal.00:46:53.181 --> 00:46:58.992


And then you're so done with the great crystal that at home I'm done with you, I'm done with you, I'm done with you, I'm done with you Right.00:46:59.012 --> 00:47:04.605


And I sometimes say you're always grouchy, that's not nice, right, you know you're always make everything a problem.00:47:04.605 --> 00:47:05.893


Those aren't kind words.00:47:05.893 --> 00:47:07.217


Like I'm not breathing life into him.00:47:07.217 --> 00:47:13.496


No, and they always say like you can tell a really successful great man by who his wife was Right, and like Don Wilson, his wife was always.00:47:13.496 --> 00:47:17.043


Like you can tell he's so confident because of who his wife is Right.00:47:17.043 --> 00:47:21.989


And I even see with you and Ben I think you've made Ben better in so many ways because you do build his confidence?00:47:22.030 --> 00:47:26.500


Yeah, I try to build his confidence, you know, and I think I've done that for Kyle, but I think some other areas I could do a better job.00:47:26.500 --> 00:47:37.681


But even I see it between the boys, the dads and the sons, like he'll be, like you know you can't be lazy and you're being, they're telling them who they are.00:47:37.681 --> 00:47:43.748


Yeah, and you want to always make sure, if you're going to tell them who they are, tell them something great, right, like Girls Gone Bible, mm-hmm.00:47:43.748 --> 00:47:45.235


So I think we get some out there.00:47:45.235 --> 00:47:50.242


Make sure you breathe life into people and don't pet anyone else's kitty but your own.00:47:50.242 --> 00:48:00.510


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