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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me all the time and it's great and it's real.

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Welcome to Jerking Around Tisha's mute, but today we're talking about oh, we're recording.

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Yes, this is the intro oh, perfect, welcome.

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Welcome to Jerking Around.

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Today I'm going to talk.

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Yeah, you talked a lot today, did I, and I didn't interrupt you.

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I'm proud of you.

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Yeah, today we're talking about not being a doormat, don't be a schmuck, underwear in the drawer, bible study and loving everyone.

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It's tisha's finally gonna start.

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I'm gonna start today speaking of let's talk about kristen cavalieri what you just told me today on the way here.

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So you guys know, weeks ago we talked about um.

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She has a podcast.

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Let's be honest we joke about it all the time.

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Yeah, and she said that she thought kanye was a clone and she thought britney was a clone.

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And then today on her podcast she released that she said Brittany called her, which I'm like.

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No text.

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First she called, oh, she called.

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Her publicist called.

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Okay, so not Brittany.

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But like that's crazy.

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They want to shut her up.

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Who's?

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going to be calling us Chrissy Teigen.

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No, no, I don't think we'll get to that status.

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No.

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We don't want to be famous, not like anyone's asking us to be famous.

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We, no.

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I don't even want to be rich.

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I do.

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I know it's so weird again the things you say out loud, let's edit.

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I just want to have a like, be able to still travel.

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Yeah, you know, I don't care about being rich, I just care that I can do the things I want to do.

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I love that for you.

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Which isn't rich yeah?

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You still want to be rich.

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I do.

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I love that for you though.

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So I love that for you and I'm happy for you.

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Go ahead.

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So, anyways, the person reaches out and says Brittany wants to talk to you.

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So she gets on a text with Brittany and her publicist and Kristen.

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A text is so weird and her manager and I guess I only read the recap I haven't listened to the podcast yet because it just came out this morning but she basically was saying that Brittany was texting on there saying like I want to get together basically to prove she wasn't a clone, because she had said she was a clone.

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So then Kristen sent her a text separately.

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Should I just play the clip?

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Oh, yeah, here, but I don't think it has all of it on there.

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But yeah, play the clip, okay anytime my publicist calls me, by the way, I'm like what the fuck?

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who died what?

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happened like I can't, my heart can't take it, and he goes guess who wants your phone number.

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And I went who?

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Brittany fucking?

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Oh, bad word we're about to bleep that.

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Ok, go ahead, so anyways.

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So she's on a text with the four of them and Brittany's acting like a non-clone, saying let's get together.

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So then cut, they end that chat.

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Then Kristen sends her a direct text message and says hey, let's get together.

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I'm not in LA a lot, but when I am I would love to see you.

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Brittany never responds.

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It's so weird.

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So weird, I know, but like can they just text from her phone?

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But they didn't want her to get together without the publicist.

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I'm thinking.

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But she was like even more.

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I'm thinking that's a clone.

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Yeah, it's so bad something's going on.

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She's not allowed out of the house like it's gotta be whacked or something sad.

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I know it's so sad.

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Anyways, speaking, of never mind, that's naughty what I was gonna say I was talking about people that aren't allowed out of the house, and there's those influencers we follow, and I feel like they're not allowed out of the house too, and and they're just normal.

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It's weird, yeah, okay, moving on.

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Okay, I forget.

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We were going to talk about that cloning, there was something else.

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Oh, we went to Giggly Squad last week.

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Yeah, we went to Giggly Squad on Saturday night.

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It was really good.

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I don't really listen to Giggly Squad.

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You don't listen to anything.

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I don't listen our podcast for half a half, I know and then you had 50 edits and it's just like you're not allowed to listen, I'm all.

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And then I do it, I'm all, I'm all, I'm all.

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It's weird.

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Well, I don't think anyone likes their own voice.

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Well, no, I'm gonna focus on not saying I'm all.

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And then you just said it 10 times.

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Well, after now, starting now.

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You don't used to do that Silent game, starting now, regina.

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No, we need our food out now.

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Regina.

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Our friend yelled at the waiter on Saturday and it was so funny.

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She told him excuse me, we need our food out now and we're like sorry, she's just angry.

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I just have a thing where it's really hard for me to be rude to servers, even if they're doing the worst job possible, because I was a server.

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Yeah, even if they're doing the worst job possible because I was a server.

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Yeah, and I still give her 20% tip.

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Good job, because I just can't Moving on Giggly Squad.

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Yeah, so we went and we were super excited Tisha and I thought it was foreshadowing.

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Well, we both don't drink a lot and we had a martini, espresso martini.

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They're so good, they were really good that night and we were a little so then my I'm so glad social media wasn't around in college.

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I would have posted the worst things, oh, the worst.

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Like I feel bad for that generation because I, like would call guys, like sometimes 10 times, and I'd be like, hey, you want me to come over?

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Yeah, they didn't, they did not want me to come over and I kept calling, thinking they were scared.

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Yeah, it's so stupid?

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Drunk calling, calling, drunk texting.

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Oh so I might have buzz posted that um foreshadowing for jerking around us at giggly squad, but it was really good.

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I'm obsessed with page de sorbo.

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I feel like everybody knows that.

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I feel like I talk about that all the time.

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Yeah, she's probably my favorite it's her and hannah, and I don't love hannah on giggly squad, but saturday night I loved hannah, like even a little more than page, which I really love to swear but I just think she does it right.

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She just gives us a hint of her life, just enough that you're so dang curious.

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And I feel like she handles because I'm obsessed with Summer House and I'm obsessed with Southern Charm two of the best shows ever and like she always handles things like so classy but like opinionated, like she's always who she is but she also is like classy and she's like a girl's girl and like she can wear anything and it looks good.

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I mean, she could have three roses on her neck.

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That's what I was going to say.

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You always say I'm like Paige, but I don't feel like if Paige wore the shirt you would make fun of her.

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I feel like you'd be like I love that, Not because she's just more of a.

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She's a girly.

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She dresses very girly.

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I'm a more casual.

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She's very dressed up.

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Yes, she's always like.

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It's an outfit.

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I feel like skirts a lot.

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It's very more dressed up Way.

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Dressed up, yeah.

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So I don't feel like I'd see her in a t-shirt ever.

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She's always a crop, and what I like about her is she eats normal food.

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You a crop right, and what?

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I like about her is she eats normal food you know those people like she's never talking about dieting, she's never worried about her body.

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But they said at the show.

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She doesn't eat carbs oh really, yeah, they did really, because I was thinking should I not eat carbs?

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No, she eats carbs totally on the show.

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Oh yeah, bagel sandwiches she said at the ghillies one really yeah and I, because I thought to myself well, I'm not, there goes the carbs no, she has lost weight recently, though I thought she was doing the shot Really.

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So I wonder if she stopped eating carbs and she started working out and she never used to work out.

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But you know what's weird about that?

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She was more appealing to me before with, like the body.

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There's those people that you're like they're normal.

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I feel like we're all so intrigued with being like normal, like everybody who looks good does something.

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But she seemed like so, like have a little of this but have a little of that, right, but like not obsess over it.

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But then she started doing like bar classes and she started.

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So I wonder if she stopped eating carbs.

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Hmm, but it was interesting.

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At the show she was a little bit more.

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She's talked about her anxiety battle recently before the shows and so she started taking beta blockers and I felt like she was weirdly like calm for her during the show.

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I didn't have anything to compare to cause I haven't seen that podcast and you don't listen yet or watch the TV shows.

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But you said you're the Hannah, and then I loved Hannah, so I was like well, that makes sense, cause I love you.

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So I was, but I really loved Hannah Saturday night too, which is weird, Cause usually I'm like shut up.

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Oh, I loved Hannah the whole time.

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Yeah, she was awesome.

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I feel like she was more comfortable in that setting than maybe on the show, yeah, Anyways.

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So that was fun.

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We went with our friends and it was super fun, but we think we could totally do that.

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Did you see those people?

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I sent you Mom so hard?

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Yeah, Does anybody watch that?

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No, they had to have a show too.

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They had a show here.

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So one day, because Tisha used to want to be a comedian, you told this last time, I know, but did you tell about when you did the single show?

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When I did the stand-up at church.

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Yes, tell them about it.

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I honestly don't even remember, because I think I blacked out, because I think it was so bad.

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I think it was one of those traumatic experiences that if I went and did the EDM therapy or whatever it's called, and they're tapping and they're like go back to like wait, where was it at that would come.

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Where was it at, though?

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It was at CCV and it was church.

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Yeah, we there used to be like a very big couples or singles ministry.

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We were a part of it and they had like a singles night and then they thought we were funny.

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Which is so crazy, yeah, which is so crazy.

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Yeah, and then you were gone because you had to go out of town or something, yeah, and so they were like you just do it, but they wanted both of us originally, which I feel like I'm better with you.

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I'm not good by myself we yeah, because we used to you should have came with me to LA.

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I'm all no, so well, why they liked us at that ministry.

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Let's tell this story.

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It's been a while.

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Yeah, um, we were in a singles, so no, we are.

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So it's here.

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In high school, we would try to stall practice on Saturdays and they'd tell us to stand up and start telling our coach stories.

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We'd all stretch.

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We'd get in a big in high school cheer.

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We'd all get in a big circle and stretch for like the first 10 minutes of practice.

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And so Crystal and I would start like messing with each other, messing, bantering back and forth, being really funny, just to because we could make our coach laugh.

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Yeah, and then it would like delay practice getting started like, sometimes like an hour oh.

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I know it was so funny, but um, so then in college we were let's just be real, let's be honest.

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We might change your name when you want me to be real, because you never are.

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You never are.

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You'll edit your stories and I want you to tell the truth.

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If you want to be real, then go on Kristen's show and be real, because you never are.

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You never are.

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You'll edit your stories and I want you to tell the truth.

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If you want to be real, then go on kristen's show and be real you know, this is jerking around when we lie no so we were.

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We were single and ready to mingle.

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And well, tisha and I did this thing and it was so great, I really want to do it.

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We talked about it before.

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We did this thing called love everybody and it was like we were loving everybody because we were like, as Christians, we're supposed to just love everybody.

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But what we were we were loving like bad boyfriends too.

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But I still support it.

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Yeah, I literally, I literally do.

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I see one of my exes and I've talked about him on here and I feel like I've talked about him.

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Maybe not the best light, but if I could change that now I follow, I think, all my exes on social media.

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Kyle's super.

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My husband is like, eh, and it's so cool, cause a lot of them are Christian now and that's because you loved him.

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Yes, I do, I see it's about me really.

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Yeah, no, but I think that, like you plant a seed right, that's what they tell you you plant a seed and you never know when the seed's going to grow, and so I always believe that showing certain people God's love, like by loving them in spite of themselves, they might have found God Right Eventually.

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But I do have a story about that time.

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Okay, so I recently was helping a client buy a house with a builder and this was during my Love Everybody, and I was during my love everybody and I was very motivational.

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It was when I worked at Coach.

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Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And I was a manager at Coach and it was during the love everybody time.

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The love everybody and I was loving on my employees.

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I wish we could just we're going to try again, I know.

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So I hired this guy and we I like just was normal to him, but apparently I was like you weren't normal, you were loving everybody.

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Yeah, every day was like let's inspire him, right.

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It was like our goal was to inspire and love and bring people to Jesus and it was like I was a way better person than I am now me too, and so, anyways, this was literally 25 years ago so, or 20 years ago so crazy.

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I was helping a client buy a new build with a company, um, and there was an issue with the house, so it got escalated up to corporate and I was emailing back and forth with the agent a lot and then I had to get a little crazy and then she was like we weren't hearing back and I was always very nice to her, and so she was telling her friend who's like really high up at the company and she was like, yeah, this agent is like great, she's been great.

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And then he was like, yeah, this agent is is like great, she's been great.

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And then he was like I know her, she gave me this opportunity at coach and believed in me in sales, and now he's like really high up, it's so cool, and so she called me to tell me and she's like he just like you made such an impact on his life and I was like I'm a what's his name again?

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No, I'm just kidding.

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Hopefully he doesn't listen.

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No, I wasn't, but I was.

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I couldn't believe it Cause I know if someone would have asked me if I impacted anybody during that time, I'd be like no way what we did during that time.

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To that I want to bring back the boyfriends, though that was just being an idiot.

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I'm always sleeping with everybody he loved.

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I'm going to love him.

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I did love him anyways.

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No, let's talk about that.

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Hold on Two things.

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One thing we did during this time let's remember we didn't get offended.

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No, and church was just about that.

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Don't be easily offended, I'm not easily offended.

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So I don't think I am.

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You think I'm easily offended.

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I think you're easily done with people.

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Yeah, but I'm not offended.

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You're done with them so easily, it's the same.

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That's different.

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I think it's so different.

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No, you need to be loving them.

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I'm like I'm easily.

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That's what I'm saying.

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Yeah, you're not easily offended, you're not sensitive.

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No, I'm not sensitive.

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If they weren't our cup of tea, we loved them anyways.

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They were maybe annoying, we loved them anyways.

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More tolerant maybe.

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No, loving, it wasn't like we ignored them.

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You ignore so many people now I do.

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Yeah, I think it's getting older.

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You have like less, but like what if you would have ignored him?

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I know I don't think he did anything to piss me off, though I'm saying Tolerant, tolerant, you're not very tolerant, but we loved everyone, no matter how they treated us, no matter if they were rude to us, no matter if they, but that's like what Jesus commands us to do, so I got to get back to that.

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That's what I'm saying.

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I know I'm working on it.

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Oh gosh, it's all about the three, so we're going to go back to it.

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Yeah, we're going to go back to it.

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Everyone saw good in everyone, even when they showed us they're bad, correct, and what else did we do?

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We were like we're listening to god's plan for our day.

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We'd be like it's not about us today, it's about him, like if something derailed, I'd be like this is where god wants me to be.

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It was a very like peaceful.

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I had a lot of inner peace.

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It was like the probably the most peaceful time in my life, right, but it was hard because we were single and lonely.

00:14:35.364 --> 00:14:37.726
So, oh yeah, the single, that's what we were talking about.

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We were single, and so our boyfriends.

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So one of my ex-boyfriends I loved him.

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He was like so we went to a formal for sorority and when you go to a formal it's like prom or homecoming, and we went and we danced on the bar all night.

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We had the best time, and usually guys like me because I fun, but then they like get all shy and want to be alone with me all the time and never go do anything fun.

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So it's like always a weird thing, right.

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So when he danced all night and like we went out all night with Jed and Ryan, our best friends, it was like I was hooked yeah so then I was hooked for a lot of reasons, really really good looking, and I always liked guys with muscles, like I was really into guys with, like, a lot of muscles, big muscles.

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Oh, I every guy had muscles and I.

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And then I dated someone that hasn't worked out in 10 years but I love muscles.

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You know who I'm talking about, right, yeah, yeah, so everybody loved him.

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It's totally like like uh-huh, and everybody loved him.

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So you know how you think you're going to tame the one.

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Yeah, and he was like wild and like all the things were just really great, you know.

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And so he, I moved back to Phoenix.

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So we dated, talked, stupid Talked meaning he's talking to me and other girls and I'm pretending he's only talking to me.

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So we talked for a while and then I moved back to Phoenix.

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So when I would come back up we would hang out.

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And I remember one time I opened his drawers and there's all these.

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Which so concerning on so many levels.

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Is he a serial killer who keeps underwear of?

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Like?

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If I found that I'd be like?

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I'd be like it's so weird, sos 911.

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Like he's going to kill me and take my underwear?

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Like it's weird.

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It's so concerning.

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Like are they trophies?

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Like was there a lock of hair or a finger?

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You know, it's so concerning I was concerned but I like talked myself out of it, but you were loving him.

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I love people, even if they're serial killers like what are these?

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yeah, nothing, he's like, it's nothing, it's just they left him here.

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They're all different colors and all different.

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Oh my gosh, I should have ran.

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I should have ran, called the cops no, and I maybe and I like like a necklace talking to him killers keep like a piece of jewelry.

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it's so scary, so bad.

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And he didn't even like act like it was anything.

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He was like, yeah, they left him here and I was like, you know, when you, it's so relatable to everything in life.

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But like I didn't want to make waves because I didn't want him to stop talking to me.

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Yeah, so I was like, well, I'll just love him.

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And it was so bad.

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And so he's like, yeah, they left him.

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Clearly, like while we were, they left him there and I just ignored it and I kept loving him and he kept jerking me.

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But and I was like I'm going to show him God and I'm just going to keep loving him and keep loving him.

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Literally, he did become my boyfriend eventually, right, and he like said I love you.

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It turned into like what I thought it could be Right, but what was weird is, when it did, I didn't like him anymore, right, you know how that happens Like it's the ungettable get, and he got like way more.

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He was very, very smart and he had very big aspirations.

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I just felt like I could never measure up and so it wasn't like.

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That's why I stopped liking him.

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It just like when you get all of somebody.

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Finally you can see if your relationship really works.

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But we ended on like good terms and we stayed very close.

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He ended up becoming a Christian Like I don't regret that ever, but now with our kids like I don't want Maddie to love them anyway.

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No, you know, it's hard, maddie's my daughter Well, and I don't think that like it's a fine line of loving.

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You even say that for you, because sometimes you're I know.

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But am I wrong?

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No, you're not, because remember in Bible study it says turn the other cheek if someone does wrongdoing to you.

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But in counseling they said Jesus wasn't a schmuck either.

00:18:23.201 --> 00:18:23.944
Well, I think that.

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Because that's where I get confused.

00:18:25.203 --> 00:18:26.028
Well, it's like your kids.

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I'm loving my kids, but I'm still going to have Discipline, discipline.

00:18:29.862 --> 00:18:30.082
Yeah.

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Or like a standard how you're going to act.

00:18:34.923 --> 00:18:40.807
Yeah, Like I love Ben, but if he's cheating on me or beating me, I'm not loving him.

00:18:40.967 --> 00:18:41.146
Yeah.

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I'm going to have a boundary, so I think it's like there's got to be some yeah.

00:18:45.088 --> 00:18:47.529
That's what was hard when we were so young and naive we didn't care.

00:18:47.529 --> 00:18:56.453
But like I don't regret any of that, no, but so we still loving everyone.

00:18:56.453 --> 00:18:58.674
But we were going out like partying on the weekend.

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We wanted to find nice guys, yeah.

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So we were going to the bars and we're, because once you're like in your job, it's boring.

00:19:04.778 --> 00:19:05.798
That's why I do.

00:19:05.798 --> 00:19:10.400
I'm kind of on the fence about college, Cause I do think it's like all the things, yes.

00:19:10.579 --> 00:19:12.761
I wasn't going to say it to try to keep a few listeners.

00:19:12.761 --> 00:19:20.750
They're gone from the election fraud, but I do agree and I don't use my degree, Kyle, my husband doesn't use his degree.

00:19:20.750 --> 00:19:21.790
It's expensive.

00:19:21.790 --> 00:19:23.332
I was in debt for years because of college.

00:19:23.332 --> 00:19:27.496
But what I love about college, even what you know, we had different college experiences.

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We both said this yeah.

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But we grew in those four years.

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It's like a trial for adulthood.

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You're not at home in high school, living with your parents, but you're not fully responsible yet.

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You're still kind of being a kid, yeah.

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But you can like.

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It buys you time it does.

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And I do think you're so undeveloped still at that age your brain, yeah.

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Decision-making.

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Is that why you got those?

00:19:48.720 --> 00:19:50.763
Exactly A hundred percent.

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So I think it's good to not be fully thrown into working.

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I agree, starting a family, cause you're still figuring things out, yeah, so it's kind of like high school part two it's like.

00:20:01.086 --> 00:20:08.261
It is like high school part two, you know Then when you're done with college probably one of my crazier times, I would say, was when we were done with college.

00:20:08.261 --> 00:20:10.990
I had a house with some friends, right, you ended up living with me.

00:20:10.990 --> 00:20:12.791
Everybody kind of a bunch of people lived with me.

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We would have like gatherings, and then we would go out to the bars because that's what everybody did, right, and so we would go out and I mean there was some really fun nights, but stupid nights too, and so we would go.

00:20:24.537 --> 00:20:28.063
Tisha and I decided to join a singles Bible study to try to meet the right guy, right.

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Cause we were meeting jerks at the bar.

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I'm like, yeah, I'm like.

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I'm all so anyways.

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So our Bible study if you guys have ever done a Bible study or a small group, we would go and they would be like a Christian off.

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It would be like I've prayed five times today and and we're all singles.

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It was very like every no one was real.

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It was very surface, very like one, upy the girl with her womb.

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I prayed all the time and I'm thinking I'm not praying all the time.

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So so one day we're watching, we had a Superbowl party, like a week before the incident.

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We had a Superbowl party and, um, they kind of alluded that Janet Jackson had fake boobs and it was like this negative.

00:21:08.296 --> 00:21:08.858
Remember when?

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Justin Timberlake pulled her thing down and showed her boob with like a pasty.

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Yeah, and so they were mad.

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She had fake boobs or something, right?

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They were mad about that and the fake boobs.

00:21:18.069 --> 00:21:19.653
Yeah they were exactly.

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They were bashing because she had fake boobs and Tisha had fake boobs at the time.

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I didn't, I know.

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The tables have turned.

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So we were hanging out with them.

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So then Tisha was kind of annoyed at them, like you jerks.

00:21:29.144 --> 00:21:40.888
So then we were hanging out with them and Tisha told them that I'm getting a, a car going to do like the gifts for like the angel tree.

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Yeah, and he's just like you guys, crystal has to tell you something.

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And these girls are squeaky.

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Wheel clean is what we understand.

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Things to ruffle their feathers, you know so she said you guys, crystal's really nervous that you're gonna judge her.

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She's getting a boob job and she's worried that you're gonna judge her this and that.

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And they're like, and I was like no, I'm not.

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She's like, see, she doesn't want to tell you.

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And I was like no, really, she's like Crystal, it's fine, I got this.

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And they were not judgmental, they were they were like we love you.

00:22:02.339 --> 00:22:05.650
She's like well, she knows, you got mad about Janet Jackson, so she doesn't want.

00:22:05.650 --> 00:22:07.221
And they really thought I was getting a boob job.

00:22:07.221 --> 00:22:09.804
So then we go back to Bible.

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You woke up and it was all battered.

00:22:11.464 --> 00:22:24.910
That never happened and anyways, so we're sitting there and what happened?

00:22:24.910 --> 00:22:25.492
What triggered?

00:22:25.532 --> 00:22:25.613
you?

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I don't remember, but something happened in Bible study.

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No one was being real, everyone was being judgmental and we needed help.

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Yeah, we did and we were like we were partying.

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We needed like help.

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We didn't want to talk about the dumb things.

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No, like surface, and we were wanting like real connection and like people to be real and we weren't being perfect, so for them to be so perfect, it was just very like off-putting.

00:22:48.827 --> 00:22:50.810
We felt alone, like we weren't worthy.

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I yelled at them.

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I don't remember.

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So all of a sudden we're just sitting there.

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So she stands up.

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It's like in a gathering like this, like you're sitting, indian style, the guys have their shoes off, you know, yeah, and she stands up, which is like whoa, and she's like and you know what?

00:23:03.969 --> 00:23:05.770
I'm done with this?

00:23:05.770 --> 00:23:08.173
You were like my mom's drunk.

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We're drunk every weekend and I'm done faking it and I have fake boobs and I'm sick of all of you.

00:23:14.142 --> 00:23:17.027
And so why don't you all just keep reading your Bibles?

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I'm leaving.

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She slams the door.

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Let's go, crystal.

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Yeah, and she's my ride.

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And I get up and I'm like thank you, your house is beautiful.

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We'll see you guys next week.

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Thank you again.

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And like I leave.

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And I was like Tisha, we can't leave like this.

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And so she's like I'm done with them.

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It's a waste of time again.

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They're all we have.

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Otherwise we'll be drunk more.

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Yeah, so we go back in.

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Oh, we went back.

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That's when it how it happened.

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I didn't remember if it was the next time.

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No, I think we went back in.

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Yeah, everybody starts telling these stories.

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They're all.

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You guys are right, I'm a drunk and we're like what?

00:23:52.181 --> 00:23:59.253
it's like I have a child, like an illegitimate child and then it was like, oh so we go back in, everybody starts talking.

00:23:59.253 --> 00:24:01.244
One of them was struggling with drinking, like us, right.

00:24:01.244 --> 00:24:03.861
Another one had a child that he was feeling so guilty.

00:24:03.861 --> 00:24:05.125
They have no relationship, right.

00:24:05.125 --> 00:24:07.011
It was the coolest thing.

00:24:07.011 --> 00:24:09.460
We became so close with these people.

00:24:09.460 --> 00:24:10.282
I miss that.

00:24:10.282 --> 00:24:11.446
Yeah, we were best friends.

00:24:11.446 --> 00:24:15.882
Our one friend who had the illegitimate child he ended up rekindling with her.

00:24:15.882 --> 00:24:16.884
Yeah, he got married.

00:24:16.884 --> 00:24:17.644
We we're at his wedding.

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Like we were best friends.

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It's when you did the comedy thing, cause they went that night to support you.

00:24:22.753 --> 00:24:27.692
But we were doing like God's plan, like we were living like so differently back then.

00:24:27.692 --> 00:24:34.864
It was like the coolest thing and we weren't perfect but we were just loving and I think that was so like inspiring yeah.

00:24:35.404 --> 00:24:36.386
So we need to get back to that.

00:24:36.386 --> 00:24:49.071
I'm going to get back there, anyways, but with our kids and dating cause I, my oldest, is in high school now and she's doing the talking that we've been talking about, and so question for our listeners, our jerkies how long is too long?

00:24:49.071 --> 00:24:51.327
Like, how much talking is too long?

00:24:51.327 --> 00:24:54.740
Like my ex with the underwear, it was clearly too long.

00:24:54.740 --> 00:25:02.496
Like he they're going to lock it in Crap or get off the pot, yeah or not?

00:25:02.496 --> 00:25:05.134
So, like so many of my cheerleaders do this talking thing.

00:25:05.134 --> 00:25:08.154
Some of them talk for a short amount of time, then they're in a relationship.

00:25:08.154 --> 00:25:09.510
Others are talking for years.

00:25:09.510 --> 00:25:11.211
I think talking for years is weird.

00:25:11.765 --> 00:25:14.153
I think it's just like letting him have his cake and eat it too, right.

00:25:14.153 --> 00:25:25.791
He's basically getting all the great things about being in a relationship, the check-in every day, text, good morning, good, blah, blah but then there's no commitment level.

00:25:25.791 --> 00:25:29.527
Yeah, so that's again where I feel like there should be a commitment level if you're getting all the good things Right.

00:25:29.606 --> 00:25:35.946
I agree, it's like a trade-off, I agree, but I don't want to be too crazy and too I would say so during our single days.

00:25:35.967 --> 00:25:38.789
you don't want to jump in in a day, but I think a month month and a half.

00:25:38.829 --> 00:25:39.990
We were just telling this story too.

00:25:39.990 --> 00:25:43.375
You're not going to be real on that, but we were talking about when we both met our husbands.

00:25:43.375 --> 00:25:49.601
I did the drinking and then I learned finally, like I'm getting meeting guys at bars, they're losers.

00:25:49.601 --> 00:25:52.614
Right, we're not starting our relationship on the right foot.

00:25:52.614 --> 00:25:59.830
I'm putting up with way too much, you know, trying to be the cool girl and I just talked to my daughter about this too Right, cool girl gets you nowhere.

00:25:59.830 --> 00:26:00.412
No, cool girl gets you nowhere.

00:26:00.412 --> 00:26:03.675
No, I've had friends that were cool girls and it didn't work out in their favor.

00:26:03.675 --> 00:26:06.779
Like a guy wants a girl that's going to make him work.

00:26:07.020 --> 00:26:08.912
Right, I truly believe that I'll tell the story.

00:26:08.912 --> 00:26:11.970
So when Ben and I we went on a date, kyle and Crystal set us up.

00:26:11.970 --> 00:26:17.750
I knew him from high school, my husband, but Crystal and I are best friends, her husband and Kyle.

00:26:17.750 --> 00:26:20.775
Her husband, kyle and my husband played baseball in college.

00:26:20.775 --> 00:26:23.740
They've been friends forever, so they were friends, and then her and I are friends.

00:26:27.365 --> 00:26:29.928
So can we say, though Kyle was supposed to be in Ben's wedding to his ex fiance.

00:26:29.948 --> 00:26:33.653
So we were like super close with Ben and his fiance, who he met in college, so anyway.

00:26:33.653 --> 00:26:39.461
So they had just broke it up like really really recently, like five minutes before, remember you sparked?

00:26:39.461 --> 00:26:40.708
Yeah, we did spark.

00:26:40.748 --> 00:26:44.792
When they were still together yeah, we had a poker night for Kyle, because we were was it Maddie?

00:26:44.792 --> 00:26:52.977
Yeah, yeah, we were having Maddie, and so all the guys came and Tisha came to hang out with me and you know, when, like, two people see each other and it's uncomfortable yeah, we called it a spark.

00:26:52.977 --> 00:26:54.190
I think it was like a sex in the city term.

00:27:01.619 --> 00:27:02.020
Yeah, it was from.

00:27:02.020 --> 00:27:02.602
Had canceled the wedding.

00:27:02.602 --> 00:27:03.763
It wasn't like a good relationship.

00:27:03.784 --> 00:27:06.593
Yeah, horrible I mean we can justify it that way, but totally, Totally.

00:27:06.593 --> 00:27:07.515
It was on its way out.

00:27:07.515 --> 00:27:09.271
We didn't exchange numbers.

00:27:09.424 --> 00:27:14.347
We just like it was like a chemistry, yes, and I was like that was weird, so anyway.

00:27:14.347 --> 00:27:21.451
So they break up, kyle and Crystal set us up backs game and we're there, he's trying to put his arm around me.

00:27:21.451 --> 00:27:23.795
I'm like, you know, like I was being.

00:27:23.795 --> 00:27:26.979
I was like I was so done at that point with wasting my time.

00:27:26.979 --> 00:27:27.941
I was late twenties.

00:27:27.941 --> 00:27:30.550
I was like, no, I'm dating to get married.

00:27:30.550 --> 00:27:32.655
I'm not going to act like I'm not dating to get married.

00:27:32.655 --> 00:27:36.776
If I'm going to scare a guy, I'm going to scare him off on the first date, because then you're not hooked.

00:27:44.664 --> 00:27:46.131
I knew exactly what I wanted and I was so over wasting my time.

00:27:46.131 --> 00:27:47.877
So we um went on a first date, had a great first date, didn't kiss or anything, um.

00:27:47.877 --> 00:27:49.585
And so after that, you know, you start like texting and calling every day.

00:27:49.585 --> 00:27:50.887
So he's texting me.

00:27:50.887 --> 00:27:57.767
So then the next weekend comes and he's like oh, I'm going to Colorado to visit my parents.

00:27:57.767 --> 00:28:02.178
I'm like, okay, have fun, like, I'm being all nice, his mom was having surgery.

00:28:02.178 --> 00:28:05.167
I'm like, great, have fun, that's so great Like.

00:28:05.167 --> 00:28:09.732
And then he didn't really like text me when he was like gone and I was like that's so weird.

00:28:09.732 --> 00:28:17.493
Well, I didn't know this at the time, but his sister had tried to set him up with her friend and they had kind of been talking.

00:28:17.493 --> 00:28:20.528
Well, they went on another date.

00:28:20.528 --> 00:28:22.451
Oh yeah, he didn't go out of town.

00:28:22.451 --> 00:28:31.023
He just told me he was going out of town and that girl came here and they went on a date and they kissed, and so he but you were only talking.

00:28:31.224 --> 00:28:34.191
We had only gone on one date but we were talking every day.

00:28:34.290 --> 00:28:34.992
So to me we're talking.

00:28:35.012 --> 00:28:35.634
But in the talking.

00:28:35.815 --> 00:28:37.778
Yes, we were just talking, stupid face.

00:28:38.025 --> 00:28:40.086
He comes back and I thought it was weird.

00:28:40.086 --> 00:28:40.627
I didn't talk to him.

00:28:40.627 --> 00:28:42.189
I'm like, hey, how was Colorado?

00:28:42.189 --> 00:28:43.029
How's your family?

00:28:43.029 --> 00:28:48.335
And then he felt guilty and he called Kyle and was like, hey, this happened.

00:28:48.335 --> 00:28:49.355
I lied to her.

00:28:49.355 --> 00:28:52.238
I told her I was out of town but I really was hanging out with this girl.

00:28:52.238 --> 00:28:54.160
And Kyle was like you got to tell her.

00:28:54.160 --> 00:28:56.241
I vouch for you, this is my setup.

00:28:56.241 --> 00:28:58.507
You better tell her.

00:28:58.507 --> 00:28:59.347
And Kyle's so honest.

00:28:59.387 --> 00:29:01.832
So Ben calls me and he's like hey, I have to tell you something.

00:29:01.832 --> 00:29:02.512
And I'm like what?

00:29:02.512 --> 00:29:12.669
And he's like I was kind of my sister was setting me up with her friend and she came in town and we hung out and it was planned and we kissed, it was planned before you.

00:29:12.669 --> 00:29:14.094
And I even went on our first date.

00:29:14.445 --> 00:29:26.291
Like this has been planned for weeks and I just didn't know how to cancel on her and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and I was like, okay, cool, we're not going to talk anymore.

00:29:26.291 --> 00:29:27.577
You can go talk to this other girl and I'm happy for you.

00:29:27.577 --> 00:29:28.340
Thank you for telling me the truth.

00:29:28.340 --> 00:29:36.347
But like I'm not going to date a guy that's talking to anyone else and I'm dating to get married and I'm not going to talk to someone that's wants to talk to other girls.

00:29:36.347 --> 00:29:39.531
So you're either talking to me or and no one else, or that's the end of it.

00:29:39.531 --> 00:29:41.673
And he's like, okay, yeah, I'll call her right now.

00:29:41.673 --> 00:29:47.681
Oh yeah, no, no, no, I didn't mean it, you know, but I wasn't like afraid I was gonna scare him off.

00:29:48.845 --> 00:29:50.864
I wasn't afraid that Because you're gonna scare him off anyways.

00:29:50.864 --> 00:29:53.988
Yeah, like, if he doesn't like that in the beginning, he's not gonna make it.

00:29:54.188 --> 00:29:54.848
Especially me.

00:29:55.048 --> 00:29:56.009
Yeah, you are very strong.

00:29:56.069 --> 00:29:59.253
I'm like if a guy's not all in on with me, even though it only been one date.

00:29:59.253 --> 00:30:14.608
I was like no, I'm good.

00:30:14.628 --> 00:30:21.115
I agree, though it's so much better to end it in the beginning, because you can still get out with dignity and like you're, you don't like, even like when you talk to someone every night and say good night.

00:30:21.115 --> 00:30:23.979
You stay just to have someone rather than the good one.

00:30:24.160 --> 00:30:27.643
Right, and I think that moment made him fall more in love.

00:30:27.643 --> 00:30:36.767
Oh, it always does, because he was like you're not some schmuck, I'm not a schmuck, I know my worth and I expect a lot and I'm going to expect a lot from a husband.

00:30:36.767 --> 00:30:41.492
So if you can't be that while we're dating, you're not going to be able to fulfill that as a husband.

00:30:41.492 --> 00:30:46.519
So, like if you're dating a guy and he's not giving you what you need, it's never going to work, never.

00:30:46.720 --> 00:30:52.596
It's but it's better to know in the beginning and get out than it is to like get so addicted to the habit of him Now.

00:30:52.684 --> 00:31:00.955
I'm glad that happened because I was able to like right away, be like yeah, no cool, if you want to talk to anyone else, I'm done so well and in the beginning of a relationship.

00:31:00.976 --> 00:31:03.238
They always remember you for who you were in the beginning, right.

00:31:03.238 --> 00:31:08.730
So, like, even when you get married and you go through things like having a baby, your body changes, like you don't always feel as confident.

00:31:08.730 --> 00:31:11.714
But all I can lean on is the beginning with Kyle that we did make.

00:31:11.714 --> 00:31:23.896
I did make him like really, work for me because I was.

00:31:23.916 --> 00:31:25.199
He know he had that girl.

00:31:25.499 --> 00:31:29.307
Little does he know the other guy yeah, I was all, I'm gonna be the cool girl.

00:31:29.307 --> 00:31:31.275
Yeah, the cool girl gets you nowhere.

00:31:31.496 --> 00:31:34.486
No, cool girl makes it and no one's really cool inside.

00:31:34.486 --> 00:31:38.955
No, it's dumb, no, like I am cool but the guys are hunters though.

00:31:39.056 --> 00:31:41.528
Girls, if you're single, guys want to work for you.

00:31:41.528 --> 00:31:42.631
They want the challenge.

00:31:42.631 --> 00:31:43.492
Give them the challenge.

00:31:43.512 --> 00:31:53.644
No guy wants a doormat and if he does, he's got a problem yeah, he's talking everybody yeah, if a guy wants a doormat, he has like insecurities exactly schmucks, yeah, so learning.

00:31:53.925 --> 00:31:57.417
So if you're talking, don't talk too long, have an opinion, don't be a doormat.

00:31:58.039 --> 00:32:06.078
And the elections fraud, basically, is what he's just teaching us comedy night, and now I feel like the prophecy is fulfilling of us.

00:32:06.078 --> 00:32:09.011
They were like you guys should have a comedy show, and then now we do.

00:32:09.011 --> 00:32:09.973
Well, not yet.

00:32:10.295 --> 00:32:10.777
But we're going to.

00:32:10.777 --> 00:32:15.486
Well, we have a comedy podcast and we're going to have a show Right and Tisha wanted it to be topless.

00:32:15.486 --> 00:32:16.606
But I'm like I'm not into that.

00:32:16.887 --> 00:32:17.428
Not anymore.

00:32:17.428 --> 00:32:19.589
Now, that Beast things.

00:32:21.271 --> 00:32:22.492
Well, I'm all whoa.

00:32:22.492 --> 00:32:23.953
Never seen them that big.

00:32:23.953 --> 00:32:26.375
Anyways, we're going to end it here today.

00:32:26.375 --> 00:32:28.657
Great talk, what a great lesson.

00:32:28.657 --> 00:32:30.400
Don't be a doormat, don't be a doormat.

00:32:30.400 --> 00:32:30.720
Yep.

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