S3 E11: Celebrity Breakups, Parenting Misadventures, and the Quirks of Romance

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Welcome to Jerking Around a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real Welcome.

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Welcome back.

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Hello Tyler's challenging us, our pod daddy.

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We were like hello To be more excited, yeah, and Tisha.

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I know what gets me excited is different than what gets her excited, exactly as we've learned.

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Yeah, yeah, hello, that story's stupid.

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Let's move on.

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Let's talk about celebrity.

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There's so many things I want to talk about.

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Let's talk about, I think, because we promote Giggly Squad so much on this podcast.

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A lot of people have been asking me about Paige and Craig, for sure.

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Yes, paige is the host of Giggly Squad.

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She was dating Craig, who was on Southern Charm.

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They broke up, just recap, and it's big news, big news, big news right now.

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Well then, because?

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Why was it big news?

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Because she was seen.

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Okay, so well there's so many rumors.

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There's been rumors on Southern Charm that Paige cheated on him.

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This was last season.

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Like, do you think she cheated?

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I don't think a rumor comes out of nothing and I thought that when it aired I was like why is there a rumor page cheated on him?

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That's weird.

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I always believe a rumor might not be the exact rumor, but there's something there's always truth.

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No one's ever said Kyle's cheated on me in my life.

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No, like no one.

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It's not a rumor because he's never even putting himself in that situation.

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Well, every time a rumor comes out, some form of it happened.

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Every time.

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I'm not saying she did at all, and the gigglers they're coming for some of the jerkies are gigglers as well, so we are not trying to piss anyone off, we're gigglers.

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Oh, a hundred percent.

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I'm obsessed with Paige.

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She's probably like my favorite celebrity in the planet.

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Yeah, but supposedly there was a rumor they cheated, she cheated, but I think the girl was just making it up.

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That's what.

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I was team Paige.

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But Paige was at two sporting events last week which, if you know Paige and you do listen to Giggly Squad she doesn't like to leave the house, which, again, I felt like that was a sign they weren't in a good relationship because they only wanted to be alone.

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And I had guys that, like we didn't get along when we were with other people, but we got along when we were alone and it was like a big red flag.

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Or I had like ones.

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I was embarrassed when we were with other people, but then that's not a good sign.

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But that thing Jen sent you, oh my gosh, can you play?

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it.

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Oh, it's so funny, isn't it out loud?

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Or is it just something you read?

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No, I'm gonna play it because Tisha went through this.

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Oh it's so funny she wanted to be.

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You know she loves my best friend, jen.

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The Spanish is on here.

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We're giving her a shout out she's a jerky that's the wrong way to say it.

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She loves Mexicans, guys.

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She loves I said Spanish.

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I love her Mexican more politically she says tortilla, tortilla.

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I love Mexican men and food yeah, it's just, it's a thing.

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I'm not Mexican, but she tries to make him look Mexican, so I kind of feel like he is.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah, it Not Mexican, but she tries to make him look Mexican but he's very tan.

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So I kind of feel like he is.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah it gives you that same vibe?

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Yeah, he's not like white and pasty.

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I mean nothing against white and pasty people.

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Kyle, we love you.

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Kyle is fully white and pasty.

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Okay, here, wait, I'm going to turn this.

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It was Cody from Peloton, who's our favorite.

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He's my favorite.

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Yeah, don't, ladies, don't settle.

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You get bangs and an ugly boyfriend.

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And my best, one of our best friends, tagged me in it because I went through a phase with bangs and an and an ugly boyfriend.

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So you can't say that.

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Oh no, just the bangs.

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People listen.

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We're going to get told that was rude.

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Yeah, that was rude.

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He wasn't ugly, just the bangs.

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He just maybe wasn't your real type.

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Totally.

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You know Everybody's pretty to somebody.

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Totally.

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Anyway, I tried to like put on some weight too, to like fit in with that's so rude.

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No, I just was like eating and drinking.

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I was drinking a lot, that's why.

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Yeah, that whole era was like not good.

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Yeah, it was dark.

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I was drinking too often because he liked to drink more.

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I drank with my ex too, so we would drink like after work he would get off work, he had like a stressful job and then he would drink.

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And a stressful job and then he would drink and like we would drink a lot and I'm not a drinker at all, which is so weird that I drink so much.

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But in your 20s, you're always drinking, yeah, so I and then you didn't want to be in groups.

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We went to dinner with them and I was newly dating Kyle, and we played this game at dinner.

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Well, first of all, I don't he was like your dad, but my remember.

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My husband, kyle, still talks about the light I was gonna.

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That's the story I was telling.

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You got mad because the light was on.

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You know, like when you're growing up and your dad is like you turn on the light in the car and the dome light and your dad's like turn it off, it's illegal, it's not illegal, is it illegal?

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No, I tell my kids that I'm going to get pulled over, like who knew each other better and we got all of them right and you got none right.

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Wait, you had been together three years.

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We had been together two months.

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I don't remember that it was so bad.

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It was bad.

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It was bad, but like I had boyfriends where when we went in groups, we didn't get along.

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Yeah, it's weird.

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If you're in a not relationship, call us.

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Get out.

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But Paige, now that she's broken up, she's going to all these things and doing all this and I'm like that's who I've always seen you Well.

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I don't think she probably sees that and is so annoyed because he's probably like they always get better after a breakup.

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Every guy so annoying.

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I know I'm like I really want you to go to church.

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They don't.

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Then I see him after we break up.

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I know.

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I'm like do you want to go to the gym?

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They're like no, after we break up.

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Six pack abs yeah, oh my gosh, I know it's the worst, I know, but when you're in a bad relationship or not even bad, but just not the right one I don't feel like you're at your best.

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So then sometimes, when you break up, you are.

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The better version of yourself.

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So Paige went to a sporting event with some guy who's a sports.

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I'm trying to get my facts right because I don't really care, but when I listen I'm like I need to get this right.

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He works in the sports industry.

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Is he like marketing or something?

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Eh, yeah, I thought he was.

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No, I feel like he's like Jerry Maguire, that, oh, like an agent Kind of.

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That's kind of how I think it's like an agency Interesting, but I could be wrong.

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But so everybody was hyped because Paige was with this guy and at the sporting game, at the, what's it called?

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The Eagle.

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The Eagles game yeah, in a box.

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Great job with the facts With the guy.

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I'm really trying to get the facts right.

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And so there was all this talk about this guy.

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I looked him up, I looked up things.

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They follow each other, which she's selective on that too.

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So then the ex-fiance of the guy just came out this week and said this we're going to read the actual.

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You want me to read the post Tisha's reading, because I can't read very well.

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Okay, cut all.

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Regarding what's been out there this past week, during my relationship, disrespectful messages were sent to a man who was spoken for with absolutely no regard or respect for another woman or her relationship, insinuating for him to leave me for her.

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As my relationship went on, the banter continued and I was purposely made to feel insecure and my relationship was undermined.

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As someone who holds themselves to such a high standard and claims to be a girl's girl, her actions contradict this.

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I had the courage to leave a toxic situation and, as a girl's girl myself, I will continue to lift up other women and their relationships, not try to tear them down.

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For my own good, I refuse to have anyone lie on my name or write their own false narratives about my life.

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It is what it is.

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I wish everyone the best.

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So this is the girls, the guys, ex-fiance.

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How long have they been broken?

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up Jerry Maguire, the sports guy.

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Yeah, so this is the girls.

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The guys' ex-fiance.

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How long have they?

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been broken up.

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Jerry Maguire, the sports guy yeah, how long have they been broken up?

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I don't think they've been broken up that long.

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Well, it's weird If you're an ex-fiance, like two years ago, you're not common.

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So she's alleging.

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Someone who's a girl's girl and likes to giggle.

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I'm just kidding, it wasn't in there something.

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And you're saying Paige always says she's a girl's girl.

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Paige always says she's a girl's girl.

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So she's talking about Paige.

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Everybody says she's talking about Paige Allegedly.

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I'm not saying she's talking about Paige.

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I'm saying, like Prez Hilton says, she's talking about Paige.

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Yeah, all the people are saying this is about Paige.

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Well, it's weird If this went on in the relationship.

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How long was this girl DMing this guy?

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So was she DMing him when she was with Craig?

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Because they just broke up, yeah, but that's where the cheating has come out.

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Yeah, someone said publicly that Paige cheated and then Paige wrote to them I'll see you in court, yeah.

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So I feel like the rumors are from something, but I don't think a girl just breaks up with a guy for no reason out of nowhere, unless you have like a backup.

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Yes, girls are clingers.

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Yeah, I like.

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The only reason I've ever really done that is because it was so toxic and bad.

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Right, it was like for my own good, yeah, or I had a guy that seemed like a better option.

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I don't think I've ever had the better option, but yeah.

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Why did you and bangs breakup?

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Well, I was like marry me or else.

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And then he was like or else, shoot wrong choice.

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Well, that would have been right, though If Craig did that right which maybe he did, I don't know I just think around the holidays to do a breakup girls plan, better, well, that guy and I'm not being mean, but I don't feel like that guy was that cute compared to Craig no, the new guy so cute that's.

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But that's so funny how beauty is in the eye of the beholder because it's crazy.

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I just see her with, like an Italian style.

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You've always said, said that I'm an Italian.

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He is more Italian.

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Yeah, and it's just funny though, because, like, if you're just looking at the two, I'm picking Craig all day, but she's picking the other guy, and it's just funny.

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Well, she says that she glowed up Craig, like Craig is so good because of her.

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I agree with that.

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Yeah, well, anyways, that's the alleged truth about what's going on with Paige.

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She's all over the news, though.

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That's sad if that's true for the girl, yeah, but if your guy's messaging another girl, get out now, totally yeah.

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It's not.

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You can't control, and I do think guys make you feel insecure when you're right, mm-hmm oh every guy oh, if I had a nickel, well, and I've done that, I'm like it is true, really, no, I do.

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I think you're not like I can't divulge more, but yeah, yeah, when guys I know what you're talking about and we cannot divulge more.

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But guys always act like girls are crazy and I want to be like for the crazies it's called like gaslighting right, yeah, yeah, it's the gaslighting my cheerleaders last year called me the Because I would teach them to be positive, right, and they're all.

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that's fake.

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I'm all no.

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Believing in yourself is real.

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Yeah, that's not gasoline.

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Yeah, but they know the term.

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That's funny.

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But no, like guys always, I'd be like to my ex.

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Let's call him Peter.

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Yeah, I'd be like you're going to Hooters again tonight.

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And it would be like it's't want you going to Hooters Right.

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You know, Ben says I flip things.

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Now, Like when he gets mad at me about something, I flip it and get mad at him.

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You do do that.

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He's like don't try to flip it you know, you do do that.

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I know.

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You're not a big no.

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For a while you didn't trust him fully, like from your own back, like baggage that's bad, but like past relationships, yeah.

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So I think that was like a defense mechanism and now I feel like if he says you did something you like, listen now yeah, this was last week, he told me that.

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But that's fine.

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What'd you flip?

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Let's hear the story.

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I can't remember what it was.

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He was mad at me about something and I the car, because we're still no, there's a lot about about the car, dealing with the car.

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No, it was something about the purse, and I know it was something just like two days ago I can't remember dang it, the kids.

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He was irritated with me and I flipped and I was like mad at him and he goes no, no, you can't flip it, you know?

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Yeah, maybe that was real then yeah, anyways.

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So I mean, yeah, they always act like you're crazy, like when they're out till three in the morning, and then you're mad, right, and they're like you're crazy and controlling.

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I'm like, yeah, I don't think any boyfriend should be out till three in the morning.

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No, it's normal so if that's happening to you, get out yeah bad bad sign red.

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Bad sign Kyle.

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My husband is back to being a jerky.

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It's really great.

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He hasn't really critiqued us that much, and I listened to the beginning of last week's episode.

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Oh my gosh, I gotta tell you this story.

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Usually I tell you stories before we're live, but this one's live.

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So I ran into a friend of ours who is like an influencer and she goes to our daughter's cheer gym as well, so you know who it is I'm trying to talk, um, and oh yeah, yeah, I don't think she cares.

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Her name's Jess Hartman.

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She has a Instagram, hartman Haas she's amazing and her daughter's at her cheer gym.

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And she came up and then two of the older girls came up you know that listened to the podcast.

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They're like we listen this week and last week Tisha and I started off about sex, literally.

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So they're like this one's a little naughty because we're talking about 79 and all that.

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Oh, shoot with our husbands, right, and I was like, yeah, I was naughty, it was about sex and Jess's daughter was.

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I forgot like she cause now my kids like we talk about sex at home.

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We joke about like this sounds weird, but my kids are all older, so like they do weird things and we like joke, so I forget that younger kids don't know Right.

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And she was like we'll see you later and I grabbed her kid and I was like oh, I feel so bad.

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Yeah, I didn't mean to talk about it so openly.

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Oh yeah, no, because our girls are older and even like yeah, ben will make jokes about making out with me and they're like gross.

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Yeah, they all know.

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Does Fox know Her son isn't kindergarten?

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I don't think he knows.

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No, no, no, that's so little.

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And how you shouldn't have sex before you're married because it's complicated.

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Yeah, and we both didn't.

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No, yeah, Bear came home last night and he was like Bear's, your son.

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My son, he's 12.

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And he's like what's a tampon?

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And I was like why?

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And he's like, well, this kid called me a tampon and I'm like, I'm like you know, he's like I don't remember.

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So then I was like walking him through what a tampon is.

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How did you walk him through?

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Well, I was like.

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Well, I was like you know, a girl gets her period.

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He's like no, what's a period?

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I'm like well, you bleed.

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It was just very.

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Was he traumatized?

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Well, he was just.

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You're a tampon.

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Why was he calling him that?

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Because he, I don't know they got.

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They were just talking crap during football and just dumb.

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Yeah, tampons are weird.

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I know I'm like what's wrong with kids?

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That's what I mean.

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And how does this kid know what a tampon is?

00:14:18.934 --> 00:14:22.618
Broxton, they learned quite some interesting things.

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Yeah, BTA, do you know what that is?

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No, what is that?

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Oh, because Broxton said that the other day.

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What is it?

00:14:29.701 --> 00:14:31.048
Hi Tyler, you know what BTA is.

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Oh God, don't you hate when you're the only one, yeah, but to wait, bta but to ask.

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I feel like those are the same.

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PTA?

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I don't know.

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It's something front to back.

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Oh no.

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Yeah, and like if you got like whipped, you know you got front to back.

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Oh no, this is a horrible story this is awful and I'm messing it up.

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I'm like yeah, this is awful.

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That's what it's called PTA.

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I swear it's PTA.

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But what any of the language means.

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Yeah, I don't know.

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I had to look up something Ken sent me the other day and I was like someone a simp.

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I'm like what's a simp?

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What's a simp?

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A simp is someone who will do anything to be in a relationship.

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Like it's weird.

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I'm like what are these terms?

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Who's a simp?

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It was on our family chat.

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Someone called someone a simp or something and I was just like what are we talking?

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What is it Like to each other.

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Yeah, like joking around, but I had to Google.

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I have to Google all the things.

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It's so weird.

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I never heard that.

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Yeah, simp, it's like you'll do anything, you'll cut off your friends, you'll buy girl stuff, anything to be with someone.

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Oh, I've been a simp so many times.

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Yeah, I'm like I don't even think it's hard watching your kids kind of get like that.

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Though yeah, I'm like, don't be a simp, Do your own thing, don't worry about someone else.

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It's horrible.

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It's hard.

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It's hard just letting them to.

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Yeah, okay, moving on, I do want to talk about the inauguration yesterday.

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Yeah, that was a big day.

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Tisha wanted to fly in for it, but she wasn't able to do that.

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Pretty amazing.

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And I don't always love Carrie Underwood.

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I love her as a person.

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I do think the whole face fall thing was weird, yeah, um, and I like her music, but sometimes I feel like it's a lot of yelling.

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Yeah it is a lot of yelling.

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I'm like so hard Carrie Underwood fan, but yesterday I really thought it was amazing well, not a lot of people can do the yelling, so I think she's always doing it because it's like I can do this, but sometimes it's a lot yeah, but so the music wouldn't play for oh beautiful, yeah.

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Is that what the song?

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I don't know the song, what's it called?

00:16:29.379 --> 00:16:36.767
yeah, america the beautiful, yeah and so she stood there and then just said I'll just sing it, yeah, and everyone's like playing her going, I'll just sing it, yeah.

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And then she sang it acapella and said before she sang it she said help me out, guys, if you, if you know it, sing it.

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And I thought it was honestly so beautiful and seeing Biden and what's her name?

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Kamala, yeah, behind them singing it.

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Did they sing it?

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They were singing it.

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Oh, that's good.

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Yeah, I thought it was cool actually to have everybody singing it.

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There's this have you guys seen the blind or no?

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The deaf girl on Instagram that can lip read.

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She lips reads everything.

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So yesterday she she was rip reading at the inauguration.

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No, I want to follow her.

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Oh, it's amazing, she'll lip read Taylor Swift at the jet at the football game.

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Yeah, and like she's right, cause she's deaf, she reads lips Right.

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And like it's she's in squid games.

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She just posted yeah, oh my gosh.

00:17:31.768 --> 00:17:35.712
I mean we're watching it with Broxton and it's like Kyle's, like this is bad.

00:17:35.712 --> 00:17:38.522
But have you watched the um beast games?

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It's so good.

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I was watching beast games by myself the other day.

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Mr Beast, yeah, and it's like um, it's about like it's.

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It's mocking I don't know if mocking is the right word, but it's simulating Squid Games.

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But they don't kill them.

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On Squid Games, it's people that are in debt.

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I can't spell this.

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I want to find the girl.

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I'll find it for you later.

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In Squid Games, it's people that are broke, really broke like, have gambling debt, and then they go to this like games like the Hunger Games, and if you live, you're the winner and you get all the money.

00:18:16.983 --> 00:18:18.848
But out of like a hundred one, thousand no one really gets killed.

00:18:18.929 --> 00:18:27.076
It's like you like no, you get murdered, they kill you and it's like, yeah, and it's illegal, so that's the thing.

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It's like it's far away and no one can find where it's at, and like there are people that are like who would go on this?

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It's not real.

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This is the Squid.

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Games.

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The Netflix show oh, it's a show Squid Games I thought you were saying it was real Beast Games simulates it but they don't kill them.

00:18:42.906 --> 00:18:43.957
Okay, but it's the same.

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They're wearing the numbers, just like Squid Games, and there's these challenges and you're gone.

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But Squid Game, the first challenge is there's this weird big doll and all you have to do is play red light, green light.

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So they're like yeah, this is easy, a thousand of them out there.

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And the doll turns its head and then it's like green, and then its eyes can tell if there's motion.

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And if you move, after its red light, so blood's going everywhere and they kill everyone oh my God, yeah.

00:19:09.811 --> 00:19:10.752
And After it's red light, they just.

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So blood's going everywhere and they kill everyone oh my God, yeah.

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And then red light, oh it's red light.

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If you move on, red light, right, right, and then green, and then you have to get across the line before the timer runs out or they just kill you too.

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So you don't know anyone dies in this game until the first game.

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And then the people are seeing everyone die and they're like shaking, and so if they're scared and shaking, they're dead.

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They moved.

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It's very graphic, it's weird.

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A lot of cussing, yeah.

00:19:34.269 --> 00:19:37.814
But yes, kyle and I are watching you, well, you know, if you can't beat them, join them.

00:19:37.834 --> 00:19:40.257
Well, you do like weird shows and movies?

00:19:40.257 --> 00:19:43.905
Tell them about your date night.

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We're jumping ahead, but yes, so we had a lot of cheer this weekend.

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So Saturday night we went out to date night and I love Nicole Kidman.

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I just watched a show on Netflix with her.

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Did you watch it?

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Oh, it was so good.

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I'll have to find the name the perfect couple or whatever.

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Yeah, it was really good.

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Did you watch it?

00:20:00.630 --> 00:20:02.262
Yeah, it's from a book, it's based off a book.

00:20:02.262 --> 00:20:06.393
Thank you, yeah, but she was normal in that, she wasn't anything.

00:20:06.393 --> 00:20:14.326
So I thought, ooh, I just love that show with her.

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Let's go see Baby Girl.

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I'll never forget it.

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Yeah, baby Girl.

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Oh, my gosh, don't bring your kids to Baby Girl.

00:20:18.099 --> 00:20:21.368
We almost brought Broxton because, like rated R, some like violence.

00:20:21.368 --> 00:20:22.351
We're like, yeah, it's violence.

00:20:22.351 --> 00:20:26.761
Yeah, I don't know if that's right either and don't judge us, so tell what it's about.

00:20:26.761 --> 00:20:41.428
Well, Nicole Kidman is a wonderful, powerful boss and I think because I think the theme was she has to run her own business, so she wants to be run in the bedroom- I feel like you can identify with this character.

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Shut up, no, no.

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Maybe I could, but I'm no one's baby girl, I'll tell you that.

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So she runs into this guy and he has like control.

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He's a young guy and he has has like control over this dog on the street and it like turned her on a little bit and it starts off that she can't really get to the happily ever after with her husband in the bedroom.

00:21:00.468 --> 00:21:03.124
Okay, she can't get there for our young listeners.

00:21:03.124 --> 00:21:06.101
You'll have to grow up to know what that means but, she can't get there with her husband.

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So it shows how like they were together.

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Then she went and got her computer out and finished, like that.

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So that's like how it starts.

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So it's a lot.

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And then she sees the guy with the dog.

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Then he's an intern, then he wants her to be his mentor.

00:21:20.789 --> 00:21:26.394
So then in their first mentor meeting he's like tell me about yourself, how'd you get here?

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And he's like I think you like to be told what to do, and it was like uncomfortable for everybody.

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And she be told what to do.

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And it was like uncomfortable for everybody.

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And she's like that's inappropriate.

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And he's like I'm sorry, I can't control myself, or whatever.

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Yeah, then they kiss in the first intern.

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So anyways, she becomes his baby girl.

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They go to a hotel.

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Does he call her baby girl?

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through, so how?

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it started is they were at like a meet and greet for the company, and he sent over a glass of milk milk is not sexual, I guess it is, I don't know why, but so she chugs the milk like a milk commercial and she's like very fit.

00:22:01.797 --> 00:22:07.070
We've seen her naked body she's never drinking the whole milk and she has, like, the milk mustache.

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I'm like whoa, are we going to a milk commercial?

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And then she like looks at him and goes like.

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And then he walked by her and said good girl.

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And then they meet in the hotel and she's like I'm here to tell you this is enough and you're being inappropriate.

00:22:22.634 --> 00:22:23.434
And he's like you like it.

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And then she's like it's not about that.

00:22:25.537 --> 00:22:29.810
So then she like tries to go at him to like and he's like, not like that.

00:22:35.500 --> 00:22:36.384
Get him to like and he's like, not like that.

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Get on your knees I.

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It's all making sense why you like this movie now.

00:22:37.990 --> 00:22:38.532
No, she gets on her knees.

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Then she has to crawl to get candy from him.

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I'm not like that.

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Yeah, I just like I do more than missionary.

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That's all the difference between her and I.

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She's a missionary girl, I'm not.

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It's not like I'm baby girl.

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I'm just not a missionary girl.

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I like to spice it up, turn around upside down.

00:22:54.313 --> 00:22:56.095
Yeah, that's it Upside down.

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This isn't the circus, Like what.

00:23:01.631 --> 00:23:02.212
Baby girl.

00:23:02.212 --> 00:23:04.728
So she has to go in the corner and face the corner.

00:23:04.839 --> 00:23:09.432
I can't see Kyle being like get down, Like yeah, no, he's way too nice.

00:23:17.740 --> 00:23:18.161
He's not like that.

00:23:18.161 --> 00:23:18.983
Yeah, so baby girl was in the corner.

00:23:18.983 --> 00:23:20.829
Then she had to crawl and get the candy, she had to suck on the candy and spit it out.

00:23:20.829 --> 00:23:21.172
Then it happened.

00:23:21.172 --> 00:23:22.375
But the whole relationship, he's just the boss of her.

00:23:22.375 --> 00:23:23.358
So then at the end of the so baby girl sucks.

00:23:23.358 --> 00:23:28.530
It's stupid, yeah don't see it but I keep calling tisha I wasn't gonna see it, so it's bad.

00:23:28.530 --> 00:23:29.512
It's bad.

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I'm not gonna moving on.

00:23:31.205 --> 00:23:32.491
This is a horrible story.

00:23:32.531 --> 00:23:36.266
It's boring we went on a date on Saturday did you play baby girl?

00:23:36.266 --> 00:23:37.770
No, did you?

00:23:37.770 --> 00:23:38.753
Just went to dinner?

00:23:38.834 --> 00:23:48.335
no, no, tisha and I were talking in the car on the way here that both of us I almost called her to go to dinner in a movie with us, but I was like, yeah, she's not calling me, she gets down with me sometimes.

00:23:48.335 --> 00:23:50.020
So then I was like, let's just go.

00:23:50.020 --> 00:23:50.823
But I didn't want to go.

00:23:50.823 --> 00:23:52.105
I didn't want to go, you didn't want to go.

00:23:52.486 --> 00:23:58.183
I fell asleep after the competition and, like I was so tired and Ben wanted to go, what Perk up your voice?

00:23:58.223 --> 00:23:58.464
man.

00:23:59.166 --> 00:23:59.868
Is it not loud?

00:23:59.888 --> 00:24:00.952
I'm just kidding.

00:24:01.113 --> 00:24:08.167
Hello, no, After the competition I laid down and for some reason I fell asleep on the couch for a little bit and it was like I was dead.

00:24:08.167 --> 00:24:13.075
Yeah, you know, when you wake up from a nap and you feel like you got hit by a train.

00:24:13.740 --> 00:24:14.945
Baby girl feels like that a lot.

00:24:15.220 --> 00:24:18.604
And Ben wanted to go to dinner and I did not and I was like let's just door dash.

00:24:18.664 --> 00:24:23.988
And then he was mad, Excuse me Because if I'm home I have to clean up everything.

00:24:24.441 --> 00:24:27.300
It's not relaxing to me Totally, so I wasn't going to go.

00:24:27.300 --> 00:24:31.164
And then I thought to myself okay, I'm going to be a good wife, he really wants me to go.

00:24:31.164 --> 00:24:32.965
And I was mad, I was yelling.

00:24:32.965 --> 00:24:35.269
I was like what were you yelling?

00:24:35.269 --> 00:24:35.608
I was.

00:24:36.068 --> 00:24:42.935
We didn't have a reservation where he wanted to go I know he's busy I was like we don't have a reservation, we're going to be waiting forever.

00:24:42.935 --> 00:24:49.547
I was really nasty and he was like you're being girl.

00:24:49.547 --> 00:24:52.952
And we went and then it ended up being really fun.

00:24:52.952 --> 00:24:57.574
We sat at the bar and it was like so nice to connect and then we were all loving each other.

00:24:57.574 --> 00:25:00.765
Yeah, and an hour prior I was, you know, totally.

00:25:01.567 --> 00:25:04.413
So same with us, and I was so I was so grouchy too.

00:25:04.740 --> 00:25:10.971
Right and I was talking to my friend who I cause I fell asleep so I missed church and I was bummed and I was like, oh, how was church?

00:25:10.971 --> 00:25:13.474
And she was like it was about submitting to your husband.

00:25:13.474 --> 00:25:15.022
Did you watch it this weekend?

00:25:15.022 --> 00:25:15.785
I'm going to watch it though.

00:25:15.785 --> 00:25:17.790
Yeah, us too she said it was really good.

00:25:17.790 --> 00:25:19.405
No, she said it was good about submitting.

00:25:20.020 --> 00:25:22.028
And I know it's getting weird after talking about baby girl.

00:25:22.048 --> 00:25:27.604
Now I'm talking about submitting no Like.

00:25:27.604 --> 00:25:32.708
If you do this, I'll do that, and I was like well we're not going to that service.

00:25:32.708 --> 00:25:40.634
But I feel like mine is not just that I do it when I don't want to, or that's wrong.

00:25:40.894 --> 00:25:42.256
I will do it all the time.

00:25:42.476 --> 00:25:43.817
I baby girl, all the time.

00:25:47.380 --> 00:25:54.746
But then when I really want something, I'll throw in some extra fun, because she's mishies, she has to spice it up by going closet-ies yeah, or window ease.

00:25:54.766 --> 00:25:56.406
Window ease yeah, or anal ease.

00:25:56.406 --> 00:25:59.069
But I guess the pastor said don't do that.

00:25:59.069 --> 00:26:01.372
But I'm like, his wife for sure does that.

00:26:01.372 --> 00:26:03.113
Every girl does that I don't do that.

00:26:03.292 --> 00:26:04.733
Every girl but you does that.

00:26:04.733 --> 00:26:05.694
Jen Sharp doesn't do that.

00:26:05.694 --> 00:26:08.657
Sorry, Jen, I can guarantee yeah she's like you, though.

00:26:08.740 --> 00:26:09.801
She's wanting it all the time.

00:26:13.328 --> 00:26:16.213
I would like to like ask people, but not on our real page.

00:26:16.213 --> 00:26:19.355
I know I wish we could have like a poll yeah, do you hold sex for ransom?

00:26:19.375 --> 00:26:21.967
It's not hold for ransom, it's do you incentivize?

00:26:21.967 --> 00:26:23.861
Yeah, that's a way better word.

00:26:23.901 --> 00:26:25.563
Yes, it's not ransom, I'll do it.

00:26:25.563 --> 00:26:26.384
It's just an incentive.

00:26:26.384 --> 00:26:28.405
You give me money, give your kid back.

00:26:29.105 --> 00:26:32.048
Oh, our friend posted a reel that I thought was so funny.

00:26:32.048 --> 00:26:38.194
It was like I don't cook, I don't clean, and then he like had the credit card, like he was throwing it away, did you see it?

00:26:38.194 --> 00:26:40.457
Yeah, oh, I thought it was so funny, it didn't resonate.

00:26:40.721 --> 00:26:41.644
It didn't resonate with me.

00:26:41.644 --> 00:26:42.567
Oh I thought it was funny.

00:26:42.948 --> 00:26:44.625
But anyways, no, I didn't get it.

00:26:44.625 --> 00:26:57.882
How do you not get it?

00:26:57.882 --> 00:26:59.625
You're not gonna have a credit card if you don't get cooking and clean.

00:26:59.625 --> 00:27:01.170
And then she was like, yes, I do the cook, and so I thought it was so funny.00:27:01.170 --> 00:27:02.914


You don't do any of that, though I know why I thought it was funny.00:27:02.914 --> 00:27:16.759


For those that do no, it sounds like I don't do anything and this is rude and I do okay, just because I'm not eating candy on my hands and knees like you, you sicko, like what the hell?00:27:19.141 --> 00:27:22.344


No, I'm dying because I'm trying to like get out of this, but I can't.00:27:22.523 --> 00:27:27.326


No, I incentivize, like, hey, we can do some more fun.00:27:27.326 --> 00:27:28.907


What Like more fun?00:27:29.528 --> 00:27:31.710


Like candy on the hands and knees?00:27:31.710 --> 00:27:32.170


I don't know.00:27:32.170 --> 00:27:33.090


I'm not opposed to that.00:27:33.892 --> 00:27:34.571


You wouldn't do that.00:27:34.571 --> 00:27:35.613


No, I wouldn't Well.00:27:35.613 --> 00:27:38.355


No, I wouldn't no, no, no I wouldn't Stabler?00:27:38.755 --> 00:27:41.076


No, do the jerkies know about Stabler?00:27:41.076 --> 00:27:42.156


I don't feel like they do.00:27:50.509 --> 00:27:51.531


Did you ever watch?00:27:51.531 --> 00:27:53.981


I don't feel I mean, they've heard enough watched SVU.00:27:53.981 --> 00:27:58.656


It was like law and order SVU on the TV for 20 something years.00:27:58.656 --> 00:28:00.782


There was a detective stabler which he was cute.00:28:00.782 --> 00:28:04.050


He was cute back in the day he was, and he was very manly.00:28:04.432 --> 00:28:11.028


He was a manly guy and I think, honestly, jumping back to Paige DeSorbo, I love Craig but I don't think he's that enough.00:28:11.028 --> 00:28:12.328


He's more Metro.00:28:13.089 --> 00:28:15.313


And I do think you like either Manly or Metro.00:28:15.313 --> 00:28:21.885


Yeah, Because we have a friend that's like oh, I like a Metro who, and I'm like I don't want to say her name if she doesn't want me to.00:28:22.528 --> 00:28:23.409


Okay, mouth it to me.00:28:23.409 --> 00:28:27.361


Oh really, yeah, yeah, I think some people do.00:28:27.401 --> 00:28:28.642


Yeah, I don't like Metro.00:28:28.642 --> 00:28:29.343


I don't either.00:28:29.343 --> 00:28:30.104


I like manly.00:28:30.104 --> 00:28:34.867


Yeah, ben is as far Metro as I'll go and he still like hunts and does manly things.00:28:34.867 --> 00:28:39.432


Yeah, but I like a very manly, okay, so Stabler, so.00:28:39.471 --> 00:28:41.053


Stabler to me was very manly.00:28:41.093 --> 00:28:42.193


He's killing bad guys.00:28:42.193 --> 00:28:45.217


He's, you know, he's beating up people.00:28:47.579 --> 00:28:48.561


He's like he's getting the bad guys.00:28:48.561 --> 00:28:49.343


He's protecting the baby girl.00:28:49.363 --> 00:28:50.664


He is, and so I.00:28:50.664 --> 00:28:56.054


When, my husband and I, we were like messing around with time and I it was like how did it start?00:28:56.114 --> 00:28:56.714


I don't know.00:28:56.714 --> 00:29:01.476


Did he know you like, thought he was attractive and was like I'm detective Stabler here to protect you?00:29:01.476 --> 00:29:04.320


I don't remember how it happened and were you like someone's raping me Kind of?00:29:07.463 --> 00:29:09.345


No, it was like role playing, but not.00:29:09.345 --> 00:29:14.888


But I was kind of like, oh don't, my husband will be, or something like my husband will be home.00:29:14.888 --> 00:29:16.069


And then he was like Stabler.00:29:16.069 --> 00:29:20.712


And then I was like, okay, you know, and then he probably liked how excited I got.00:29:20.712 --> 00:29:25.655


So then it was like then Stabler was there every time, and then it's like too much.00:29:26.037 --> 00:29:27.538


You're like it's not the time for Stabler.00:29:28.359 --> 00:29:31.248


Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like sometimes they try to go too far, too soon, right.00:29:31.248 --> 00:29:32.290


And it ruins the mood.00:29:32.290 --> 00:29:39.726


Yeah, sometimes like he'll say things and it like totally like we'll be in it, and then he'll say, and it's a step too far.00:29:39.726 --> 00:29:41.664


Yeah, it kills the mood.00:29:41.664 --> 00:29:44.011


I'm like, ooh, don't say that, you know.00:29:44.493 --> 00:29:55.162


Yeah, but like maybe on Tuesday last week I was in that zone and it was okay it was okay.00:29:55.182 --> 00:29:55.584


Totally it's not.00:29:55.584 --> 00:30:01.701


It's not okay now, yeah, and I'm like shut up, you know I hate it sometimes, yeah, because Ben is very vocal and sometimes I'm like just shut up, you know, I don't want to hear it.00:30:01.701 --> 00:30:03.490


You're messing with my head.00:30:03.490 --> 00:30:04.374


Yeah, I agree.00:30:04.374 --> 00:30:07.045


Well, I'm like somewhere else in my head that sounds bad.00:30:07.045 --> 00:30:10.454


No, I'm there, but like I don't need the narration.00:30:10.454 --> 00:30:12.694


I don't need the narration and there's a lot of narrating.00:30:12.694 --> 00:30:14.148


Sometimes I know I'm, I don't need the narration, I don't need the narration and there's a lot of narrating.00:30:14.148 --> 00:30:15.242


I'm sweating, I know.00:30:15.282 --> 00:30:15.765


I'm sweating too.00:30:15.765 --> 00:30:17.306


I don't like the narration always either.00:30:17.306 --> 00:30:17.586


Oh, I hate.00:30:17.586 --> 00:30:18.806


Like we know what's happening.00:30:18.806 --> 00:30:19.984


Why do you need to explain it?00:30:20.079 --> 00:30:26.342


Yeah, and then he's talking about me and that, and I'm just like this is so descriptive and just shut up, you know.00:30:26.342 --> 00:30:32.569


So sometimes I'll be like to kiss, so sometimes I'll just kiss him to shut him up.00:30:32.569 --> 00:30:34.131


We can't play this.00:30:34.131 --> 00:30:34.892


This is horrible.00:30:34.892 --> 00:30:36.354


This is horrible.00:30:37.855 --> 00:30:38.395


I'm dying.00:30:38.395 --> 00:30:41.217


This is our best clip, yet I sound like I'm sweating.00:30:41.601 --> 00:30:42.423


No, I think it's relatable.00:30:42.423 --> 00:30:43.747


I sound like I'm horrible that I don't like to kiss.00:30:43.767 --> 00:30:44.588


I think it's relatable.00:30:44.588 --> 00:30:45.511


I'm sweating.00:30:45.511 --> 00:30:48.441


That's why I like it, because I felt those things.00:30:48.441 --> 00:30:50.202


Oh, I feel bad.00:30:50.202 --> 00:30:52.625


Oh gosh, it's so funny, but I know what you're talking about.00:30:52.625 --> 00:30:53.365


Are you really sweating?00:30:53.365 --> 00:30:54.807


Yeah, because I'm laughing so hard.00:30:54.807 --> 00:30:56.509


Yeah, no, I think that's relatable.00:30:56.509 --> 00:31:02.474


Sometimes it's too far, too soon or like yeah, but I have friends that never have said a word in the bedroom.00:31:02.974 --> 00:31:03.776


Were they just quiet.00:31:04.537 --> 00:31:04.876


Nothing.00:31:07.268 --> 00:31:07.921


Like what do you?00:31:07.921 --> 00:31:08.402


I don't know.00:31:08.402 --> 00:31:10.926


I think a little Is it quiet for you.00:31:10.926 --> 00:31:14.273


No, I feel like some sounds are fine In Baby Girl.00:31:14.273 --> 00:31:16.567


We can't have this be a clip, though, no.00:31:16.920 --> 00:31:17.541


In Baby Girl.00:31:17.541 --> 00:31:26.782


She goes to the computer and then she's like there, you know, and then she's like covering her own mouth with the other hand and I'm like, oh my gosh, you're doing it to yourself.00:31:26.782 --> 00:31:29.468


It's not that good that you have to like cover your own mouth.00:31:29.468 --> 00:31:33.654


And then I was like it was so much going on.00:31:33.654 --> 00:31:34.981


I don't like that.00:31:34.981 --> 00:31:36.726


It was like a weird the whole movie.00:31:36.726 --> 00:31:40.486


You know, when you're like I need to go to church when I left, yeah, like this is what's wrong with the world.00:31:41.260 --> 00:31:42.224


I don't like those movies.00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:44.608


She was also on all fours licking the milk off the plate.00:31:45.209 --> 00:31:51.634


Well, someone told us to watch Salt Burn and we started watching it and it was so dark and gross.00:31:51.634 --> 00:31:53.434


We turned it off in like a few minutes.00:31:53.515 --> 00:31:55.777


I was like that's what's hard about TV shows these days.00:31:55.777 --> 00:31:57.382


There's nothing, just light, wholesome.00:31:57.382 --> 00:31:59.006


You know the lightest I can get.00:31:59.006 --> 00:32:00.209


I'm watching sell in the city.00:32:00.209 --> 00:32:01.031


I just finished it.00:32:01.031 --> 00:32:05.127


I actually love all the selling, all the selling series.00:32:05.127 --> 00:32:06.932


I like million dollar listing.00:32:06.932 --> 00:32:07.980


Oh, I love it.00:32:07.980 --> 00:32:09.242


You would like it now that you're a realtor.00:32:09.242 --> 00:32:12.428


It's interesting Because it's like not real but it's real, but it's not.00:32:12.428 --> 00:32:13.710


But it's relatable but it's not.00:32:13.851 --> 00:32:16.535


It's like so good, yeah, I love selling the city.00:32:16.535 --> 00:32:24.011


The girl who's like the main, she has a team, yeah, and she's like showing how hard it is to have a team, and I'm like, yeah, I totally relate.00:32:27.273 --> 00:32:28.074


But she, it's wholesome.00:32:28.594 --> 00:32:30.715


Yeah, I mean they say the F word a lot yeah.00:32:30.715 --> 00:32:32.557


Like they are fighting.00:32:32.596 --> 00:32:37.503


Well, that's why we wanted our podcast because we're like we want a wholesome, but I don't feel like it's wholesome.00:32:37.523 --> 00:32:38.949


now I don't feel like anyone would say it's wholesome.00:32:39.250 --> 00:32:40.500


No, but.00:32:40.500 --> 00:32:42.248


I feel like originally that's what we wanted.00:32:43.131 --> 00:32:46.564


Yeah, we've gotten way off track then that story you just told is far from wholesome.00:32:46.703 --> 00:32:47.825


Should we?00:32:47.865 --> 00:32:48.286


cut it.00:32:48.286 --> 00:32:49.787


No, we're not cutting.00:32:49.787 --> 00:32:50.788


We're not cutting.00:32:50.788 --> 00:32:52.269


Okay, moving on, but Selling the City.00:32:52.269 --> 00:32:53.612


If you haven't watched, it's really really good.00:32:53.612 --> 00:32:56.295


Yeah, but there was that one show with that.00:32:56.295 --> 00:33:00.585


We really liked that about the two girls with the podcast.00:33:00.605 --> 00:33:03.275


Oh, with the, the sisters, and he was the rabbi.00:33:03.275 --> 00:33:08.284


Yeah, that show was so good.00:33:08.304 --> 00:33:10.567


Yeah, that was itbins, though, is killing it.00:33:10.567 --> 00:33:11.588


Remember how we talked about this.00:33:11.588 --> 00:33:12.710


This should have aired last week.00:33:12.710 --> 00:33:14.231


The whole let them.00:33:14.231 --> 00:33:18.326


Yes, like phenomenon, like everyone I've talked to is reading that book right now.00:33:18.326 --> 00:33:20.721


Talked to three people at the gym last night and they're reading that book.00:33:20.721 --> 00:33:22.325


Let them by Mel Robbins.00:33:22.325 --> 00:33:23.548


It's really interesting.00:33:23.548 --> 00:33:27.044


Yeah, yeah, I kind of want to read the book now too, cause it's like they can't get over it.00:33:27.785 --> 00:33:31.250


But well, someone who read it was is reading.00:33:31.250 --> 00:33:32.373


It was we were talking.00:33:32.373 --> 00:33:37.692


And she said she's like, yeah, when she goes on her tangent it's kind of boring, but she tells a lot of stories.00:33:37.692 --> 00:33:38.259


I love stories.00:33:38.259 --> 00:33:39.765


And she said the stories are so good.00:33:40.126 --> 00:33:40.909


Yeah, I'm happy.00:33:40.909 --> 00:33:43.008


I feel like I'm in a let them era right now.00:33:43.008 --> 00:33:47.231


We talked about this on the podcast and I listen because I'm the editor these days.00:33:47.231 --> 00:33:49.105


So Tisha likes me to listen, to take out if we say weird things.00:33:49.105 --> 00:33:50.532


So Tisha likes me to listen, to Take Out if we say weird things.00:33:50.532 --> 00:33:51.778


But I kind of let them flow sometimes.00:33:51.939 --> 00:33:53.306


I know I think you're she lies to me.00:33:53.306 --> 00:33:56.444


She's like, oh yeah, we cut that and then we're not cutting Stabler.00:33:56.920 --> 00:33:57.519


I'm going to get.00:33:57.519 --> 00:33:58.820


As soon as we're done, she's going to want to cut Stabler.00:33:58.820 --> 00:33:59.561


People are going to think I'm.00:33:59.561 --> 00:34:06.285


No, it was like shoveys and I sometimes wish we would have.00:34:06.444 --> 00:34:09.487


I know we need to bring back Chevys.00:34:09.487 --> 00:34:11.027


We haven't done it in a while actually.00:34:11.367 --> 00:34:12.228


Yeah, do you like?00:34:12.228 --> 00:34:13.648


This is between her and Ben.00:34:13.648 --> 00:34:15.130


They do a Chevy.00:34:15.130 --> 00:34:16.791


They Chevy something into something.00:34:16.891 --> 00:34:20.193


Oh my God, this is wrong, and so much yeah.00:34:20.612 --> 00:34:20.914


One day.00:34:20.914 --> 00:34:22.675


Is that something you incentivize?00:34:23.815 --> 00:34:25.820


No, that just happens organically.00:34:26.260 --> 00:34:26.922


Oh, he loves it.00:34:27.242 --> 00:34:36.657


Yeah, a little chubbies, okay, but anyways, we're talking about Every guy loves a chubby Cause I've had husbands are sending it to their wives Like, hey, do the chubby.00:34:36.657 --> 00:34:38.300


You know the clip?00:34:38.300 --> 00:34:40.005


Yeah, like the podcast.00:34:40.005 --> 00:34:45.721


I'm not saying names Really, so if you're not chubbing, get chubbing, get chub, not shoving, get shoving, get shoving.00:34:45.721 --> 00:34:46.601


They love the shove.00:34:46.601 --> 00:34:50.668


I mean Tyler's saying yeah, kyle wanted the shove, but you were like I can't reach, I don't know.00:34:52.494 --> 00:34:53.405


I don't see how that adds up.00:34:53.405 --> 00:34:54.213


Now, this will be edited out.00:34:54.213 --> 00:34:54.295


Why?00:34:54.494 --> 00:34:55.880


Because it's talking about you now.00:34:56.356 --> 00:34:57.380


No, you talked about me last week.00:34:57.380 --> 00:34:58.641


You act like I'm some animal.00:34:58.641 --> 00:35:03.278


You're a baby girl.00:35:03.278 --> 00:35:04.701


I'm not into damn natrix.00:35:04.701 --> 00:35:06.083


No, I'm not into outside.00:35:06.083 --> 00:35:08.327


No, electronics.00:35:08.327 --> 00:35:09.769


No, me neither, or anything like that.00:35:09.769 --> 00:35:11.942


No, but I don't know.00:35:11.942 --> 00:35:13.469


Oh, the stories, the let them.00:35:13.469 --> 00:35:14.512


Yes, that's what we're talking about.00:35:14.512 --> 00:35:14.835


Yeah, yeah, yeah.00:35:14.835 --> 00:35:26.168


I actually learn a lot when I listen to the podcast.00:35:26.168 --> 00:35:39.639


I'm taking that back to Carrie Underwood, cause we didn't finish when she went acapella and when the music didn't play, I honestly feel like it was a blessing, right, like sometimes, in something that you didn't want to happen, something good really comes out of it.00:35:39.639 --> 00:35:46.402


And like her singing acapella and everyone joining in about America was so beautiful and that was the song.00:35:46.402 --> 00:35:49.650


Yeah, so beautiful, so beautiful.00:35:49.650 --> 00:35:54.364


No, but like in the podcast we talked about, just like sometimes I make things happen, so I'm trying to do that less.00:35:54.364 --> 00:36:01.260


Right, but with our kids sometimes it's hard, because there was that clip that we talked about about why kids don't have confidence because you do too much for them, right?00:36:01.740 --> 00:36:08.664


so I feel like is my biggest, one of my biggest problems, because I didn't have that growing up.00:36:08.664 --> 00:36:18.938


So I feel like it's an act of my love as a mom is to do things for them, and so I remember so many times not having something.00:36:18.938 --> 00:36:22.103


If I forgot something, it was never brought to me, or you know.00:36:22.103 --> 00:36:33.461


And so if, if I can do that for my kid, I feel like I'm being a good mom and being the parent I wish I would have had and I'm actually hurting them.00:36:33.641 --> 00:36:34.976


I know it's crazy Cause it's again.00:36:34.976 --> 00:36:40.880


I think a lot of things in discipline is like the word discipline we were trained.00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:42.983


It's doing what you don't want to do when you don't want to do it, right.00:36:42.983 --> 00:36:53.010


And we were talking about like I've been eating so bad lately, I've really been off the rails and I think, like discipline is the world's going to tell me cheesecake is allowed, which we had this weekend?00:36:53.010 --> 00:36:55.603


I did because we went to Cheesecake Factory for our date.00:36:56.456 --> 00:36:59.385


But like I don't feel good about myself when I eat all that crap.00:36:59.385 --> 00:37:01.282


And I told her this morning I don't want to do all that.00:37:01.282 --> 00:37:05.425


But like the harder route is always, usually better, almost always.00:37:05.425 --> 00:37:11.911


Yeah, we'll always convince ourself otherwise, right, like today I convinced myself I didn't have time for the gym, which I totally could have woken up earlier.00:37:11.911 --> 00:37:23.036


But and I think with our kids it's funny you said that I'm feeling guilty today because Maddie forgot a sweatshirt and it's freezing, yes, and she's like, can you please bring it to me, please, please?00:37:23.036 --> 00:37:30.922


And I'm like we really on Tuesdays we're so scheduled, we drop off, you pick me up and we leave, and if we don't leave right, then because of traffic we won't make it to the studio.00:37:30.922 --> 00:37:38.349


And I was like, sorry, maddie, and I'm feeling so guilty about it, right, but I'm like she's got to check the weather, she's got to know what the weather is Like.00:37:38.349 --> 00:37:43.119


She'll survive one cold day, but I was feeling so guilty.00:37:43.139 --> 00:37:56.786


But I is, let them, she'll be fine, and you just encouraged me to let them well, I feel like I had to figure everything out growing up for myself and it made me very self-sufficient.00:37:56.786 --> 00:38:07.226


And I don't know about the confidence part, but I guess it is confidence, like I always know, like I can figure things out.00:38:07.226 --> 00:38:13.222


It's like an inner thing I have where I'm, like I got it, I know, even if it's you.00:38:13.222 --> 00:38:24.702


So I don't want to rob my kids of that feeling in them, a belief in themselves totally, you know but it's so hard because you don't think, when you're doing things for them, that that's what you're doing.00:38:25.302 --> 00:38:31.204


I know I've gone back and forth of the lunches lately like this is a dumb topic, but I did make their lunches for a while.00:38:31.204 --> 00:38:40.416


They went with my sister-in-law when we went to Italy a few years ago and the mornings could be like a stressful time when they were little and when I got back I remember it being way easier.00:38:40.416 --> 00:38:44.820


They'd sit out their lunch, they'd start packing their snacks, they'd pack our lunches.00:38:44.820 --> 00:38:47.903


My sister-in-law when we were gone, because she had five to six kids with her.00:38:47.903 --> 00:38:48.503


She had to.00:38:48.503 --> 00:38:49.264


She's not doing it.00:38:49.304 --> 00:38:50.505


Yeah, I made them do that forever.00:38:50.505 --> 00:38:51.286


I'm like this is great.00:38:51.286 --> 00:38:52.447


The mornings were smoother.00:38:52.447 --> 00:38:54.250


They like woke up earlier.00:38:54.250 --> 00:39:09.469


They were way more responsible than I thought they would be Right and I was like, oh, my'll make the lunches to show there was a mom here in the morning that made lunches.00:39:09.469 --> 00:39:13.498


But now sometimes they're like, hey, get that lunch, my water, I'll see you in the car.00:39:13.498 --> 00:39:15.242


And I'm like, whoa, this thing turned.00:39:15.242 --> 00:39:16.735


Yeah, I don't work for you.00:39:16.735 --> 00:39:31.099


And then sometimes I get mad that I'm doing everything for everyone, but then I'm doing it Like you always tell me stop, yeah they're not even appreciating this thing that I'm hoping that they appreciate Totally.00:39:31.179 --> 00:39:33.264


So yeah, why are we doing it?00:39:33.505 --> 00:39:34.916


I know, so I go back and forth.00:39:34.916 --> 00:39:42.143


My mom didn't help me with homework and stuff like that and I'm a little bit like I for sure having learning disability, for I mean, it's no question.00:39:42.143 --> 00:39:50.126


Um, they tried to put me in like the special needs classes for learning to facility, but it was really great when I was in elementary school and my mom wouldn't let them.00:39:50.126 --> 00:39:58.018


She's like no, I don't want her to like hear that and like know that and, um, I do think that helped that.00:39:58.018 --> 00:39:58.340


I didn't.00:39:58.340 --> 00:40:02.744


I just always had to learn to figure it out Right, I didn't ever can do good on tests or anything like that.00:40:02.744 --> 00:40:04.980


I don't understand comprehension really well, comprehension really well.00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:06.804


Well, I feel like that with Kennedy.00:40:06.804 --> 00:40:14.637


And she even says to me now, mom, I pretty sure I'm dyslexic.00:40:14.637 --> 00:40:15.278


I'm like, yeah, yeah, you're fine.00:40:15.278 --> 00:40:16.844


But I don't not saying that anyone that has a dyslexic child doesn't.00:40:16.844 --> 00:40:19.012


If you're getting them actual help, that's great.00:40:19.012 --> 00:40:19.534


I do too.00:40:19.534 --> 00:40:20.936


I had Maddie get some help too.00:40:21.177 --> 00:40:23.961


And Ken's has tutoring, but I don't think we've addressed the dyslexia.00:40:23.961 --> 00:40:26.405


But I kind of feel like you do figure things out.00:40:26.405 --> 00:40:27.106


Remember that.00:40:27.106 --> 00:40:33.184


That, um, I think we've talked about it before on the podcast the, the wrestler that had no arms and no legs.00:40:33.184 --> 00:40:42.581


His mom put him in the in the high chair when he was a baby and just put food in front of him and he was crying and she said, no, he's got to figure it out, because I'm not always going to be around to to help him eat.00:40:42.581 --> 00:40:44.103


So I do think there is.00:40:44.103 --> 00:40:51.278


We're just as humans, we can figure things out, and you do get confidence when you learn to figure things out.00:40:51.278 --> 00:40:56.378


So I do think that, like you know, I don't remember what I was saying, but you know what I mean.00:40:56.619 --> 00:40:58.364


When you don't enable them, when you don't help them.00:40:58.364 --> 00:41:00.237


Right, what I did with Maddie oh, with Ken.00:41:00.396 --> 00:41:01.739


Oh, so that's the thing is, I'm, I'm.00:41:01.739 --> 00:41:05.804


She has to figure it out because I'm like she's fine.00:41:06.184 --> 00:41:07.427


Well, that's what I did before real estate.00:41:07.427 --> 00:41:12.043


I was a special ed teacher and I worked with kids with learning disabilities, so, like I was the services that my mom denied.00:41:12.043 --> 00:41:19.121


But so much of what I did with my kids has helped them to stop identifying themselves as having a disability.00:41:19.121 --> 00:41:22.719


Right Back when I first took over the class, they had to pass the.00:41:22.719 --> 00:41:26.302


Oh my gosh, all these years later, I forget the name of it.00:41:26.302 --> 00:41:27.824


Oh my gosh, all these years later, I forget the name of it.00:41:27.824 --> 00:41:28.887


It was a standardized test that everyone AEPA.00:41:28.887 --> 00:41:30.188


No, I think that's my teaching test.00:41:30.208 --> 00:41:31.471


Oh, I know what test you're talking about.00:41:31.471 --> 00:41:32.577


Yeah, Is it AEPA?00:41:32.577 --> 00:41:33.742


No, I can't remember what it is.00:41:33.762 --> 00:41:34.021


Something.00:41:34.021 --> 00:41:39.224


It was a test they had to take to graduate college or high school and everybody was freaking out.00:41:39.224 --> 00:41:43.840


So I worked with kids with learning disabilities that had IEPs because they were dyslexic or had.00:41:43.840 --> 00:41:50.952


Some of them had anger issues, Some of them had, you know, all kinds of disabilities and my whole goal was it was like dangerous minds.00:41:50.952 --> 00:41:53.701


I was like you guys, in life they're not going to accommodate for you, Right?00:41:53.701 --> 00:42:09.697


Because a lot of what special ed does is it gives accommodations to kids with disabilities, gives them extended time for homework, it gives them notes on a test, it gives them take tests in a different environment Right, All great things that do help them, but in life your job doesn't give you those accommodations.00:42:09.697 --> 00:42:18.275


So my whole semester was helping these kids start working and we went over the basics and stop making an excuse because they're like it's not fair, it's not fair.00:42:18.757 --> 00:42:21.744


Well, that summer I think I had 30 kids in the class.00:42:21.744 --> 00:42:26.619


I think I had 25 of them pass the test, yeah, and they were caught like.00:42:26.619 --> 00:42:31.128


When I saw them at school, they were like we did it, I'm just like everyone else and I was like no one.00:42:31.128 --> 00:42:34.521


I remember one day the newspaper came out that they weren't going to change it.00:42:34.521 --> 00:42:37.179


No, the newspaper came out that they're going to change it.00:42:37.179 --> 00:42:39.070


If you have an IEP, you don't have to pass the test.00:42:39.070 --> 00:42:45.824


And my whole class was all excited and it was like one of those like crazy days and I was like, are you going to live like this your whole life?00:42:45.824 --> 00:42:47.226


Are you going to always need an accommodation?00:42:47.226 --> 00:42:48.628


And like kids were crying.00:42:48.628 --> 00:42:49.429


It was like a whole thing.00:42:49.429 --> 00:42:55.822


And they took the test like three weeks later and to find that they passed and they're like you're right Now I know I'm the same as everyone else.00:42:55.822 --> 00:42:57.320


It was like so cool.00:42:57.695 --> 00:42:59.137


Well and a lot of the like.00:42:59.137 --> 00:43:14.025


Like Kennedy might have dyslexia, but or who knows if she does but so she's not good at spelling and reading or as good as, but she has the most critical thinking of any child of mine.00:43:14.025 --> 00:43:26.788


Like, her critical thinking is so good, she's so smart and she knows a situation, and so I feel like labeling her as not good in one area it takes away from, like, her strengths.00:43:26.788 --> 00:43:35.505


So I just don't focus on the strength or focus on that and let's focus on I'm like, you're smart, You're great Critical thinker, great problem solver, figure it out how to get around it.00:43:35.746 --> 00:43:36.610


Well, it's mind blowing.00:43:36.610 --> 00:43:46.282


What qualified them for special um accommodations in in when I taught was that there was a very there was a big variable between their strengths and their weaknesses.00:43:46.282 --> 00:43:49.960


Not necessarily that these were bad, there was just a big growth.00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:52.724


So they were super high in one area and super low in another.00:43:52.724 --> 00:44:01.824


So the fact that there was such a big variable is actually what qualified them, not that they were below average in a certain area, it was the variable between this or that.00:44:01.824 --> 00:44:03.862


But I'm like that's their genius.00:44:03.862 --> 00:44:08.936


So if you take kids like Elon Musk who is on the spectrum, einstein, einstein genius.00:44:08.936 --> 00:44:11.226


So if you take kids like Elon Musk, right, who is on the spectrum, einstein, einstein, they're so smart in one area.00:44:11.226 --> 00:44:14.170


Stop trying to get them the slower the gap.00:44:14.170 --> 00:44:15.635


Try to stop trying to bridge the gap.00:44:15.635 --> 00:44:17.601


Just focus where they're strong and go.00:44:17.601 --> 00:44:18.762


Yeah, I watched the doc.00:44:18.804 --> 00:44:30.684


I feel like school made that all how our school system's not the best, yeah, and well, it just made where everyone had to be at the same baseline, and the baseline is wrong, because everyone learns different and thinks different and has different strengths.00:44:30.684 --> 00:44:33.677


If there was not that, your kid wouldn't even be labeled with anything.00:44:33.697 --> 00:44:36.405


I know I just watched this documentary on Elon Musk.00:44:36.405 --> 00:44:38.778


I just started it and it talked about when he was a kid.00:44:38.778 --> 00:44:44.003


His parents worked a lot and his dad was an engineer and he just read books and read books and read books, because that's all they had.00:44:44.003 --> 00:44:53.498


And he was trying to relate to his dad so bad to get his attention that he would read like engineering books and all these books, but no one would ever help him with homework, no one would ever help him with anything.00:44:53.498 --> 00:44:55.222


So here's kind of that same thing.00:44:55.222 --> 00:45:02.536


He became such a genius to try to relate to his dad that was never happy with him, right, and he was alone and he had to figure everything out on his own.00:45:02.536 --> 00:45:03.297


And now look at him.00:45:03.297 --> 00:45:06.764


So Kennedy, the next Elon, no, but but, me.00:45:06.824 --> 00:45:08.347


I'm good with people and that's like at work.00:45:08.367 --> 00:45:18.559


I'm not good at all the things but it's like what makes you not a good reader because you don't fit in their time, that they just someone made up a time well, and I don't get any of the words right yeah, but I mean, why do you get the words right?00:45:18.559 --> 00:45:18.659


I?00:45:18.679 --> 00:45:18.820


agree.00:45:18.820 --> 00:45:20.324


Like I don't read now, you read the.00:45:20.324 --> 00:45:22.217


That's what I mean it's dumb so.00:45:22.938 --> 00:45:30.438


I, it's, it's all made up, and then the kids are made to feel like they're not meeting these made up standards.00:45:30.458 --> 00:45:38.496


Yeah, instead of focus where they can right that's what's great about like Montessori schools they focus on, and even exactly like other cultures and and that's what I'm saying around the countries.00:45:38.597 --> 00:45:46.900


They focus on strengths exactly, and it's not this like baseline that only fits a small percentage of the population you're so right, tishaisha.00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:48.362


You're so smart, so smart.00:45:48.362 --> 00:45:50.527


One day, I hope to be more like you, baby girl.00:45:50.768 --> 00:45:55.242


Yeah, Come eat this candy out of my hand you little freak.00:45:55.262 --> 00:45:56.409


Well, I'm going to really encourage my kids this week.00:45:56.650 --> 00:45:57.155


Yeah, me too.00:45:57.295 --> 00:45:58.378


And I'm going to be nice to my husband.00:45:58.378 --> 00:45:59.322


That's always our goals.00:46:00.056 --> 00:46:01.300


And Tisha's going to try the milk.00:46:10.275 --> 00:46:11.978


No, be an incentive that I offer Stabler.00:46:11.978 --> 00:46:12.418


No, please, please, guys.00:46:12.418 --> 00:46:17.867


A light disclaimer after this episode we don't support women on their knees drinking milk drink water?00:46:17.867 --> 00:46:22.681


No, but in all honesty, what's wrong with movies like that is they are disrespecting women.00:46:22.681 --> 00:46:26.217


And true love Stabler isn't doing weird things.00:46:26.358 --> 00:46:33.422


Or it's like showing that that's what a woman wants, and like a woman doesn't want to be disrespected or treated like that.00:46:33.483 --> 00:46:35.708


Yeah, or bossed around, no, or like.00:46:35.708 --> 00:46:40.684


Yeah, we're empowering women, and then we put them on their knees and baby girl.00:46:41.135 --> 00:46:44.074


Well, even the movie she was like an empowered woman, but then it's like she wasn't.00:46:44.074 --> 00:46:45.297


They were trying to, like, ruin her life.00:46:45.318 --> 00:46:46.961


Yeah, they were trying to like ruin her life.00:46:46.961 --> 00:46:48.987


He was trying to like ruin her life, right, because she and she had a happy marriage.00:46:48.987 --> 00:46:56.318


That's what was so mind-blowing about the whole movie is she had this great husband, right, and it was like just because of your own weird sexual needs.00:46:56.318 --> 00:46:57.338


Yeah, it was so bad.00:46:57.338 --> 00:47:00.021


I agree it's a horrible movie, so don't go watch it, yeah.00:47:00.061 --> 00:47:05.264


Or support it, and I know you need to watch better movies.00:47:05.264 --> 00:47:05.724


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