Episode 55: Intimacy, Gossip, and the Age of Technology

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Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself, because we're a mess just like you, and Crystal makes fun of me the whole time and it's great and it's real.

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Guys, welcome back.

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We're back.

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Baby Jerking around, the elevated jerking around.

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Yeah, crystal had a.

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Do you want to tell why we've been gone?

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Crystal had a surgery.

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No, I did not.

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Somebody needs a tuck, and it's not me, and I won't tell you what kind of tuck it is Labiana is her favorite name.

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It's getting tucked right back where it's supposed to be.

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I had all C-sections, so there's no way I need a tuck, and you're rougher in the bedroom than I am, so things are getting beaten around.

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Speaking of, it's all tucked in, it looks great.

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Speaking of, though and I'm jumping here too soon, but celebrity gossip the secret lives of Mormon wives yeah, I haven't seen it yet.

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So going on with the labia tuck and the fact that if you're rough, things happen, is that real?

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Okay?

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So let me.

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Let me give you some context.

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Secret lives of mormon wives is a show that's about it's.

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It's supposedly mormons, but I I mean, I have some mormon friends and family and, yeah, I'm not seeing the correlation as much that they're actively Mormon right now but supposedly it's Mormons living their life in Utah and it's a video they were.

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They're called Mom Talk.

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It's on TikTok.

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I saw that and they have their own TikTok.

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It's called Mom Talk.

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So the show is about Mom Talk, tiktok for moms.

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I thought it was like moms talking and it's not, no, like T-O-K.

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Yeah, so in MomTalk the old version of MomTalk the people that were in it, they decided to have parties, kind of like the ones that you tried to have where you drink and then all of a sudden you do.

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They call it soft swinging.

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I never had those parties, so I don't fully understand what soft versus hard swinging is.

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It's a little concerning.

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Well, why don't you?

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tell us what soft versus hard is in general, because I know you're good at that.

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I know what hard is very well.

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I'm not versed in soft as much as you.

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Wow With you know, I'm not going to say, but she's been with a few different types.

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No, but really, what is soft swinging, Okay?

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So I was wondering.

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Yeah, so I listened to Nick Vale's podcast with the main mom talk girl, Taylor Affleck.

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Right, no, you're so into that.

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Jen Affleck isn't even that good on the show.

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No, taylor, she was the mom talk girl.

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She came in later.

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She's not.

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You haven't seen the show.

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No, taylor, I forget her name.

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I forget her name.

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Taylor, something is the main girl and she was the one that soft swinging with her two best friends and their husbands.

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So they would have these parties and then the guys encourage the girls to kiss, which I can see how that happens.

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I'm not going to allude on that, but I have been to a party where some guys encourage some girls to kiss.

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I'm not going to really give more details.

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Should I give?

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more details.

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Well, we've had that happen twice.

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Big birthdays, things get weird In new season of Jerking Around.

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We're trying to be more authentic, more real and not care if we offend people.

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We did offend a few people last year and we're really sorry, but this season we might offend a few more people.

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Yeah, let's go back.

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Yeah, so soft swinging, soft swinging.

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So I was curious.

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The girls kissing.

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So the girl no, no, no, no, oh, the girl started kissing.

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Well then the next party elevated, I heard.

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I think my understanding is that soft swinging is when the girls, so you're with your husband or partner and they're with their husband or partner and you you can exchange like partake with them while you're involved here.

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But I don't think you go all the way.

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I think it's like a little touching, like first through third base.

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Yeah, like a little of this and that but you're not like Doing it.

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Yeah, I think that's what I've gotten from the podcast about Taylor, but she talks about the night that the scandal broke.

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So her best friends, so it was like her best friend's husband and her other friend.

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They would switch Right.

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But you never did the whole thing.

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You didn't have intercourse, you just did.

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Any of your husbands were there.

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Yeah, Like watching it.

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So it wasn't like cheating.

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Yes, gotcha.

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But one of the guys, her best friend's husband, started to develop feelings for her.

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Oh yeah.

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So then they cheated.

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Oh, because they did it when no one was there Like privately yes.

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Yeah.

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So the night, I guess one night, he told her best friend, the best friend's husband said I have feelings for you.

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Then she lost her mind.

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Then she wanted to tell her best friend, your husband now has feelings for me.

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And then that night she was really, really drunk, Kind of I mean Stop, Very, very drunk.

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And she went to her other friend's house.

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The guy came over and they did it, but she doesn't remember it.

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And then she said First of all, you remember it.

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Oh no, this is the weird part, Unless you're like really I remember, like most things, and I've been very drunk, Wow.

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Things were proud of you know what I'm saying.

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You act like you don't remember, but you do.

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I don't know, I've not remembered a lot Really.

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Yeah, like in college when I would, maybe you were roofied, no, it was like a lot Like every weekend.

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I wouldn't remember sections.

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Like I.

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Maybe I don't get it Rumble, minson and Chardonnay together was a horrible mix and when you drink a lot, like there was like a year in college where I really got a little crazy and I drank too much and I would black out Like I wouldn't remember Then I knew it was like a problem.

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Our kids cannot listen to this.

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Nobody listened to this.

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This is just for Tyler.

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Yeah, this is for like, just America, but not our kids.

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This is the vault.

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This is horrible.

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It started off really wrong, I know.

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Back to the soft swing.

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So the guy comes over to Taylor's house.

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She says that she knew something happened because her condition down there was so bad oh, like sore, no, like.

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She talks about it like Like swollen, I don't know.

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But she said I was a mess down there, uses the word mess and I'm like what went on?

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She's like it was painful.

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She had to go home.

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Her husband had to take care of her all day because she was so like beat up down there.

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That's so weird, I know, and I'm like what went on?

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Is it the front?

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Is it like what went on, that you woke up not sore?

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And if you're like married, I mean, are you sore that often?

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Never.

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That sounds bad.

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Yours is like throwing a hot dog down a hallway, so you're never sore, but I'm never sore either, that's not true, because it does like it doesn't happen that easily, easily.

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So I'm not like a hot dog, thank you, because it's not that easy and that might oh my gosh, I'm blushing, I know, but I don't think when you're married.

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You're like, wake up and you're like what went on last night?

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I'm so sore I have to lay around like ice all day.

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That's never happened to me married right.

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So like what happened?

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I'm so worried about it.

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Yeah so that was when they send her a care package.

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Well, I'm like and like why?

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are you telling everybody it's all beat up?

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you know.

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So she might need the labiatech now.

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Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Yeah, like it got, it might have, like you know, like I'm picturing like droopy lips what happened and you woke up and you knew it went on and it was bad.

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I just don't know how anyone thinks that it's a good idea to soft or hard swing.

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And you're not going to get jealous or fall in love.

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Well, kyle used to.

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Not.

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Let me watch what's that show when they're all married.

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The guy is married to all those women's sister wives, kyle.

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I would try to watch it because I was so curious and he'd be like, turn this crap off.

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I guy is married to all those women's sister wives, kyle.

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I would try to watch it because I was so curious, yeah, and he'd be like, turn this crap off.

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Yeah, I can't believe.

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Like I'm watching P-O-R-N.

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Yeah, that's what he's acting like.

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Yeah, I mean, we just spelled that after all.

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We just said I know I'm mom, but he would act like I.

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I'm like, oh my god, I'm not gonna be a sister wife.

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Yeah, I mean.

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Well, you think I mean it's when we lived together.

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it was pretty nice though yeah, but we didn't do any of that.

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It was more like who's got dinner, not like who's got jack off duty, like no, I can't.

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I'm embarrassed, oh gosh.

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They don't do it like that, though.

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They have their own nights.

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That's not like soft-swinging.

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But it's kind of nice.

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It's like soft-swinging.

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I'm not on tonight Like I'm not mad about that, but I'm way, do you think he gets it every single night, though I'm way too jealous.

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I could never, ever swing think that guy has it every single night.

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No, I think some nights he well, I think there's girls he likes more than now.

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They all separated Right.

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Well, duh Again.

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That can't work, it's not healthy, it's not how God intended.

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So, going back to the Mormon lives, one of the girls on the show did get a labia tuck and she was so proud of it Really, she said she was very uncomfortable.

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It was like, cause you know there's a difference between an Audi and innies.

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Have you heard of this?

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No, I was at a bachelorette party recently and we did a whole talk on is yours an Audi or an innie?

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Like a belly button, but it's Did everyone show.

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There was some showing Wow and there's differences.

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Yeah, and maybe I mean you don't know until I prefer an innie kind it's great.

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But I, if I was like gonna be with someone, I think I would pick an innie really yeah, well, maybe an outie isn't so much like detective work like there it is, you know.

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But anyway, you're an outie girl, you're always the the outie.

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No.

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I'm not into it either.

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I don't think the woman's body.

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I know I could never be a lesbian because to me it's like not Except me.

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No, yours isn't no, but you kind of want to be with me.

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I don't want to be with you A little bit.

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The part I want to be with you about is See, knew you wanted to be with me and I wonder, if this happens when you turn into a lesbian, which I think is politically correct, is it because, like sometimes, like emotionally, I'm yeah, like you get me and I'm like Kyle.

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Why don't you get me like Tisha?

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Yeah, like that part I would, but I'm not sexually attracted to this.

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My vagina, oh, anybody's.

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Yeah, any outie yeah, biggie, smallie, I'm still, I'm an innie girl myself.

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Well, is it because you have an outie?

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No, you are attracted to innies.

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No, no, I think they're all great.

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Whatever you have, totally, wear it proudly and, I think, for sure, like it's intended to be.

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And if you want to get a tuck, get a tuck.

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You know.

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Yeah, so she got the tuck on Mormon life, she got the tuck.

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I heard that was really painful though, cause Brandy.

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Um, she got one years ago and I remember her talking about it and how painful it was.

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So I wonder, I'm anxious to know if it does hurt, you know, yeah, I guess when you get yours done?

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would you get a labiaplasty?

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You said after you had kids it did change.

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I didn't have kids.

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That way'm being serious.

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What about it changed?

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Like you said?

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Yeah, like certain positions.

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If you were like an animal, well, I think so.

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What I've heard is because obviously I had a very traumatic birth tell us about it yeah, so Kennedy got stuck.

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She got the shoulder dysphagia so her head came out, but her shoulders couldn't come out.

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And Crystal's on her phone because she doesn't know that we're recording it I'm just kidding.

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It's my daughter and I'm trying to be a good parent while we talk about your labia no, and anyways, the head came out.

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The shoulders couldn't come out, so they got it out.

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But there was some cutting, there was some reconstruction and yeah down there they reconstructed.

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Yes, oh really but there's scar tissue, so that's why painful, yeah, I've heard a lot of people say that Some people, like after a traumatic birth, they can't at all Like.

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It's really painful.

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Yeah, I still certain physicians.

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It's not comfortable.

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What do you guys do then?

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Well, we make do you know.

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Yeah, so no labiaplasty for you.

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So Mormon Wives it.

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I haven't watched it yet.

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Only the beginning is about the swinging.

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But it kind of leaves you like who's mom talk and who's swinging?

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How does this even happen?

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What are these parties?

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Because in the Mormon religion you're not supposed to drink.

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These people aren't Mormon, it's like they're not.

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A few of them on there I think are practicing.

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The Mormons I know have great values.

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Oh, I agree, I love Mormons yeah, really Mormon.

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No, that's what's interesting.

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But if you're not supposed to drink, it's interesting too.

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They talk about like not having caffeine and so they make all these drinks and they look so good.

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Yeah, like, they do like, which is popular right now, because your daughter was over my house and we made one but like the, you do like a soda with like creamer and like all these flavors and it's like a dirty Dr Pepper.

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Oh it's like living on the edge, you know so they make non-caffeine drinks.

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Well, they make them with caffeine, but that's like they're drinking.

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So, like today, we're having caffeine.

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You know, oh, but you're not supposed to, and most, you know, good, practicing Mormons, I don't think do that, but it was.

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It's really like.

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Yeah, it's kind of like a car accident where you're like I know I'm not supposed to keep watching, but I can't stop.

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Yeah, it's kind of that vibe, especially in the beginning.

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But a lot of people talk to me about it, so maybe I should watch.

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Oh, I was getting my hair done yesterday and they're all like did you watch?

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And I think their their branding is so smart the secret lives of Mormon wives.

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I think all of us have always been so curious about certain things.

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Yeah, like secret, yeah, and like I love.

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A lot of our family is Mormon and I love their.

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I don't know so much.

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You know the differences like to be honest.

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So I think their values and everything is amazing.

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So I think it's awesome.

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But I know you had some questions.

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No, I'm good.

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About certain things, but I think it's all lies, but there are lies people tell about.

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What do you mean?

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Well, like you were talking about soaking, oh the soaking.

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So the soaking is interesting and I don't know if it's true.

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And, like, as Christians we were raised, I was very much raised to not have sex before we were married, which I think is amazing.

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Like you know, I really believe in that.

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And so Tell us about soaking.

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What is soaking?

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I don't know, I've never done it, but what I've heard from the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and from the podcast with Nick Vale is that, because he asked her about it, yeah, it's supposedly when, like, the plane lands on the In, yeah, in the, in the, the way, the career, yeah, or whatever Goes in In, in, and you don't move because moving is where it's bad.

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So you just put it in and sit there.

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Well, if you have a good friend, they might come and push the mattress.

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I'm sorry, but it doesn't count because you're not thrusting the hips.

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Yeah, you didn't thrust anything.

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So, you just sat there and it didn't count.

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I think this is made up.

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Let me preface before I offend everybody I've ever known and get mean, mean text messages.

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Yeah, lots of mean I am just.

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This is the scoop on the street.

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This isn't anything.

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I was just curious about if you've ever heard of it or whatever, but they asked about it on the show.

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They talked about it.

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Yeah, On the podcast I've heard of soaking like people, like soak tampons and like vodka, and then they stick them up their butt and then they get drunk.

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Wait, that's what was it like for you?

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no, I've never done that but, like I heard, people did that like in high school and stuff to get drunk without having to drink.

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Yeah, so you soak a tampon in vodka and then you stick it up your butt, which I'm like that.

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I feel like that would hurt.

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I just don't think that's a good choice.

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I don't think that's the right thing to do.

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Well, are you going to talk to your kids about this?

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No, I feel like that's kind of a given.

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If my kids are sticking tampons up their butt, we're having like.

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there's so many things we need to talk about, but, like as a parent, how would you know?

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Yeah, Like.

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You know how you check a kid's room?

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I just did it today.

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I was checking, check in all the things.

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Yeah, not that I.

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I we've had some incidents recently.

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I'm coaching a cheer team in a high school and some things have come up and I have this clear voice problem.

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But yeah, there's girls that I would think are the biggest angels on the planet and I've heard some things.

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So now I'm just like trying to lightly check things around at the house.

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So they like check, but if you found a box of tampons, you wouldn't be like my daughter's doing something wrong.

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Well, if I found a box of tampons in my son's room, I'd think, well, he wouldn't be doing it, guys are doing it, yeah, guys.

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What it's in the butthole.

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Yeah, I don't think any normal guy is going to be okay with that.

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No guy, or?

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girl is doing that.

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That's not normal.

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Why can't it Don't?

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you, I don't think no, it's in the butt, you usually know weird things.

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Yeah, the butt has like receptors that Wait.

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I'm assuming.

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Oh my gosh, my.

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This is, I know, my best friend in high school.

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His mom worked, yeah, and we would always be like how was your day?

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She's like I had a shitty day.

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A bunch of assholes.

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Today that's horrible, but like you sound like you work for these people.

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Would you know about the receptors?

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No, but I think there's.

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How do you know about anal receptors?

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I don't know, I'm assuming there's things that are inside your butt that are so stressful, all the things you have'm so stressed about the kids and the older.

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It's like I'm like should I take them out and homeschool them?

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It's just really hard.

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I can't even talk to you about this.

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Fox's first week of school.

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Tisha thought that it was the end times.

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I mean she you guys already know she bought two dogs.

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Yeah, the poopies.

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I can't with this.

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And we were waiting to talk about this.

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I want to talk to Tyler so bad about this.

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So I'm on the phone with her.

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The other day Was it on the phone and she texts the poopies got to go out.

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Or, like you said, poopies to somebody, the poopies.

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Oh, go ahead and say it the way you say it.

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So the poopies I have puppies and I.

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They're not puppies, they're dogs and I they're not puppies, they're dogs, they're full dogs.

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No, cash is not.

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You've had Cash for seven months.

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He's not one yet, so he's still a poopy.

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Does he have a?

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birthday.

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He's a poopy, yeah In September.

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Are you going to have a?

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party.

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Yeah, oh no, did we miss his birthday?

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Oh, it's October.

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Oh my God, I'm going to look it up.

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No, this is ridiculous.

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Anyway, nobody cares the poopies, I call them puppies.

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They're not puppies.

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You've had Nash for two and a half years and you know how you like change like the.

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No, no one does that at home.

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It's funny.

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No one does that.

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And then you said it wasn't funny.

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No, but it's not stupid like the kids who else are you telling about this?

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The kids and Ben goes along with it.

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And then one day I said, oh the poopies, because when they I come home and they're all excited to see me and I was like, oh the poopies, or I'm like, take the poopies out and it's like puppies but poopies, because it's funny and it's not funny.

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You gotta stop calling that's so stupid.

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Yeah, and it's not funny.

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Like you.

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I'm like why are you calling him the poopy?

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You're like it's funny.

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I'm like to who?

00:18:43.948 --> 00:18:52.230
And Maddie was with me and she didn't think it's funny either, because you're not a dog person and you don't have dog talk and you're you're an anti-dog mom talk.

00:18:52.230 --> 00:18:53.551
Now we have dog talk.

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You can have your dogs on tiktok, I'm gonna make, I'm gonna be dog talk famous, famous, popular.

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So yeah, it's untapped.

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It's untapped.

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It's untapped now.

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Dog's untapped.

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It's untapped Now.

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Dog talk with the poopies.

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Yeah, there's no bestiality though.

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If you're new to the podcast.

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Well, you know, like the mom talk is the swinging, we're not doing that with the dogs.

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This is getting so awful.

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We need to head to church on our way home today.

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I know, I know.

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But, oh my gosh, Tisha does baby talk and we're 42.

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So Tisha really likes baby talk.

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I love a baby talk.

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Oh, yeah, are we catching up the people?

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Yeah, so Tisha likes baby talk.

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She likes to add IES to everything.

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That's how we got jerkies, jerkies.

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She likes to do deweys, with her husband Doing it.

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Yeah, she likes him to get her commies.

00:19:39.221 --> 00:19:40.741
Well, I don't do commies anymore.

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That's the sedative she takes before the deweys.

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No, that used to be the magnesium drink, calm.

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And what would it do to you?

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Well, if you overdose it, it makes you crap your pants and you loved it.

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Well, yeah, but now I'm regular, so I don't need to.

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No, that's when I wasn't regular.

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Now I'm regular, I don't need the commies.

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But no, no, it is smart.

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This is a smart thing for girls.

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It is smart when you ask your husband for things like I do A lot, a lot, and you don't want to sound demanding, you add an IES to it and it has like a playful Like a flirt.

00:20:16.308 --> 00:20:17.530
Yes, yeah, so, like.

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So give us some examples.

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When I wake up in the morning and I'm sitting in my spot and I'm waiting for him to make my coffee because he makes it every morning, because he's the best and I love you he doesn't listen.

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But if he does, I say, and if he's taking long, because sometimes he'll be like making breakfast, or like For the kids, what an idiot.

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Well, so I'm like there's a hierarchy here and the kids' breakfast isn't before my coffee, so and I can't do anything until I have my coffee.

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What do you mean?

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What do you do in the morning to really help?

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I make lunches, I get fox dress, I do a lot, so you're not doing any of that until the coffee shows up.

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And he knows, absolutely not.

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He knows.

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Absolutely not.

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Not doing it, okay.

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And so I wake up, and if he's taking long because sometimes he's taking long and it's wait for real like he'll be making eggs.

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He'll be like coffee is ding ding, burn the eggs, get the coffee to the princess at the table.

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No, he'll get mad.

00:21:20.501 --> 00:21:29.538
Well, yeah, because it's whack he'll get mad and he'll be like I'm crying.

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What goes on, I'm getting it or I'll be like honey coffees.

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Sometimes it's like a power play.

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I feel like he's trying to like assert his manhood, but I'm literally tears.

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He'll be like.

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He'll be like trying to like.

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I'm literally crying.

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He'll be like, trying to be like like you're in trouble, you're waiting.

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You know like he's gonna make me wait and I I'm like okay.

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So then you say coffee's in my habits.

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So I say honey coffee's, all right, michael mommy's, I can't.

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I'm crying.

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Mommy's what who's mommy?

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Mommy, mommy's, what who's mommy.

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I'm mommy.

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This is so weird.

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Your dogs might need to be saved.

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What's going on there?

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I'm literally going to pee my pants.

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Who's mommy?

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You call yourself mommy.

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I'm literally crying.

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You call yourself mommy.

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Mommy's copy.

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I can't.

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This is mortifying.

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Yeah, coffee yeah, worse than you kissing your friends worse than I think it's worse mommy's.

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You call yourself mommy to him.

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Yeah, mommy's, oh man so you say mommy's coffees, and what happens?

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you know, like a baby talk to make it not so demanding, and it's good.

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Or like at night, when I want him to take the dogs out before bed because I'm already comfy, I say, honey, you take the doggies.

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And then, like I make it just the IES.

00:23:05.089 --> 00:23:06.095
That doesn't sound that good.

00:23:06.095 --> 00:23:08.096
I think he takes the dogs out every night.

00:23:08.230 --> 00:23:10.832
Well, yeah, sometimes I have to deliver.

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You know what I mean Dewey's.

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It's a trade I'm willing to make too Mommy's Coffee's, and he has to run it over to you and then tell him about Heaty's.

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Heaty's is when it's cold out, so we're not there yet.

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What happens?

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He gets my heating pad at night and he puts it in the bed.

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He sounds like a little bitch, but he's not, he's a great husband.

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Yeah, girls, get you a husband that does things for you that likes mommy's coffees and heaties.

00:23:37.498 --> 00:23:42.201
Again, when I want my heating pad, I say heaties and colds.

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Tell us what he does with the heaties, because it's not like a heating pad you plug in.

00:23:46.910 --> 00:23:48.557
No, he has to put it in the microwave for three minutes.

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Why do you have a plug-in?

00:23:49.816 --> 00:23:56.551
I feel like it's healthier.

00:23:56.551 --> 00:23:57.093
I'm worried about health.

00:23:57.093 --> 00:23:58.135
So how many items do you plug in at your house?

00:23:58.135 --> 00:23:59.800
And for some reason we can't plug in the heating pad?

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We have to go to the microwave numerous times to keep heating the heaties.

00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:04.509
Yeah, because I don't want to plug.

00:24:04.509 --> 00:24:05.611
A plug is so awkward.

00:24:05.611 --> 00:24:06.731
Then it's tied to the wall.

00:24:06.731 --> 00:24:08.394
It's like the cords in the way.

00:24:08.413 --> 00:24:11.135
So you're fine with Ben getting out of bed 30 times to keep heating this thing up.

00:24:11.536 --> 00:24:12.916
Yeah, he only does it like twice though.

00:24:14.878 --> 00:24:16.200
I didn't think you did it more than once.

00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:17.181
Yeah, sometimes twice.

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What do you say?

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Heaties is coldies.

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Yeah, or when he's getting up.

00:24:20.503 --> 00:24:22.605
It's like I get him when he's getting up.

00:24:22.605 --> 00:24:23.606
Where is he getting up to go?

00:24:23.646 --> 00:24:25.790
Like the bathroom or to tuck the kids in.

00:24:27.550 --> 00:24:29.372
I sound like a total deadbeat wife.

00:24:29.372 --> 00:24:31.554
I'm not a deadbeat, I make dinners, no.

00:24:31.693 --> 00:24:33.775
I know you're not a deadbeat, or else I wouldn't be your friend.

00:24:33.775 --> 00:24:38.977
Yeah, that would be annoying because I love Ben, so he texts the kids in His love language is to do things.

00:24:38.977 --> 00:24:40.438
Keep telling yourself that.

00:24:40.597 --> 00:24:41.719
Just like your love language.

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I'm more the Ben, You're the Ben, but Kyle doesn't say daddy's coff anyways.

00:24:53.224 --> 00:24:54.265
So the poopies.

00:24:54.265 --> 00:24:55.766
It's weird we're working with her.

00:24:55.786 --> 00:25:00.528
They're puppies, but they're poopies, yeah, and I think people are scared when she starts talking like that, but it's okay.

00:25:00.528 --> 00:25:01.833
I think you're the only one that's scared.

00:25:01.833 --> 00:25:02.857
I'm really scared about it.

00:25:02.857 --> 00:25:08.834
So you didn't get the labia tuck, so anything else.

00:25:08.834 --> 00:25:12.657
We had a lot to talk about that a little bit, yeah, and then we'll go into our lives because there's a lot going on, right?

00:25:12.657 --> 00:25:14.400
But Kristen Cavallari is from the Hills.

00:25:14.400 --> 00:25:16.662
If you guys watched it, we watched it when we were young.

00:25:16.701 --> 00:25:19.806
Then she had the Very Cavallari show yes, and that was really good.

00:25:19.806 --> 00:25:20.605
She married Jay Cutler.

00:25:21.390 --> 00:25:21.912
Love Jay.

00:25:21.912 --> 00:25:33.270
She had the Chinese laundry shoe line and I actually loved her shoe line restore.

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I actually swiped up and got their pumpkin.

00:25:34.997 --> 00:25:35.759
I know I've got a problem.

00:25:35.759 --> 00:25:37.346
I swiped up and got their pumpkin Don't say candle Cause.

00:25:37.346 --> 00:25:37.827
Then I'm really gonna.

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It is.

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It was a non-toxic candle.

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It was a non-toxic candle.

00:25:41.060 --> 00:25:43.209
She, when I have a candle on, she gets real mad.

00:25:43.209 --> 00:25:45.272
These are chemicals in the air that I have to breathe.

00:25:45.433 --> 00:25:49.019
I was like on Instagram and it was like our non-toxic and these sell out.

00:25:49.019 --> 00:25:50.804
And then they always get me with the sellout.

00:25:50.804 --> 00:25:52.928
I'm like so gullible Regina falls for that too.

00:25:52.948 --> 00:25:53.868
We do the same thing.

00:25:53.868 --> 00:25:57.621
I know we're like this event's going to sell out and everyone does it Like you should know better.

00:25:57.621 --> 00:25:59.134
She's going to make more candles.

00:25:59.134 --> 00:26:01.153
I know she wants to sell them.

00:26:01.153 --> 00:26:02.055
I bought one.

00:26:02.055 --> 00:26:04.261
It's good, though you light it up, yeah.

00:26:06.923 --> 00:26:09.243
Mommy's me ben doesn't love a candle.

00:26:09.243 --> 00:26:11.984
He's like oh, it gives me a headache, so it is strong, but okay.

00:26:12.005 --> 00:26:14.184
So anyway she was dating a 24 year old.

00:26:14.184 --> 00:26:15.086
She called him 24.

00:26:15.086 --> 00:26:17.086
Um, he's a montana boys.

00:26:17.086 --> 00:26:22.387
If you're on tiktok, this is montana boys are boys that sing the same song over and over again.

00:26:22.387 --> 00:26:24.951
They mouth the words to the luke home songs.

00:26:24.951 --> 00:26:25.932
It's never on, they can't.

00:26:25.932 --> 00:26:27.315
Even I know you do it every day.

00:26:27.315 --> 00:26:27.997
How do you not know?

00:26:27.997 --> 00:26:29.960
And I'm dying and it's all dying.

00:26:29.960 --> 00:26:31.762
Yeah, inside it's like a bad like foreign movie you and it's all dying.

00:26:31.782 --> 00:26:33.326
Yeah, inside, inside it's like a bad, like foreign movie.

00:26:33.326 --> 00:26:34.907
You know, it's like Dubai, dubai.

00:26:36.790 --> 00:26:39.634
But we talked about that before For our jerkies, they remember.

00:26:39.634 --> 00:26:43.037
But he's 24 and he has a really nice body.

00:26:43.037 --> 00:26:44.298
He's really cute.

00:26:44.298 --> 00:26:45.181
His face is cute too.

00:26:45.181 --> 00:26:46.002
He has a jawbone.

00:26:46.002 --> 00:26:50.336
Like I am happily married.

00:26:50.336 --> 00:26:53.922
There's not a group message on her Instagram about some of the ladies talking about Mr.

00:26:53.942 --> 00:26:54.342
Montana.

00:26:54.342 --> 00:26:55.443
Does he need some comforting?

00:26:55.463 --> 00:26:56.325
Cause I'm available.

00:26:56.325 --> 00:26:58.794
Did you see his post, though, when he was sad?

00:26:58.794 --> 00:27:00.839
Yeah the song, but with the shirt off, sad I was.

00:27:00.839 --> 00:27:01.862
All don't be sad, yeah.

00:27:02.531 --> 00:27:03.276
It's so lined up.

00:27:03.430 --> 00:27:13.464
So they started dating a few months ago and she talks about it on her let's podcast, about how great they were, how great their intimacy was, how great he was with the kids.

00:27:13.464 --> 00:27:22.585
She talked about how she has longed for a guy to be in her life that would play with the kids and he would play basketball with the kids.

00:27:22.625 --> 00:27:24.772
Her sons would text him and I just thought, cause they were the same age.

00:27:26.178 --> 00:27:34.102
I thought, like my friends that have been divorced, that are dating, they really don't let the, the husband't, let the new guy around their kids that easily.

00:27:34.592 --> 00:27:35.808
Well, it's usually like when it's serious.

00:27:35.808 --> 00:27:37.315
So when she's like letting the 24-year-old around.

00:27:37.355 --> 00:27:39.935
I'm like wow, that's not like normal.

00:27:39.935 --> 00:27:42.258
And she said she's never let him meet any of her other guys.

00:27:42.258 --> 00:27:47.873
The kids have never met any of the other guys she's dating, but we think the 24-year-old is the one to introduce.

00:27:47.893 --> 00:27:48.193
Yeah that was.

00:27:48.193 --> 00:27:49.954
That was questionable for me.

00:27:50.415 --> 00:27:50.675
Yeah.

00:27:50.675 --> 00:27:51.436
So they broke up.

00:27:51.436 --> 00:27:53.318
She broke up with him because he wants to have kids.

00:27:53.318 --> 00:27:58.124
And we just think, like didn't you know that when you started dating him, or were you two?

00:27:58.124 --> 00:28:01.836
Did the job, own get you, because I get that 100%.

00:28:01.836 --> 00:28:02.628
I just wouldn't let him meet my kids.

00:28:02.750 --> 00:28:09.083
I would have just went out on the weekends, just made it like a fling, yeah, but in dating, well, it sounds like why they broke up.

00:28:09.083 --> 00:28:11.443
She was like the age gap, he needs to live life.

00:28:11.443 --> 00:28:13.705
I have, I've lived an experienced life.

00:28:13.705 --> 00:28:15.166
He needs to live an experienced life.

00:28:15.166 --> 00:28:16.326
I'm like didn't you know?

00:28:16.366 --> 00:28:20.963
he didn't experience life right, it's not like he's our new last year it's, did he go to college?

00:28:20.963 --> 00:28:22.048
Yeah, oh he did.

00:28:22.048 --> 00:28:24.875
He literally just got out of college literally last year, wow.

00:28:24.875 --> 00:28:31.157
So that for me was kind of like I feel like you knew they were like going out a lot, and I'm like I'm 42, she's our age.

00:28:31.157 --> 00:28:32.140
I feel like 30.

00:28:32.221 --> 00:28:37.065
I think she's a little younger, like late 30s I go out, probably twice a year, if anything.

00:28:37.085 --> 00:28:38.349
We usually have a Christmas party.

00:28:38.349 --> 00:28:47.890
That's like a night out, yeah, because people are over and we're laughing, dancing, all the things, and then usually there's like one more night, maybe we go on a bus or go to dinner birthday.

00:28:47.930 --> 00:28:53.883
I feel like your birthday is always a little weird not like soft, any of that, of that or kissing None of that will take place anymore.

00:28:53.883 --> 00:28:59.242
But we just like I feel like when you're older you don't have that as much, especially once you're settled.

00:28:59.242 --> 00:29:04.609
Like when we were young at the club, we dreamed about days like this yeah, Like when I was single.

00:29:04.710 --> 00:29:06.471
Well, I wondered why she wanted to go out.

00:29:06.592 --> 00:29:07.333
I don't want to go out.

00:29:07.333 --> 00:29:13.721
Going out sounds awful, Awful, I don't, but I think she's like she still wants to do that, but then maybe she didn't.

00:29:13.721 --> 00:29:14.561
It was like this is enough.

00:29:14.561 --> 00:29:15.763
I think she realized.

00:29:15.763 --> 00:29:17.925
Do you think she woke up and was like last night was rough.

00:29:21.554 --> 00:29:21.994
Like it was beat up.

00:29:21.994 --> 00:29:23.538
Oh, she probably has an outie.

00:29:23.538 --> 00:29:23.979
No.

00:29:24.200 --> 00:29:26.304
Oh, my Cut that, scratch that, do you think?

00:29:26.304 --> 00:29:28.825
No, she would her boobs redone.

00:29:28.825 --> 00:29:33.346
Yeah, but that's curious because she's so organic and everything I was surprised.

00:29:33.385 --> 00:29:34.686
No, she got them done like seven years ago.

00:29:34.686 --> 00:29:36.227
She said on the thing who are you looking at?

00:29:36.227 --> 00:29:37.807
I'm trying to clear my throat without being there.

00:29:37.807 --> 00:29:43.878
She said on the thing it's not something I would probably do now, but I did it she just got them redone though no, she said she didn't.

00:29:43.878 --> 00:29:44.922
She said seven years ago.

00:29:44.922 --> 00:29:45.830
I don't think so.

00:29:45.830 --> 00:29:50.960
Yeah, because someone asked her, because she was doing the gua sha tell us about the gua sha, the gua sha.

00:29:51.140 --> 00:29:51.820
What is the gua sha, the gua sha?

00:29:51.820 --> 00:29:52.662
What is a gua sha Tisha's doing?

00:29:52.682 --> 00:29:53.784
the gua sha down below.

00:29:54.204 --> 00:29:54.424
No.

00:29:55.049 --> 00:29:56.375
So she doesn't need the labiatech.

00:29:56.375 --> 00:29:57.874
I just bought the gua sha.

00:29:57.874 --> 00:29:58.715
I'm going to report back.

00:29:58.715 --> 00:29:59.156
What is it?

00:29:59.156 --> 00:30:00.221
Okay, I'm going to explain.

00:30:00.221 --> 00:30:01.977
So it's like a stone.

00:30:01.977 --> 00:30:29.941
It's like an ancient Chinese like method, and it's like a stone that's shaped to like your face and you go and you, you apply pressure and you basically like massage your face and you move the cells around and then you drain the like lymphatic fluid or whatever that you drain it with, you push it down and you go it like drains into your body, so like the fluid builds up and the cells build up and it's.

00:30:30.583 --> 00:30:32.997
She doesn't do botox and she only does this.

00:30:32.997 --> 00:30:33.977
And have you seen she has no do Botox and she only does this.

00:30:33.977 --> 00:30:34.824
And have you seen she has no wrinkles?

00:30:34.824 --> 00:30:36.726
Do you think people are always telling the truth about that?

00:30:36.726 --> 00:30:43.252
Well, cause she was doing it and someone was like you're going to ruin your Botox cause you're going to move your Botox out, and she goes yeah, I don't get Botox.

00:30:43.252 --> 00:30:44.294
And that's when she was talking about.

00:30:44.314 --> 00:30:45.134
Oh, that had you hooked.

00:30:45.536 --> 00:30:48.859
Well, yeah, because I'm trying to get off the Botox twice a year.

00:30:48.859 --> 00:30:51.103
Six months how much did you used to do three months?

00:30:51.262 --> 00:30:52.325
are you sad or mad?

00:30:52.325 --> 00:30:56.884
Well, sad or happy that you didn't do that, because I know, stop, because I make that face.

00:30:56.944 --> 00:30:58.411
So I used to get the lines really bad.

00:30:58.411 --> 00:31:00.035
So I want to get away from the botox.

00:31:00.035 --> 00:31:01.057
So I got the gua sha.

00:31:01.057 --> 00:31:02.240
I'm going to report back.

00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:03.634
It gets delivered today.

00:31:03.634 --> 00:31:07.210
But you do this massaging, you put this oil are you checking the delivery?

00:31:07.349 --> 00:31:09.575
like you're that excited yeah, on the shop app.

00:31:09.575 --> 00:31:10.717
I love the shop.

00:31:10.717 --> 00:31:13.041
If you don't know, some of our new listeners.

00:31:13.041 --> 00:31:17.580
Two things One, my voice does this weird thing when we record and I have to clear it and I'm going to go see someone.

00:31:17.580 --> 00:31:24.743
But two, tisha's more of a natural I'm trying to be.

00:31:24.743 --> 00:31:29.461
She's a heavy conspiracy theorist which, let's be honest, I don't think heavy.

00:31:29.461 --> 00:31:30.143
She got heavy.

00:31:30.143 --> 00:31:30.510
Well, maybe.

00:31:30.510 --> 00:31:31.895
Okay, let's be honest, I don't think she got heavy.

00:31:31.895 --> 00:31:32.396
Are you kidding?

00:31:32.396 --> 00:31:33.982
All right, fine, I'm heavy, so heavy.

00:31:33.982 --> 00:31:48.855
But in reality, during COVID she got me into all these conspiracies and when we were all home, like on our phones, I started going into this deep dark hole with Hollywood and all these people and it's all proved to be true.

00:31:48.855 --> 00:31:56.923
Now, well, that's what's crazy is she told me about all of these things, that they take blood from babies and trauma to look younger.

00:31:56.923 --> 00:31:58.930
I mean, I'm like, oh we're really putting it out there.

00:31:58.950 --> 00:32:08.951
Well, if we're gonna do a podcast, if we get murdered time out because of the podcast, then you know I'm all, maybe we I'm like they're, they're gonna be like showing up there, they're not gonna come after us.

00:32:08.951 --> 00:32:27.768
No, like 15 years ago I had a friend not going to name any names, but let's say it's Zoe and this friend told me all these things like 9-11, 9-11 is an inside job, like he told me, um, that like all of Hollywood is like, say, satanic pedophiles, and I was like you're nuts.

00:32:28.269 --> 00:32:42.816
Well then COVID happened and then all these weird things started coming out and all these people started sharing their experiences with yeah, these people started sharing their experiences Like Pizzagate, yeah, and started sharing their experiences with these, like how you sell your soul basically to become famous, and like all the weird, which I thought was the craziest thing.

00:32:43.130 --> 00:32:45.598
I'm like no one's selling your soul and like all the weird rituals, I'm such a Christian.

00:32:45.598 --> 00:32:46.652
That was so.

00:32:46.853 --> 00:32:53.467
And not these many Like when 10 people are saying different stories but they're all the same like there's some truth to it.

00:32:53.467 --> 00:32:53.907
Yeah, I thought.

00:32:53.928 --> 00:32:55.755
Trump was really elected, though, so then I started believing him.

00:32:56.175 --> 00:33:03.651
Yeah, because I was like, but he told me it so long ago when it was like not a thing, yeah, and I was like you're crazy, the government loves us.

00:33:03.951 --> 00:33:04.732
Yeah, so did I.

00:33:04.732 --> 00:33:05.814
I thought that too.

00:33:05.814 --> 00:33:13.041
Yeah, they don't, with the things happening on Netflix, who knows if it's all true.

00:33:13.041 --> 00:33:15.065
I think you take anything with a grain of salt.

00:33:15.065 --> 00:33:16.165
You have to use your logic.

00:33:16.165 --> 00:33:22.657
I think sometimes we get so told things that we don't really think about if this makes sense, like for me, and this is controversial.

00:33:22.657 --> 00:33:24.837
But whatever we're doing this, you know, here we go.

00:33:25.490 --> 00:33:27.218
I didn't get the COVID shot for two reasons.

00:33:27.218 --> 00:33:28.191
One, I got Bell's palsy twice in my life.

00:33:28.191 --> 00:33:31.334
Two times I got Bell's palsy twice in my life Two times I got the flu shot.

00:33:31.334 --> 00:33:32.634
Two times I got Bell's palsy.

00:33:32.634 --> 00:33:35.597
It was bad, like special, it was bad.

00:33:35.597 --> 00:33:38.200
So I didn't want to have the Bell's palsy again.

00:33:38.200 --> 00:33:45.426
So I first of all wasn't going to do anything like that because of that, because I know I could have an adverse effect which was crazy.

00:33:45.426 --> 00:33:49.172
I didn't know Bell's palsy was a side effect.

00:33:49.172 --> 00:33:50.513
No one ever said that about the flu shot.

00:33:50.513 --> 00:33:55.461
But then when COVID happened and people started getting Bell's palsy because of COVID, I was like, oh my gosh, I was right.

00:33:55.461 --> 00:33:56.462
That was what caused it.

00:33:56.462 --> 00:33:58.794
Right, which you don't know I mean vaccines is.

00:33:58.794 --> 00:34:04.973
I don't know if we're ready to go down that hole with what our little lady over here thinks we can have a whole episode dedicated to that.

00:34:05.034 --> 00:34:13.286
Yeah, I don't know if we're ready for that, because we know, you know, but I didn't get the COVID vaccine because of that.

00:34:13.286 --> 00:34:24.556
And then things were starting to get weird, like most times when you get a vaccine, like our kids get the polka dot chicken pox vaccine we all had chicken pox as kids.

00:34:24.556 --> 00:34:26.637
Now that we get the vaccine, we don't get it anymore.

00:34:26.637 --> 00:34:28.476
Like chicken pox isn't as much of a thing, right.

00:34:28.476 --> 00:34:33.931
So I look at a vaccine as like you're not supposed to get it anymore once you get vaccinated, right.

00:34:33.931 --> 00:34:39.860
But what was weird to me about the efficacy was very low on that shot, yeah, like, so you had to have a vaccine to go on the cruise ship, right.

00:34:39.860 --> 00:34:49.657
But then everybody would come back from the cruise all with COVID and I was like, well, it doesn't make sense for me right now to get the vaccine, because I think it's not really like it's just an individual decision.

00:34:49.697 --> 00:34:55.376
Yeah, nothing should be like forced on you for a medical decision you only like those certain things forced.

00:34:56.119 --> 00:35:01.940
Anyways, this isn't about covid, we don't really care, but the point is she got me into the conspiracies so now the natural.

00:35:01.960 --> 00:35:04.639
You were saying it was the natural with your natural conspiracist.

00:35:04.780 --> 00:35:05.724
She doesn't wear sunscreen.

00:35:05.784 --> 00:35:11.614
If you've listened to our podcast in the before, well, there's an episode about that because it's way cheaper than Botox.

00:35:11.614 --> 00:35:13.096
Botox is so expensive.

00:35:13.416 --> 00:35:16.460
So I'm talking about your conspiracy-ish, oh, sorry.

00:35:16.460 --> 00:35:31.150
So then Epstein came out after I saw a YouTube tutorial about Pizzagate, yeah, so then the Epstein thing came out, and then I watched all that and I'm like, oh my gosh, these Hollywood elites do do really weird things.

00:35:31.150 --> 00:35:35.675
But I'm telling you, before you told me me, that I really thought they were like, because we all look up to him, right like I love certain people.

00:35:35.695 --> 00:35:37.518
Such a great guy, yes, and it's just been awful.

00:35:37.518 --> 00:35:41.224
When I found out, I couldn't sleep for weeks and I was like, oh my gosh.

00:35:41.224 --> 00:35:50.733
But now, with P Diddy, it's like it's starting to be so true, these things and all these people have these white parties, and so now the celebrities are going down.

00:35:50.733 --> 00:35:53.798
If you don't know in the news, p Diddy is going down for his.

00:35:53.798 --> 00:35:55.643
They have a name Freak Offs.

00:35:55.989 --> 00:35:58.458
Which, first of all, I feel like he could have thought of a better name.

00:35:58.458 --> 00:35:59.079
Yeah, it's not that good.

00:35:59.079 --> 00:36:00.215
It's like is it a dance off?

00:36:00.215 --> 00:36:03.199
You know, like it's Freak Off, it's stupid.

00:36:03.199 --> 00:36:06.514
I'm all think of it like like make it more bad.

00:36:06.514 --> 00:36:07.436
You know.

00:36:07.436 --> 00:36:09.298
No, but Freak Off was dumb.

00:36:09.298 --> 00:36:10.481
I was like that's a dumb name.

00:36:10.922 --> 00:36:12.204
Yeah, so Freak Offs.

00:36:12.384 --> 00:36:21.708
And he, it's been known now that there was a thousand bottles of baby oil in his bathroom which he didn't purchase from Costco, which I'm like, who even buys baby oil anymore?

00:36:21.750 --> 00:36:22.170
Why are you?

00:36:22.170 --> 00:36:23.074
Are you promoting Costco?

00:36:23.074 --> 00:36:23.737
Why'd you bring that up?

00:36:23.896 --> 00:36:29.456
Well, cause, I saw a thing Costco was like we don't have an go down with P Diddy.

00:36:29.637 --> 00:36:30.398
He's getting canceled.

00:36:30.398 --> 00:36:32.882
No, he's not going to make it much longer, I feel like everybody knows.

00:36:32.922 --> 00:36:43.601
But yeah, the freak ups, he would like drug women and he has a 40 foot bed Drug induced In his backyard and make them like, have sex with, like group orgies, and film them.

00:36:43.601 --> 00:36:47.894
This whole episode is just about group madness, this is wrong, but the world is.

00:36:48.574 --> 00:36:50.297
Did you watch the Playboy documentary?

00:36:50.297 --> 00:36:53.119
It talks about what went on in the Playboy mansion.

00:36:53.119 --> 00:36:53.760
But that's what I'm saying.

00:36:53.820 --> 00:36:55.262
But they had a reality show.

00:36:55.943 --> 00:36:58.567
Like the girl next door and they sold it like it was this great thing.

00:36:58.567 --> 00:36:59.333
That's the thing.

00:36:59.333 --> 00:37:03.675
But if you watch the Playboy documentary but Hugh Hefner got away with it for years they drug the girls all the time.

00:37:03.675 --> 00:37:04.297
They're all doing this.

00:37:04.349 --> 00:37:10.398
Remember when the Wolf of Wall Street came out I his life in that which you've seen the parties in the movie.

00:37:10.398 --> 00:37:12.902
That was like that's Leonardo's lifestyle.

00:37:12.902 --> 00:37:13.844
Is that about him?

00:37:13.844 --> 00:37:14.945
He's the star.

00:37:15.851 --> 00:37:16.996
No, it's about a different guy.

00:37:17.190 --> 00:37:21.976
It was about a trader who got really rich, and then he would have these like Quaalude parties.

00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:24.429
Oh, quaalude, that's what they took at the Playboy Mansion.

00:37:24.610 --> 00:37:34.954
So that's the thing is, it's like everyone's been doing this, but now it's like, oh my gosh, I can't believe it's so bad.

00:37:34.954 --> 00:37:36.519
It's like they're all doing it and they've been doing it.

00:37:36.559 --> 00:37:39.351
So I don't I know, but how many big celebrities do you think are going to go down with P Diddy?

00:37:39.552 --> 00:37:42.038
So Kim Porter, his ex who died of pneumonia.

00:37:42.038 --> 00:37:45.811
Right, she was like really young and died of pneumonia.

00:37:45.811 --> 00:37:47.653
It can happen there we go.

00:37:47.653 --> 00:37:50.898
Yeah, ben sometimes gets pneumonia and I'm like, oh my gosh, but anyways.

00:37:51.320 --> 00:37:55.346
So she, mommy's, doesn't get too worried about her little bunnies.

00:37:55.346 --> 00:37:58.150
Oh, by the way, that's a story for another time about bunny in a burrow.

00:37:58.329 --> 00:38:00.317
So anyways, she is.

00:38:00.317 --> 00:38:10.481
She died, but apparently when she died she was writing a tell-all about Diddy and those things have been like put like it's been like the lid on them.

00:38:10.481 --> 00:38:16.181
Well, apparently now, like her friends and family are going to release this book because now she's dead.

00:38:16.362 --> 00:38:16.541
And now?

00:38:16.561 --> 00:38:17.871
you're saying that's why she was killed.

00:38:17.871 --> 00:38:27.378
Yeah, and there's a lot of big names like will, smith, jay-z, like all these crazy people which I'm like, but anyways, so it's really gone for it.

00:38:27.378 --> 00:38:27.800
It's.

00:38:28.521 --> 00:38:34.842
We're never well, I heard mila cunas like moved out of the house, but then I heard that was a rumor because Ashton was at those parties.

00:38:34.842 --> 00:38:37.159
But what's really sad is Justin Bieber.

00:38:37.159 --> 00:38:38.835
There's a video of him like drugged up.

00:38:38.835 --> 00:38:39.376
Have you seen it?

00:38:39.376 --> 00:38:41.155
Yeah, down, it's so sad.

00:38:41.155 --> 00:38:42.355
And then there's this video of him.

00:38:42.355 --> 00:38:45.518
He's 15 and Diddy has custody of him for a week.

00:38:45.518 --> 00:38:47.181
It's so weird.

00:38:47.181 --> 00:38:56.193
Why does anyone need custody of a young singer?

00:38:56.193 --> 00:38:56.998
Well, what parents are giving their kids?

00:38:56.998 --> 00:38:57.318
What's so crazy?

00:38:57.318 --> 00:38:57.480
Custody.

00:38:57.480 --> 00:38:59.106
Custody is such a strong word, like if I had your kids for a week.

00:38:59.106 --> 00:39:00.271
You're not telling me I have custody.

00:39:00.532 --> 00:39:02.657
I think that means they're allowed to make whatever decisions they want.

00:39:02.657 --> 00:39:02.938
Yeah.

00:39:03.280 --> 00:39:06.420
I think these parents want their kids to be famous so bad.

00:39:06.420 --> 00:39:12.775
So they just like, if they they get like the money dangled and the fame dangled, and then they're're like, oh yeah, go spend a weekend, did you?

00:39:12.815 --> 00:39:14.396
hear the song that Justin Bieber made.

00:39:14.717 --> 00:39:15.719
That's what I lost my soul.

00:39:15.719 --> 00:39:16.420
It's like AI.

00:39:16.900 --> 00:39:18.302
Oh really, it's not real.

00:39:18.302 --> 00:39:20.005
No, Really, yeah.

00:39:20.005 --> 00:39:24.958
What about when P Diddy and or no Jay-Z?

00:39:25.340 --> 00:39:26.121
That's AI too.

00:39:26.463 --> 00:39:33.867
Really, yeah, so you can't believe anything anymore, I know, oh well, but anyways, going into parenting, would you allow your kids, like people have asked?

00:39:33.867 --> 00:39:41.153
I'm not saying my daughter's beautiful, but Hudson, my daughter's a redhead and she's tall with long legs, and so it's this like thing people are like she should model because redheads are.

00:39:41.335 --> 00:39:42.481
Oh, I would never let my kids.

00:39:42.481 --> 00:39:43.467
That's what I say, I'm like.

00:39:43.547 --> 00:39:45.552
I never want my kids anywhere near that life.

00:39:45.793 --> 00:39:51.101
You know I don't want them even near it, Even like CJ used to be musically inclined, you know, and I was like no.

00:39:51.141 --> 00:39:52.443
Everybody knows, not a DJ.

00:39:52.443 --> 00:39:53.525
Yeah, he's a CJ.

00:39:53.525 --> 00:39:53.644
No.

00:39:53.869 --> 00:40:05.541
I don't want my kids anywhere near that lifestyle and, like you said, the reason these celebrities have these disgusting parties it's like they already have everything else at their fingertips they have money, they have fame, they can do whatever they want.

00:40:05.541 --> 00:40:09.855
So they need something more to get them the happiness Right.

00:40:09.875 --> 00:40:16.163
The happiness Right or the Well and I think once you've gone I think even going back to the mom talk light swinging.

00:40:16.163 --> 00:40:27.059
I think once you're erotically go to such a dark like big place, that's what's scary about young boys and that's why it's so important to have restrictions on their phones If they grow up watching like porn.

00:40:27.059 --> 00:40:31.019
It's so hard to ever be happy with one woman Right In, like a marriage Right.

00:40:31.019 --> 00:40:31.661
It's not the erotica.

00:40:31.681 --> 00:40:32.442
Because it's not like that.

00:40:32.762 --> 00:40:37.376
Right, you know, especially like picture some days, like some days you're just training it to take the dogs out.

00:40:37.570 --> 00:40:38.715
It's not exciting.

00:40:40.030 --> 00:40:41.637
Remember Sides and Sides, sides.

00:40:41.637 --> 00:40:45.516
Yeah, one day we've told that story, but she was really into the Seinfeld during.

00:40:45.516 --> 00:40:51.889
But like I just it's just like it's very important you keep it.

00:40:51.889 --> 00:41:04.148
A lot of our friends that have been married for a long time and I think some of our friends that have been with maybe only one person or two people, it does seem like I ask a lot like how much sex does everybody have when they're married?

00:41:04.148 --> 00:41:07.559
You know you always want to rate yourself like am I hanging with it, right?

00:41:07.559 --> 00:41:09.766
I don't want you know Kyle, to be like we never.

00:41:09.766 --> 00:41:10.690
You know it happens.

00:41:10.690 --> 00:41:18.114
Yeah, dr Laura Schlesinger, who we talk about a lot, always says if you're not having sex with your husband, he's going to cheat, 100% Like it's a fact.

00:41:18.400 --> 00:41:20.047
Well, and your relationship's not going to be good.

00:41:20.047 --> 00:41:21.686
That's like an important bonding thing.

00:41:21.920 --> 00:41:24.108
So I always want to know, like how much is everybody else doing it?

00:41:24.108 --> 00:41:38.853
We talk about it all the time, like how much are you he's getting screwed?

00:41:38.853 --> 00:41:39.990
Yeah, like literally the grass is greener, you know.

00:41:39.990 --> 00:41:42.081
But I think if kids grow up with these erotica things, I think it's really hard to stay married and I think devil works in the poison right.

00:41:41.994 --> 00:41:43.807
So like sex, money, drugs it all takes over and I think you're not happy.

00:41:43.807 --> 00:41:46.856
Yeah, yeah, and it's all like instant pleasures, right.

00:41:46.856 --> 00:41:55.213
It's not like true pleasure of like you know, the non-instant gratification or the like working hard, or the serving.

00:41:55.213 --> 00:41:59.507
It's all in like self indulgent, right, which is of the devil, right.

00:41:59.789 --> 00:42:05.581
Which is crazy Cause, like I was saying, our friends that have been married to the same person, only had sex with the same person, only been with one person.

00:42:05.581 --> 00:42:12.304
They seem to have like a very healthy, happy sex life, like they have more sex than normal people.

00:42:12.304 --> 00:42:21.403
And then some of my friends that have had, um, maybe more partners and been in sexual situations where they didn't feel safe or loved or adored like in a marriage.

00:42:21.403 --> 00:42:22.688
You're supposed to be loved and adored.

00:42:22.688 --> 00:42:23.940
It's supposed to be with one person.

00:42:23.940 --> 00:42:29.541
It's supposed to be like God's gift to your marriage, um, and I think like sexual baggage, yeah.

00:42:29.702 --> 00:42:41.047
And then they you feel like, cause it's a need from a man, like we talk about it all the time, but they've talked about it at church that like, if a man doesn't feel like you want him sexually not just doing it like you have five minutes let's go.

00:42:41.047 --> 00:42:42.021
Yeah, you need to.

00:42:42.021 --> 00:42:45.010
They really need to feel like you can't wait for it.

00:42:45.010 --> 00:42:49.824
Which, ladies, sometimes you've got to just Act like you really want it yeah like you can't wait.

00:42:49.985 --> 00:42:56.766
I'm like Academy Award, yeah, but like it's so important that they feel needed and loved and adored and that's their way of showing love.

00:42:56.766 --> 00:43:00.039
Just like active service is more, but like in a marriage, Like don't do that to your boyfriend, ladies.

00:43:00.039 --> 00:43:02.088
Yes, that's why you're not supposed to do it with your boyfriend?

00:43:02.128 --> 00:43:03.846
Yeah, because then he's using you.

00:43:03.846 --> 00:43:06.260
Has that ever happened to you?

00:43:06.481 --> 00:43:06.641
No.

00:43:06.641 --> 00:43:11.507
Really Kennedy's not listening to this I waited until I was married.

00:43:12.047 --> 00:43:13.128
That's fine, Tyler.

00:43:13.128 --> 00:43:16.012
If she's not going to be honest, then we're going to end this crap right now.

00:43:16.012 --> 00:43:19.476
No, but anyways, I just think it's important.

00:43:19.476 --> 00:43:31.360
A lot of young people I know I coach and I know a lot of my girls aren't innocent, and I just think, when you start doing that stuff at a young age, it really it creates like yeah.

00:43:31.360 --> 00:43:37.708
So I think sometimes in marriages, when the woman feels like the man wants sex, they think it's just like oh, all he wants is sex, like, and it's like no, like that guy I dated that was a jerk.

00:43:37.708 --> 00:43:39.831
Yeah, like he's using me, right, you know.

00:43:39.831 --> 00:43:47.619
Sometimes it's like okay, I took care of the kids, I put everybody to bed or I watch my husband put him to bed, and then it's like then he needs something more for me, right?

00:43:47.619 --> 00:43:59.766
And I think we just have to train ourselves as women that are married, not dating, like need to make sure he's the number one priority and that you are doing the deed and more than one position and I feel like they're in a better mood.

00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:01.125
They do more things for you.

00:44:01.125 --> 00:44:03.909
It's like Ben's like got a pep in his step making my coffee.

00:44:03.909 --> 00:44:05.326
I don't have to coffee you know.

00:44:05.480 --> 00:44:20.443
If you don't, it's been a few days since you've done it do you think the slamming it down?

00:44:20.463 --> 00:44:21.264
I'm like, and I'm like, what the hell?

00:44:21.264 --> 00:44:22.128
You know, there's no heart in the foam.

00:44:22.128 --> 00:44:23.411
I'm like, there, there's heart in the foam.

00:44:23.411 --> 00:44:27.541
Sometimes, like you know, he'll get sweet sometimes and then sometimes he's all like I can tell, when he doesn't add my mushrooms, I add um, and I'll be like did you add the mushrooms?

00:44:27.561 --> 00:44:30.309
and he's like I do every day and I'm what are the mushrooms?

00:44:30.510 --> 00:44:31.782
oh, it's like a mushroom powder.

00:44:31.782 --> 00:44:34.146
It's like the reichi and the lion's mane.

00:44:34.146 --> 00:44:42.672
It's like or I don't, I don't say the terms right, probably not Ricci is not how you say it, but anyways, I take like mushrooms that detox, detoxifying mushrooms.

00:44:42.672 --> 00:44:49.387
I put them in my coffee and it's healthy and it's good, okay, so, anyways.

00:44:49.748 --> 00:44:53.231
So if you haven't done it in what like four days, there's no mushrooms in my coffee.

00:44:53.351 --> 00:44:54.132
yeah, wait on purpose.

00:44:54.132 --> 00:44:54.934
Yeah, he's grouchy.

00:44:54.934 --> 00:44:55.795
Yeah, oh yeah.

00:44:55.795 --> 00:44:57.175
So then what will you do?

00:44:57.175 --> 00:45:03.983
Well, he'll just do little things like, or.

00:45:04.003 --> 00:45:11.028
he's kind of passive-aggressive, though, so I feel like he'll be like, yeah, the show's done, like when I'm like into it, like I'll give him a little tug.

00:45:11.048 --> 00:45:14.351
Well, let's hurt about that I think, come on five more minutes and I'll you know.

00:45:14.351 --> 00:45:15.231
And then I give him a little.

00:45:15.231 --> 00:45:18.954
You know, tug, tug to the I'll tug if I need to.

00:45:19.175 --> 00:45:21.436
So you just give it one tug and go back to watching the show?

00:45:21.436 --> 00:45:30.547
No, like a few tugs to get the show back on and then I got to.

00:45:30.568 --> 00:45:32.731
Yeah, he gets ready very quickly, but then he can wait.

00:45:32.731 --> 00:45:37.096
I sound like an awful person.

00:45:37.096 --> 00:45:38.523
I know Ben's going to die.

00:45:38.523 --> 00:45:40.188
If anyone ever listens to this Is Ben safe.

00:45:40.369 --> 00:45:41.150
Blink once or twice.

00:45:41.150 --> 00:45:45.864
If he goes to the hospital, it's going to be like well, he's happy Ben is very happy Can you take him in the other room.

00:45:45.864 --> 00:45:47.425
Ben, Are you feeling safe at home?

00:45:49.407 --> 00:45:51.148
He's very satisfied and happy.

00:45:51.648 --> 00:45:55.572
No, but I think sometimes when you're not doing it, we talk about this, then they get grouchy.

00:45:55.572 --> 00:45:59.875
Then when they get grouchy, you're more mad at them because they're being grouchy, yeah.

00:45:59.875 --> 00:46:02.436
And I think sometimes women just got to, we got to know to just get on.

00:46:02.456 --> 00:46:11.331
Oh I know, when he's grouchy, I'll just like all right let's do it, but it's not the time you want to.

00:46:11.472 --> 00:46:12.132
Is that weird?

00:46:12.132 --> 00:46:13.313
Is something wrong?

00:46:13.313 --> 00:46:16.297
No, I think people think that, but I think that's just normal.

00:46:16.297 --> 00:46:17.418
I think we're tired.

00:46:17.418 --> 00:46:18.541
No one married wants to do it.

00:46:20.485 --> 00:46:26.264
I mean, like I could probably like if it was truly up to me, like once a month yeah, you know.

00:46:26.324 --> 00:46:27.927
Yeah, that's where sister wives has it right?

00:46:27.927 --> 00:46:28.750
Yeah, it's your turn.

00:46:28.750 --> 00:46:29.661
I'll be back in a month.

00:46:29.661 --> 00:46:33.590
Yes, yeah, but no, no, but it is God's gift and it's important.

00:46:33.590 --> 00:46:34.773
And then, once I get, going.

00:46:34.840 --> 00:46:38.728
I'm like, oh, that was nice, but like to start, I'm tired.

00:46:38.728 --> 00:46:40.541
I'm thinking about the million things I got to do.

00:46:40.541 --> 00:46:41.804
You initiated a lot.

00:46:41.804 --> 00:46:43.407
I do initiate a lot Really.

00:46:43.407 --> 00:46:44.891
Yeah, because he, I know he likes it.

00:46:45.619 --> 00:46:47.523
That's nice, see, you are a nice wife.

00:46:47.523 --> 00:46:49.766
More mushrooms for you tomorrow.

00:46:49.786 --> 00:46:50.987
Closet, like you know.

00:46:51.949 --> 00:46:53.751
Oh, so well, Tisha has this other thing she does.

00:46:53.751 --> 00:46:57.175
She thinks it's really cute to tease him, and I don't think it's that cute.

00:46:57.175 --> 00:46:58.972
Yeah, it is, because then sometimes she doesn't follow through.

00:46:58.972 --> 00:47:00.362
I think it's cute if you follow through.

00:47:00.362 --> 00:47:01.226
I think it's rude if you don't.

00:47:01.226 --> 00:47:02.248
Well, I follow through.

00:47:02.248 --> 00:47:03.170
It just might not be that day.

00:47:03.170 --> 00:47:18.282
What, like next week, doesn't count he's like it's so rude.

00:47:18.302 --> 00:47:18.623
Yeah, the teasies.

00:47:18.623 --> 00:47:19.186
She's looking at tyler.

00:47:19.186 --> 00:47:20.148
Wait, you call it teasies, it's?

00:47:20.168 --> 00:47:21.815
I mean yeah well he was like you're a teasy, yeah, we call it.

00:47:21.835 --> 00:47:33.068
He says what he uses, the ies just as he says you're a teasies, you little baddie teasies no, not baddie spankies no wait, that was a weird no no, we, we have the ies to everything.

00:47:33.068 --> 00:47:38.351
Sp Spankies, I don't know, probably, oh my gosh, I don't know, I lose track Moving on.

00:47:38.719 --> 00:47:40.688
Okay, last topic with parenting.

00:47:40.688 --> 00:47:43.228
We just want to fill you in on what's going on.

00:47:43.228 --> 00:47:48.233
Would you let your kid go stay with anyone for a week and have custody.

00:47:48.360 --> 00:47:50.804
I don't even like my kids staying at your house and I trust you 100%.

00:47:50.824 --> 00:47:52.327
That's so rude in front of all these people.

00:47:52.327 --> 00:47:54.652
I know, Wait, you don't like your kids staying at my house?

00:47:54.771 --> 00:47:55.994
No, I just don't like them anywhere.

00:47:56.519 --> 00:47:57.382
You like them at my house.

00:47:57.684 --> 00:48:02.987
Your house, yes, but I'm saying I don't like them anywhere and I well, a lot of people say they don't even believe in sleepovers anymore.

00:48:03.068 --> 00:48:08.166
A lot of like Kevin Lehman, who I listened to for parenting podcast Dr Laura.

00:48:08.166 --> 00:48:10.929
She really says nowadays sleepovers are a lot more dangerous.

00:48:11.271 --> 00:48:19.862
Well, when you think about like back in the day, like I think, when parents were a little more hands off, the I think a lot more weird stuff went down, like I have friends.

00:48:19.882 --> 00:48:23.981
That one show, I remember that show, the neighbor, oh, me and the neighbor kid were doing weird stuff.

00:48:23.981 --> 00:48:26.068
I know like five people that had the neighbor kid try to touch her.

00:48:26.068 --> 00:48:26.409
That's what.

00:48:26.449 --> 00:48:26.710
I mean.

00:48:26.710 --> 00:48:29.143
So I think there was a lot more like freedom.

00:48:29.143 --> 00:48:43.731
I remember I had a friend and and I stayed at her house and she was like let's like I, you know, like when you used to wear stretch pants black stretch pants and my stretch pants had a hole in the crotch, which I'm like why didn't my mom like give me like new stretch pants which is kind of like you give me.

00:48:43.731 --> 00:48:46.605
Crystal has Lululemon that has a hole in it and she's wearing it every day.

00:48:54.860 --> 00:49:09.831
I'm like's just like if you wear those pants again and she's right, I just act like it just happened on the way yeah, like she acts like I didn't know and it's getting bigger and it's so weird and they're like tight, so the hole is like that's rude, don't act like no.

00:49:09.831 --> 00:49:13.043
But anyways, I had a hole in the crotch of the stretch pants and I'll never forget.

00:49:13.043 --> 00:49:17.112
She was like like I don't know because you know like they, just they, they get loose.

00:49:17.112 --> 00:49:19.364
And she was like oh, you have a hole in your.

00:49:19.364 --> 00:49:22.989
And she was like yeah, and she was down there trying to like and it.

00:49:22.989 --> 00:49:27.123
At the time I was like this is weird, like try to like put her mouth by the hole.

00:49:27.123 --> 00:49:28.003
It was really weird.

00:49:28.003 --> 00:49:31.829
And I was like and she wanted to like play a game of like house.

00:49:31.829 --> 00:49:33.672
We were like playing house, remember when you used to play house?

00:49:33.693 --> 00:49:35.034
Yeah, I played house with a girl and she kissed me too.

00:49:35.034 --> 00:49:36.382
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

00:49:36.382 --> 00:49:37.668
It was weird in preschool, it was weird.

00:49:37.780 --> 00:49:39.063
So she was like let's play house.

00:49:39.063 --> 00:49:40.929
I don't remember the details, it's a little foggy.

00:49:40.929 --> 00:49:44.588
I'm feeling really guilty about those stories about my birthday.

00:49:44.588 --> 00:49:48.672
I know, maybe we should cut.

00:49:48.672 --> 00:49:50.713
It was like down there.

00:49:50.713 --> 00:49:56.817
And then now that I look back I'm like that was so weird and creepy and like someone must have been doing that to her.

00:49:56.817 --> 00:49:59.038
Yeah, that's what they say they say a lot of.

00:49:59.057 --> 00:49:59.702
That's a learned behavior.

00:49:59.722 --> 00:50:00.646
My kids aren't staying anywhere.

00:50:00.646 --> 00:50:04.724
I'm so whacked about it, but I only let them stay at like my best friend's house.

00:50:04.724 --> 00:50:07.978
You guys, david Garrett, jeff, julia, you know a few more now.

00:50:08.019 --> 00:50:08.721
Yeah, there's a few more.

00:50:08.721 --> 00:50:13.947
Do you think now you're more allowing it because they can talk more, or why do you think now you allow a little bit more?

00:50:15.047 --> 00:50:21.295
Well, ken's older, they're two, yeah, so I feel like they know now if something's weird, ken's very in tune with.

00:50:21.295 --> 00:50:23.668
When things are weird, she gets a weird vibe.

00:50:23.668 --> 00:50:24.599
It's like right away, mom, come get me.

00:50:24.599 --> 00:50:24.699
Yeah.

00:50:25.320 --> 00:50:38.920
I know it's hard because I have a few family friends and friends that have unfortunately had someone inappropriately touch them and they were old and they knew yeah, one time my dad was walking around naked to me and was like hey, and I was like what the hell?

00:50:39.320 --> 00:50:40.503
Yeah, and it was weird.

00:50:40.503 --> 00:50:44.402
I can't remember again, it was in his underwear naked, but it was very uncomfortable.

00:50:44.402 --> 00:50:47.510
And I was like, yeah, my dad didn't even walk around naked, that's really weird.

00:50:47.510 --> 00:50:48.380
It's weird.

00:50:48.581 --> 00:50:49.563
So that's when I see that.

00:50:50.025 --> 00:50:54.152
Yeah, and like you know, like what's going on, and like the dad, why is he doing that?

00:50:54.152 --> 00:50:55.161
That's so scary.

00:50:55.161 --> 00:50:56.043
So that's what I mean.

00:50:56.043 --> 00:50:57.327
I'm just weird about the sleepovers.

00:50:57.327 --> 00:50:57.668
I don't.

00:50:57.668 --> 00:50:59.922
I'm not a fan, yeah, and I just like I'm home.

00:50:59.922 --> 00:51:01.085
I can't sleep when they're gone.

00:51:01.085 --> 00:51:03.170
I know I'm nervous about this next age.

00:51:03.940 --> 00:51:09.492
Maddie, like the curfew topic, I'm like I don't want to have a curfew, I just want to have.

00:51:09.492 --> 00:51:10.260
What are you doing tonight?

00:51:10.260 --> 00:51:13.128
Okay, this is what time you have to be home for this specific event.

00:51:13.128 --> 00:51:15.532
Yeah, because I sometimes think the curfew they think they can do whatever they want.

00:51:15.532 --> 00:51:16.563
They just have to be home at 11.

00:51:16.563 --> 00:51:18.231
Yeah, like because it's the end time.

00:51:18.231 --> 00:51:20.641
It's like we're not doing that, just to stay out.

00:51:20.641 --> 00:51:22.126
Yeah, they're like I still have an hour.

00:51:22.146 --> 00:51:22.768
What do we go do?

00:51:22.768 --> 00:51:33.092
And I feel like once you give a curfew and then you try to take it back, it's easier to give slowly than to give it all and take back, because then you're they're like, well, you let me do it before, yeah you're right, that's a good point you know.

00:51:33.172 --> 00:51:39.320
So if you just give slowly freedoms and test how it was handled, then I feel like you can adjust.

00:51:39.320 --> 00:51:43.291
When you just give, okay, 11 o'clock, then they feel like they can stay out to 11 o'clock.

00:51:43.291 --> 00:51:45.789
And then one night you're like, hey, you need to be home at 10 and it's like why?

00:51:45.789 --> 00:51:46.492
Why I?

00:51:46.492 --> 00:51:49.262
I stayed until 11 last week, you know, yeah.

00:51:49.262 --> 00:51:51.547
So I feel like that's smart yeah.

00:51:51.547 --> 00:51:54.715
We're not quite at that yet with the curfew.

00:51:55.034 --> 00:51:55.175
Yeah.

00:51:55.300 --> 00:51:58.434
Ken hasn't like gone, yeah, oh yeah, it's starting this year.

00:51:58.554 --> 00:51:59.760
It's wild, not.

00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:03.407
Maddie's a freshman in high school, so I feel like in a minute she's super independent.

00:52:03.407 --> 00:52:04.730
Yeah, has a social life.

00:52:04.730 --> 00:52:06.233
It's just weird.

00:52:06.233 --> 00:52:12.371
But then I don't get to go to bed up to 11, 1130, till everyone's out of my house or till she's home.

00:52:12.371 --> 00:52:13.932
It's just stressful.

00:52:14.134 --> 00:52:14.635
Older kids.

00:52:14.635 --> 00:52:16.605
Whoever said young kids is hard, I'm like.

00:52:16.605 --> 00:52:19.101
You don't even have, I agree, I think older kids is a different heart.

00:52:19.222 --> 00:52:23.782
It's like and I'm really trying to make sure you don't realize that so much of your kids are developed by nine.

00:52:23.782 --> 00:52:29.028
They told us that in church, like your kids, values are developed at nine yeah, that's what Don used to say.

00:52:29.028 --> 00:52:40.431
But, like you don't realize, now I'm implementing and seeing the work of my labor or whatever, but like now she's being tested in situations to see if she is who I wanted her to be.

00:52:40.431 --> 00:52:41.193
You know what I mean.

00:52:41.193 --> 00:52:44.146
Like, yeah, I I can't see everything that goes on.

00:52:44.146 --> 00:52:46.172
I I'm not at every house, I don't know.

00:52:46.172 --> 00:52:47.041
So it's just interesting.

00:52:47.081 --> 00:52:57.284
Well, and it's like I think I was naive, thinking like my kids weren't gonna be exposed to like drugs and vapes and like at school around, and I'm like it's crazy.

00:52:57.806 --> 00:52:58.869
So you just got to really hope you.

00:52:58.869 --> 00:53:01.603
I think lately I've just been kind of like saying palms up.

00:53:01.603 --> 00:53:04.251
That's like my my theory, Cause I went through a lot of changes.

00:53:04.251 --> 00:53:05.780
If you've listened, I lost my dad.

00:53:05.780 --> 00:53:09.344
Tisha said she had the podcast got really boring after you lost your dad.

00:53:09.344 --> 00:53:18.010
You were sad all the time and crying this is my best friend she's like so it really went bad Not the most sensitive At the end Because, remember, you were sad about your dad and crying every episode.

00:53:18.351 --> 00:53:20.353
I am sad about your dad too, and I love your dad.

00:53:20.492 --> 00:53:21.173
Yeah, so show it and.

00:53:21.253 --> 00:53:25.356
I was sad too, but I just didn't know what to do when you were crying every episode.

00:53:28.840 --> 00:53:34.331
It's like I just I get uncomfortable when people cry Because I'm like ooh, I do feel like a lot has changed in my life because of that, and I was sad too about your dad.

00:53:34.349 --> 00:53:34.952
Don't act like I wasn't.

00:53:34.952 --> 00:53:36.293
Nothing changed in your life, I love your dad.

00:53:36.820 --> 00:53:39.467
You would have thought you'd learned something from his legacy, but I did.

00:53:39.788 --> 00:54:02.856
No, I'm joking, but a lot has changed and I think lately I've just been saying like, okay, I've got to just give it to God, but at the end of the day, I just got to trust God's plan and I think having dialogue with your kids all the time, every day, like I wasn't having, I don't think I've been having enough dialogue and now I'm like, okay, I got to have, like we got to be talking about all these things.

00:54:03.036 --> 00:54:04.858
I know it's kind of like a weird thing, though.

00:54:04.858 --> 00:54:10.606
I was talking to a friend of ours about this Back in the day, like you came home when the lights came on and all that.

00:54:10.606 --> 00:54:14.273
You know we didn't have all these like life 360, all these ways.

00:54:14.273 --> 00:54:19.398
Like I might have been gently reading my daughter's iPad and reading text messages.

00:54:19.398 --> 00:54:23.266
I think she caught me, she hid it and like I think spying is okay.

00:54:23.266 --> 00:54:24.068
You pay for everything.

00:54:24.128 --> 00:54:24.530
I agree.

00:54:24.690 --> 00:54:27.123
But there's a story I was just telling um.

00:54:27.123 --> 00:54:29.429
You know, one of our friends sons just went off to college.

00:54:29.429 --> 00:54:36.070
That's like the next phase where you trust that you raised him right and you let go, because I was really good until college and until 21.

00:54:36.070 --> 00:54:40.342
That year of 21 to 22 is when all that stuff I was telling you about earlier happened.

00:54:40.342 --> 00:54:43.840
But I also think I had to find myself like I was always a good girl.

00:54:43.840 --> 00:54:48.481
I was always raised in a Christian home and I knew what I believed because of what my parents believed.

00:54:48.481 --> 00:54:50.804
But I didn't know why I believed it, like I didn't know if I really believed in God.

00:54:50.804 --> 00:54:52.266
I didn't know if I really believed in God.

00:54:52.266 --> 00:54:54.369
I didn't know if I really wanted to live differently.

00:54:54.369 --> 00:54:56.092
I just knew that was what I was told.

00:54:56.092 --> 00:54:58.842
So then in college I I kind of went the other way.

00:54:58.842 --> 00:55:04.643
I kind of had a period where I questioned it and then when I came back I was like Nope, this is cause, this is what I believe, not just cause it was told.

00:55:05.103 --> 00:55:08.989
But weird story is when Maddie was little they barely had monitors.

00:55:08.989 --> 00:55:11.050
Like it was new to have a baby monitor.

00:55:11.050 --> 00:55:13.454
It was black and white, it was fuzzy.

00:55:13.454 --> 00:55:14.534
I feel like we're really old.

00:55:14.534 --> 00:55:19.351
Like the TV, you know, and I remember it was like $150.

00:55:19.351 --> 00:55:22.929
And back when we were married, I mean we couldn't afford a new one.

00:55:22.929 --> 00:55:24.112
It was a shower gift.

00:55:24.112 --> 00:55:25.605
It was like a big shower gift.

00:55:25.605 --> 00:55:29.690
So Maddie put it in the toilet and it broke and I was devastated.

00:55:29.739 --> 00:55:33.782
I was like Kyle now I can't sleep was devastated.

00:55:33.782 --> 00:55:35.188
I was like Kyle now I can't sleep, she's in the crib, I can't see her.

00:55:35.188 --> 00:55:36.134
And I remember Kyle's like we got to trust.

00:55:36.134 --> 00:55:38.081
And so every night I would wake up and worried and I'm like Kyle, is she okay?

00:55:38.081 --> 00:55:39.567
And he's like you got to trust God.

00:55:39.567 --> 00:55:42.422
And so I really learned to like pray and trust.

00:55:42.422 --> 00:55:46.132
Like please keep her safe in there, god, because her hallway was kind of far.

00:55:46.132 --> 00:55:53.755
Like if I went up and checked every time I wanted to, I would never have gotten any sleep Right and I really had to lean into like trusting God rather than trusting what I see.

00:55:53.755 --> 00:55:58.936
And sometimes I think with parenting these days we're so used to all these things that we think we can control.

00:55:58.936 --> 00:56:06.532
Like I know, on Wednesdays Maddie leaves school and she gets a ride to tumbling and I track her the whole drive Like I'm going to stop her from getting in an accident.

00:56:06.532 --> 00:56:11.148
I'm not going to be able to stop it by watching it, but for some reason watching it makes me think, feel better.

00:56:11.307 --> 00:56:35.333
I'm in the car makes you feel like you have control and just by reading the text messages doesn't mean I'm going to see everything on snapchat and I don't want to take God's place in the way that I trust and I let go and I pray that he's helping me lead them the right way, because I think some of the biggest changes in my life happened not by my mom we had talks, but sometimes like things would teach me a lesson and they were put in my life and we talk about all the time.

00:56:35.333 --> 00:56:44.280
Maddie created an Instagram in like fourth grade, two days after I told her she couldn't and I was laying in bed and all of a sudden it said a friend you might know it was her.

00:56:44.280 --> 00:56:46.543
I was like what the like?

00:56:46.543 --> 00:56:47.344
It was this huge.

00:56:47.344 --> 00:56:48.786
My kids still talk about it.

00:56:48.786 --> 00:56:49.728
We broke her phone.

00:56:49.728 --> 00:56:52.932
We no one had iPads for like six months after that.

00:56:52.932 --> 00:56:55.661
Like it was the biggest thing that happened in our family.

00:56:55.742 --> 00:56:58.228
But I really believe that God like brought that to me.

00:56:58.228 --> 00:56:58.670
Yeah.

00:56:58.670 --> 00:57:07.931
So I kind of think, okay, like God, let's parent together and if I'm supposed to see something, yeah, I even had friends that were married, that felt like their husbands were cheating and they prayed for a sign.

00:57:07.931 --> 00:57:19.581
No crap, two days later, clear as day, like even for me, I had a feeling a friend was doing something inappropriate and cheating and Kyle and I decided we weren't going to tell until we knew for a fact.

00:57:19.581 --> 00:57:23.871
Right, and the next day Kyle saw her in the car with him and it was like crazy.

00:57:23.871 --> 00:57:41.403
So I think sometimes, I don't know, I dance on that Like how involved to be, and then also I have to like like let go and let God in that that way, because years ago our parents, I think sometimes kids don't have critical thinking because they're not given opportunities to fail and to learn, because we're tracking them.

00:57:41.403 --> 00:57:48.429
There's cameras in people's cars, like the things I was doing, like there was no cameras, it's just hard, because I feel like the stakes are a little higher now.

00:57:48.550 --> 00:58:00.527
It's like when we messed up when we were kids, there was no like global spotlight on them, like basically, now you can make a dumb decision as a kid and it's it can stay with you.

00:58:00.548 --> 00:58:09.065
That's a good point, yeah it's recorded and it's streamed and it's leaked to five schools, like ken was telling me, some girls sent her boyfriend some naughty pictures.

00:58:09.065 --> 00:58:14.987
Um, her, this girl she knew from school and she moved schools and now the pictures are at this school.

00:58:14.987 --> 00:58:18.048
So it's just like the stakes are a little higher.

00:58:18.048 --> 00:58:18.952
That is so true.

00:58:18.952 --> 00:58:30.367
So it's like, yes, I do want them to be able to make mistakes, but I also don't want them to make a mistake that is going to ruin their life, and and it's just it's crazy.

00:58:30.387 --> 00:58:31.128
Yeah, that is so true.

00:58:31.128 --> 00:58:37.005
You know, sometimes I feel like everybody acts like kids are so bad these days and like I had my first kiss in seventh grade.

00:58:37.005 --> 00:58:38.007
When did you have your first kiss?

00:58:38.509 --> 00:58:39.811
I was older Like a junior.

00:58:39.992 --> 00:58:41.422
Oh yeah, Well, she looked like a.

00:58:41.422 --> 00:58:44.331
It would have been like a pedophile, Because she looked like a little.

00:58:55.679 --> 00:58:57.224
Like we used to show her ID to people at Denny's and be.

00:58:57.224 --> 00:58:57.987
She looked really young.

00:58:57.987 --> 00:58:59.210
Yeah, yeah, but I had it in like seven years.

00:58:59.210 --> 00:59:01.577
But now I'm glad I looked young because I feel like I still look young.

00:59:01.577 --> 00:59:04.686
Mommies is youngies, but now, like a lot of my daughter and her friends, like none.

00:59:04.686 --> 00:59:05.472
I feel like most of them haven't kissed yet and they're freshmen.

00:59:05.427 --> 00:59:08.353
Yeah, and I feel like it's funny because we act like kids are so bad these days.

00:59:08.353 --> 00:59:11.954
Right, but, like you know, she has someone at school that she kind of likes.

00:59:11.954 --> 00:59:20.876
I'm not going to say too much on here, but it's cool because the, the person that she likes, goes to church and I remember as a kid, no one like I liked ever went to church.

00:59:20.876 --> 00:59:27.387
Right, it was like to be equally yoked, was like, okay, dad, yeah, you know, like there's, it's not going to happen, I'm not going to find someone.

00:59:27.407 --> 00:59:29.240
We didn't talk about God, we didn't boast about God.

00:59:29.240 --> 00:59:32.586
Yeah, we didn't like like I was driving Maddie to school with her friend this morning.

00:59:32.586 --> 00:59:34.449
They're singing praise, worship, music, it.

00:59:34.449 --> 00:59:36.333
I didn't have a friend I could do that with.

00:59:36.333 --> 00:59:38.405
Yeah, like you and I were friends, but you weren't, you know.

00:59:38.405 --> 00:59:42.766
So I think sometimes it's like society acts like we've lost it, but maybe our bubble too.

00:59:42.766 --> 00:59:50.490
Yeah, we're very blessed in a very good bubble, but it's sometimes I'm like I don't think they're as bad as we think they were, like some of our friends are doing bad things in high school.

00:59:50.490 --> 00:59:53.496
Yeah, yeah, and you've only you were doing that.

00:59:53.556 --> 00:59:55.713
No, you were just doing that Tampon vodka thing in high school?

00:59:55.713 --> 00:59:58.068
Yeah, the threesome, that's how she knows so well about it.

00:59:58.068 --> 00:59:59.925
You know she tried that soaking.

00:59:59.925 --> 01:00:00.668
No, I never did.

01:00:00.668 --> 01:00:02.228
All right, let's sum this bad boy up.

01:00:02.228 --> 01:00:04.460
Oh, all right, it's good to be back, you know?

01:00:04.460 --> 01:00:05.786
Yeah, good to be back.

01:00:05.786 --> 01:00:15.501
Want to know Audi?

01:00:15.501 --> 01:00:16.525
And you know that, no, I'm not an Audi, I'm an innie.

01:00:16.525 --> 01:00:17.206
One will never know.

01:00:17.206 --> 01:00:17.447
Oh, my gosh.

01:00:17.447 --> 01:00:17.748
All right, guys.

01:00:17.748 --> 01:00:18.231
Well, tune in next week.

01:00:18.231 --> 01:00:19.253
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01:00:19.253 --> 01:00:21.039
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01:00:21.039 --> 01:00:27.722
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